I have a big problem and I need serious advice please!!!!!!!?

Ok I have been married now for 3 years and I have had enough of my husband. He is a selfish, disrespectful pig an dI can't take it anymore!!!! We have 3 kids together which Ilove to death, but had I known this crap was going to happen I would never have had them with him. Anyways, sadly they were taken from us by the state due to financial difficulty about a year back. We are now in the process of getting sole custody back and they are no residing in our home. My husband doesn't care about them one bit at all, they could be killing eachother right in front of him and he wouldn't life a finger from his video games, but I won't get into that. I want to move out of state but now he is threatening to have the state take them back so I can't take them. He has even said he will lie and say I beat them to get the away from me. I am so scared I will lose them again. I would NEVER hurt my babies EVER!!!!!!!!!! I tried to tell them in the past I wanted to leave him and that I didn't want him toI have a big problem and I need serious advice please!!!!!!!?
You've got the chain of events backwards: Move out of state, get your act together and THEN get your kids back. You will be in a much better position to get them back if you have a home and a stable life for them to come to.I have a big problem and I need serious advice please!!!!!!!?
get help! Don't bother explaining to the kids until AFTER you have left. Contact the people who took your kids in the first place and ask them if you take your kids and find a safe place to live, will that be grounds for a kidnapping case. Don't give them too much info when you ask, cuz they might see a red flag and come snatch your kids BEFORE you leave(which might not be a bad idea). Ask them how you could go about getting your kids back if you left your husband because he is abusive. They will probably be glad to ';babysit'; for a few weeks until you get a safe place to live. But don't assume, ask.
talk to your lawyer. moving out of state isn't a problem. Because you work where you have to work. So find a job in the state you want to go, have a place (it can be apartment, find all the paper work for school) that go to court against your husband. That way you are not just saying you can provide for your kids, with the job and place to live and school, you can take care of them. Beside once you win, you can get the court to order child support from your husband. if he fail to provide, sue him and he will have to pay.
First thing to do is calm down. Contact a good family law attorney and tell them everything. I mean EVERYTHING, answer EVERY QUESTION THEY ASK TRUTHFULLY. If possible, keep a written record of everything that he says or does of a negative nature where you and the kids are concerned. DO NOT LEAVE THIS AT HOME WHERE HE CAN FIND IT. Leave it with a trusted friend or relative. If you belong to a place of worship, confide in them. You want as many people with authority and 'pull' to know what you're going through and who will be willing to testify in your behalf should you need to go to court.


It's not an easy road you walk, but with Jah's help you can succeed.


Agape,


Rhonda
For one why did the state take your children? I have never heard of any state taking children cause of money problems. Two, I have never heard of them telling the father if he is abusive towards the wife and kids that she wants to leave them. So I have to say there is more to this then you are saying. Three you can't do anything till the state steps out of the picture unless you have away to take care of the children, housing, food, job.....The state would never send kids back into a home they thought was unsafe. And before you tell me I have no clue what I am talking about I worked with the state for over 5 years and children......
if you are married he cant file any charges against you unless he has sole custody of them which im assuming he doesnt. get a lawyer from the legal aid in your area ( it's free and offered by the courts) leave then come back with someone to protect you while you file the paperwork. you feel so trapped and you shouldnt because no one has power over you like that. you can also ask for a polygraph test if they accuse you of child abuse which i'm sure you will pass so there wil be no reason for you to not have your children. once you get somewhere with family and are safe look for a job...then there wont be anythign he can do to stop you. funny how men think they can control you...hahahaha nothing can stop a woman on a mission,...they'll soon learn. oh n ps...dont tell things like that to your children...uit's not there place to know...just dowhat you have to do and you wont have to worry about word getting back to him about what you are planning...good luck honey not that you are really gonna need any...just don't stop until you have what you want
Leave and take your babies with you. Then fight for sole custody. I'm sure if he doesn't care about them he won't give you much trouble.
Oh my God! How does a person get into this crap. I don't think I believe you that your children were removed because of ';financial difficulties';. Children are typically removed from a home due to abuse. And, now that you are completely broke, why on earth would you want to move out of state? That doesn't sound right to me.