Any advice to help me avoid problem gambling and depression?

I'm in my late 20s and live on my own, have been single since last May and have found it difficult to cope with all of the bills on my own, so I foolishly turned to online gambling in the hope that I'd win enough to settle some of my debts. After losing over 拢5000 that was mainly borrowed (overdraft and personal loan) and a bit of salary I knew the only way I would sort myself out was to see a counsellor. I attended 6 sessions and felt like I could avoid the gambling and I worked out a plan to pay back the money I owed. Since then I've managed a bit better each month but for some reason I can't quite put my finger on I gambled another 拢1000 from my salary this month that has meant I've not paid any bills and had to borrow money from my brother to afford to eat this month. Such a silly mistake I make up excuses why I needed to borrow the money - I was also fearful that if the truth came out then he would almost certainly refuse to lend me money and he would suggest going to see the GP instead. But then I'd still be without food and suffering a mini life crisis which I wouldn't be able to handle very well at all. I plan to pay every penny back to my brother, the banks, loan companies etc over the next few years, however in the meantime I'm really worried that if I do this again I'll be causing even more problems for myself and people who care about me. I've excluded myself from online sites that I have used this year but it's not the first time, I did the same last year however this time I've used different sites. I never want to gamble again and one of my worst fears is damaging the relationship with family that has felt like a struggle to build up properly since I went through problems in a long relationship a few years ago that caused major probs in us getting along. I'd hate to been seen as selfish when I've always been told I'm the least selfish person people know. It's like a switch that can change everything within a moment and I'm only aware of the damage when I've lost every last penny I've earned or borrowed. If you have any advice on how I can stay focused and avoid these problems I'd be really grateful. ThanksAny advice to help me avoid problem gambling and depression?
Chip, many people struggle with gambling problems. They often have a big win at some point and begin to invest their sense of self in whether or not they win in the future, which is why it shouldn't come as a surprise that you're not selfish, many problem gamblers are very other centered. The trouble is maybe you should be a little more selfish, because if you're a little more selfish then it actually matters if bad things happen to you, it actually matters if you lose a lot of money. You serve what you value; YOU serve what you value, and what you value isn't served as well without YOU.





In my own case, I learned to call up a fearful situation of being arrested, etc., which I knew would be reality if I progressed in my addiction, and when I had strong cravings, that picture I drew with detail of how bad it WOULD be was stronger, that fear so real my heart sped up in my chest. Remember that you'll always have cravings, but what you learn in counseling will only stick with you when you practice it.Any advice to help me avoid problem gambling and depression?
silly boy
Don't sit ideally on your own the only one that can get a grip of the situation is you get out and meet people, go swimming, etc that don't costa lot i am a strong believer in the fact that you are incharge of your own destiny so do something about it!!!!
You must rely SOLELY on your job income for money. Do you understand? If you keep using your money from gambling you will never be satisfied.





Take responsibility - get an education, get a job, and see a doctor for further help.

natural instinct