okay so I'm on probation for something that I was peer pressured into I got the blame and they didn't I'm not the type of person to get in trouble but I'm also not a goody two shoe. Anyway I'm having a problem with my job. My boss is very disrespectful he leaves me here all alone, i have to lift heavy stuff because he isn't here. he bounced my check (which i need to pay my PO) he just doesn't care about his workers at all he just cares about making money but there is no body in the store then he yells at us because we don't get any sales.
Anyway so I saw my PO and told her that I quit my job because I told her what was going on and she said once I find another job I could quit well I found another job making more money so I quit. She started yelling at me literally yelling at me calling me stupid, ignorant, and irresponsible. I have community service I have to do and I'm in the process of working my way up to something better at this new job and have a week till i start that well i figured until then i had a week that I could do my community service. I dint think it was right for her to yell at me the way she did and neither does my family. I'm on supervision till dec. what should I do?Problem with probation officer need advice?
You did the crime - unwittingly or not - . Follow your PO's advice. Your PO is your ONLY ticket out of jail time. One phone call from them and you don't have to worry about upward mobility for a few months. No excuses - just do as the PO tells you. It is a lot easier to live through a stern chew out from your PO than to sit out your time in a cage. Your PO is trying to help you - whether you know it or not - and is trying every trick in the book to help you get your act in order. You can let it pass - do your 3 or 4 months - and come out the other side relatively unscathed if you do. Six months from now, none of this will matter - IF you can follow her rules.
Remember, PO's have to deal with some real problem cases - are generally overworked - and hear lots of excuses. They can get pretty calloused sometimes. Try to make her life easier - she'll like that. There is less paperwork and less worrying for them to do. They are judged on how well their paroles stay out of jail and changes you make without their advice makes them anxious and cranky.Problem with probation officer need advice?
People vary in the manner in which they encourage probationers to lead the best possible life. Some yell. Some threaten. Some praise. Some do all. Get over it. You didn't mention why leaving one job for another was considered stupid, ignorant and irresponsible, but I am betting there were some downsides to that decision that you failed to mention.
If you truly believe that you are being treated wrongly, then you could always just go to your po's supervisor. Explain your story and if they agree that there is a problem you could potentially get a new PO.
you have the right to report her to her acting supervisor
If your on probation until December just suck it up. Your other option is do some time in the clink. I get off of parole in December, I'm with you!
You should just suck it up. You don't want to further anger your P.O. just hang tight until december and you will be free and clear.
She sounds like a real treat.
I'd like to hear the other side of the story.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Problem with Secretary at work... advice please!?
Hi,
I need some advice regarding a work matter. I started a job at a very high profile bank working as Executive Assistant to a senior manager 4 months ago.
There was a secretary who was looking after my boss until I started and she was brilliant to me. She helped me settle into the job, showed me round and gave me information I needed when I was in a fix.
Then a few weeks ago my trains were on strike and my boss said I could work from home on my laptop. I did this and she had a real go at me for not telling her I was doing this. She also made me feel bad as she had to miss a lunch she had planned with friends to pick up some visitors from reception for a meeting as I was not there.
When I returned to work I bought her a huge bunch of flowers and a card to apologise as she had helped me out and missed her lunch. Things were fine for a while until I was off sick for two days with a stomach bug last week. Although I was ill I still did work at home. I left her a message telling her what was happening and received no reply. When I got back to work she didn't ask me how I was and hasn't really spoken to me since. She avoids my calls and emails.
I sent her a long email yesterday night explaining how I felt and that I wasn't sure why she was treating me this way - I have had no reply.
Any advice is welcome please!!Problem with Secretary at work... advice please!?
It sounds to me as if this person is acting rather immature. You have done what you can by explaining to her that this situation was unavoidable. Likewise, I am sure that you have expressed to her your understanding of what she has had to do in your absence, as well as your gratitude and apology for any inconvenience.
At this point, considering all of the above, the proverbial ball is in her court. The next move is hers. Hopefully, she will come to see that treating you poorly is uncalled for at best and immature, at worst. You should obviously do all that you can to ensure that she isn't faced with repeat circumstances in the near future, but other than that, you can do no more than you already have. Of course, you could always just degrade yourself by kissing up to her, but not only is that course of action not necessary, it is also a bad precedent and will likely lead to you being taken advantage of.
Anyway, stop worrying about this lady. This situation is not your fault. All will be well, if it is meant to be. If not, rest well knowing that you have done all that can be expected of you.
I hope this is at least some help to you. Have a wonderful day!!Problem with Secretary at work... advice please!?
Ignore her.
.
I'm the author of the job search book ';Think Like an Interviewer: Your Job Hunting Guide to Success.'; And I had worked in banking for many years. So let me answer your question.
Since I don't know you or your boss, it's very hard to say exactly what's going on here. For example, maybe she didn't actually say you could work at home all the time. Maybe she was saying that you could do some stuff at home, but still needed to come into the branch.
In other words, she may have been allowing you to come in later or not as often because of the strike. For instance, coming in at 11 instead of 8. Or working at home on Mondays and Wednesdays, but coming in on the other days.
But she may not have been allowing you to stay home the entire time--every day. So it could have been a huge miscommunication! Banking is one of those fields where telecommuting all the time would be extremely tough and rare!
Meetings will happen where you need to be there taking notes, distributing stuff, etc. Customers can walk-in and need to be tended to. Problems can arise that need your in-person attention. So it's a job where in-person contact is necessary.
Now it appears as though this miscommuniction really angered your boss. Then you got sick and had to stay home, which angered her further. Now she's at the point where she's really not in a mood to deal with you at all.
Whether or not she'll calm down eventually and things will return to normal I cannot say. It's possible that she'll blow off her steam and then go back to the way things were before. On the other hand, she may not. And if that's the case, she'll continue to be angry and may even let you go.
My suggestion is to go and speak to somebody in human resources about your situation. Let them know what happened and what you felt the arrangement was. And how you feel you are now being unfairly punished for something you were told was ok in the first place.
Also let them know how you tried to smooth things over with your boss. This will show what a nice person you are and that you were trying to apologize.
It's quite possible that human resources will step in and do something about the situation. Especially if they feel that she's in the wrong here. Or if she has a history of treating people in this manner. For all you know, she's pulled nonsense like this before and you're here latest victim.
Or human resources may say it was a misunderstanding on both parts--yours and hers. And suggest you both let it slide for now and just be more specific next time.
A good suggestion for the future is to get any telecommuting arrangement in writing. That way, there's no confusion whatsoever. And there's a paper trail in case something happens along the way.
Dear friend pinkappl,
Do your work with devotion till you are with the company.
Continue to be good friends without hurting each other in your lifetime on the earth.
I need some advice regarding a work matter. I started a job at a very high profile bank working as Executive Assistant to a senior manager 4 months ago.
There was a secretary who was looking after my boss until I started and she was brilliant to me. She helped me settle into the job, showed me round and gave me information I needed when I was in a fix.
Then a few weeks ago my trains were on strike and my boss said I could work from home on my laptop. I did this and she had a real go at me for not telling her I was doing this. She also made me feel bad as she had to miss a lunch she had planned with friends to pick up some visitors from reception for a meeting as I was not there.
When I returned to work I bought her a huge bunch of flowers and a card to apologise as she had helped me out and missed her lunch. Things were fine for a while until I was off sick for two days with a stomach bug last week. Although I was ill I still did work at home. I left her a message telling her what was happening and received no reply. When I got back to work she didn't ask me how I was and hasn't really spoken to me since. She avoids my calls and emails.
I sent her a long email yesterday night explaining how I felt and that I wasn't sure why she was treating me this way - I have had no reply.
Any advice is welcome please!!Problem with Secretary at work... advice please!?
It sounds to me as if this person is acting rather immature. You have done what you can by explaining to her that this situation was unavoidable. Likewise, I am sure that you have expressed to her your understanding of what she has had to do in your absence, as well as your gratitude and apology for any inconvenience.
At this point, considering all of the above, the proverbial ball is in her court. The next move is hers. Hopefully, she will come to see that treating you poorly is uncalled for at best and immature, at worst. You should obviously do all that you can to ensure that she isn't faced with repeat circumstances in the near future, but other than that, you can do no more than you already have. Of course, you could always just degrade yourself by kissing up to her, but not only is that course of action not necessary, it is also a bad precedent and will likely lead to you being taken advantage of.
Anyway, stop worrying about this lady. This situation is not your fault. All will be well, if it is meant to be. If not, rest well knowing that you have done all that can be expected of you.
I hope this is at least some help to you. Have a wonderful day!!Problem with Secretary at work... advice please!?
Ignore her.
.
I'm the author of the job search book ';Think Like an Interviewer: Your Job Hunting Guide to Success.'; And I had worked in banking for many years. So let me answer your question.
Since I don't know you or your boss, it's very hard to say exactly what's going on here. For example, maybe she didn't actually say you could work at home all the time. Maybe she was saying that you could do some stuff at home, but still needed to come into the branch.
In other words, she may have been allowing you to come in later or not as often because of the strike. For instance, coming in at 11 instead of 8. Or working at home on Mondays and Wednesdays, but coming in on the other days.
But she may not have been allowing you to stay home the entire time--every day. So it could have been a huge miscommunication! Banking is one of those fields where telecommuting all the time would be extremely tough and rare!
Meetings will happen where you need to be there taking notes, distributing stuff, etc. Customers can walk-in and need to be tended to. Problems can arise that need your in-person attention. So it's a job where in-person contact is necessary.
Now it appears as though this miscommuniction really angered your boss. Then you got sick and had to stay home, which angered her further. Now she's at the point where she's really not in a mood to deal with you at all.
Whether or not she'll calm down eventually and things will return to normal I cannot say. It's possible that she'll blow off her steam and then go back to the way things were before. On the other hand, she may not. And if that's the case, she'll continue to be angry and may even let you go.
My suggestion is to go and speak to somebody in human resources about your situation. Let them know what happened and what you felt the arrangement was. And how you feel you are now being unfairly punished for something you were told was ok in the first place.
Also let them know how you tried to smooth things over with your boss. This will show what a nice person you are and that you were trying to apologize.
It's quite possible that human resources will step in and do something about the situation. Especially if they feel that she's in the wrong here. Or if she has a history of treating people in this manner. For all you know, she's pulled nonsense like this before and you're here latest victim.
Or human resources may say it was a misunderstanding on both parts--yours and hers. And suggest you both let it slide for now and just be more specific next time.
A good suggestion for the future is to get any telecommuting arrangement in writing. That way, there's no confusion whatsoever. And there's a paper trail in case something happens along the way.
Dear friend pinkappl,
Do your work with devotion till you are with the company.
Continue to be good friends without hurting each other in your lifetime on the earth.
Problem with girlfriend/relationship need advice?
I am having some trouble with my girlfriend. We are in college and I really do love her. But, lately she's been not wanting to hang out with me anywhere but the library. She doesn't want to come to my house and I can't go to her apartment because of her roomates. Tonight we went out and had a good time and then instead of going to my room to hang out with me and my roommates she went to her other guy friend and his friend to hang out. She is not cheating, I am sure of that but she says that she needs her own space and does not want to argue. Tonight really just made me feel like I don't want to be in that situation where she won't hang out with me but she will another friend.
I really do care for her and I am a really good boyfriend. I want to spend all the time I can with her and she is really important to me. But tonight really just got me to the point to think to myself is it worth it.
I really don't know what to do and need advice.
ThanksProblem with girlfriend/relationship need advice?
hate to you you but in her mind she feels she isnt cheating. but she probably is.
she will hang out with you at the library because if any one sees you two, she can just say that she is helping you out with your studies.
she needs her ';space'; to see if she is ready to move on with someone new and leave you behind.
I really do care for her and I am a really good boyfriend. I want to spend all the time I can with her and she is really important to me. But tonight really just got me to the point to think to myself is it worth it.
I really don't know what to do and need advice.
ThanksProblem with girlfriend/relationship need advice?
hate to you you but in her mind she feels she isnt cheating. but she probably is.
she will hang out with you at the library because if any one sees you two, she can just say that she is helping you out with your studies.
she needs her ';space'; to see if she is ready to move on with someone new and leave you behind.
My friend has a Roach problem,what can i give for advice?
ok so this guy's house is like LOADED with roaches everywhere.I cant walk into the door without a roach falling on me.Its not that bad in the day but at night its brutal.He says he's called exterminators before but didn't really help.I know that roaches must love to have sex and have a million babies but is there any hope for this poor guy's house?My friend has a Roach problem,what can i give for advice?
Combat Gel for roaches. Put it everywhere top to bottom.My friend has a Roach problem,what can i give for advice?
Get anotha exterminater.
Or
Move house.
Cuaz if they keep doin it there gonna b more n more n i don think ull b able handle it.
Get a cat
sorry no idea......coupons
Combat Gel for roaches. Put it everywhere top to bottom.My friend has a Roach problem,what can i give for advice?
Get anotha exterminater.
Or
Move house.
Cuaz if they keep doin it there gonna b more n more n i don think ull b able handle it.
Get a cat
sorry no idea......
Guy problem! i hope someone can help..... need advice badly:?
there is this guy in another section but as the same grade as me in the same school. i sort of asked me out at first but i didn't really seem to care but now i have this thing for him and how do i ask him out??? even if i were to ask him out, he'd know. but the problem is that i don't want him to know. so, how do i ask him out without asking him out??? plz don't tell me to throw a party becuz i already tried that once and it didn't work. Thanks in advance!Guy problem! i hope someone can help..... need advice badly:?
If you think he still likes you, wait for him to ask you out again. If not, you could arrange a group meeting and wait for everybody to go and then you could get him in private to make it look accidental.Guy problem! i hope someone can help..... need advice badly:?
What you need to do is not give him the tremendous ego boost by just asking him directly....
2 ways to do it....
1. go up to him and ask him if he is gay. he will be taken aback by this and quick as a flash you say 'well why haven't you asked me out on a proper date yet?' humour always good to break the ice!!
2. go to a party that you know he'll be at - walk straight up to him and say 'kiss me' - direct, to the point, no messing - if he doesn't, he's not worth it, move on..... when he does problem solved!
you can't ask him out without him knowing, unless he's retarded
but sounds like you want a group date, so if you have any mutual friends organize a trip to the mall or local downtown area, and just walk around with him for a while and talk
Sorry to break this to you, but there's no way around directly doing this... If you can't just come out and ask someone something, how do you think a relationship with them will be? Terribly one sided and poor communication abound.
Man(woman?) up!
First of all, stop being silly! If you like this guy, let him know. Ask him out! Don't be affraid. The worst that can happen is he'll say no.
And if he does, then move on.
Good luck :3
ask him out again if you think he still likes you.
work it out.
ask him to see a movie some time.
DUH. if you ask someone out, it means you may like them. why hide it?
ok No. 1 girls shouldn't ask boys out!!!
just be brave
or may be talk to him online
say something like ';so fancy going out sometime like you suggested';
good luck xx
If you think he still likes you, wait for him to ask you out again. If not, you could arrange a group meeting and wait for everybody to go and then you could get him in private to make it look accidental.Guy problem! i hope someone can help..... need advice badly:?
What you need to do is not give him the tremendous ego boost by just asking him directly....
2 ways to do it....
1. go up to him and ask him if he is gay. he will be taken aback by this and quick as a flash you say 'well why haven't you asked me out on a proper date yet?' humour always good to break the ice!!
2. go to a party that you know he'll be at - walk straight up to him and say 'kiss me' - direct, to the point, no messing - if he doesn't, he's not worth it, move on..... when he does problem solved!
you can't ask him out without him knowing, unless he's retarded
but sounds like you want a group date, so if you have any mutual friends organize a trip to the mall or local downtown area, and just walk around with him for a while and talk
Sorry to break this to you, but there's no way around directly doing this... If you can't just come out and ask someone something, how do you think a relationship with them will be? Terribly one sided and poor communication abound.
Man(woman?) up!
First of all, stop being silly! If you like this guy, let him know. Ask him out! Don't be affraid. The worst that can happen is he'll say no.
And if he does, then move on.
Good luck :3
ask him out again if you think he still likes you.
work it out.
ask him to see a movie some time.
DUH. if you ask someone out, it means you may like them. why hide it?
ok No. 1 girls shouldn't ask boys out!!!
just be brave
or may be talk to him online
say something like ';so fancy going out sometime like you suggested';
good luck xx
My hair is falling & i have dandruff problem.also my hair becomes slowly in white colour.pls advice.?
can i use henna,shikkakai, mehndi powderMy hair is falling %26amp; i have dandruff problem.also my hair becomes slowly in white colour.pls advice.?
This happened to me.It was due to product build up.Pantene pro-v ,paul Mitchell and some other shampoos and conditioners can do this.I had to go to a salon and they washed my hair with a shampoo that removed the residue.After that, I switched my shampoo to loreal.You can get this shampoo at walmart for about $4.They are the same company that makes the expensive salon stuff(matrix)My hair is falling %26amp; i have dandruff problem.also my hair becomes slowly in white colour.pls advice.?
Have you tried the shampoo Nioxin (3). Primarially it's for thinning hair but it is fantastic for dry scalp and the only thing that I've found that works for me as others are really harsh on my skin. It also contains an ingrediant that helps coloured hair retain the colour.
Depending where you are it can be expensive. In the UK it's about 拢8 for a normal sized bottle or 拢12 for a big size. In the US it's about half that I think. Ebay always has some or Hair salons sell it.
Hope you find something that works for you x
Get a dandruff shampoo. Stop dyeing your hair and take vitamins. Vitamins really help the hair if you are not eating right. You also may have a hormone imbalance being a woman.
If your dandruff is really, really bad. I would go see a Gp your doctor. Have a nice day.
l just bought mane %26amp; tail, too expensive but it doesn't work. I think you better figure out how to avoid dandruff. Dirty scalp really causes hairloss
First off address the root of the problem and don't jst try and cover it up, it could be something serious like a thyroid disorder, if not it is definitly a deficincy of some sort. Any toxic substance in your body that dosen't get filtered out via your kidneys can surface with skin conditions like dandruff, acne, eczema etc.. I recommend starting a good multi vitamin, and alpha lipoic acid (a strong antioxidant which could help your hair color come back and also helps with acne and any other skin condition.) As for a quick fix........(in the home)Garlic rubbed on your scalp works as it has anti bacterial and antifungal properties and dandruff is known to be fungal. Or I would suggest buying some tea tree oil (available at walmart). And apply it to your scalp. It is antibacterial, antiseptic, antinnflamatory and anti- fungal. DO NOT USE STORE BOUGHT PRODUCTS- THEY WILL MAKE THE CONDITION WORSE CAUSING CONTACT DERMATITIS! (On your scalp Dandruff) As for henna go for it a very good natural alternative hair dye, won't aggravate your condition. Available at health food stores. If you are there pick up the tea tree oil and vitamins. This will work better than any of the other suggestions.
This happened to me.It was due to product build up.Pantene pro-v ,paul Mitchell and some other shampoos and conditioners can do this.I had to go to a salon and they washed my hair with a shampoo that removed the residue.After that, I switched my shampoo to loreal.You can get this shampoo at walmart for about $4.They are the same company that makes the expensive salon stuff(matrix)My hair is falling %26amp; i have dandruff problem.also my hair becomes slowly in white colour.pls advice.?
Have you tried the shampoo Nioxin (3). Primarially it's for thinning hair but it is fantastic for dry scalp and the only thing that I've found that works for me as others are really harsh on my skin. It also contains an ingrediant that helps coloured hair retain the colour.
Depending where you are it can be expensive. In the UK it's about 拢8 for a normal sized bottle or 拢12 for a big size. In the US it's about half that I think. Ebay always has some or Hair salons sell it.
Hope you find something that works for you x
Get a dandruff shampoo. Stop dyeing your hair and take vitamins. Vitamins really help the hair if you are not eating right. You also may have a hormone imbalance being a woman.
If your dandruff is really, really bad. I would go see a Gp your doctor. Have a nice day.
l just bought mane %26amp; tail, too expensive but it doesn't work. I think you better figure out how to avoid dandruff. Dirty scalp really causes hairloss
First off address the root of the problem and don't jst try and cover it up, it could be something serious like a thyroid disorder, if not it is definitly a deficincy of some sort. Any toxic substance in your body that dosen't get filtered out via your kidneys can surface with skin conditions like dandruff, acne, eczema etc.. I recommend starting a good multi vitamin, and alpha lipoic acid (a strong antioxidant which could help your hair color come back and also helps with acne and any other skin condition.) As for a quick fix........(in the home)Garlic rubbed on your scalp works as it has anti bacterial and antifungal properties and dandruff is known to be fungal. Or I would suggest buying some tea tree oil (available at walmart). And apply it to your scalp. It is antibacterial, antiseptic, antinnflamatory and anti- fungal. DO NOT USE STORE BOUGHT PRODUCTS- THEY WILL MAKE THE CONDITION WORSE CAUSING CONTACT DERMATITIS! (On your scalp Dandruff) As for henna go for it a very good natural alternative hair dye, won't aggravate your condition. Available at health food stores. If you are there pick up the tea tree oil and vitamins. This will work better than any of the other suggestions.
Please I need your advice can u help me with a love problem?
WELL YESTERDAY AT SCHOOL MY BF CAME N SAT BEHIND ME ON THA DESK N HISMOM N OUR TEACHER HADCAME N THE ROOMN WE DIDNT EVEN KNOW IT SO HE JUMPED UP N WENT TO HIS MOM. THEN THA TEACHER WAS LIKE ELASHA DONT U THIK U SHOULD SAY SOMETHING TO HIS MM N I WAS LIKE NO BECAUSE I WAS SCARED N NERVOUS . BUT THEN I WENT OVER THER N SAID HELLO MRS.TURNER HOW R U DOING. SO THE THE TECHER WAS LIKE IF SHE CANT COME N SPEAK TO YOR MOM THEN I DONT THINK THIS IS THE KIND OF GURL U WNT TO B WITH. SO THEN THEY LEFT OUT N HE DIDNT SAY NOTHNG ELSE TOME THAT WHOLE DAY. THEN TODAY I FOUND OUT THAT HE WAS MAD AT ME BUT THEN HE WAST CUZ THE TEACHER HAD UT ME N SPOTLIGHT SO I DECIDED TO APOLIGIZE TO HISMOM N HIM BUT HE ACT LIKE HE DOESNT WANT TO TALK TO ME N IN MY HEART I FEEL WE DONT GO WITH EACHOTHER N I ALSO THINK HISMOM DOES NOT LIKE ME SO WHAT SHOULD I DO? SHOULD I JUST LEAVE IT ALONE OR DO WHAT I SAID I WAS GOING TO DO? PLEASE I NEED SOMEONES ADVICEPlease I need your advice can u help me with a love problem?
Well if you've already apologized to him and his mother than their is nothing more you can do. If your BF still doesnt talk to you or God Forbid you break up over it .. use it as a learning experience. As I was growing up I always befriended my BF's mothers. Nobody knows their son as well as their mother. As a matter of fact my ex's mother told me to leave him and find someone who would love me and my baby (we were 20 and I had found out I was pregnant) the way we deserve to be. I think its important to atleast try and befriend the mothers. I hope when my son's old enough his gf's will.
Well if you've already apologized to him and his mother than their is nothing more you can do. If your BF still doesnt talk to you or God Forbid you break up over it .. use it as a learning experience. As I was growing up I always befriended my BF's mothers. Nobody knows their son as well as their mother. As a matter of fact my ex's mother told me to leave him and find someone who would love me and my baby (we were 20 and I had found out I was pregnant) the way we deserve to be. I think its important to atleast try and befriend the mothers. I hope when my son's old enough his gf's will.
When there is a problem in a relationship, why is most of the advice ';kick him to the curb';?
Just to heck with it!!! Why doesn't anyone want to try to work things out? Everyone seams to be so selfish these days. Too affraid of being hurt, so get out while you can. Why?When there is a problem in a relationship, why is most of the advice ';kick him to the curb';?
It's better to kick him to the curb before marriage than going through a divorce. If there's enough issue's or even one issue that you don't want to deal with throughout life, the best advice would be to move on... kick him to the curb... marriage will not make that issue go away. If the couple is all ready married, then yes, you need to work on the marriage. Abuse is an exception to that rule. Kick an abuser to the curb, married or not.When there is a problem in a relationship, why is most of the advice ';kick him to the curb';?
People who immediately take the ';kick them to the curb'; attitude are people who are themselves generally shallow and lacking in any real substance.
Relationships take effort from both partners, including working together sometimes when one side or the other is weaker.
';curb kickers'; can be viewed as people who are not willing to and obviously have no intentions of putting any effort into their relationships.
These people generally just ';expect'; things to go their way and the moment something needs a little ';attention'; they don't want to or perhaps don't know how to deal with it so the shallow self absorbed response is to ';kick it to the curb';...you know, ';not my problem';.
Take these reactions as a hint for future relationships...people like this should be avoided, relationships deserve caring and devoted partners willing to give their all to the cause !
Probably because most of the problems on here have to do with cheating, those who are abusive and those addicted to various things (porn, drugs, video games etc.). These aren't issue's that will go away with ';communication'; and half the time even when you seek out professional help the person returns to the old behavior (assuming the other spouse will agree to go to counseling).
While I agree that a lot of issues can be worked out and married couples should try, it does take two people to make it work. If one spouse refuses to see the other side and no compromising is happening, than again if we are talking about an issue that is very important to someone what other option are you left with?
Maybe if think it is acceptable to ';pray'; about a problem for 20 - 30 years %26amp; remain miserable because the Bible said so but I seriously doubt its accuracy as ';Gods Word';.
Because many people here have been dealing with months, if not years of abuse.
And as far as ';kicking them'; when they screw up within a few months, well that is just being smart. I am quite sure the people mentioned in my first sentence wish they had gotten out when their partner began to show signs of, well not being a good partner. Instead they ';stuck it out'; and popped out a couple kids and now they are stuck and miserable.
Being hurt is part of life. Being treated like a dog is for an animal.
we tried counseling and 12 step groups, but hubby could not get a handle on his sex addiction. for 13 years, I tried anyway.
when i got my divorce in texas, all my girlfriends said ';kick him to the curb';. my attorney, who does friendly divorces, stressed being amicable, dignified, respectful.
in a no fault state, there really is no kicking to the curb anymore. just pack up what's left of your dignity and leave.
No patience, self disapline,, self esteem,,,, self worth,,, or pride,,, They want things easy and don;t want to work for it,,,they are ,,as you said,, selfish,,,,,,,,, And for those that answer questions on YA in this manner,,, they are just answering a question with no regard to the actual people and feelings involved by the people that are posting the question,,,,, Nuff Said Good Luck
Im usually an advocate for working things out. If at all possible. There are a couple of things that cant be worked out. But people in general are lazy and dont want to put in the effort and hard work that it takes to rebuild a foundation of trust..
I find that advice most often comes from those with little or no experience about relationships, except maybe the 4 they had last semester.
you wont find that expression where the partners are married.
usually in poor communication relationships before true commitment or engagement.
Because society is lazy as a whole. No one wants to try anymore its called losing faith.
I wish I could feel the same, but after 24 yrs with the same woman...we have kind of bonded in a sense even though, we do not get along great.
I am doomed forever!
It's better to kick him to the curb before marriage than going through a divorce. If there's enough issue's or even one issue that you don't want to deal with throughout life, the best advice would be to move on... kick him to the curb... marriage will not make that issue go away. If the couple is all ready married, then yes, you need to work on the marriage. Abuse is an exception to that rule. Kick an abuser to the curb, married or not.When there is a problem in a relationship, why is most of the advice ';kick him to the curb';?
People who immediately take the ';kick them to the curb'; attitude are people who are themselves generally shallow and lacking in any real substance.
Relationships take effort from both partners, including working together sometimes when one side or the other is weaker.
';curb kickers'; can be viewed as people who are not willing to and obviously have no intentions of putting any effort into their relationships.
These people generally just ';expect'; things to go their way and the moment something needs a little ';attention'; they don't want to or perhaps don't know how to deal with it so the shallow self absorbed response is to ';kick it to the curb';...you know, ';not my problem';.
Take these reactions as a hint for future relationships...people like this should be avoided, relationships deserve caring and devoted partners willing to give their all to the cause !
Probably because most of the problems on here have to do with cheating, those who are abusive and those addicted to various things (porn, drugs, video games etc.). These aren't issue's that will go away with ';communication'; and half the time even when you seek out professional help the person returns to the old behavior (assuming the other spouse will agree to go to counseling).
While I agree that a lot of issues can be worked out and married couples should try, it does take two people to make it work. If one spouse refuses to see the other side and no compromising is happening, than again if we are talking about an issue that is very important to someone what other option are you left with?
Maybe if think it is acceptable to ';pray'; about a problem for 20 - 30 years %26amp; remain miserable because the Bible said so but I seriously doubt its accuracy as ';Gods Word';.
Because many people here have been dealing with months, if not years of abuse.
And as far as ';kicking them'; when they screw up within a few months, well that is just being smart. I am quite sure the people mentioned in my first sentence wish they had gotten out when their partner began to show signs of, well not being a good partner. Instead they ';stuck it out'; and popped out a couple kids and now they are stuck and miserable.
Being hurt is part of life. Being treated like a dog is for an animal.
we tried counseling and 12 step groups, but hubby could not get a handle on his sex addiction. for 13 years, I tried anyway.
when i got my divorce in texas, all my girlfriends said ';kick him to the curb';. my attorney, who does friendly divorces, stressed being amicable, dignified, respectful.
in a no fault state, there really is no kicking to the curb anymore. just pack up what's left of your dignity and leave.
No patience, self disapline,, self esteem,,,, self worth,,, or pride,,, They want things easy and don;t want to work for it,,,they are ,,as you said,, selfish,,,,,,,,, And for those that answer questions on YA in this manner,,, they are just answering a question with no regard to the actual people and feelings involved by the people that are posting the question,,,,, Nuff Said Good Luck
Im usually an advocate for working things out. If at all possible. There are a couple of things that cant be worked out. But people in general are lazy and dont want to put in the effort and hard work that it takes to rebuild a foundation of trust..
I find that advice most often comes from those with little or no experience about relationships, except maybe the 4 they had last semester.
you wont find that expression where the partners are married.
usually in poor communication relationships before true commitment or engagement.
Because society is lazy as a whole. No one wants to try anymore its called losing faith.
I wish I could feel the same, but after 24 yrs with the same woman...we have kind of bonded in a sense even though, we do not get along great.
I am doomed forever!
I one big problem i have erection probelms even with pills any natural advice it bothers me a lot, please help
I have lost a lot of weight but I am a diabetic and it hurts to the point that I get depressed. Before I never had a problem, I would get an erection just if the wind blows, now a hurricane would not help. Please help if there is any suggestions, I have tried everything any natural herbs or cremes I am desperateI one big problem i have erection probelms even with pills any natural advice it bothers me a lot, please help
The more you think about how cool it was to just grab it and masturbate, the worse the problem gets. I have been there and I was thinking, ';I'm never gonna have another orgasm!'; which only made it less erect. It was inner turmoil--I was in denial. I am fortunate in that I have female friends (non-intimate) that enjoy my personality, knew nothing about my ED, and it started me to thinking. Just because you like having instant erections, that doesn't mean that you are less (or more) of a person to others. Quit focusing on your penis, develop other parts of your personality and I'll bet that somebody else will focus on that penis and life will change.
I do think that you should talk to your Doc about the connections between diabetes and ED. Believe it or not, doctors have seen and talked about penis problems. If you want to solve the issue, be a man and discuss it. Otherwise, just plan on being flaccid and upset.I one big problem i have erection probelms even with pills any natural advice it bothers me a lot, please help
Try Bee Royal Jelly it has natural B vitamins to stabilize your blood sugar. It will also help your body to produce natural hormones. It works much like the Bio-Identical hormones that we have all been hearing about. But you don't need a doctors prescription. It is also fairly inexpensive (you only take a small amount only 1/5 of a teaspoon a day).
you can try Viagra.
Herbal and other alternative treatments are generally ineffective when tested blind, but may be useful for their psychological (placebo) effect: if a good result is expected, any highly-praised, and often expensive, treatment can be effective.
Erectile dysfunction (ED) or impotence is a sexual dysfunction characterized by the inability to develop or maintain an erection of the penis for satisfactory sexual intercourse regardless of the capability of ejaculation. There are various underlying causes, such as diabetes, many of which are medically reversible.
Viagra, Levitra and Cialis work in much the same way. Chemically known as phosphodiesterase inhibitors, these drugs enhance the effects of nitric oxide, a chemical messenger that relaxes smooth muscles in the penis. This increases the amount of blood and allows a natural sequence to occur 鈥?an erection in response to sexual stimulation. These medications don't automatically produce an erection. Instead they allow an erection to occur after physical and psychological stimulation. Many men experience improvement in erectile function after taking these medications regardless of the cause of their impotence.
These medications share many similarities, but they have differences as well. They vary in dosage, duration of effectiveness and possible side effects. Other distinctions 鈥?for example, which drug is best for certain types of men 鈥?aren't yet known. No study has directly compared these three medications.
You can try which work the best for you...
The more you think about how cool it was to just grab it and masturbate, the worse the problem gets. I have been there and I was thinking, ';I'm never gonna have another orgasm!'; which only made it less erect. It was inner turmoil--I was in denial. I am fortunate in that I have female friends (non-intimate) that enjoy my personality, knew nothing about my ED, and it started me to thinking. Just because you like having instant erections, that doesn't mean that you are less (or more) of a person to others. Quit focusing on your penis, develop other parts of your personality and I'll bet that somebody else will focus on that penis and life will change.
I do think that you should talk to your Doc about the connections between diabetes and ED. Believe it or not, doctors have seen and talked about penis problems. If you want to solve the issue, be a man and discuss it. Otherwise, just plan on being flaccid and upset.I one big problem i have erection probelms even with pills any natural advice it bothers me a lot, please help
Try Bee Royal Jelly it has natural B vitamins to stabilize your blood sugar. It will also help your body to produce natural hormones. It works much like the Bio-Identical hormones that we have all been hearing about. But you don't need a doctors prescription. It is also fairly inexpensive (you only take a small amount only 1/5 of a teaspoon a day).
you can try Viagra.
Herbal and other alternative treatments are generally ineffective when tested blind, but may be useful for their psychological (placebo) effect: if a good result is expected, any highly-praised, and often expensive, treatment can be effective.
Erectile dysfunction (ED) or impotence is a sexual dysfunction characterized by the inability to develop or maintain an erection of the penis for satisfactory sexual intercourse regardless of the capability of ejaculation. There are various underlying causes, such as diabetes, many of which are medically reversible.
Viagra, Levitra and Cialis work in much the same way. Chemically known as phosphodiesterase inhibitors, these drugs enhance the effects of nitric oxide, a chemical messenger that relaxes smooth muscles in the penis. This increases the amount of blood and allows a natural sequence to occur 鈥?an erection in response to sexual stimulation. These medications don't automatically produce an erection. Instead they allow an erection to occur after physical and psychological stimulation. Many men experience improvement in erectile function after taking these medications regardless of the cause of their impotence.
These medications share many similarities, but they have differences as well. They vary in dosage, duration of effectiveness and possible side effects. Other distinctions 鈥?for example, which drug is best for certain types of men 鈥?aren't yet known. No study has directly compared these three medications.
You can try which work the best for you...
Please help! Will welcome any advice...does it sound as if he has a psychological problem? What is wrong?
I'm involved with a guy that is a great guy, but when he is angry he can be emotionally abusive. We've been together almost a year...off and on. In the time we've been together, I have probably cried more with him than with any other guy. When he is angry he has insulted me, refused to say one word to me, disappear for a couple of weeks and not call or contact me, and not respond to my attempts to contact him either. It is very nerve wracking. I'm in college and last night, we were at the library together, because I had a paper due%26amp;he had something to do for his job. He didn't think about the fact that I had a paper due, but instead had me running around the library finding books that he needed. If I refused, he gave me the silent treatment. He also got angry at me towards the time we were getting ready to leave %26amp; left me to walk home across campus in the dark by myself, while he drove. Please tell me what is wrong with him? Does he need counseling????Please help! Will welcome any advice...does it sound as if he has a psychological problem? What is wrong?
He needs anger management. If he doesn't go, then he thinks that he is more important than you and you should leave him before it gets worse.Please help! Will welcome any advice...does it sound as if he has a psychological problem? What is wrong?
You are losing focus and at who's expense? It's not his that's for sure.
Sure, he needs counseling, in terms of changing the self-centered way he thinks. Will he get it? I doubt it. I'm going to be very upfront with you and tell you that he has every sign of being a classic abuser. In fact, he's already started. Has he started isolating you from your friends and family yet? I'd be surprised if he hasn't. After all, they take away from time you could spend on meeting his needs. He will never spend the time meeting yours, because that is not how he thinks. Of course, you may have found he can be very charming if he thinks you're pulling away (and after all, he got you to go out with him in the first place), but he is basically charming long enough to get what he wants, and that is having you under his control. Take my sincere advice and dump him now. Be prepared for him to campaign to get you back, either by charm or threats. Don't fall for them.
sounds to me like he wants control, and if you are having a loving relationship, that's definitely not on.
emotional abuse is definitely on as it is destructive to the person it is be flung at.
The silent treatment s also passive aggressive control
Sounds to me like maybe soon
try to find nice people to be around that love and care about you
';you'; need counseling, to learn how to get away from an abusive partner, why you insist on ';living'; with a man out of wedlock and letting him take advantage of you like you were some kind of pickup, and why you put up with that without moving out. Since he's acting funny, don't get another boyfriend for a while, and until you've worked thru your problem. You can't change him, but you can change you. Good luck.
Please, don't focus on what's wrong with him. What's wrong with you for allowing this control freak around you. Please break up with him. I went thru a off an on 14 month relationship with a control freak and I spent 7 years being single after him. You are smart and deserve the best in life.
something is wrong with you for staying and taking the abuse
yes, it sounds like he has a form of displacement disorder, and he also sounds like a bit of an *** and really immature. displacement means that if something in his life goes wrong, no matter the reason he will take it out on you, or the closest thing, anything to naot blame himself or fix the situation
Sorry, hon, but you need to drop this guy like a hot potato! He's got emotional issues and you aren't doing him any good by putting up with his BS. He can't really be a great guy if he is so inconsiderate to you. Being in college is enough work - you should focus on yourself and look for a guy who is more stable - and able to focus some good attention on you! You deserve it!
And, yes, he needs some counseling - but I guarantee he won't get it unless he recognizes he has a problem. So unless you are a professional therapist - leave him and let him figure it out for himself!
Good Luck!
He seems quite passive aggressive when he doesn't get his way as he gives you the silent treatment. He has anger issues which need to be resolved through counseling. Being with an emotionally abusive guy is not great as you will eventually become quite dependent on him at the psychological level. It will affect your self-confidence and self-esteem. You say he is a great guy but it is not very appealing that he made you run around searching for his books when you had a paper due, that is very inconsiderate of him. Have you told him that you are unhappy with things? He needs counseling but you need to be in counseling separately too to figure out why you think he is a great guy when he has not made you feel special. You need to ask yourself if he really cares about you. Otherwise get out and you will find the right person who will love you and treat you like you really deserve to be treated. Also get emotional support from family and friends whatever you may decide to do. Good luck!
He has problems alright ! Sounds like a spoiled brat that really has no feelings for other people. He needs more then simple counseling but if you stay with him,you are going to need counseling also. If y'all have been together a long time where you don't want to lose him, break up until he gets help. You are much better to just leave him and not look back though 'cause he could get treatment a long time and still act like a spoiled brat. You need to look at yourself though that you put up with him.
We can't tell you what is wrong!!! You are the only one who even knows this guy. I can just about guess that his behavior is justifiable and normal in his mind. You're not going to change him so just know that right off the bat. Not being ugly when I say this, maybe you need to talk to someone. Look at what you are accepting from him and why? Don't you feel that you deserve to be treated kindly? People often have to learn the hard way and you will if you continue to have relationships with jerks............
i would just like to say good luck to you...i can't sit here and say dump him or anything negative because i am going through the same exact thing with my boyfriend except he doesn't just get emotionally or verbally abusive, he also gets physically abusive, i will just ask you what everyone asks me..why do you put up with it and keep him around? i hope everything goes well, like i said we are floating in the same boat, if you want to contact me you can at lmc19842004@yahoo.com...maybe we can give each other advice in the future about our prince charmings...
Forget him, he needs counsiling but that is not your job, he will only change if he wants too. Get out of there and finish school you will find the one that is meant for you.
He is not going to change for you. He isn't worth your time.
A relationship is supposed to make you happy, not sad!!! He should make you feel good about who he is and who you are.
He doesn't sound like he will ever let you be the person you deserve to be, since he's messing you up on your studies.
You can waste the next years trying to get him to treat you like a decent human being...or you can cut your losses now and dump him.
If you can't dump him you need to get counseling.
He's self centered and immature with some anger management issues. He wants your life to revolve around him. But then of course he's likely to punish you if you don't meet his exact needs. Either get some counseling or walk away. Its not going to get better by itself. He clearly doesn't know how to communicate in a caring or productive way.
Yes. Counseling to be done by you. You can try to comfort him and accompany him when he feels isolated. Sometimes, that happens. Counseling indeed is a help. But your problem is he is emotionally abusive. So, try telling him to control his emotions. But if he really wants to spill it out, try it outside. And he may be somewhat, ';psychologically problematic';.
sounds to me like he has control issues. and is punishing you when you don't do as HE wants you to do. it is only going to get worse. he only wants what he wants. i would move on to someone better. i was once with a man like that. verbal abuse turned to physical abuse. not right away, but it happened. i was not expecting it either. it started out with a shove out of his way, then a slap, went from there, thrown down stairs, made to sleep outside, punched in the face when he was mad about something. sorry, just trying to make you understand.
GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT
SOUNDS like hes very self centered and your to young if your in college to be involved in a relationship that may hinder your educations and dreams
Sorry but you need to drop him. He should probably take anger management classes. Dump him because you can't change him. No matter what you do he is not going to change. Your love or whatever is not going to be enough in the end. Also if he treats you that way now he will probably always treat you that way. Another thing, girls who were in physically abusive relationships, say that at first it just started out with emotional abuse. So it could escalate.
I would leave and not look back
He sounds like he has way too baggage why do you feel
you have to worry about HIS problem and you answered your own question....HE needs counselling
You will need some too if you decide to stay in the relationship and you will end up being beaten and running to shelter.....life is too short
He is using a power/controlling trip on you. People like this are only trying to control you..period.
I was in an abusive relationship for 15 years. He was ';only'; verbally abusive at first. Trust me...this type of behavior WILL escalate. In time...I KNOW it will. His behavior is that of someone who is emotionally immature (ie: if he doesn't get what he wants, he ';pouts'; like a child, by becoming silent)...
GET OUT NOW. I am now in a healthy relationship...and can tell you crying IS NOT part of a good, healthy relationship. No one should treat you like he is. My late husband (the abuser..yes, he killed himself...thought he was gonna take me out, too...long story...won't bore you)....once let me walk from our car to a public highway rest area ALONE at night (even though I told him I was scared) because he was mad at me...RED FLAG here sister! He cared more about himself than he did you on your lonely at night campus walk...
PLEASE, PLEASE, NO MATTER IF YOU THINK YOU LOVE HIM OR NOT...GET OUT...RUN! You will be unhappy and constantly worrying what you did wrong..when in truth, it's HIM NOT you....You'll want to ';play by his rules'; but he'll keep changing them....you'll NEVER figure them out.
YES, he needs counseling. BUT...YOU CANNOT fix him...he'll have to want to fix himself...and guys like that RARELY admit they need help...
PLEASE, PLEASE...before you become a victim of physical domestic abuse ( you are ALREADY a victim of emotional domestic abuse)....GET THE HECK AWAY FROM Him...
drop him
Yes he needs counseling or help of some sort. First, you should realize that you should not let yourself be treated that way. In my book, abuse of any kind is NOT ACCEPTABLE! It sounds as if he thinks you should cater to him, but he should do the same for you in return.
I think the two of you may be at different points in your lives and may need to go your separate ways. But yes, he does need help.
If you don't take up for yourself, no one else will. Don't let anyone do this to you...you've got to want to be treated better...
I hate to say this 'he needs dumping.' He is an angry control freak and needs therapy.
Why are you with him? He does need counseling. I would dump him. If you really want to stay with him you need to force him to go to counceling. There is clearly something seriously wrong with at least your relationship, if not his psychological state.
No! U need counseling.......for staying with him and putting up with all that nonsence! It sounds to me like he is a grade A Asshole and the best thing you could possibly do would be to run in the opposite direction....as fast as possible.
Who knows it might even give him a wake up call......just remember that a leopard never changes his spots
He needs anger management. If he doesn't go, then he thinks that he is more important than you and you should leave him before it gets worse.Please help! Will welcome any advice...does it sound as if he has a psychological problem? What is wrong?
You are losing focus and at who's expense? It's not his that's for sure.
Sure, he needs counseling, in terms of changing the self-centered way he thinks. Will he get it? I doubt it. I'm going to be very upfront with you and tell you that he has every sign of being a classic abuser. In fact, he's already started. Has he started isolating you from your friends and family yet? I'd be surprised if he hasn't. After all, they take away from time you could spend on meeting his needs. He will never spend the time meeting yours, because that is not how he thinks. Of course, you may have found he can be very charming if he thinks you're pulling away (and after all, he got you to go out with him in the first place), but he is basically charming long enough to get what he wants, and that is having you under his control. Take my sincere advice and dump him now. Be prepared for him to campaign to get you back, either by charm or threats. Don't fall for them.
sounds to me like he wants control, and if you are having a loving relationship, that's definitely not on.
emotional abuse is definitely on as it is destructive to the person it is be flung at.
The silent treatment s also passive aggressive control
Sounds to me like maybe soon
try to find nice people to be around that love and care about you
';you'; need counseling, to learn how to get away from an abusive partner, why you insist on ';living'; with a man out of wedlock and letting him take advantage of you like you were some kind of pickup, and why you put up with that without moving out. Since he's acting funny, don't get another boyfriend for a while, and until you've worked thru your problem. You can't change him, but you can change you. Good luck.
Please, don't focus on what's wrong with him. What's wrong with you for allowing this control freak around you. Please break up with him. I went thru a off an on 14 month relationship with a control freak and I spent 7 years being single after him. You are smart and deserve the best in life.
something is wrong with you for staying and taking the abuse
yes, it sounds like he has a form of displacement disorder, and he also sounds like a bit of an *** and really immature. displacement means that if something in his life goes wrong, no matter the reason he will take it out on you, or the closest thing, anything to naot blame himself or fix the situation
Sorry, hon, but you need to drop this guy like a hot potato! He's got emotional issues and you aren't doing him any good by putting up with his BS. He can't really be a great guy if he is so inconsiderate to you. Being in college is enough work - you should focus on yourself and look for a guy who is more stable - and able to focus some good attention on you! You deserve it!
And, yes, he needs some counseling - but I guarantee he won't get it unless he recognizes he has a problem. So unless you are a professional therapist - leave him and let him figure it out for himself!
Good Luck!
He seems quite passive aggressive when he doesn't get his way as he gives you the silent treatment. He has anger issues which need to be resolved through counseling. Being with an emotionally abusive guy is not great as you will eventually become quite dependent on him at the psychological level. It will affect your self-confidence and self-esteem. You say he is a great guy but it is not very appealing that he made you run around searching for his books when you had a paper due, that is very inconsiderate of him. Have you told him that you are unhappy with things? He needs counseling but you need to be in counseling separately too to figure out why you think he is a great guy when he has not made you feel special. You need to ask yourself if he really cares about you. Otherwise get out and you will find the right person who will love you and treat you like you really deserve to be treated. Also get emotional support from family and friends whatever you may decide to do. Good luck!
He has problems alright ! Sounds like a spoiled brat that really has no feelings for other people. He needs more then simple counseling but if you stay with him,you are going to need counseling also. If y'all have been together a long time where you don't want to lose him, break up until he gets help. You are much better to just leave him and not look back though 'cause he could get treatment a long time and still act like a spoiled brat. You need to look at yourself though that you put up with him.
We can't tell you what is wrong!!! You are the only one who even knows this guy. I can just about guess that his behavior is justifiable and normal in his mind. You're not going to change him so just know that right off the bat. Not being ugly when I say this, maybe you need to talk to someone. Look at what you are accepting from him and why? Don't you feel that you deserve to be treated kindly? People often have to learn the hard way and you will if you continue to have relationships with jerks............
i would just like to say good luck to you...i can't sit here and say dump him or anything negative because i am going through the same exact thing with my boyfriend except he doesn't just get emotionally or verbally abusive, he also gets physically abusive, i will just ask you what everyone asks me..why do you put up with it and keep him around? i hope everything goes well, like i said we are floating in the same boat, if you want to contact me you can at lmc19842004@yahoo.com...maybe we can give each other advice in the future about our prince charmings...
Forget him, he needs counsiling but that is not your job, he will only change if he wants too. Get out of there and finish school you will find the one that is meant for you.
He is not going to change for you. He isn't worth your time.
A relationship is supposed to make you happy, not sad!!! He should make you feel good about who he is and who you are.
He doesn't sound like he will ever let you be the person you deserve to be, since he's messing you up on your studies.
You can waste the next years trying to get him to treat you like a decent human being...or you can cut your losses now and dump him.
If you can't dump him you need to get counseling.
He's self centered and immature with some anger management issues. He wants your life to revolve around him. But then of course he's likely to punish you if you don't meet his exact needs. Either get some counseling or walk away. Its not going to get better by itself. He clearly doesn't know how to communicate in a caring or productive way.
Yes. Counseling to be done by you. You can try to comfort him and accompany him when he feels isolated. Sometimes, that happens. Counseling indeed is a help. But your problem is he is emotionally abusive. So, try telling him to control his emotions. But if he really wants to spill it out, try it outside. And he may be somewhat, ';psychologically problematic';.
sounds to me like he has control issues. and is punishing you when you don't do as HE wants you to do. it is only going to get worse. he only wants what he wants. i would move on to someone better. i was once with a man like that. verbal abuse turned to physical abuse. not right away, but it happened. i was not expecting it either. it started out with a shove out of his way, then a slap, went from there, thrown down stairs, made to sleep outside, punched in the face when he was mad about something. sorry, just trying to make you understand.
GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT
SOUNDS like hes very self centered and your to young if your in college to be involved in a relationship that may hinder your educations and dreams
Sorry but you need to drop him. He should probably take anger management classes. Dump him because you can't change him. No matter what you do he is not going to change. Your love or whatever is not going to be enough in the end. Also if he treats you that way now he will probably always treat you that way. Another thing, girls who were in physically abusive relationships, say that at first it just started out with emotional abuse. So it could escalate.
I would leave and not look back
He sounds like he has way too baggage why do you feel
you have to worry about HIS problem and you answered your own question....HE needs counselling
You will need some too if you decide to stay in the relationship and you will end up being beaten and running to shelter.....life is too short
He is using a power/controlling trip on you. People like this are only trying to control you..period.
I was in an abusive relationship for 15 years. He was ';only'; verbally abusive at first. Trust me...this type of behavior WILL escalate. In time...I KNOW it will. His behavior is that of someone who is emotionally immature (ie: if he doesn't get what he wants, he ';pouts'; like a child, by becoming silent)...
GET OUT NOW. I am now in a healthy relationship...and can tell you crying IS NOT part of a good, healthy relationship. No one should treat you like he is. My late husband (the abuser..yes, he killed himself...thought he was gonna take me out, too...long story...won't bore you)....once let me walk from our car to a public highway rest area ALONE at night (even though I told him I was scared) because he was mad at me...RED FLAG here sister! He cared more about himself than he did you on your lonely at night campus walk...
PLEASE, PLEASE, NO MATTER IF YOU THINK YOU LOVE HIM OR NOT...GET OUT...RUN! You will be unhappy and constantly worrying what you did wrong..when in truth, it's HIM NOT you....You'll want to ';play by his rules'; but he'll keep changing them....you'll NEVER figure them out.
YES, he needs counseling. BUT...YOU CANNOT fix him...he'll have to want to fix himself...and guys like that RARELY admit they need help...
PLEASE, PLEASE...before you become a victim of physical domestic abuse ( you are ALREADY a victim of emotional domestic abuse)....GET THE HECK AWAY FROM Him...
drop him
Yes he needs counseling or help of some sort. First, you should realize that you should not let yourself be treated that way. In my book, abuse of any kind is NOT ACCEPTABLE! It sounds as if he thinks you should cater to him, but he should do the same for you in return.
I think the two of you may be at different points in your lives and may need to go your separate ways. But yes, he does need help.
If you don't take up for yourself, no one else will. Don't let anyone do this to you...you've got to want to be treated better...
I hate to say this 'he needs dumping.' He is an angry control freak and needs therapy.
Why are you with him? He does need counseling. I would dump him. If you really want to stay with him you need to force him to go to counceling. There is clearly something seriously wrong with at least your relationship, if not his psychological state.
No! U need counseling.......for staying with him and putting up with all that nonsence! It sounds to me like he is a grade A Asshole and the best thing you could possibly do would be to run in the opposite direction....as fast as possible.
Who knows it might even give him a wake up call......just remember that a leopard never changes his spots
I don't know what to do, i'm confused and i need advice? this is really long problem but i have to ask?
okay well i have a friend and she has been dating a guy for a long time now and she feels like he's her best friend and she loves him so much. the thing is he went on to college and she is still in high school, so obviously they aren't going to be seeing each other a lot. he tells her he loves her and she's the most important thing to him, over the time that they have been dating he has done a lot of things that made her sad. but she always forgives him no matter what her friends tell her or anything she always goes back to him. when he went to our school he would pass her by in the hall way and not even acknowledge her he even walked in her class and didn't say anything to her, i told her where he is at in the morning and she started waiting there for him but soon after he went another route. well she lost her virginity to him in 2007 and she was only 16 young and he's like two years older than her i think, well in all the time that they've been together he hasn't taken her out on any dates with her. and he comes home every weekend but usually she never sees him and she will always tell me that she might be doing something when i ask her if she wants to hang out. and she was feeling sad one day and was explaining how he never just wants to hang out because he's says he is always busy but if they are going to do it he's more than happy to see her...i think they text each other like all the time, and call each other possibly, but that's the only way they communicate i think?
i really love this girl more than anything and i really just want her to be happy. she really is completely in love with him and wants to spend her life with him, and he tells her the same thing. we've been friends longer than she has even known him and we're good buddies and we're never really serious about things. she used to open up to me a bit but not as much as her old friends that she stopped talking to. but now she doesn't really even show her emotions to me i think because we had gotten in to some fights about opening up and stuff like that i think. so now she only really shows her feelings to this guy i think is using her just for sex.i want to tell her that he's just using her but i'm not sure if i want to ruin her happiness so should i confront her about all this stuff or what!? i'm not sure what to doI don't know what to do, i'm confused and i need advice? this is really long problem but i have to ask?
wow this sounds strangely familiar...I don't know what to do, i'm confused and i need advice? this is really long problem but i have to ask?
tell her how you feel on this situation and help her see it through your shoes and let her see that your there for her and her decision on what to do! your a really great friend for trying to help her i hope everything works out! :]
that guy is such a loser he probably doesnt even llike her he is probally using her for *** so yeah
i really love this girl more than anything and i really just want her to be happy. she really is completely in love with him and wants to spend her life with him, and he tells her the same thing. we've been friends longer than she has even known him and we're good buddies and we're never really serious about things. she used to open up to me a bit but not as much as her old friends that she stopped talking to. but now she doesn't really even show her emotions to me i think because we had gotten in to some fights about opening up and stuff like that i think. so now she only really shows her feelings to this guy i think is using her just for sex.i want to tell her that he's just using her but i'm not sure if i want to ruin her happiness so should i confront her about all this stuff or what!? i'm not sure what to doI don't know what to do, i'm confused and i need advice? this is really long problem but i have to ask?
wow this sounds strangely familiar...I don't know what to do, i'm confused and i need advice? this is really long problem but i have to ask?
tell her how you feel on this situation and help her see it through your shoes and let her see that your there for her and her decision on what to do! your a really great friend for trying to help her i hope everything works out! :]
that guy is such a loser he probably doesnt even llike her he is probally using her for *** so yeah
There's a small family problem going on here.... some advice?
Well, as it begins, my cousin is graduating college on the 18th and his parents (My aunt %26amp; uncle) asked grandma (My legal guardian) if they can use her house for having a grad party on the 19th... Grandma said yes. Well, my aunt called today and asked Grandma that my mom not be invited... (My aunt has hated my mom since they were kids). Now my grandma is all upset because my aunt was insensitive enough to ask my mom not be invited...
I realized it hurts to see mom cry years ago... now I realize it hurts even more to see grandma cry
Any possible advice?There's a small family problem going on here.... some advice?
Here is my rule of thumb when it comes to family....If there is an event and someone is excluded, I will not attend.'; Shame on the person that is holding the event and shame on the person who the event is for, as they obviously support this as well. it is your grandmothers house and your aunt has some balls to tell her mother not invite her sister ( i think i got that right)... Your aunt is forcing her hand at getting your grandmother to side with her for some type of an old beef and she is selfish to do this for a family occasion...
if your mother is normally allowed in grandmas home them this day should be no different.There's a small family problem going on here.... some advice?
That is really harsh. I think what you should do is take your cousin into private and ask him what HE wants. Make sure he knows that it is up to him, and if not, well then talk to your grandma. As for your aunt, beggars cant be choosers.
Wow that is a tough situation, your mom is family so I personally think everyone should lay their differences aside for this very special occasion, it isn't like he graduates every day she is probably going to be at his ceremony. Good luck and God bless
It's your grandmother's house, but she also realises that family is family. It's cimply NOT up to your aunt, it's up to your grandmom, it's completely her choice. It's not your aun't party, and she should not be forcing her personal issues on the rest of the family but grow up and be mature and big about it. If your cousins were to invite your mom, your aunt cannot very well say very much.
Your aunt obviously cares more about her own personal hang-ups than the feelings of your grandmom, that's just wrong. Speak to your grandmom, it's her house.
If I were your cousin, I'd relocate the party to your mother's house.
I think it was unfair for your aunt to put your grandmother in the middle of her feud with your mother. I would tell my grandmother to tell your aunt to tell her herself. Otherwise, she is going to be there. If your aunt gets mad at your grandma for telling her that then she needs to have her party somewhere else.
Well it is grandma's house and she is being nice enough to hold the party at her house. Your aunt has to have some courtesy and understand that it is hurting your grandma. Go give grandma a hug and tell her you understand.....
Your aunt is insensitive and should care about your grandmothers feelings. Your grandma should also ask what your cousin thinks, since it is HIS party and it is about HIM not your aunt. If your cousin wants her there, then you can tell your aunt to stick it.
I realized it hurts to see mom cry years ago... now I realize it hurts even more to see grandma cry
Any possible advice?There's a small family problem going on here.... some advice?
Here is my rule of thumb when it comes to family....If there is an event and someone is excluded, I will not attend.'; Shame on the person that is holding the event and shame on the person who the event is for, as they obviously support this as well. it is your grandmothers house and your aunt has some balls to tell her mother not invite her sister ( i think i got that right)... Your aunt is forcing her hand at getting your grandmother to side with her for some type of an old beef and she is selfish to do this for a family occasion...
if your mother is normally allowed in grandmas home them this day should be no different.There's a small family problem going on here.... some advice?
That is really harsh. I think what you should do is take your cousin into private and ask him what HE wants. Make sure he knows that it is up to him, and if not, well then talk to your grandma. As for your aunt, beggars cant be choosers.
Wow that is a tough situation, your mom is family so I personally think everyone should lay their differences aside for this very special occasion, it isn't like he graduates every day she is probably going to be at his ceremony. Good luck and God bless
It's your grandmother's house, but she also realises that family is family. It's cimply NOT up to your aunt, it's up to your grandmom, it's completely her choice. It's not your aun't party, and she should not be forcing her personal issues on the rest of the family but grow up and be mature and big about it. If your cousins were to invite your mom, your aunt cannot very well say very much.
Your aunt obviously cares more about her own personal hang-ups than the feelings of your grandmom, that's just wrong. Speak to your grandmom, it's her house.
If I were your cousin, I'd relocate the party to your mother's house.
I think it was unfair for your aunt to put your grandmother in the middle of her feud with your mother. I would tell my grandmother to tell your aunt to tell her herself. Otherwise, she is going to be there. If your aunt gets mad at your grandma for telling her that then she needs to have her party somewhere else.
Well it is grandma's house and she is being nice enough to hold the party at her house. Your aunt has to have some courtesy and understand that it is hurting your grandma. Go give grandma a hug and tell her you understand.....
Your aunt is insensitive and should care about your grandmothers feelings. Your grandma should also ask what your cousin thinks, since it is HIS party and it is about HIM not your aunt. If your cousin wants her there, then you can tell your aunt to stick it.
I one big problem i have erection probelms even with pills any natural advice it bothers me a lot, please help
I have lost a lot of weight but I am a diabetic and it hurts to the point that I get depressed. Before I never had a problem, I would get an erection just if the wind blows, now a hurricane would not help. Please help if there is any suggestions, I have tried everything any natural herbs or cremes I am desperateI one big problem i have erection probelms even with pills any natural advice it bothers me a lot, please help
The more you think about how cool it was to just grab it and masturbate, the worse the problem gets. I have been there and I was thinking, ';I'm never gonna have another orgasm!'; which only made it less erect. It was inner turmoil--I was in denial. I am fortunate in that I have female friends (non-intimate) that enjoy my personality, knew nothing about my ED, and it started me to thinking. Just because you like having instant erections, that doesn't mean that you are less (or more) of a person to others. Quit focusing on your penis, develop other parts of your personality and I'll bet that somebody else will focus on that penis and life will change.
I do think that you should talk to your Doc about the connections between diabetes and ED. Believe it or not, doctors have seen and talked about penis problems. If you want to solve the issue, be a man and discuss it. Otherwise, just plan on being flaccid and upset.I one big problem i have erection probelms even with pills any natural advice it bothers me a lot, please help
Try Bee Royal Jelly it has natural B vitamins to stabilize your blood sugar. It will also help your body to produce natural hormones. It works much like the Bio-Identical hormones that we have all been hearing about. But you don't need a doctors prescription. It is also fairly inexpensive (you only take a small amount only 1/5 of a teaspoon a day).
you can try Viagra.
Herbal and other alternative treatments are generally ineffective when tested blind, but may be useful for their psychological (placebo) effect: if a good result is expected, any highly-praised, and often expensive, treatment can be effective.
Erectile dysfunction (ED) or impotence is a sexual dysfunction characterized by the inability to develop or maintain an erection of the penis for satisfactory sexual intercourse regardless of the capability of ejaculation. There are various underlying causes, such as diabetes, many of which are medically reversible.
Viagra, Levitra and Cialis work in much the same way. Chemically known as phosphodiesterase inhibitors, these drugs enhance the effects of nitric oxide, a chemical messenger that relaxes smooth muscles in the penis. This increases the amount of blood and allows a natural sequence to occur 鈥?an erection in response to sexual stimulation. These medications don't automatically produce an erection. Instead they allow an erection to occur after physical and psychological stimulation. Many men experience improvement in erectile function after taking these medications regardless of the cause of their impotence.
These medications share many similarities, but they have differences as well. They vary in dosage, duration of effectiveness and possible side effects. Other distinctions 鈥?for example, which drug is best for certain types of men 鈥?aren't yet known. No study has directly compared these three medications.
You can try which work the best for you...
The more you think about how cool it was to just grab it and masturbate, the worse the problem gets. I have been there and I was thinking, ';I'm never gonna have another orgasm!'; which only made it less erect. It was inner turmoil--I was in denial. I am fortunate in that I have female friends (non-intimate) that enjoy my personality, knew nothing about my ED, and it started me to thinking. Just because you like having instant erections, that doesn't mean that you are less (or more) of a person to others. Quit focusing on your penis, develop other parts of your personality and I'll bet that somebody else will focus on that penis and life will change.
I do think that you should talk to your Doc about the connections between diabetes and ED. Believe it or not, doctors have seen and talked about penis problems. If you want to solve the issue, be a man and discuss it. Otherwise, just plan on being flaccid and upset.I one big problem i have erection probelms even with pills any natural advice it bothers me a lot, please help
Try Bee Royal Jelly it has natural B vitamins to stabilize your blood sugar. It will also help your body to produce natural hormones. It works much like the Bio-Identical hormones that we have all been hearing about. But you don't need a doctors prescription. It is also fairly inexpensive (you only take a small amount only 1/5 of a teaspoon a day).
you can try Viagra.
Herbal and other alternative treatments are generally ineffective when tested blind, but may be useful for their psychological (placebo) effect: if a good result is expected, any highly-praised, and often expensive, treatment can be effective.
Erectile dysfunction (ED) or impotence is a sexual dysfunction characterized by the inability to develop or maintain an erection of the penis for satisfactory sexual intercourse regardless of the capability of ejaculation. There are various underlying causes, such as diabetes, many of which are medically reversible.
Viagra, Levitra and Cialis work in much the same way. Chemically known as phosphodiesterase inhibitors, these drugs enhance the effects of nitric oxide, a chemical messenger that relaxes smooth muscles in the penis. This increases the amount of blood and allows a natural sequence to occur 鈥?an erection in response to sexual stimulation. These medications don't automatically produce an erection. Instead they allow an erection to occur after physical and psychological stimulation. Many men experience improvement in erectile function after taking these medications regardless of the cause of their impotence.
These medications share many similarities, but they have differences as well. They vary in dosage, duration of effectiveness and possible side effects. Other distinctions 鈥?for example, which drug is best for certain types of men 鈥?aren't yet known. No study has directly compared these three medications.
You can try which work the best for you...
Please help! Will welcome any advice...does it sound as if he has a psychological problem? What is wrong?
I'm involved with a guy that is a great guy, but when he is angry he can be emotionally abusive. We've been together almost a year...off and on. In the time we've been together, I have probably cried more with him than with any other guy. When he is angry he has insulted me, refused to say one word to me, disappear for a couple of weeks and not call or contact me, and not respond to my attempts to contact him either. It is very nerve wracking. I'm in college and last night, we were at the library together, because I had a paper due%26amp;he had something to do for his job. He didn't think about the fact that I had a paper due, but instead had me running around the library finding books that he needed. If I refused, he gave me the silent treatment. He also got angry at me towards the time we were getting ready to leave %26amp; left me to walk home across campus in the dark by myself, while he drove. Please tell me what is wrong with him? Does he need counseling????Please help! Will welcome any advice...does it sound as if he has a psychological problem? What is wrong?
He needs anger management. If he doesn't go, then he thinks that he is more important than you and you should leave him before it gets worse.Please help! Will welcome any advice...does it sound as if he has a psychological problem? What is wrong?
You are losing focus and at who's expense? It's not his that's for sure.
Sure, he needs counseling, in terms of changing the self-centered way he thinks. Will he get it? I doubt it. I'm going to be very upfront with you and tell you that he has every sign of being a classic abuser. In fact, he's already started. Has he started isolating you from your friends and family yet? I'd be surprised if he hasn't. After all, they take away from time you could spend on meeting his needs. He will never spend the time meeting yours, because that is not how he thinks. Of course, you may have found he can be very charming if he thinks you're pulling away (and after all, he got you to go out with him in the first place), but he is basically charming long enough to get what he wants, and that is having you under his control. Take my sincere advice and dump him now. Be prepared for him to campaign to get you back, either by charm or threats. Don't fall for them.
sounds to me like he wants control, and if you are having a loving relationship, that's definitely not on.
emotional abuse is definitely on as it is destructive to the person it is be flung at.
The silent treatment s also passive aggressive control
Sounds to me like maybe soon
try to find nice people to be around that love and care about you
';you'; need counseling, to learn how to get away from an abusive partner, why you insist on ';living'; with a man out of wedlock and letting him take advantage of you like you were some kind of pickup, and why you put up with that without moving out. Since he's acting funny, don't get another boyfriend for a while, and until you've worked thru your problem. You can't change him, but you can change you. Good luck.
Please, don't focus on what's wrong with him. What's wrong with you for allowing this control freak around you. Please break up with him. I went thru a off an on 14 month relationship with a control freak and I spent 7 years being single after him. You are smart and deserve the best in life.
something is wrong with you for staying and taking the abuse
yes, it sounds like he has a form of displacement disorder, and he also sounds like a bit of an *** and really immature. displacement means that if something in his life goes wrong, no matter the reason he will take it out on you, or the closest thing, anything to naot blame himself or fix the situation
Sorry, hon, but you need to drop this guy like a hot potato! He's got emotional issues and you aren't doing him any good by putting up with his BS. He can't really be a great guy if he is so inconsiderate to you. Being in college is enough work - you should focus on yourself and look for a guy who is more stable - and able to focus some good attention on you! You deserve it!
And, yes, he needs some counseling - but I guarantee he won't get it unless he recognizes he has a problem. So unless you are a professional therapist - leave him and let him figure it out for himself!
Good Luck!
He seems quite passive aggressive when he doesn't get his way as he gives you the silent treatment. He has anger issues which need to be resolved through counseling. Being with an emotionally abusive guy is not great as you will eventually become quite dependent on him at the psychological level. It will affect your self-confidence and self-esteem. You say he is a great guy but it is not very appealing that he made you run around searching for his books when you had a paper due, that is very inconsiderate of him. Have you told him that you are unhappy with things? He needs counseling but you need to be in counseling separately too to figure out why you think he is a great guy when he has not made you feel special. You need to ask yourself if he really cares about you. Otherwise get out and you will find the right person who will love you and treat you like you really deserve to be treated. Also get emotional support from family and friends whatever you may decide to do. Good luck!
He has problems alright ! Sounds like a spoiled brat that really has no feelings for other people. He needs more then simple counseling but if you stay with him,you are going to need counseling also. If y'all have been together a long time where you don't want to lose him, break up until he gets help. You are much better to just leave him and not look back though 'cause he could get treatment a long time and still act like a spoiled brat. You need to look at yourself though that you put up with him.
We can't tell you what is wrong!!! You are the only one who even knows this guy. I can just about guess that his behavior is justifiable and normal in his mind. You're not going to change him so just know that right off the bat. Not being ugly when I say this, maybe you need to talk to someone. Look at what you are accepting from him and why? Don't you feel that you deserve to be treated kindly? People often have to learn the hard way and you will if you continue to have relationships with jerks............
i would just like to say good luck to you...i can't sit here and say dump him or anything negative because i am going through the same exact thing with my boyfriend except he doesn't just get emotionally or verbally abusive, he also gets physically abusive, i will just ask you what everyone asks me..why do you put up with it and keep him around? i hope everything goes well, like i said we are floating in the same boat, if you want to contact me you can at lmc19842004@yahoo.com...maybe we can give each other advice in the future about our prince charmings...
Forget him, he needs counsiling but that is not your job, he will only change if he wants too. Get out of there and finish school you will find the one that is meant for you.
He is not going to change for you. He isn't worth your time.
A relationship is supposed to make you happy, not sad!!! He should make you feel good about who he is and who you are.
He doesn't sound like he will ever let you be the person you deserve to be, since he's messing you up on your studies.
You can waste the next years trying to get him to treat you like a decent human being...or you can cut your losses now and dump him.
If you can't dump him you need to get counseling.
He's self centered and immature with some anger management issues. He wants your life to revolve around him. But then of course he's likely to punish you if you don't meet his exact needs. Either get some counseling or walk away. Its not going to get better by itself. He clearly doesn't know how to communicate in a caring or productive way.
Yes. Counseling to be done by you. You can try to comfort him and accompany him when he feels isolated. Sometimes, that happens. Counseling indeed is a help. But your problem is he is emotionally abusive. So, try telling him to control his emotions. But if he really wants to spill it out, try it outside. And he may be somewhat, ';psychologically problematic';.
sounds to me like he has control issues. and is punishing you when you don't do as HE wants you to do. it is only going to get worse. he only wants what he wants. i would move on to someone better. i was once with a man like that. verbal abuse turned to physical abuse. not right away, but it happened. i was not expecting it either. it started out with a shove out of his way, then a slap, went from there, thrown down stairs, made to sleep outside, punched in the face when he was mad about something. sorry, just trying to make you understand.
GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT
SOUNDS like hes very self centered and your to young if your in college to be involved in a relationship that may hinder your educations and dreams
Sorry but you need to drop him. He should probably take anger management classes. Dump him because you can't change him. No matter what you do he is not going to change. Your love or whatever is not going to be enough in the end. Also if he treats you that way now he will probably always treat you that way. Another thing, girls who were in physically abusive relationships, say that at first it just started out with emotional abuse. So it could escalate.
I would leave and not look back
He sounds like he has way too baggage why do you feel
you have to worry about HIS problem and you answered your own question....HE needs counselling
You will need some too if you decide to stay in the relationship and you will end up being beaten and running to shelter.....life is too short
He is using a power/controlling trip on you. People like this are only trying to control you..period.
I was in an abusive relationship for 15 years. He was ';only'; verbally abusive at first. Trust me...this type of behavior WILL escalate. In time...I KNOW it will. His behavior is that of someone who is emotionally immature (ie: if he doesn't get what he wants, he ';pouts'; like a child, by becoming silent)...
GET OUT NOW. I am now in a healthy relationship...and can tell you crying IS NOT part of a good, healthy relationship. No one should treat you like he is. My late husband (the abuser..yes, he killed himself...thought he was gonna take me out, too...long story...won't bore you)....once let me walk from our car to a public highway rest area ALONE at night (even though I told him I was scared) because he was mad at me...RED FLAG here sister! He cared more about himself than he did you on your lonely at night campus walk...
PLEASE, PLEASE, NO MATTER IF YOU THINK YOU LOVE HIM OR NOT...GET OUT...RUN! You will be unhappy and constantly worrying what you did wrong..when in truth, it's HIM NOT you....You'll want to ';play by his rules'; but he'll keep changing them....you'll NEVER figure them out.
YES, he needs counseling. BUT...YOU CANNOT fix him...he'll have to want to fix himself...and guys like that RARELY admit they need help...
PLEASE, PLEASE...before you become a victim of physical domestic abuse ( you are ALREADY a victim of emotional domestic abuse)....GET THE HECK AWAY FROM Him...
drop him
Yes he needs counseling or help of some sort. First, you should realize that you should not let yourself be treated that way. In my book, abuse of any kind is NOT ACCEPTABLE! It sounds as if he thinks you should cater to him, but he should do the same for you in return.
I think the two of you may be at different points in your lives and may need to go your separate ways. But yes, he does need help.
If you don't take up for yourself, no one else will. Don't let anyone do this to you...you've got to want to be treated better...
I hate to say this 'he needs dumping.' He is an angry control freak and needs therapy.
Why are you with him? He does need counseling. I would dump him. If you really want to stay with him you need to force him to go to counceling. There is clearly something seriously wrong with at least your relationship, if not his psychological state.
No! U need counseling.......for staying with him and putting up with all that nonsence! It sounds to me like he is a grade A Asshole and the best thing you could possibly do would be to run in the opposite direction....as fast as possible.
Who knows it might even give him a wake up call......just remember that a leopard never changes his spotscoupons
He needs anger management. If he doesn't go, then he thinks that he is more important than you and you should leave him before it gets worse.Please help! Will welcome any advice...does it sound as if he has a psychological problem? What is wrong?
You are losing focus and at who's expense? It's not his that's for sure.
Sure, he needs counseling, in terms of changing the self-centered way he thinks. Will he get it? I doubt it. I'm going to be very upfront with you and tell you that he has every sign of being a classic abuser. In fact, he's already started. Has he started isolating you from your friends and family yet? I'd be surprised if he hasn't. After all, they take away from time you could spend on meeting his needs. He will never spend the time meeting yours, because that is not how he thinks. Of course, you may have found he can be very charming if he thinks you're pulling away (and after all, he got you to go out with him in the first place), but he is basically charming long enough to get what he wants, and that is having you under his control. Take my sincere advice and dump him now. Be prepared for him to campaign to get you back, either by charm or threats. Don't fall for them.
sounds to me like he wants control, and if you are having a loving relationship, that's definitely not on.
emotional abuse is definitely on as it is destructive to the person it is be flung at.
The silent treatment s also passive aggressive control
Sounds to me like maybe soon
try to find nice people to be around that love and care about you
';you'; need counseling, to learn how to get away from an abusive partner, why you insist on ';living'; with a man out of wedlock and letting him take advantage of you like you were some kind of pickup, and why you put up with that without moving out. Since he's acting funny, don't get another boyfriend for a while, and until you've worked thru your problem. You can't change him, but you can change you. Good luck.
Please, don't focus on what's wrong with him. What's wrong with you for allowing this control freak around you. Please break up with him. I went thru a off an on 14 month relationship with a control freak and I spent 7 years being single after him. You are smart and deserve the best in life.
something is wrong with you for staying and taking the abuse
yes, it sounds like he has a form of displacement disorder, and he also sounds like a bit of an *** and really immature. displacement means that if something in his life goes wrong, no matter the reason he will take it out on you, or the closest thing, anything to naot blame himself or fix the situation
Sorry, hon, but you need to drop this guy like a hot potato! He's got emotional issues and you aren't doing him any good by putting up with his BS. He can't really be a great guy if he is so inconsiderate to you. Being in college is enough work - you should focus on yourself and look for a guy who is more stable - and able to focus some good attention on you! You deserve it!
And, yes, he needs some counseling - but I guarantee he won't get it unless he recognizes he has a problem. So unless you are a professional therapist - leave him and let him figure it out for himself!
Good Luck!
He seems quite passive aggressive when he doesn't get his way as he gives you the silent treatment. He has anger issues which need to be resolved through counseling. Being with an emotionally abusive guy is not great as you will eventually become quite dependent on him at the psychological level. It will affect your self-confidence and self-esteem. You say he is a great guy but it is not very appealing that he made you run around searching for his books when you had a paper due, that is very inconsiderate of him. Have you told him that you are unhappy with things? He needs counseling but you need to be in counseling separately too to figure out why you think he is a great guy when he has not made you feel special. You need to ask yourself if he really cares about you. Otherwise get out and you will find the right person who will love you and treat you like you really deserve to be treated. Also get emotional support from family and friends whatever you may decide to do. Good luck!
He has problems alright ! Sounds like a spoiled brat that really has no feelings for other people. He needs more then simple counseling but if you stay with him,you are going to need counseling also. If y'all have been together a long time where you don't want to lose him, break up until he gets help. You are much better to just leave him and not look back though 'cause he could get treatment a long time and still act like a spoiled brat. You need to look at yourself though that you put up with him.
We can't tell you what is wrong!!! You are the only one who even knows this guy. I can just about guess that his behavior is justifiable and normal in his mind. You're not going to change him so just know that right off the bat. Not being ugly when I say this, maybe you need to talk to someone. Look at what you are accepting from him and why? Don't you feel that you deserve to be treated kindly? People often have to learn the hard way and you will if you continue to have relationships with jerks............
i would just like to say good luck to you...i can't sit here and say dump him or anything negative because i am going through the same exact thing with my boyfriend except he doesn't just get emotionally or verbally abusive, he also gets physically abusive, i will just ask you what everyone asks me..why do you put up with it and keep him around? i hope everything goes well, like i said we are floating in the same boat, if you want to contact me you can at lmc19842004@yahoo.com...maybe we can give each other advice in the future about our prince charmings...
Forget him, he needs counsiling but that is not your job, he will only change if he wants too. Get out of there and finish school you will find the one that is meant for you.
He is not going to change for you. He isn't worth your time.
A relationship is supposed to make you happy, not sad!!! He should make you feel good about who he is and who you are.
He doesn't sound like he will ever let you be the person you deserve to be, since he's messing you up on your studies.
You can waste the next years trying to get him to treat you like a decent human being...or you can cut your losses now and dump him.
If you can't dump him you need to get counseling.
He's self centered and immature with some anger management issues. He wants your life to revolve around him. But then of course he's likely to punish you if you don't meet his exact needs. Either get some counseling or walk away. Its not going to get better by itself. He clearly doesn't know how to communicate in a caring or productive way.
Yes. Counseling to be done by you. You can try to comfort him and accompany him when he feels isolated. Sometimes, that happens. Counseling indeed is a help. But your problem is he is emotionally abusive. So, try telling him to control his emotions. But if he really wants to spill it out, try it outside. And he may be somewhat, ';psychologically problematic';.
sounds to me like he has control issues. and is punishing you when you don't do as HE wants you to do. it is only going to get worse. he only wants what he wants. i would move on to someone better. i was once with a man like that. verbal abuse turned to physical abuse. not right away, but it happened. i was not expecting it either. it started out with a shove out of his way, then a slap, went from there, thrown down stairs, made to sleep outside, punched in the face when he was mad about something. sorry, just trying to make you understand.
GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT
SOUNDS like hes very self centered and your to young if your in college to be involved in a relationship that may hinder your educations and dreams
Sorry but you need to drop him. He should probably take anger management classes. Dump him because you can't change him. No matter what you do he is not going to change. Your love or whatever is not going to be enough in the end. Also if he treats you that way now he will probably always treat you that way. Another thing, girls who were in physically abusive relationships, say that at first it just started out with emotional abuse. So it could escalate.
I would leave and not look back
He sounds like he has way too baggage why do you feel
you have to worry about HIS problem and you answered your own question....HE needs counselling
You will need some too if you decide to stay in the relationship and you will end up being beaten and running to shelter.....life is too short
He is using a power/controlling trip on you. People like this are only trying to control you..period.
I was in an abusive relationship for 15 years. He was ';only'; verbally abusive at first. Trust me...this type of behavior WILL escalate. In time...I KNOW it will. His behavior is that of someone who is emotionally immature (ie: if he doesn't get what he wants, he ';pouts'; like a child, by becoming silent)...
GET OUT NOW. I am now in a healthy relationship...and can tell you crying IS NOT part of a good, healthy relationship. No one should treat you like he is. My late husband (the abuser..yes, he killed himself...thought he was gonna take me out, too...long story...won't bore you)....once let me walk from our car to a public highway rest area ALONE at night (even though I told him I was scared) because he was mad at me...RED FLAG here sister! He cared more about himself than he did you on your lonely at night campus walk...
PLEASE, PLEASE, NO MATTER IF YOU THINK YOU LOVE HIM OR NOT...GET OUT...RUN! You will be unhappy and constantly worrying what you did wrong..when in truth, it's HIM NOT you....You'll want to ';play by his rules'; but he'll keep changing them....you'll NEVER figure them out.
YES, he needs counseling. BUT...YOU CANNOT fix him...he'll have to want to fix himself...and guys like that RARELY admit they need help...
PLEASE, PLEASE...before you become a victim of physical domestic abuse ( you are ALREADY a victim of emotional domestic abuse)....GET THE HECK AWAY FROM Him...
drop him
Yes he needs counseling or help of some sort. First, you should realize that you should not let yourself be treated that way. In my book, abuse of any kind is NOT ACCEPTABLE! It sounds as if he thinks you should cater to him, but he should do the same for you in return.
I think the two of you may be at different points in your lives and may need to go your separate ways. But yes, he does need help.
If you don't take up for yourself, no one else will. Don't let anyone do this to you...you've got to want to be treated better...
I hate to say this 'he needs dumping.' He is an angry control freak and needs therapy.
Why are you with him? He does need counseling. I would dump him. If you really want to stay with him you need to force him to go to counceling. There is clearly something seriously wrong with at least your relationship, if not his psychological state.
No! U need counseling.......for staying with him and putting up with all that nonsence! It sounds to me like he is a grade A Asshole and the best thing you could possibly do would be to run in the opposite direction....as fast as possible.
Who knows it might even give him a wake up call......just remember that a leopard never changes his spots
I don't know what to do, i'm confused and i need advice? this is really long problem but i have to ask?
okay well i have a friend and she has been dating a guy for a long time now and she feels like he's her best friend and she loves him so much. the thing is he went on to college and she is still in high school, so obviously they aren't going to be seeing each other a lot. he tells her he loves her and she's the most important thing to him, over the time that they have been dating he has done a lot of things that made her sad. but she always forgives him no matter what her friends tell her or anything she always goes back to him. when he went to our school he would pass her by in the hall way and not even acknowledge her he even walked in her class and didn't say anything to her, i told her where he is at in the morning and she started waiting there for him but soon after he went another route. well she lost her virginity to him in 2007 and she was only 16 young and he's like two years older than her i think, well in all the time that they've been together he hasn't taken her out on any dates with her. and he comes home every weekend but usually she never sees him and she will always tell me that she might be doing something when i ask her if she wants to hang out. and she was feeling sad one day and was explaining how he never just wants to hang out because he's says he is always busy but if they are going to do it he's more than happy to see her...i think they text each other like all the time, and call each other possibly, but that's the only way they communicate i think?
i really love this girl more than anything and i really just want her to be happy. she really is completely in love with him and wants to spend her life with him, and he tells her the same thing. we've been friends longer than she has even known him and we're good buddies and we're never really serious about things. she used to open up to me a bit but not as much as her old friends that she stopped talking to. but now she doesn't really even show her emotions to me i think because we had gotten in to some fights about opening up and stuff like that i think. so now she only really shows her feelings to this guy i think is using her just for sex.i want to tell her that he's just using her but i'm not sure if i want to ruin her happiness so should i confront her about all this stuff or what!? i'm not sure what to doI don't know what to do, i'm confused and i need advice? this is really long problem but i have to ask?
tell her how you feel on this situation and help her see it through your shoes and let her see that your there for her and her decision on what to do! your a really great friend for trying to help her i hope everything works out! :]I don't know what to do, i'm confused and i need advice? this is really long problem but i have to ask?
wow this sounds strangely familiar...
that guy is such a loser he probably doesnt even llike her he is probally using her for *** so yeah
i really love this girl more than anything and i really just want her to be happy. she really is completely in love with him and wants to spend her life with him, and he tells her the same thing. we've been friends longer than she has even known him and we're good buddies and we're never really serious about things. she used to open up to me a bit but not as much as her old friends that she stopped talking to. but now she doesn't really even show her emotions to me i think because we had gotten in to some fights about opening up and stuff like that i think. so now she only really shows her feelings to this guy i think is using her just for sex.i want to tell her that he's just using her but i'm not sure if i want to ruin her happiness so should i confront her about all this stuff or what!? i'm not sure what to doI don't know what to do, i'm confused and i need advice? this is really long problem but i have to ask?
tell her how you feel on this situation and help her see it through your shoes and let her see that your there for her and her decision on what to do! your a really great friend for trying to help her i hope everything works out! :]I don't know what to do, i'm confused and i need advice? this is really long problem but i have to ask?
wow this sounds strangely familiar...
that guy is such a loser he probably doesnt even llike her he is probally using her for *** so yeah
There's a small family problem going on here.... some advice?
Well, as it begins, my cousin is graduating college on the 18th and his parents (My aunt %26amp; uncle) asked grandma (My legal guardian) if they can use her house for having a grad party on the 19th... Grandma said yes. Well, my aunt called today and asked Grandma that my mom not be invited... (My aunt has hated my mom since they were kids). Now my grandma is all upset because my aunt was insensitive enough to ask my mom not be invited...
I realized it hurts to see mom cry years ago... now I realize it hurts even more to see grandma cry
Any possible advice?There's a small family problem going on here.... some advice?
Here is my rule of thumb when it comes to family....If there is an event and someone is excluded, I will not attend.'; Shame on the person that is holding the event and shame on the person who the event is for, as they obviously support this as well. it is your grandmothers house and your aunt has some balls to tell her mother not invite her sister ( i think i got that right)... Your aunt is forcing her hand at getting your grandmother to side with her for some type of an old beef and she is selfish to do this for a family occasion...
if your mother is normally allowed in grandmas home them this day should be no different.There's a small family problem going on here.... some advice?
That is really harsh. I think what you should do is take your cousin into private and ask him what HE wants. Make sure he knows that it is up to him, and if not, well then talk to your grandma. As for your aunt, beggars cant be choosers.
Wow that is a tough situation, your mom is family so I personally think everyone should lay their differences aside for this very special occasion, it isn't like he graduates every day she is probably going to be at his ceremony. Good luck and God bless
It's your grandmother's house, but she also realises that family is family. It's cimply NOT up to your aunt, it's up to your grandmom, it's completely her choice. It's not your aun't party, and she should not be forcing her personal issues on the rest of the family but grow up and be mature and big about it. If your cousins were to invite your mom, your aunt cannot very well say very much.
Your aunt obviously cares more about her own personal hang-ups than the feelings of your grandmom, that's just wrong. Speak to your grandmom, it's her house.
If I were your cousin, I'd relocate the party to your mother's house.
I think it was unfair for your aunt to put your grandmother in the middle of her feud with your mother. I would tell my grandmother to tell your aunt to tell her herself. Otherwise, she is going to be there. If your aunt gets mad at your grandma for telling her that then she needs to have her party somewhere else.
Well it is grandma's house and she is being nice enough to hold the party at her house. Your aunt has to have some courtesy and understand that it is hurting your grandma. Go give grandma a hug and tell her you understand.....
Your aunt is insensitive and should care about your grandmothers feelings. Your grandma should also ask what your cousin thinks, since it is HIS party and it is about HIM not your aunt. If your cousin wants her there, then you can tell your aunt to stick it.
I realized it hurts to see mom cry years ago... now I realize it hurts even more to see grandma cry
Any possible advice?There's a small family problem going on here.... some advice?
Here is my rule of thumb when it comes to family....If there is an event and someone is excluded, I will not attend.'; Shame on the person that is holding the event and shame on the person who the event is for, as they obviously support this as well. it is your grandmothers house and your aunt has some balls to tell her mother not invite her sister ( i think i got that right)... Your aunt is forcing her hand at getting your grandmother to side with her for some type of an old beef and she is selfish to do this for a family occasion...
if your mother is normally allowed in grandmas home them this day should be no different.There's a small family problem going on here.... some advice?
That is really harsh. I think what you should do is take your cousin into private and ask him what HE wants. Make sure he knows that it is up to him, and if not, well then talk to your grandma. As for your aunt, beggars cant be choosers.
Wow that is a tough situation, your mom is family so I personally think everyone should lay their differences aside for this very special occasion, it isn't like he graduates every day she is probably going to be at his ceremony. Good luck and God bless
It's your grandmother's house, but she also realises that family is family. It's cimply NOT up to your aunt, it's up to your grandmom, it's completely her choice. It's not your aun't party, and she should not be forcing her personal issues on the rest of the family but grow up and be mature and big about it. If your cousins were to invite your mom, your aunt cannot very well say very much.
Your aunt obviously cares more about her own personal hang-ups than the feelings of your grandmom, that's just wrong. Speak to your grandmom, it's her house.
If I were your cousin, I'd relocate the party to your mother's house.
I think it was unfair for your aunt to put your grandmother in the middle of her feud with your mother. I would tell my grandmother to tell your aunt to tell her herself. Otherwise, she is going to be there. If your aunt gets mad at your grandma for telling her that then she needs to have her party somewhere else.
Well it is grandma's house and she is being nice enough to hold the party at her house. Your aunt has to have some courtesy and understand that it is hurting your grandma. Go give grandma a hug and tell her you understand.....
Your aunt is insensitive and should care about your grandmothers feelings. Your grandma should also ask what your cousin thinks, since it is HIS party and it is about HIM not your aunt. If your cousin wants her there, then you can tell your aunt to stick it.
Can I have mature adults help me with this problem please? I need good advice here.............?
I have a family member whom I stopped socializing or dealing with all together.She is my cousin.In the past,she had done and said ugly things to hurt me.Me being the person Iam I'm not good at expressing my feelings to others,so one day I decided to ignore her phone calls and ever since then we haven't talked.It's been 3 months,and I didn't exactly tell her why we are not talking.So she doesn't know I sort of have a grudge.
I feel kind of feel bad that I haven't given her an explanation and stopped callin her all of a sudden, but at the same time I don't won't to deal with her.I don't have time for ppl who do not appreciate me 4 me and is going to criticize me,right in my face, for the way I live.
As i said im not the type to pour my heart out to ppl or in otha words express myself.I feel weird.
She is family and I can't avoid her forever......
Help me please ...Im so confused!!!!!!!!!! =-( thnxCan I have mature adults help me with this problem please? I need good advice here.............?
Not to worry,cause for real for real if she cared so much about your feelings she would've never said or done mean things to you.If she ever ask's you what the hell is going on just tell her,family don't do family like that.I would keep it strictly family respect(Hi,how are you,etc)and thats it.You over their worrying about her,do you really think she's thinking about you???Seriously!!! I hope you are not offened by what I said. GoodluckCan I have mature adults help me with this problem please? I need good advice here.............?
It seems you're just as unhappy now. You need to just air this and be done. Call your cousin. Let her know what's up. If she's mad, you've got what you wanted. You won't see her anymore. If she listens, maybe you can start fresh.
I've been in this situation before myself. I love to hold everything in and its a bad thing for me being so young. Well i keep a book of everything that happens and my feelings. I have even written poems and stuff in it. I would suggest you try that so you don't feel so bad. Then eventually you will decide i want her to know but dont know how to talk with her. I personally would write a letter and mail it to her. Tell her what she has done wrong and how you don't like or appriciate what she has done. Then tell her in writting how if she can't change the way she acts you dont want her involved in your life. This would be easier than talking to her face to face or calling her.
If you haven't spoken to her for three months, it appears you're well under way to getting this problem solved. If she needs an explanation from you, she is perfectly capable of asking for one. At that time, you can calmly explain that it seems like every time you have contact with her, it goes very badly for you, leaving you feeling bad. You might have to be specific about at least one thing she said. In that case, do your best to give an exact quote, but don't exagerate the tone. In the meantime, do your best to put it out of your mind. ALL of us have troubles with family members, so talk it over with your friends. They should have some helpful suggestions on dealing with her and coping with the problem. Finally, don't let this one person define your life. Find a way to laugh.
I have family members who i do not talk to. Funny how when it's family we think we have to talk to someone we would otherwise not look at twice on the street if they treated us this way or that way. Their is no room in my life for people no matter who they are that treat me or my children badly. And you shouldnt think just because she is family you should take her mess. Because the truth is you dont.
if you find it had to tell her why you quit talking to her face to face or on the phone- well then write her a letter because its seams you expressed your fellings fine here on yahoo answers
You might not be friendly with her, but like you said, she is still family. Send her a letter now and then in the mail on some nice stationery. That way she cant verbally abuse you immediately on the phone. Send her a christmas card etc., and when you do see her, be polite and show repsect. If she does say mean things, dont take it to heart, just get over it, and dont lash out back at her. Be tactful, and be stronger than her. These are just some suggestions. Hope they help.
honestly i think u need to call your cousin and tell her what the problem is...and if your cousin is still being mean or whatever then they will understand why you are not talking to them
right, you can't avoid her forever. your family. wright her a letter and send it to her. life's to short for this kinda stuff.. no what i mean.
you don;t have to tell her anything just go on with your life let her get over it even if she is family
i think just for the sake that she is family and you know that you can't avoid her forever maybe you should tell her whats going on since you feel bothered by it . If you feel like u want to have a relationship with her again then open your mouth if not continue doin you and live your life drama free.You don't owe her no kind of explanation.
I feel kind of feel bad that I haven't given her an explanation and stopped callin her all of a sudden, but at the same time I don't won't to deal with her.I don't have time for ppl who do not appreciate me 4 me and is going to criticize me,right in my face, for the way I live.
As i said im not the type to pour my heart out to ppl or in otha words express myself.I feel weird.
She is family and I can't avoid her forever......
Help me please ...Im so confused!!!!!!!!!! =-( thnxCan I have mature adults help me with this problem please? I need good advice here.............?
Not to worry,cause for real for real if she cared so much about your feelings she would've never said or done mean things to you.If she ever ask's you what the hell is going on just tell her,family don't do family like that.I would keep it strictly family respect(Hi,how are you,etc)and thats it.You over their worrying about her,do you really think she's thinking about you???Seriously!!! I hope you are not offened by what I said. GoodluckCan I have mature adults help me with this problem please? I need good advice here.............?
It seems you're just as unhappy now. You need to just air this and be done. Call your cousin. Let her know what's up. If she's mad, you've got what you wanted. You won't see her anymore. If she listens, maybe you can start fresh.
I've been in this situation before myself. I love to hold everything in and its a bad thing for me being so young. Well i keep a book of everything that happens and my feelings. I have even written poems and stuff in it. I would suggest you try that so you don't feel so bad. Then eventually you will decide i want her to know but dont know how to talk with her. I personally would write a letter and mail it to her. Tell her what she has done wrong and how you don't like or appriciate what she has done. Then tell her in writting how if she can't change the way she acts you dont want her involved in your life. This would be easier than talking to her face to face or calling her.
If you haven't spoken to her for three months, it appears you're well under way to getting this problem solved. If she needs an explanation from you, she is perfectly capable of asking for one. At that time, you can calmly explain that it seems like every time you have contact with her, it goes very badly for you, leaving you feeling bad. You might have to be specific about at least one thing she said. In that case, do your best to give an exact quote, but don't exagerate the tone. In the meantime, do your best to put it out of your mind. ALL of us have troubles with family members, so talk it over with your friends. They should have some helpful suggestions on dealing with her and coping with the problem. Finally, don't let this one person define your life. Find a way to laugh.
I have family members who i do not talk to. Funny how when it's family we think we have to talk to someone we would otherwise not look at twice on the street if they treated us this way or that way. Their is no room in my life for people no matter who they are that treat me or my children badly. And you shouldnt think just because she is family you should take her mess. Because the truth is you dont.
if you find it had to tell her why you quit talking to her face to face or on the phone- well then write her a letter because its seams you expressed your fellings fine here on yahoo answers
You might not be friendly with her, but like you said, she is still family. Send her a letter now and then in the mail on some nice stationery. That way she cant verbally abuse you immediately on the phone. Send her a christmas card etc., and when you do see her, be polite and show repsect. If she does say mean things, dont take it to heart, just get over it, and dont lash out back at her. Be tactful, and be stronger than her. These are just some suggestions. Hope they help.
honestly i think u need to call your cousin and tell her what the problem is...and if your cousin is still being mean or whatever then they will understand why you are not talking to them
right, you can't avoid her forever. your family. wright her a letter and send it to her. life's to short for this kinda stuff.. no what i mean.
you don;t have to tell her anything just go on with your life let her get over it even if she is family
i think just for the sake that she is family and you know that you can't avoid her forever maybe you should tell her whats going on since you feel bothered by it . If you feel like u want to have a relationship with her again then open your mouth if not continue doin you and live your life drama free.You don't owe her no kind of explanation.
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Can you then click ';My Services'; there ? This is where you open your account, AND add funds to it.
So what's your problem with this ?
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Can you then click ';My Services'; there ? This is where you open your account, AND add funds to it.
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I need advice and help about a girl problem...?
there is this girl who likes me no doubt and i was thinking that saying no would hurt her feelings so i said instead (and now i regret) that i already had a girlfriend but everyone said that i didn't have a girlfriend so she knows that i lied...how to i apologize and get through this?I need advice and help about a girl problem...?
Tell her what you just said. Say a sincere sorry, and tell her that you didnt want to hurt her feelings by saying no, so you made up a lie instead, but now you regret lying to her. Make it clear though that your answer is still no. She will hopefully leave thinking that you are a good guy, and maybe you'll be friends.
hope i helped! good luck!!!I need advice and help about a girl problem...?
tell her that you're sorry you lied and hurt her feelings because that's what you tried to avoided doing from the start and thats why you lied about having a girlfriend, and you realise that was the wrong thing to do
as though a ginger has ever turned down a date
Just say your sorry for leading her on and your just not looking for a girlfriend rite now. And that you didnt know how to tell her.
Tell her what you just said. Say a sincere sorry, and tell her that you didnt want to hurt her feelings by saying no, so you made up a lie instead, but now you regret lying to her. Make it clear though that your answer is still no. She will hopefully leave thinking that you are a good guy, and maybe you'll be friends.
hope i helped! good luck!!!I need advice and help about a girl problem...?
tell her that you're sorry you lied and hurt her feelings because that's what you tried to avoided doing from the start and thats why you lied about having a girlfriend, and you realise that was the wrong thing to do
as though a ginger has ever turned down a date
Just say your sorry for leading her on and your just not looking for a girlfriend rite now. And that you didnt know how to tell her.
Love problem?!? I need a real advice?
This is my problem... I met this guy and he was very happy for me and so did I but eventually my feelings from him has reach to the next level... Why? because he's very sweet and kind to me, He always smile at me whenever he sees me and the weird part he always holds my shoulders and one time when I was using my ipod he took one of my earpiece and put it on his ears and his hand was on my shoulders and he smiled at me romantically at first I didn't notice it but my friends think that the guy likes me because for all the girls I'm the only one who is very close to him and I am starting to fall for him...
Is that guy really likes me because of the way he cares for me?Love problem?!? I need a real advice?
well you can first try to respond to him in the way he acts with you... and if you are not sure about whether you understood his signals right :) try not to get too involved sentimentally speaking, in case it tunrs out to be something else than you expected... but if he's a good guy and you feel you can trust him then he is probably interested in you if things are the way you said they are... good luck!! :DLove problem?!? I need a real advice?
well. i can feel ur situation, but dont get washed away in emotions its too early. check him out more what is in his mind, may be he is only phisically attracted to u. be aware
Some guys are jsut nice like taht. I know alot of them taht do that and they dont even notice it becasue they do it so often (the shoulder thing). The earphones, who doesnt do that, no offense, I take my friends earphones all the time, that doesnt really mean anything. People grab mine, I'll grab theirs...if it did mean something, it was very minimal. You need to be bold to get to hte bottom of this.
Aww :]] well, by his actions i would say that he really likes you %26amp; cares for you, but dont let him get to your head girl, wait %26amp; see what happens :]]
It seems like he likes you.
It seems, he likes you but wait for him to say that he likes you.
sounds like he has the hots for you!
this is a crush...infatuation...
teenage crush/infatuation...
hold on to urself girl...stand straight...dont get dumped thinking this is real love...must b ur 1st experience...lash liner
Is that guy really likes me because of the way he cares for me?Love problem?!? I need a real advice?
well you can first try to respond to him in the way he acts with you... and if you are not sure about whether you understood his signals right :) try not to get too involved sentimentally speaking, in case it tunrs out to be something else than you expected... but if he's a good guy and you feel you can trust him then he is probably interested in you if things are the way you said they are... good luck!! :DLove problem?!? I need a real advice?
well. i can feel ur situation, but dont get washed away in emotions its too early. check him out more what is in his mind, may be he is only phisically attracted to u. be aware
Some guys are jsut nice like taht. I know alot of them taht do that and they dont even notice it becasue they do it so often (the shoulder thing). The earphones, who doesnt do that, no offense, I take my friends earphones all the time, that doesnt really mean anything. People grab mine, I'll grab theirs...if it did mean something, it was very minimal. You need to be bold to get to hte bottom of this.
Aww :]] well, by his actions i would say that he really likes you %26amp; cares for you, but dont let him get to your head girl, wait %26amp; see what happens :]]
It seems like he likes you.
It seems, he likes you but wait for him to say that he likes you.
sounds like he has the hots for you!
this is a crush...infatuation...
teenage crush/infatuation...
hold on to urself girl...stand straight...dont get dumped thinking this is real love...must b ur 1st experience...
My one year old has suddenly stopped eating - please help, any advice and ideas for this problem?
My one year old has suddenly stopped eating - please help, any advice and ideas for this problem?
My one year old recently suffered with a fever, it only lasted 3 days but since then she wont eat any more solids. During the fever, she was seen by a doctor who explaned that she would be put off food, but it has been over a week now and she wont eat anything. Ive tried everything! Even little bits of chocolate to try and get her appetite back but everytime I put any knd of food towards her, she throws her head back and cries. Its become really frustrating
And betfore anyone asks, I did take her to my GP who said her weight was ok so there he was nothng he could do. But as you can imagine this isnt reassuring at all. Before the fever she wasnt the best eater but I used to manage to give her some breakfast, lunch and dinner.
Shes been having 10-12 ounces of milk and a few cheerios each day, thats all! And this has been for about 3 days now. Can anyone give me any advice or suggestions
and how long is it before it becomes dangerous for a one year old not to eat?
Thanks
My one year old has suddenly stopped eating - please help, any advice and ideas for this problem?
My daughter is 18mnths and has been poorly since sat she has hardly eaten anything aswell but she has been alot better today but still only wanted her milk. Im hopeing that in a couple of days she will get her hunger back but i gave her a little bit of weetabix today i think if you give her a couple of days and as long as she is having fluid in the milk i shouldnt worry im sure she will eat when she feels better.My one year old has suddenly stopped eating - please help, any advice and ideas for this problem?
maybe it isnt hungry
it is just trying to feel better
make the food available to it but dont shove it down its throat
go to a doctor soon
Just keep offering the milk. If she continues to push solids away..offer even more milk so she still gets her nutrition. You can't force her to eat solids, just keep doing what you are doing till she is ready to eat it again. The only time you should worry is when she starts to loose weight or when she rejects even her milk.
she will be fine, if she is having her milk and water she can be like that witout any danger. All kids do that ,
She'll be fine. Some how kids get enough food when it seems they aren't eating anything.
It is dangerous when the child starts to dramatically lose weight. But if the weight is fine, or even dipping a little bit - the child will be okay.
Even adults don't like to eat when the feel ill. I know - it is more difficult b/c the child is growing and adults are not. Her fever is over, but it sounds like she still feels icky.
If she isn't crying after eating a few Cheerios, then that rules out her throat being irritated by eating. I wouldn't worry until you hit two weeks. Generally toddlers are picky and those that aren't sick still have those non-eating days and then pig out later. It is all about what they eat over a two week period. You can't judge it by a small span of time.
I believe my son went through a phase where he only ate crackers - and not many. This lasted a week or so and he finally got over it. He wasn't sick. It's just how kids are at this age.
You are doing fine with her. If she is having milk and cheerios it means something is going into her tiny tummy.
Gradually introduce her to other stuff that she liked before she was ill.
If it goes on for more than a week then take her back to the doctor because you can't let this go on too long. The milk is nutritious for her but she of course needs solid food eventually.
i went through the same thing with 2 of my children and the doctor told me to give ther pediasure and dry cereo to eat at their own pace and it work, and it was very frustrating, but the doctor said sometimes children go through not wanted to eat, at least some children, but i bought a lot of pediasure for children ant they loved it, it takes time, dont worry unless shes getting weak or sick
My one year old recently suffered with a fever, it only lasted 3 days but since then she wont eat any more solids. During the fever, she was seen by a doctor who explaned that she would be put off food, but it has been over a week now and she wont eat anything. Ive tried everything! Even little bits of chocolate to try and get her appetite back but everytime I put any knd of food towards her, she throws her head back and cries. Its become really frustrating
And betfore anyone asks, I did take her to my GP who said her weight was ok so there he was nothng he could do. But as you can imagine this isnt reassuring at all. Before the fever she wasnt the best eater but I used to manage to give her some breakfast, lunch and dinner.
Shes been having 10-12 ounces of milk and a few cheerios each day, thats all! And this has been for about 3 days now. Can anyone give me any advice or suggestions
and how long is it before it becomes dangerous for a one year old not to eat?
Thanks
My one year old has suddenly stopped eating - please help, any advice and ideas for this problem?
My daughter is 18mnths and has been poorly since sat she has hardly eaten anything aswell but she has been alot better today but still only wanted her milk. Im hopeing that in a couple of days she will get her hunger back but i gave her a little bit of weetabix today i think if you give her a couple of days and as long as she is having fluid in the milk i shouldnt worry im sure she will eat when she feels better.My one year old has suddenly stopped eating - please help, any advice and ideas for this problem?
maybe it isnt hungry
it is just trying to feel better
make the food available to it but dont shove it down its throat
go to a doctor soon
Just keep offering the milk. If she continues to push solids away..offer even more milk so she still gets her nutrition. You can't force her to eat solids, just keep doing what you are doing till she is ready to eat it again. The only time you should worry is when she starts to loose weight or when she rejects even her milk.
she will be fine, if she is having her milk and water she can be like that witout any danger. All kids do that ,
She'll be fine. Some how kids get enough food when it seems they aren't eating anything.
It is dangerous when the child starts to dramatically lose weight. But if the weight is fine, or even dipping a little bit - the child will be okay.
Even adults don't like to eat when the feel ill. I know - it is more difficult b/c the child is growing and adults are not. Her fever is over, but it sounds like she still feels icky.
If she isn't crying after eating a few Cheerios, then that rules out her throat being irritated by eating. I wouldn't worry until you hit two weeks. Generally toddlers are picky and those that aren't sick still have those non-eating days and then pig out later. It is all about what they eat over a two week period. You can't judge it by a small span of time.
I believe my son went through a phase where he only ate crackers - and not many. This lasted a week or so and he finally got over it. He wasn't sick. It's just how kids are at this age.
You are doing fine with her. If she is having milk and cheerios it means something is going into her tiny tummy.
Gradually introduce her to other stuff that she liked before she was ill.
If it goes on for more than a week then take her back to the doctor because you can't let this go on too long. The milk is nutritious for her but she of course needs solid food eventually.
i went through the same thing with 2 of my children and the doctor told me to give ther pediasure and dry cereo to eat at their own pace and it work, and it was very frustrating, but the doctor said sometimes children go through not wanted to eat, at least some children, but i bought a lot of pediasure for children ant they loved it, it takes time, dont worry unless shes getting weak or sick
My one year old has suddenly stopped eating - please help, any advice and ideas for this problem?
My one year old has suddenly stopped eating - please help, any advice and ideas for this problem?
My one year old recently suffered with a fever, it only lasted 3 days but since then she wont eat any more solids. During the fever, she was seen by a doctor who explaned that she would be put off food, but it has been over a week now and she wont eat anything. Ive tried everything! Even little bits of chocolate to try and get her appetite back but everytime I put any knd of food towards her, she throws her head back and cries. Its become really frustrating
And betfore anyone asks, I did take her to my GP who said her weight was ok so there he was nothng he could do. But as you can imagine this isnt reassuring at all. Before the fever she wasnt the best eater but I used to manage to give her some breakfast, lunch and dinner.
Shes been having 10-12 ounces of milk and a few cheerios each day, thats all! And this has been for about 3 days now. Can anyone give me any advice or suggestions
and how long is it before it becomes dangerous for a one year old not to eat?
Thanks
My one year old has suddenly stopped eating - please help, any advice and ideas for this problem?
My daughter is 18mnths and has been poorly since sat she has hardly eaten anything aswell but she has been alot better today but still only wanted her milk. Im hopeing that in a couple of days she will get her hunger back but i gave her a little bit of weetabix today i think if you give her a couple of days and as long as she is having fluid in the milk i shouldnt worry im sure she will eat when she feels better.My one year old has suddenly stopped eating - please help, any advice and ideas for this problem?
i went through the same thing with 2 of my children and the doctor told me to give ther pediasure and dry cereo to eat at their own pace and it work, and it was very frustrating, but the doctor said sometimes children go through not wanted to eat, at least some children, but i bought a lot of pediasure for children ant they loved it, it takes time, dont worry unless shes getting weak or sick
You are doing fine with her. If she is having milk and cheerios it means something is going into her tiny tummy.
Gradually introduce her to other stuff that she liked before she was ill.
If it goes on for more than a week then take her back to the doctor because you can't let this go on too long. The milk is nutritious for her but she of course needs solid food eventually.
Just keep offering the milk. If she continues to push solids away..offer even more milk so she still gets her nutrition. You can't force her to eat solids, just keep doing what you are doing till she is ready to eat it again. The only time you should worry is when she starts to loose weight or when she rejects even her milk.
She'll be fine. Some how kids get enough food when it seems they aren't eating anything.
she will be fine, if she is having her milk and water she can be like that witout any danger. All kids do that ,
It is dangerous when the child starts to dramatically lose weight. But if the weight is fine, or even dipping a little bit - the child will be okay.
Even adults don't like to eat when the feel ill. I know - it is more difficult b/c the child is growing and adults are not. Her fever is over, but it sounds like she still feels icky.
If she isn't crying after eating a few Cheerios, then that rules out her throat being irritated by eating. I wouldn't worry until you hit two weeks. Generally toddlers are picky and those that aren't sick still have those non-eating days and then pig out later. It is all about what they eat over a two week period. You can't judge it by a small span of time.
I believe my son went through a phase where he only ate crackers - and not many. This lasted a week or so and he finally got over it. He wasn't sick. It's just how kids are at this age.
maybe it isnt hungry
it is just trying to feel better
make the food available to it but dont shove it down its throat
go to a doctor soon
My one year old recently suffered with a fever, it only lasted 3 days but since then she wont eat any more solids. During the fever, she was seen by a doctor who explaned that she would be put off food, but it has been over a week now and she wont eat anything. Ive tried everything! Even little bits of chocolate to try and get her appetite back but everytime I put any knd of food towards her, she throws her head back and cries. Its become really frustrating
And betfore anyone asks, I did take her to my GP who said her weight was ok so there he was nothng he could do. But as you can imagine this isnt reassuring at all. Before the fever she wasnt the best eater but I used to manage to give her some breakfast, lunch and dinner.
Shes been having 10-12 ounces of milk and a few cheerios each day, thats all! And this has been for about 3 days now. Can anyone give me any advice or suggestions
and how long is it before it becomes dangerous for a one year old not to eat?
Thanks
My one year old has suddenly stopped eating - please help, any advice and ideas for this problem?
My daughter is 18mnths and has been poorly since sat she has hardly eaten anything aswell but she has been alot better today but still only wanted her milk. Im hopeing that in a couple of days she will get her hunger back but i gave her a little bit of weetabix today i think if you give her a couple of days and as long as she is having fluid in the milk i shouldnt worry im sure she will eat when she feels better.My one year old has suddenly stopped eating - please help, any advice and ideas for this problem?
i went through the same thing with 2 of my children and the doctor told me to give ther pediasure and dry cereo to eat at their own pace and it work, and it was very frustrating, but the doctor said sometimes children go through not wanted to eat, at least some children, but i bought a lot of pediasure for children ant they loved it, it takes time, dont worry unless shes getting weak or sick
You are doing fine with her. If she is having milk and cheerios it means something is going into her tiny tummy.
Gradually introduce her to other stuff that she liked before she was ill.
If it goes on for more than a week then take her back to the doctor because you can't let this go on too long. The milk is nutritious for her but she of course needs solid food eventually.
Just keep offering the milk. If she continues to push solids away..offer even more milk so she still gets her nutrition. You can't force her to eat solids, just keep doing what you are doing till she is ready to eat it again. The only time you should worry is when she starts to loose weight or when she rejects even her milk.
She'll be fine. Some how kids get enough food when it seems they aren't eating anything.
she will be fine, if she is having her milk and water she can be like that witout any danger. All kids do that ,
It is dangerous when the child starts to dramatically lose weight. But if the weight is fine, or even dipping a little bit - the child will be okay.
Even adults don't like to eat when the feel ill. I know - it is more difficult b/c the child is growing and adults are not. Her fever is over, but it sounds like she still feels icky.
If she isn't crying after eating a few Cheerios, then that rules out her throat being irritated by eating. I wouldn't worry until you hit two weeks. Generally toddlers are picky and those that aren't sick still have those non-eating days and then pig out later. It is all about what they eat over a two week period. You can't judge it by a small span of time.
I believe my son went through a phase where he only ate crackers - and not many. This lasted a week or so and he finally got over it. He wasn't sick. It's just how kids are at this age.
maybe it isnt hungry
it is just trying to feel better
make the food available to it but dont shove it down its throat
go to a doctor soon
I need advice and help about a girl problem...?
there is this girl who likes me no doubt and i was thinking that saying no would hurt her feelings so i said instead (and now i regret) that i already had a girlfriend but everyone said that i didn't have a girlfriend so she knows that i lied...how to i apologize and get through this?I need advice and help about a girl problem...?
Tell her what you just said. Say a sincere sorry, and tell her that you didnt want to hurt her feelings by saying no, so you made up a lie instead, but now you regret lying to her. Make it clear though that your answer is still no. She will hopefully leave thinking that you are a good guy, and maybe you'll be friends.
hope i helped! good luck!!!I need advice and help about a girl problem...?
tell her that you're sorry you lied and hurt her feelings because that's what you tried to avoided doing from the start and thats why you lied about having a girlfriend, and you realise that was the wrong thing to do
as though a ginger has ever turned down a date
Just say your sorry for leading her on and your just not looking for a girlfriend rite now. And that you didnt know how to tell her.
Tell her what you just said. Say a sincere sorry, and tell her that you didnt want to hurt her feelings by saying no, so you made up a lie instead, but now you regret lying to her. Make it clear though that your answer is still no. She will hopefully leave thinking that you are a good guy, and maybe you'll be friends.
hope i helped! good luck!!!I need advice and help about a girl problem...?
tell her that you're sorry you lied and hurt her feelings because that's what you tried to avoided doing from the start and thats why you lied about having a girlfriend, and you realise that was the wrong thing to do
as though a ginger has ever turned down a date
Just say your sorry for leading her on and your just not looking for a girlfriend rite now. And that you didnt know how to tell her.
Love problem?!? I need a real advice?
This is my problem... I met this guy and he was very happy for me and so did I but eventually my feelings from him has reach to the next level... Why? because he's very sweet and kind to me, He always smile at me whenever he sees me and the weird part he always holds my shoulders and one time when I was using my ipod he took one of my earpiece and put it on his ears and his hand was on my shoulders and he smiled at me romantically at first I didn't notice it but my friends think that the guy likes me because for all the girls I'm the only one who is very close to him and I am starting to fall for him...
Is that guy really likes me because of the way he cares for me?Love problem?!? I need a real advice?
well you can first try to respond to him in the way he acts with you... and if you are not sure about whether you understood his signals right :) try not to get too involved sentimentally speaking, in case it tunrs out to be something else than you expected... but if he's a good guy and you feel you can trust him then he is probably interested in you if things are the way you said they are... good luck!! :DLove problem?!? I need a real advice?
well. i can feel ur situation, but dont get washed away in emotions its too early. check him out more what is in his mind, may be he is only phisically attracted to u. be aware
Some guys are jsut nice like taht. I know alot of them taht do that and they dont even notice it becasue they do it so often (the shoulder thing). The earphones, who doesnt do that, no offense, I take my friends earphones all the time, that doesnt really mean anything. People grab mine, I'll grab theirs...if it did mean something, it was very minimal. You need to be bold to get to hte bottom of this.
Aww :]] well, by his actions i would say that he really likes you %26amp; cares for you, but dont let him get to your head girl, wait %26amp; see what happens :]]
It seems like he likes you.
It seems, he likes you but wait for him to say that he likes you.
sounds like he has the hots for you!
this is a crush...infatuation...
teenage crush/infatuation...
hold on to urself girl...stand straight...dont get dumped thinking this is real love...must b ur 1st experience...
Is that guy really likes me because of the way he cares for me?Love problem?!? I need a real advice?
well you can first try to respond to him in the way he acts with you... and if you are not sure about whether you understood his signals right :) try not to get too involved sentimentally speaking, in case it tunrs out to be something else than you expected... but if he's a good guy and you feel you can trust him then he is probably interested in you if things are the way you said they are... good luck!! :DLove problem?!? I need a real advice?
well. i can feel ur situation, but dont get washed away in emotions its too early. check him out more what is in his mind, may be he is only phisically attracted to u. be aware
Some guys are jsut nice like taht. I know alot of them taht do that and they dont even notice it becasue they do it so often (the shoulder thing). The earphones, who doesnt do that, no offense, I take my friends earphones all the time, that doesnt really mean anything. People grab mine, I'll grab theirs...if it did mean something, it was very minimal. You need to be bold to get to hte bottom of this.
Aww :]] well, by his actions i would say that he really likes you %26amp; cares for you, but dont let him get to your head girl, wait %26amp; see what happens :]]
It seems like he likes you.
It seems, he likes you but wait for him to say that he likes you.
sounds like he has the hots for you!
this is a crush...infatuation...
teenage crush/infatuation...
hold on to urself girl...stand straight...dont get dumped thinking this is real love...must b ur 1st experience...
I need advice on what to do bout this problem?
this hot girl broke up with her boyfriend because she likes me now shes ganna ask me out and the guy she broke up with is my friend and if i say yes he will kill me what do i doI need advice on what to do bout this problem?
Either learn to fight as the other person says, or you better leave the nasty girl alone! What makes you think that she wont up and leave you for the next guy? what does that tell you about a girl like that??? You better watch out cuz that guy might come and whoop you!!! LOLI need advice on what to do bout this problem?
You need a little bit more information savvy... but what we have so far is...
1) she broke up with him... because she liked you? correct?
well i think that is a sign for you right there buddy. do you honestly want a girl who is going to break up with YOU because she likes somebody else? That's basically what she did with her boy friend, so who's to say she won't drop your *** next.
2) how good of a friend is your mate? is he a good good friend, one you can always count on? if so i wouldn't take up on this girl.
if you do got together with her i think 2 things will happen.
the first is that your friend will probably hate your guts and kill you (literally and figuratively)
the second thing that might happen is your new girlfriend may drop you and move onto another boy. It sounds to me like she is fickle. don't waste your time. use your brain, keep your friend.
oh, and women are trouble. see how much trouble this girl could cause you????
Yikes...that's a tough one. I'm sorry you're in this situation. I would tell the girl ';no'; when she asks you out. There's a ton of hot girls in this world and you don't want to be with one who is only looking for the next best thing. Just ask yourself this: If she was willing to break up with your friend to ask you out, what makes you think she won't break up with you to get to another ';better'; guy. You don't want to be with a girl like that. Friendships last much longer than most romances. Stick with your friend.
Tell the girl that you and dude are best friends! If she already know dhat, then why is she trying to talk to you anyway!? What kind of girl do you think that is!? Lets be serious.. Basically, i'd tell my friend what's up so if something goes down, that you ddnt expect, then you can't say that you ddnt warn or tell him!
1 talk to him
and # 2. Boyfriends %26amp; girlfriends will come and go, but friends r forever.. just make sure she is worth it. and think about it. she broke up with your friend for you, how do u know she wont break up with you for another guy? .. just think about it
i'm a little confused.
so your best friend's ex-girlfriend wants to be with you?
i guess you have to choose between your good friend and the girl. only you can decide that, nobody else is gonna do it for you. take care
girlfriends will come and go, friends last forever
if you think this guy (your friend) is important to you and you want to continue your friendship then talk with him and see how he feels or just dont' do it otherwise it can ruin things..big time
This girl knows you and the other guy are friends. She puts herself first. The path you follow maybe be difficult but pick the wrong path and you'll be one of many. My advise is she is not worth it. She maybe hot but she's all trouble.
a hot girl is not a reason to lose your friend
its obvious this girl has no conscience, what if she starts liking another friend, is she going to leave you for him?
i'd go for the girl, just be nice, and probly sit down and talk to the guy first to get a general agreement on what to do.
which one means more to you? your friend? or the ';hot girl';?
i wouldnt do that to my friend.
Haha!
You have to decide what is more important to you....your friendship with this guy, or a chick who can't seem to stay with just one boyfriend.
Don't go out with her.
How would you feel in his situation?
She doesn't seem like a good person anyway if she would do something like that.
how hot?
1 - 10
ten being...DAYYUUUMM
one being...***** please
Bros before Hoes dude. Friendships are more important.
WTF THATS MESSED UP S-H-I-T DUDE.
BROS BEFORE HOES..
KARMAS REAL SO SHE WILL LEAVE U SOONER OR LATER
OR U WILL LOOSE A FRIEND
YOU CHOOSE
keep it friends let time pass and see if she still likes you. It could just be a phase.
if you like her and hes your actually friend it doesn't matter
but if hes a jerk FIGHT
go out with the hot chick and when the friend kills you kill him back
Tell her it was wrong and that she really shouldn't have done that.
if you like her take your chance your friend blu it not you
Just tell her no thanks , You don't date your friends exes.
not much of a mate if he's gonna kill ya
bros b4 hoes dude.....
bros b4 hoes
you better learn to fight!
talk to your friend say if she wants me than i ganna go 4 her, but please b my friend it aint my fault she likes me ok
Either learn to fight as the other person says, or you better leave the nasty girl alone! What makes you think that she wont up and leave you for the next guy? what does that tell you about a girl like that??? You better watch out cuz that guy might come and whoop you!!! LOLI need advice on what to do bout this problem?
You need a little bit more information savvy... but what we have so far is...
1) she broke up with him... because she liked you? correct?
well i think that is a sign for you right there buddy. do you honestly want a girl who is going to break up with YOU because she likes somebody else? That's basically what she did with her boy friend, so who's to say she won't drop your *** next.
2) how good of a friend is your mate? is he a good good friend, one you can always count on? if so i wouldn't take up on this girl.
if you do got together with her i think 2 things will happen.
the first is that your friend will probably hate your guts and kill you (literally and figuratively)
the second thing that might happen is your new girlfriend may drop you and move onto another boy. It sounds to me like she is fickle. don't waste your time. use your brain, keep your friend.
oh, and women are trouble. see how much trouble this girl could cause you????
Yikes...that's a tough one. I'm sorry you're in this situation. I would tell the girl ';no'; when she asks you out. There's a ton of hot girls in this world and you don't want to be with one who is only looking for the next best thing. Just ask yourself this: If she was willing to break up with your friend to ask you out, what makes you think she won't break up with you to get to another ';better'; guy. You don't want to be with a girl like that. Friendships last much longer than most romances. Stick with your friend.
Tell the girl that you and dude are best friends! If she already know dhat, then why is she trying to talk to you anyway!? What kind of girl do you think that is!? Lets be serious.. Basically, i'd tell my friend what's up so if something goes down, that you ddnt expect, then you can't say that you ddnt warn or tell him!
1 talk to him
and # 2. Boyfriends %26amp; girlfriends will come and go, but friends r forever.. just make sure she is worth it. and think about it. she broke up with your friend for you, how do u know she wont break up with you for another guy? .. just think about it
i'm a little confused.
so your best friend's ex-girlfriend wants to be with you?
i guess you have to choose between your good friend and the girl. only you can decide that, nobody else is gonna do it for you. take care
girlfriends will come and go, friends last forever
if you think this guy (your friend) is important to you and you want to continue your friendship then talk with him and see how he feels or just dont' do it otherwise it can ruin things..big time
This girl knows you and the other guy are friends. She puts herself first. The path you follow maybe be difficult but pick the wrong path and you'll be one of many. My advise is she is not worth it. She maybe hot but she's all trouble.
a hot girl is not a reason to lose your friend
its obvious this girl has no conscience, what if she starts liking another friend, is she going to leave you for him?
i'd go for the girl, just be nice, and probly sit down and talk to the guy first to get a general agreement on what to do.
which one means more to you? your friend? or the ';hot girl';?
i wouldnt do that to my friend.
Haha!
You have to decide what is more important to you....your friendship with this guy, or a chick who can't seem to stay with just one boyfriend.
Don't go out with her.
How would you feel in his situation?
She doesn't seem like a good person anyway if she would do something like that.
how hot?
1 - 10
ten being...DAYYUUUMM
one being...***** please
Bros before Hoes dude. Friendships are more important.
WTF THATS MESSED UP S-H-I-T DUDE.
BROS BEFORE HOES..
KARMAS REAL SO SHE WILL LEAVE U SOONER OR LATER
OR U WILL LOOSE A FRIEND
YOU CHOOSE
keep it friends let time pass and see if she still likes you. It could just be a phase.
if you like her and hes your actually friend it doesn't matter
but if hes a jerk FIGHT
go out with the hot chick and when the friend kills you kill him back
Tell her it was wrong and that she really shouldn't have done that.
if you like her take your chance your friend blu it not you
Just tell her no thanks , You don't date your friends exes.
not much of a mate if he's gonna kill ya
bros b4 hoes dude.....
bros b4 hoes
you better learn to fight!
talk to your friend say if she wants me than i ganna go 4 her, but please b my friend it aint my fault she likes me ok
I need advice on how to handle this girl problem? details below?
Theres this gurl that i really like h/e she already has a boyfriend. But i think she might like me because of the way she acts around me. What should I do bc I really like her and want to go out with her.I need advice on how to handle this girl problem? details below?
talk to her about her.
and dont try and convince her that her current boyfriend is crap. she will then prob just become very very confused and will end up prob resenting u in the end.
be a good friend to her.
and when her and her boyfriend breakup, maybe she will be the one she turns too :-D good luck ;-Dlash liner
talk to her about her.
and dont try and convince her that her current boyfriend is crap. she will then prob just become very very confused and will end up prob resenting u in the end.
be a good friend to her.
and when her and her boyfriend breakup, maybe she will be the one she turns too :-D good luck ;-D
My one year old has suddenly stopped eating - please help, any advice and ideas for this problem?
My one year old recently suffered with a fever, it only lasted 3 days but since then she wont eat any more solids. During the fever, she was seen by a doctor who explaned that she would be put off food, but it has been over a week now and she wont eat anything. Ive tried everything! Even little bits of chocolate to try and get her appetite back but everytime I put any knd of food towards her, she throws her head back and cries. Its become really frustrating
And betfore anyone asks, I did take her to my GP who said her weight was ok so there he was nothng he could do. But as you can imagine this isnt reassuring at all. Before the fever she wasnt the best eater but I used to manage to give her some breakfast, lunch and dinner.
Shes been having 10-12 ounces of milk and a few cheerios each day, thats all! And this has been for about 3 days now. Can anyone give me any advice or suggestions
and how long is it before it becomes dangerous for a one year old not to eat?
ThanksMy one year old has suddenly stopped eating - please help, any advice and ideas for this problem?
oh dear , baby's can and will have you worried to bits as thy grow up and as its your first, even more thy know how to rule you . plenty of fluid`s, water if you can ,and keep her cool.she must be teething like mad the back one`s are the worse?the gp `s not with her 24, 7 and the nights so its more upsetting for you too to see her like that , if your not happy just pop along to the hospital and get her checked over just tell them what`s going on and how you feel about it .have you any think for her gum`s ?try soup too. good luck xx My one year old has suddenly stopped eating - please help, any advice and ideas for this problem?
Check the inside of her mouth. She may be teething and have sore gums which, combined with a stuffed up nose is just too much for her to suffer. She could also have a sore throat.
From my own experience (I have twins), I found that they rarely, if ever ate the same amounts of food. It worried me to the extent that I took them to the doc who told me in no uncertain terms, to stop wasting his time! If it's hungry, it'll eat! He did tell me to stop trying to feed outside meal time hours (snacks), but stick to trying to give him food ONLY at meal times (I'm actually laughing here,but I wasn't at the time!).
As it turned out, he was right. I have twins, one of whom eats anything and everything, and one who's the world's worst eater. He'll eat anything, at meal times, but only when he feels like it. If he didn't eat at one meal, he'd have to wait until the next meal (when he'd probably eat the whole lot). And later when they were 'little boys',they weren't allowed dessert unless they'd eaten all, or most of their main course. It became a matter of training him to eat (if that makes sense).
I've learned that you can't force a child to eat, and as long as they remain healthy it's crazy to worry about it. We weren't all born exactly the same and I've found that starts right from 'solid food' eating!
It's difficult. I had the two children, born within 2 minutes of each other and I found it extraordinarily difficult to get round the fact that one of them could get by on the amount of food he DIDN'T eat. Their metabolisms were so completely different.
You don't have that comparison, and I can understand why you're so worried. 3 days isn't a huge amount of time. She'll eat when she's hungry, and as long as she's drinking, from my own experiences, there's nothing to worry about.
If it continues for OVER a week, with no improvement at all, go back to the doctor - just to make sure. (I didn't have to. My little chap has survived 27 years - and still only eats when he feels like it! It did him no harm at all).
xxx
Hi.
yes you must go and see a doctor again this is not right!
if ur baby is not eatin try soup or other thinks like that =] hope i helped
Dont worry...she cant starve herself to death. She will eat if she is hungry. I had this problem with my daughter right about the time she turned 1, with milk. It made her sick the last time I gave it to her and she remembered that and didnt want anymore. If you are concerned about her getting the nutrience she needs, try getting the 2nd stage of infant formula. I am sure she will be fine though. Keep trying to give it to her, but dont force her. You dont want her to associate eating with a negative experience. She will come around and eat when she is hungry. :)
Good Luck!
And betfore anyone asks, I did take her to my GP who said her weight was ok so there he was nothng he could do. But as you can imagine this isnt reassuring at all. Before the fever she wasnt the best eater but I used to manage to give her some breakfast, lunch and dinner.
Shes been having 10-12 ounces of milk and a few cheerios each day, thats all! And this has been for about 3 days now. Can anyone give me any advice or suggestions
and how long is it before it becomes dangerous for a one year old not to eat?
ThanksMy one year old has suddenly stopped eating - please help, any advice and ideas for this problem?
oh dear , baby's can and will have you worried to bits as thy grow up and as its your first, even more thy know how to rule you . plenty of fluid`s, water if you can ,and keep her cool.she must be teething like mad the back one`s are the worse?the gp `s not with her 24, 7 and the nights so its more upsetting for you too to see her like that , if your not happy just pop along to the hospital and get her checked over just tell them what`s going on and how you feel about it .have you any think for her gum`s ?try soup too. good luck xx My one year old has suddenly stopped eating - please help, any advice and ideas for this problem?
Check the inside of her mouth. She may be teething and have sore gums which, combined with a stuffed up nose is just too much for her to suffer. She could also have a sore throat.
From my own experience (I have twins), I found that they rarely, if ever ate the same amounts of food. It worried me to the extent that I took them to the doc who told me in no uncertain terms, to stop wasting his time! If it's hungry, it'll eat! He did tell me to stop trying to feed outside meal time hours (snacks), but stick to trying to give him food ONLY at meal times (I'm actually laughing here,but I wasn't at the time!).
As it turned out, he was right. I have twins, one of whom eats anything and everything, and one who's the world's worst eater. He'll eat anything, at meal times, but only when he feels like it. If he didn't eat at one meal, he'd have to wait until the next meal (when he'd probably eat the whole lot). And later when they were 'little boys',they weren't allowed dessert unless they'd eaten all, or most of their main course. It became a matter of training him to eat (if that makes sense).
I've learned that you can't force a child to eat, and as long as they remain healthy it's crazy to worry about it. We weren't all born exactly the same and I've found that starts right from 'solid food' eating!
It's difficult. I had the two children, born within 2 minutes of each other and I found it extraordinarily difficult to get round the fact that one of them could get by on the amount of food he DIDN'T eat. Their metabolisms were so completely different.
You don't have that comparison, and I can understand why you're so worried. 3 days isn't a huge amount of time. She'll eat when she's hungry, and as long as she's drinking, from my own experiences, there's nothing to worry about.
If it continues for OVER a week, with no improvement at all, go back to the doctor - just to make sure. (I didn't have to. My little chap has survived 27 years - and still only eats when he feels like it! It did him no harm at all).
xxx
Hi.
yes you must go and see a doctor again this is not right!
if ur baby is not eatin try soup or other thinks like that =] hope i helped
Dont worry...she cant starve herself to death. She will eat if she is hungry. I had this problem with my daughter right about the time she turned 1, with milk. It made her sick the last time I gave it to her and she remembered that and didnt want anymore. If you are concerned about her getting the nutrience she needs, try getting the 2nd stage of infant formula. I am sure she will be fine though. Keep trying to give it to her, but dont force her. You dont want her to associate eating with a negative experience. She will come around and eat when she is hungry. :)
Good Luck!
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