Thursday, August 19, 2010

PLEASE HELP ME PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE! I HAVE A HORRIBLE PROBLEM AND I NEED ADVICE!?

Recently, our very close friend passed away from a car accident. Its been almost 2 monthes now since the inncodent, and our bestfriends (a group of 5 now, we were 6) aren't taking it very well. One of the guys (lets call him George) in our group is completely avoiding us, and the other guy (lets call him Steven) talked to him, and Steven must have said something not good apprently, because when Steven talked to George, he made up his mind that he doesn't want to hang out with us 'girls' anymore (the three of us), and he is being kind of mean, and he wont even talk to talk to us anymore. George is spending all of his time with the family of the deceased bestfriend, and leaving out us and totally rejecting us from his life. I don't want to seem selfish, i want to show him that i am there for him, and whenever he needs us, he has someone. (But he doesnt want anyone to care about him, and he doesn't care what he does or anything.) What do i do? Is this friendship totally over? I am crying night and day about this. What can i do to make things better? How can i show him that i wont give up on him, and i will always be there whether he likes it or not? What can i do to make him become friends with me again? I can't talk to him in person, or on the phone, or anything basically. What do i do? I CANNOT lose him! We've been friends for 8 or 9 years now, we are only 15 years old!





And please don't say take him to theropy, because he is NOT going to do it. And please don't say take him to a church, because he is not religious. PLEASE HELP ME!! I AM DESPERATE!! I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!PLEASE HELP ME PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE! I HAVE A HORRIBLE PROBLEM AND I NEED ADVICE!?
hi


friendship cannot be forced, it needs to be won with love and carring. just leave him alone as he is doing right thing by being with the deceased persons family. you too join their family, talk to them, console them and definately u r so called george will notice you and appreciate you that u too have compasionate heartPLEASE HELP ME PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE! I HAVE A HORRIBLE PROBLEM AND I NEED ADVICE!?
you dont want to hear this but at your age is when people start separating and move into other groups or by themselves for whatever reason, you cant be ST ELMOS FIRE forever. Let him deal with it how he wants to. Just let him know you are there when he is ready to join the group again and that you miss him. Also let him know that its not fair to the rest of you that he be so distant , like hes the only one who is hurting. Say you miss yr friend that passed but you miss him also and would the one who passed want him to be like that?

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