Long-distance relationships take a toll on couples...My boyfriend want to take a break, but distance is our problem. I don't understand, any advice?
He's telling you that he's not sure if you're the one, and he wants the option to look around and possibly date others. He's calling it a ';break'; because he wants you to be open to you and him getting back together if he doesn't find something he likes better.
As harsh as that sounds, the two of you are just dating and tha's what dating is for. Let him go, if you try to hold on and force him to stay it will never work. However, don't wait around for him, get out and enjoy yourself (I'm not talking about having sex, that should wait until you're married anyway, or at least in a committed, monogamous relationship - otherwise it just complicates things and muddies the waters, prevents you from making good, sound decisions). You might meet someone you're more compatible with.My boyfriend want to take a break, but distance is our problem. I don't understand, any advice?
He wants to see other people but still have you as a back up if nothing comes his way. Don't do it because it will affect your self-esteem and sense of self worth. Either he wants to be with you or not. My opinion is to find someone else because he has thought about being with other people and you are worth and are owed more then that.
Yeah, he's probably eyeing opportunities where he is. At least he isn't trying to pretend everything is normal. A ';break'; is kind of like a temporary breakup...he still wants you avaialble if things don't work out where he is. It's up to you whether you want to ride that out.
It sounds like he's trying his best to move on without hurting yoru feelings. If you guys already have too much distance and he wants more, than that should be your answer right there. I'm sorry your going through this right now. Everything will get better. Just respect his requests and do your best to be a bigger person.
If he wants a ';break,'; then he either wants to get with another girl, or is using this as a step toward breaking it off for good. The distance may be a reason, but I'll bet he has other reasons for wanting this. Only he can answer that, though.
It means that he wants to end the relationship with you because he wants to be other women. If he doesn't find one better than you he wants you to possibly leave the door open if he wants to come back. He's already gone sweetie talking like this.
I want to take a break = I want to see if I have a chance with this other girl but just in case it doesn't work out, I want to be able to come back to you.
When someone says ';I want to take a break'; they are being a coward. All that means is I do not want to be with you anymore but I do not have the balls to say it.
as long as you are apart, you are on a break it looks to be!!!
So, go with it and you take a break too!!!!!
Absence make the hard grow fonder or harder!!! You may want to harden up a bit!!!
If you haven't had any serious problems recently, he probably has found someone else and if you take a break - he feels as though he won't be cheating on you. Long distance relationships are so hard to have.
You answered this yourself. It's distance. Few minute can deal with it.
He just met someone else.
Taking a ';break'; is an excuse to cheat.
He's found someone else, or wants to.
Watch Friends....he's pulling a Ross
taking a break means ';i'm sick of you...leave me alone.';
Sorry to say this, but LDRs seldom work out.
Perhaps this Yahoo article can help you. Look at number 4.
Good luck...Think things over. Sounds to me like he wants out of this relationship and is hoping you will ';get it';.
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Top 9 signs your spouse is cheating
You have a sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach, something is not right but you can’t quite figure out what that feeling is about. Your spouse has become distant, he/she is working late on a regular basis or, maybe your spouse has moved out of the house with no explanation.
You suspect there may be someone else but every time you bring it up with your spouse, he/she denies the possibility. All the signs are there but you don’t have any proof.
So, pay attention to the signs and your instinct but, be careful and don’t confuse signs with proof.
1. ';I'm not in love with you anymore.';
If you hear these words, a big warning bell should go off. This is one of the most consistent things a cheating spouse will say. Your spouse may have a deep, loving bond with you but, intense feelings of passion can override the bond with you and cause your spouse to loose sight of his/her true feelings. The cheating spouse will develop what I call hormone - induced amnesia. The surging hormones and passion they feel in their new relationship can cause some very skewed thinking.
2. “We are just friends.”
This is also another very predictable statement that will come from a cheating spouse. If your spouse is spending more and more time with this new “friend” then there is probably more to it than mere friendship. Your spouse may feel they have a lot in common with this person, that this person understands them and things they are going through. Whatever the reasons for the friendship, it’s a big warning sign and one you should take seriously.
3. A sudden need for privacy.
If things the two of you used to share openly suddenly become private pay attention cause something is probably up. He/she may start password protecting computer activity. Cell phone and credit card bills may be hidden. If you ask why or attempt to find out information that used to be common knowledge between the two of you, you will be accused of snooping or trying to control your spouse. Big warning sign!
4. “I need some space to figure my feelings for you.”
Men and women who are involved with someone else will request more space, time alone or away from the family. They may say it is due to confusion over their feelings or stress at work. This can be a sign that there is someone else and the spouse is trying to figure out ways to have more freedom.
5. Regular work habits change.
Working late, going to work at odd hours or, putting in more time than is normal on work related issues can be indications that a spouse is cheating.
6. Spending a large amount of time on the computer.
In today’s world, with modern technology, a person looking for an affair doesn’t even have to leave their home. The ease of internet chat rooms, online dating sites and secret email accounts has caused an alarming increase in emotional affairs.
If your spouse is online more than usual, hanging out in chat rooms and visiting pornographic websites then you have reason to be alarmed.
7. Secretive phone calls and more time spent on the phone.
Emotional affairs occur primarily via the phone, especially cell phones. If you find your spouse hanging up suddenly when you enter the room or erasing the history on the cell phone and becoming defensive when asked about it, then you might want to check your phone records.
8. Behavior that just doesn’t add up.
Not being where he/she was expected to be. Missing time they can’t explain. Money that isn’t accounted for. Receipts for things you don't have. Missing clothing. Clothing that does not belong to your family. Being caught in little lies about the details of the day.
9. Your Own fears and suspicions
If you find yourself looking for excuses for your spouse's behavior or trying to convince yourself that they would never cheat then that is a warning sign. Your intuition is frequently one of the best indicators that something is wrong. If you suspect your spouse might be cheating on you, do some investigating and then confront him or her with what you've found. Do it in a way that is calm and courteous. Ask for honesty. Be prepared for lies. It is a sad fact that people having affairs become excellent liars. People who never told a lie before in their lives.
Trust your gut instinct but get hard, cold proof also.
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Saturday, July 31, 2010
Advice Emergency! crazy dramatic chick problem! :(?
ok. so, this chick and i live together and she has someone elses kid. (2 yr) we used to be amaxing together, but now she is just a B*%#@ she does not give me respect even thoughim caring for her child. and she wants to hang out and stay the night with baby daddy?! what the hell? lol. anyways. i dont want to break the lease, so im transferring my lease to a one bedroom across the complex and i never want to talk to her again. there is so much more drama than what im typing. im taAdvice Emergency! crazy dramatic chick problem! :(?
thanks for that update...
thanks for that update...
Advice please or Something Relationship problem?
So my boyfriend broke up with me .5 days ago and his sister told me he's been walking around just staring off into space why is this if he broke up with me .He like out of nowhere was like i don't love you anymore and we have a child together it was late at night when he told me this so i am beginning to think he was tired and cranky ,but he's never like that with me .He brought over diapers because it's friday and he didn't really say much when he was over he was just starring at me ? What does this mean ?
NOTE:He's not one to be open about his feelingsAdvice please or Something Relationship problem?
Hmmm, who the hell knows girl. I stop trying to figure men out a long time ago. Maybe he need some space or maybe he did something foul to you like cheated and now he feels guilty. Too guilty to be around you. Or maybe he really want out. IF what his sister said is true with him moping around staring into space them maybe he does feel bad and is confused but I would take what his sister says with a grain of salt. She is in fact HIS family. She is obligated to him and could have told you a lie to make you feel good.
If I were you I would call him ask him flat out what is going on and that you still love and care for him. If he doesn't respond or is standing by his decision then move on and focus on yourself and your child. No man is worth your tears!Advice please or Something Relationship problem?
i think he still loves you, try to find out whats wrong with him, maybe he is confused
okay who said what? maybe he was sleep walking and dreaming about you?
NOTE:He's not one to be open about his feelingsAdvice please or Something Relationship problem?
Hmmm, who the hell knows girl. I stop trying to figure men out a long time ago. Maybe he need some space or maybe he did something foul to you like cheated and now he feels guilty. Too guilty to be around you. Or maybe he really want out. IF what his sister said is true with him moping around staring into space them maybe he does feel bad and is confused but I would take what his sister says with a grain of salt. She is in fact HIS family. She is obligated to him and could have told you a lie to make you feel good.
If I were you I would call him ask him flat out what is going on and that you still love and care for him. If he doesn't respond or is standing by his decision then move on and focus on yourself and your child. No man is worth your tears!Advice please or Something Relationship problem?
i think he still loves you, try to find out whats wrong with him, maybe he is confused
okay who said what? maybe he was sleep walking and dreaming about you?
LGBT: I think I could easily have an alcohol problem does anyone have advice on this?
I already asked this before but I wanted to see how my gay friends would answer it :P Please take a bit of time to read this FIRST
Okay well first let me state that I just turned 21 and I have never been too interested in alcohol *deliberately* because it seems I have genetic problems like my family on both sides. My uncle's on both sides both are recovering alcoholics my grandfather died on my mom's side from drinking himself to death. MY uncle was so screwed up that through the vietnam war he can't even remember what happened hardly since he was drunk on a ship all the time. Luckily my uncle is still alive only because he got a lot of help quitting. Anyway so I have a feeling that I might be resistant to alcohol too and stuff and I HAVE had alcoholic drinks on special occasions before 21. I thought they tasted good and people would always kinda look at me funny saying wow you drank that really fast!! For some reason it doesn't bother me much or phase me. Anyway I just turned 21 and one of my friends wanted to go to bars with me to celebrate so we did. I only had 2 drinks a white Russian and a bloody Mary both of which only had one shot. My friend *who isn't an alcoholic* he goes days without drinking but he DOES ENJOY DRINKING AND GETTING DRUNK A LOT like habitual drinking but not alcoholism i.e. getting drunk all the time. Anyway my friend was like we should get drunk to celebrate and I told him no I really don't want to sooo I didn't. Anyway my friend was amazed how fast I could finish these 2 drinks and I told him yeah I think my genetics are bad with alcohol so I don't want to get drunk or have anymore--this made him sort of irritated. Well he understood in the end and at this point I am NOT servery addicted to alcohol but since I have gone to the bar [once on my birthday] I notice through the day off an or when I drive by bars I get tempted to go in and start drinking again. *It's not a severe temptation at this point and I have NEVER been drunk* Anyway I just feel like it's not safe for me to drink anymore AT ALL but my friends don't understand why I can't just get drunk now and then or drink moderately like they do; I tell them that I don't think I could just do it moderately and that I would need to drink all the time if I got started . They don't seem to get this or the genetic aspect of this but anyway what do people here think I should do? Has anyone had a similair experience? I don't want to spend my time and money drinking by the way.LGBT: I think I could easily have an alcohol problem does anyone have advice on this?
i can relate i used to drink alot, i slowly over time noticed i was drinking less and less, i guess my body was getting tired of it, now i don't get the urge for it, i will drink once every 3 or 4 days or so, try by start decreasing the amount you drink each day just by a little until you don't get the urge to drink everyday.....either that or call a alcohol abuse hot line.....good luck..LGBT: I think I could easily have an alcohol problem does anyone have advice on this?
you dont expect us to read that novel above me do you? relax and have a drink
Simplest answer for anyone asking you out for a drink:
';I'm sorry. I don't drink.';
And then don't!
I had the same feeling about myself when I was younger. I couldn't have just one or two drinks. I would keep going until I was falling down the street. Then one day, I decided to just tell everyone I don't drink. Since then I have had very few drinks, and do not go to any bars to have them.
I have alcohol in the house, a bottle of vodka, and I have had it for over 6 months and it's still nearly fully.
As you are 21, the alcohol is freely available to you, and it seems like you might be self-aware enough to stay away from it. Just keep saying you don't drink, and eventually you will be able to have a drink once in a while without the desire to get plastered.
But here's something else you can do: go to a local AA meeting. Talk with the people there. Maybe they will have some better ways to keep from drinking that you can try.natural instinct
Okay well first let me state that I just turned 21 and I have never been too interested in alcohol *deliberately* because it seems I have genetic problems like my family on both sides. My uncle's on both sides both are recovering alcoholics my grandfather died on my mom's side from drinking himself to death. MY uncle was so screwed up that through the vietnam war he can't even remember what happened hardly since he was drunk on a ship all the time. Luckily my uncle is still alive only because he got a lot of help quitting. Anyway so I have a feeling that I might be resistant to alcohol too and stuff and I HAVE had alcoholic drinks on special occasions before 21. I thought they tasted good and people would always kinda look at me funny saying wow you drank that really fast!! For some reason it doesn't bother me much or phase me. Anyway I just turned 21 and one of my friends wanted to go to bars with me to celebrate so we did. I only had 2 drinks a white Russian and a bloody Mary both of which only had one shot. My friend *who isn't an alcoholic* he goes days without drinking but he DOES ENJOY DRINKING AND GETTING DRUNK A LOT like habitual drinking but not alcoholism i.e. getting drunk all the time. Anyway my friend was like we should get drunk to celebrate and I told him no I really don't want to sooo I didn't. Anyway my friend was amazed how fast I could finish these 2 drinks and I told him yeah I think my genetics are bad with alcohol so I don't want to get drunk or have anymore--this made him sort of irritated. Well he understood in the end and at this point I am NOT servery addicted to alcohol but since I have gone to the bar [once on my birthday] I notice through the day off an or when I drive by bars I get tempted to go in and start drinking again. *It's not a severe temptation at this point and I have NEVER been drunk* Anyway I just feel like it's not safe for me to drink anymore AT ALL but my friends don't understand why I can't just get drunk now and then or drink moderately like they do; I tell them that I don't think I could just do it moderately and that I would need to drink all the time if I got started . They don't seem to get this or the genetic aspect of this but anyway what do people here think I should do? Has anyone had a similair experience? I don't want to spend my time and money drinking by the way.LGBT: I think I could easily have an alcohol problem does anyone have advice on this?
i can relate i used to drink alot, i slowly over time noticed i was drinking less and less, i guess my body was getting tired of it, now i don't get the urge for it, i will drink once every 3 or 4 days or so, try by start decreasing the amount you drink each day just by a little until you don't get the urge to drink everyday.....either that or call a alcohol abuse hot line.....good luck..LGBT: I think I could easily have an alcohol problem does anyone have advice on this?
you dont expect us to read that novel above me do you? relax and have a drink
Simplest answer for anyone asking you out for a drink:
';I'm sorry. I don't drink.';
And then don't!
I had the same feeling about myself when I was younger. I couldn't have just one or two drinks. I would keep going until I was falling down the street. Then one day, I decided to just tell everyone I don't drink. Since then I have had very few drinks, and do not go to any bars to have them.
I have alcohol in the house, a bottle of vodka, and I have had it for over 6 months and it's still nearly fully.
As you are 21, the alcohol is freely available to you, and it seems like you might be self-aware enough to stay away from it. Just keep saying you don't drink, and eventually you will be able to have a drink once in a while without the desire to get plastered.
But here's something else you can do: go to a local AA meeting. Talk with the people there. Maybe they will have some better ways to keep from drinking that you can try.
Advice about a bad boy problem...?
okay so there is this new guy at my school. and he is in my spanish class, at first i thought he was really cute, and soon i learned that he thought i was cute too. and when homecoming came around he asked if i wanted to dance. i was really excited and said yes and as soon as we started dancing i could smell alcohol on his breath. and it was really bad, my friends could smell it too. but we still danced and it was fun. then on facebook the next day he said how fun it was dancing with me. then the next day of school came and he didn't say one word to me or even look at me. but as the days went by he would start to stare at me. and it was very wierd, then one day randomly (2 days ago) he sent me a message on facebook that said hello. i was like hi. then he just started talking to me about random things. he was like we haven't talked lately and all that. then he said we should hang out and all that and gave me his number. and then just today my friend had something to tell me and she said that he texted her last night saying how he got my phone number. and she asked if he liked me and he said yes. okay thats the story but the problem is that he apparently does drugs and smokes and drinks, and is a big player that just wants to sleep with lots of girls. some friends say i should just give him a chance its not like we're going to get married, its just good fun, but then my best friend says to stay away from him and ignore him, and that hes just trouble, that i'll just be one of his toys. and another good friend tells me that i should just do what i want to do, but i don't know what i want to do. thats why i want to hear what you guys say. if you could give me some advice or tell me what you would do, that would be great thanks :)Advice about a bad boy problem...?
i say that you need to find someone better for you. He is probably just going to use you and you deserve better than that. find someone who acts responsibly and you know will treat you with respect and be loyal. Hope this helps! good luck!Advice about a bad boy problem...?
Just hearing about this guy and judging his credibility based on what you wrote.... g'head date him and learn from your mistake.
Well, he might actually like you, or he might be looking to just hook up. You won't know unless you hang out with him. If I were you, if you actually like this guy, then go on a date with him. Make sure it's a DATE though, go to the movies, or out to eat. Don't just hang out at someones house because that could lead to something else if that is his intention. If he agrees to the outing and you guys have fun then maybe he actually likes you.
Just watch out for the players!! Don't expect too much though because you don't want to get hurt :(
apparently he has a problems with drugs.stay away from him.he may tempt you to do some drugs with him.that's what usually happens when your involved with someone like that.DEFINITELY find someone else,it the right thing to do.he might even pressure you to do something that your not ready for.STAY AWAY.please./
A player and an alcohol junkie? Are you out of your mind! Trouble starts with asses like him. Anyways you have a reputation to uphold. Good girls don't go out with bad guys, however tempting it may be. Risk it if you want to, but this is life. Not a game. I hope you understand and are mature enough to think this over. This is coming from a girl who knows what she's saying. Be practical, listening to your heart will lead to disaster. Harsh, isn't it? Well, that's the truth I suppose. I know you'll do what's right. =D
dude. go to him, or come to my house. =] lol jk. but go for it. he'll be the one to gag you first
there's a reason, this guy is acting so weird. HE'S DRUNK! Dating an alcoholic can end in a disaster. This guy will do some crazy stuff in the future. This guy is and will be LOOPY. Do u want 2 date a guy who talks about random things and sleeps with lots of girls? Plus he smokes. Being around him means u inhale the smoke which is just as bad as smoking itself. U can get CANCER and maybe even die. I no someone who smoked and is now blind, deaf, paralyzed and has lung cancer. Some of ur friends r right. To him ur a prize, and if u risk going out with him any longer, u could get hurt. The worst scenario: u could die from inhaling all that smoke or get cancer. Why throw ur life away 4 this one guy%26gt;?
Wow that is quite a story. If he is in to drugs and drinks a lot then it's never going to change. You won't be able to change him. The friend that said you should go out with him is not very smart (not trying to be disrespectful or anything), because all he will end up doing is taking your money to buy his fix of whatever his poison is. The best thing to is stay away from and get a nice guy that will treat you right, because he will not. I've dated that kind of guy and it turns abusive really quick...emotionally, mentally, and physically.
If you want to be one of his toys than knock yourself put. If your looking for a serious relationship, the I'd stay away.
i think if you think theres a chance of you getting hurt then u should stay away. if you really dont care, then u should go for it and just have fun but if your looking for a relationship and u dont want to get hurt then u should be very cautious and dont put your feelings out there too quickly
See how smooth he is? He's got you almost wanting it.
I say go for it.
like99% off kids in highschool either smoke,drink, or both
i say that you need to find someone better for you. He is probably just going to use you and you deserve better than that. find someone who acts responsibly and you know will treat you with respect and be loyal. Hope this helps! good luck!Advice about a bad boy problem...?
Just hearing about this guy and judging his credibility based on what you wrote.... g'head date him and learn from your mistake.
Well, he might actually like you, or he might be looking to just hook up. You won't know unless you hang out with him. If I were you, if you actually like this guy, then go on a date with him. Make sure it's a DATE though, go to the movies, or out to eat. Don't just hang out at someones house because that could lead to something else if that is his intention. If he agrees to the outing and you guys have fun then maybe he actually likes you.
Just watch out for the players!! Don't expect too much though because you don't want to get hurt :(
apparently he has a problems with drugs.stay away from him.he may tempt you to do some drugs with him.that's what usually happens when your involved with someone like that.DEFINITELY find someone else,it the right thing to do.he might even pressure you to do something that your not ready for.STAY AWAY.please./
A player and an alcohol junkie? Are you out of your mind! Trouble starts with asses like him. Anyways you have a reputation to uphold. Good girls don't go out with bad guys, however tempting it may be. Risk it if you want to, but this is life. Not a game. I hope you understand and are mature enough to think this over. This is coming from a girl who knows what she's saying. Be practical, listening to your heart will lead to disaster. Harsh, isn't it? Well, that's the truth I suppose. I know you'll do what's right. =D
dude. go to him, or come to my house. =] lol jk. but go for it. he'll be the one to gag you first
there's a reason, this guy is acting so weird. HE'S DRUNK! Dating an alcoholic can end in a disaster. This guy will do some crazy stuff in the future. This guy is and will be LOOPY. Do u want 2 date a guy who talks about random things and sleeps with lots of girls? Plus he smokes. Being around him means u inhale the smoke which is just as bad as smoking itself. U can get CANCER and maybe even die. I no someone who smoked and is now blind, deaf, paralyzed and has lung cancer. Some of ur friends r right. To him ur a prize, and if u risk going out with him any longer, u could get hurt. The worst scenario: u could die from inhaling all that smoke or get cancer. Why throw ur life away 4 this one guy%26gt;?
Wow that is quite a story. If he is in to drugs and drinks a lot then it's never going to change. You won't be able to change him. The friend that said you should go out with him is not very smart (not trying to be disrespectful or anything), because all he will end up doing is taking your money to buy his fix of whatever his poison is. The best thing to is stay away from and get a nice guy that will treat you right, because he will not. I've dated that kind of guy and it turns abusive really quick...emotionally, mentally, and physically.
If you want to be one of his toys than knock yourself put. If your looking for a serious relationship, the I'd stay away.
i think if you think theres a chance of you getting hurt then u should stay away. if you really dont care, then u should go for it and just have fun but if your looking for a relationship and u dont want to get hurt then u should be very cautious and dont put your feelings out there too quickly
See how smooth he is? He's got you almost wanting it.
I say go for it.
like99% off kids in highschool either smoke,drink, or both
Im in the middle of a one-way love problem and i need advice.Please!?
I KNOW THIS IS A REALLY LONG DETAILED QUESTION BUT PLEASE READ IT CAUSE IM BEGGING FOR ADVICE!!!!
Ok just to let you all know im only a 13 year old girl.I just wanted to say that cause that might affect the answer y'all give me.Okay. One of my best guy friends is the perfect guy! His name is Gunnar and hes been my best friend for like 6/7 months. I had fallen for him about a month after becoming friends with him and at that time i only liked him.The way he acted around me got me wondering if he liked me to because he would always talk to me and always hugs me and hes also kinda perverted but hes one of those pervs who doesn't go to far and is just joking about all of it and doesn't end up getting punched in the stomach or kicked in the balls.He is so funny and when he sees me sad he tries to make me laugh and he always does! Every time he makes me laugh i forget about all problems in my life and actually start having a good time!We only see each other on fridays though cause we both go to a youth church for middle schoolers.So anyways one friday i told him how i felt but he said he didnt feel the same way and he only likes me as a very good friend and i waz crushed but i mean at least hes friends with me! And some guys, after you tell them how you feel they get all awkward and dont act the same way or even worse sometimes they'll make fun of you, but Gunnar isnt like that! After it waz a little awkward at first but he pulled me aside and said not to be awkward about it cuz he didnt want that to ruin the good friendship we have.So eventually it was like nothing had never happened! But as the months went by I never seemed to get over my crush.I ended up thinking about him every second,of every minute,of every day! Literally! Then i started dreaming about him and everything anybody said somehow made me think about him! My mom brought up a dog who had crystal blue eyes and i thought about how Gunnar has all black hair and wears all black clothes but isnt gothic at all and he has very pale skin but then his eyes ar just crystal blue and they look like there glowing and there just so beautifull and amazing! Then every friday I was so exicted cause i waz going to be seeing him and then when it was all over i went crazy wanting to see him again! I wanted to be with him every day! I relized I was falling in love wth my best friend! (And a lot of you people might be like a 13 year old cant be in love she probally doest even know what love is! Well everything i just told you people and more stuff that would take to long to write is definitly love and if you dont think so then your crazy! no offense!) But yeah, anyways, Its been about 7 months since i told him i liked him and i still do make it very obvious but he said something last friday that made me think. A girl in our small group session was like Will you be my best friend and Gunnar was like Sure Ok??! And i said (joking around) No one can resist you Gunnar! And he said you used to not be able to resist me. USED! I was going to say i still cant but i couldnt get the words out of my mouth! But it got me thinking for the rest of the week ';Does he think i got over him?';. So Today wich is friday i was going to ask him if he thinks i dont like him anymore but he ended up not coming! I almost cried! Yeah i know im pathetic! But i need advice on what to say to him next week cause the way he acts is crazy he gives me his jacket when im cold,He makes me laugh when im sad,He gives me about 23 hugs every friday night,Sometimes buys me coke if im thirsty and have no money,Always site next to me in service,Gives me compliments sometimes,Tickels me!, Pops of put of nowhere and goes hey babe!, when i get up of my chair in the zone (thats what the place is called after service its wear we have fun and play dogeball and hang out) he will take my chair and when i come back he says sit on my lap,If i walk away to talk to my friend tyleah he stops talkin to his friends and comes over to talk to me and so on...........BUT THEN HE SAYS HE DOESNT LIKE ME!!!! He acts like it but says he doesnt and im soooooo confused and i dont know what to do!!!! Please help!
(And by the way last time i asked a ques i got answers that critizied my problem! so please dont do that....and if your a adult dont say im to young to be in love and you dont even know what love is and you should live your life out and not date till your older! I GET IT! i get told that by my parents enough i dont need it told to me by strangers! Not to rude or anything. so i just need advice and if you are an adult just think about when you were a teen and what you wouldve done in my position.)
(And im sorry if some of this is in text language its a habbit of mine!)Im in the middle of a one-way love problem and i need advice.Please!?
how can you write that much?
Ok just to let you all know im only a 13 year old girl.I just wanted to say that cause that might affect the answer y'all give me.Okay. One of my best guy friends is the perfect guy! His name is Gunnar and hes been my best friend for like 6/7 months. I had fallen for him about a month after becoming friends with him and at that time i only liked him.The way he acted around me got me wondering if he liked me to because he would always talk to me and always hugs me and hes also kinda perverted but hes one of those pervs who doesn't go to far and is just joking about all of it and doesn't end up getting punched in the stomach or kicked in the balls.He is so funny and when he sees me sad he tries to make me laugh and he always does! Every time he makes me laugh i forget about all problems in my life and actually start having a good time!We only see each other on fridays though cause we both go to a youth church for middle schoolers.So anyways one friday i told him how i felt but he said he didnt feel the same way and he only likes me as a very good friend and i waz crushed but i mean at least hes friends with me! And some guys, after you tell them how you feel they get all awkward and dont act the same way or even worse sometimes they'll make fun of you, but Gunnar isnt like that! After it waz a little awkward at first but he pulled me aside and said not to be awkward about it cuz he didnt want that to ruin the good friendship we have.So eventually it was like nothing had never happened! But as the months went by I never seemed to get over my crush.I ended up thinking about him every second,of every minute,of every day! Literally! Then i started dreaming about him and everything anybody said somehow made me think about him! My mom brought up a dog who had crystal blue eyes and i thought about how Gunnar has all black hair and wears all black clothes but isnt gothic at all and he has very pale skin but then his eyes ar just crystal blue and they look like there glowing and there just so beautifull and amazing! Then every friday I was so exicted cause i waz going to be seeing him and then when it was all over i went crazy wanting to see him again! I wanted to be with him every day! I relized I was falling in love wth my best friend! (And a lot of you people might be like a 13 year old cant be in love she probally doest even know what love is! Well everything i just told you people and more stuff that would take to long to write is definitly love and if you dont think so then your crazy! no offense!) But yeah, anyways, Its been about 7 months since i told him i liked him and i still do make it very obvious but he said something last friday that made me think. A girl in our small group session was like Will you be my best friend and Gunnar was like Sure Ok??! And i said (joking around) No one can resist you Gunnar! And he said you used to not be able to resist me. USED! I was going to say i still cant but i couldnt get the words out of my mouth! But it got me thinking for the rest of the week ';Does he think i got over him?';. So Today wich is friday i was going to ask him if he thinks i dont like him anymore but he ended up not coming! I almost cried! Yeah i know im pathetic! But i need advice on what to say to him next week cause the way he acts is crazy he gives me his jacket when im cold,He makes me laugh when im sad,He gives me about 23 hugs every friday night,Sometimes buys me coke if im thirsty and have no money,Always site next to me in service,Gives me compliments sometimes,Tickels me!, Pops of put of nowhere and goes hey babe!, when i get up of my chair in the zone (thats what the place is called after service its wear we have fun and play dogeball and hang out) he will take my chair and when i come back he says sit on my lap,If i walk away to talk to my friend tyleah he stops talkin to his friends and comes over to talk to me and so on...........BUT THEN HE SAYS HE DOESNT LIKE ME!!!! He acts like it but says he doesnt and im soooooo confused and i dont know what to do!!!! Please help!
(And by the way last time i asked a ques i got answers that critizied my problem! so please dont do that....and if your a adult dont say im to young to be in love and you dont even know what love is and you should live your life out and not date till your older! I GET IT! i get told that by my parents enough i dont need it told to me by strangers! Not to rude or anything. so i just need advice and if you are an adult just think about when you were a teen and what you wouldve done in my position.)
(And im sorry if some of this is in text language its a habbit of mine!)Im in the middle of a one-way love problem and i need advice.Please!?
how can you write that much?
Advice needed on annoying back problem?
My boyfriend and I were in a car crash two years ago, where we had a head on collision. I suffered shock and a bit of whiplash, and have had intermittant back problems ever since.
I find that my lower back starts to ache painfully if I hold a position for a while (ie: standing up but leaning forward slightly when washing the dishes). It generally calms down after a day or two, but can occasionally be bad enough to have me out of action for the day.
Is this directly linked to the whiplash? Any advice?
I didn't go to hospital after the crash as I didn't think it was bad enough to warrant it and didn't want to waste their time...Advice needed on annoying back problem?
People with herniated disks have that problem...go see your PC for a referal to an orthopedic doctor.Advice needed on annoying back problem?
My advice would be to see a physician. You should find out what is causing the pain. There could be alot of things causing the pain and the only way to find out is to be examined/x-rayed.
You may want to consider your posture even while doing the dishes, spread your legs a little to place your back straighter as some people stoop over the sink. Watch out when reading you dont kink your neck down raise what your reading to make it at more ease. Yes i say visit a doctor whom may assist in your recovery take care you only get one back, change your life to addapt smartly not harsh on you.
go to an orthopedics doc. the problem is not going to go away on its own.
I'm 46 now and my back is in great shape, thanks mainly to a great chiropractor, stretching and massage therapy. When I was in my late twenties I tore a disc in my lower back. It was horrible. Just tying my shoes was a nightmare. When I was bent over tying them one day my back seized up and I couldn't straighten. I had to fall sideways onto the carpet and in a lot of pain straightened myself out. That was the last straw.(excuse that) I wasn't going to be crippled at my age. I was taking Tae Kwon Do so I had the exercise covered. I looked long and hard for the best chiropractor I could find and when I showed him my x-rays and he examined me I asked him if I could be fixed? He said yes but it would take two years and total commitment.
You only have one back. One body for that matter. I saw him for treatments 3-4 times a week. I went to a highly skilled massage therapist twice a week. It was almost exactly two years when I stopped all treatments. I was completey healed and a new man. It was a little exspensive but I'd spend it again if I had to. I've continued to stay in shape and stretch to keep my back in good condition. This is the cure. It's up to you to take your medicine.
I find that my lower back starts to ache painfully if I hold a position for a while (ie: standing up but leaning forward slightly when washing the dishes). It generally calms down after a day or two, but can occasionally be bad enough to have me out of action for the day.
Is this directly linked to the whiplash? Any advice?
I didn't go to hospital after the crash as I didn't think it was bad enough to warrant it and didn't want to waste their time...Advice needed on annoying back problem?
People with herniated disks have that problem...go see your PC for a referal to an orthopedic doctor.Advice needed on annoying back problem?
My advice would be to see a physician. You should find out what is causing the pain. There could be alot of things causing the pain and the only way to find out is to be examined/x-rayed.
You may want to consider your posture even while doing the dishes, spread your legs a little to place your back straighter as some people stoop over the sink. Watch out when reading you dont kink your neck down raise what your reading to make it at more ease. Yes i say visit a doctor whom may assist in your recovery take care you only get one back, change your life to addapt smartly not harsh on you.
go to an orthopedics doc. the problem is not going to go away on its own.
I'm 46 now and my back is in great shape, thanks mainly to a great chiropractor, stretching and massage therapy. When I was in my late twenties I tore a disc in my lower back. It was horrible. Just tying my shoes was a nightmare. When I was bent over tying them one day my back seized up and I couldn't straighten. I had to fall sideways onto the carpet and in a lot of pain straightened myself out. That was the last straw.(excuse that) I wasn't going to be crippled at my age. I was taking Tae Kwon Do so I had the exercise covered. I looked long and hard for the best chiropractor I could find and when I showed him my x-rays and he examined me I asked him if I could be fixed? He said yes but it would take two years and total commitment.
You only have one back. One body for that matter. I saw him for treatments 3-4 times a week. I went to a highly skilled massage therapist twice a week. It was almost exactly two years when I stopped all treatments. I was completey healed and a new man. It was a little exspensive but I'd spend it again if I had to. I've continued to stay in shape and stretch to keep my back in good condition. This is the cure. It's up to you to take your medicine.
Advice about VW Polo 52' (Problem with VW Dealership) Am I being ripped off?
I have a polo 1.2 3cylinder 52' plate.
I had my timing chain done 18 months ago at the local VW dealership-costing æ‹¢450. Since then it hasn't been right.
I was on the motorway 5 weeks ago and my oil light came on, then the car lost power and died! I called the AA and the guy said it was the timing chain. I rang the dealership and they said if i could get it to them they would look. I got the car to them and the garage rang me saying that it was looking like the timing chain, but if not they would have to charge me 2 hours labour. so obviously i agreed.
I had a call a few days later saying its not the timing chain and they want æ‹¢250 cost for looking at it! its not in a better state than it was 5 weeks ago. they are saying it is a spark plug fault, which i find unbelievable and impossible.
Are they trying to get out of fixing a fault that is under guarantee? any advice would be gratefully received!
Is æ‹¢250 labour charge for looking acceptable? should I pay it? where do i stand? help!!Advice about VW Polo 52' (Problem with VW Dealership) Am I being ripped off?
Your mistake here was in taking your car to a VW dealer.
A VW dealer is there to sell you a new VW, but you should NEVER take your car to a main dealer for servicing, it's just a complete rip off.
Firstly, I wouldn't expect to be changing a timing chain on a 'quality' five year old car - at that point, I would have negotiated a discount via VW customer services, or had the chain replaced elsewhere (at around æ‹¢120 - æ‹¢150).
The next bit confuses me: If the AA chap (unprompted, I assume) told you it was a timing chain issue, the garage also said it was a timing chain issue, but it turned out to be a spark plug, then they are most certainly taking the piss.
I'm not surprised at a æ‹¢250 bill from the dealer, I suspect this is just parts %26amp; labour for the current alleged fault, so ask them to physically point out what they've replaced. Does the part look new?
I don't know how much you know about cars, but the diagnosis of a failed timing chain would be pretty straightforward: The timing chain connects the crankshaft of the engine (the main rotating part that turns, sending power to the gearbox) to the camshaft (which operates the valves). A quick visual inspection through the oil filler cap would show whether the camshaft turns as the crankshaft is turned, I assume both the AA man %26amp; the VW garage would have done this first, seemingly confirming a failed timing chain. Any fault with a spark plug or coil wouldn't exhibit this behaviour.
SO, I am assuming that they have actually diagnosed a failed timing chain AGAIN %26amp; replaced it. The æ‹¢250 is to try %26amp; recoup their losses.
The best way to double check is to take the car to a good independent garage %26amp; ask them, in their opinion, what work has been carried out. They can tell by signs of disturbed fixings, new gaskets, etc.
And finally, if you find a nice friendly INDEPENDENT garage, use them rather than the 'Dick Turpin' dealerships.
Good luck!Advice about VW Polo 52' (Problem with VW Dealership) Am I being ripped off?
Ask them by writing to them to put it all in writing, what is wrong and to provide a cost breakdown for the fix. When they ask why, advise them that the written word is the most acceptable evidence in a court of law. I suspect they will be only too glad to talk to you about sorting your probs quickly and at a fair price.
Sounds like a quick solicitor letter and also make sure you keep all evidence, times of calls , conversations etc.Why did you wait 18mths if you knew it wasnt right. Ask also what is their hourly labour rate, seems dear æ‹¢125 / hour to me.
For 2 hours Labour, you are being ripped off. Contact the trading standards about thisand ask them to speak to the garage about this extortion. better still, contact Watchdog on the telly. There is too much of this going on with dalerships.
contact vw customer services and lodge a complaint
Reading between the lines.
I assume you and not the Garage have the car now.
You verbally agreed to 2 hrs Labour charges to determine a suspected fault which subsequently proved negative.
Have you got any paperwork ?? 1.Have you or can you obtain a copy of the AA attendance report (explain to them your reasons for wanting it- they may advise you free of charge)
2 Have you got an itemised Bill from the Garage.
Does this æ‹¢250 include a verbal agreement to supply and fit parts found to be faulty?
My inclination would be : Write and inform them you are happy to pay the agreed 2hrs Labour (out of touch but 35/40æ‹¢ per hour wouldnt surprise me) but are unhappy with their subsequent repair.Tell them you have taken advice from an independent engineer and should they wish to take the matter further etc...
Such is the nature of the initial breakage that severe damage can be caused to the engine thats not readily apparent at the time - as you say its not ben right since.
Sorry cant be of more help. Good Luck.
I had my timing chain done 18 months ago at the local VW dealership-costing æ‹¢450. Since then it hasn't been right.
I was on the motorway 5 weeks ago and my oil light came on, then the car lost power and died! I called the AA and the guy said it was the timing chain. I rang the dealership and they said if i could get it to them they would look. I got the car to them and the garage rang me saying that it was looking like the timing chain, but if not they would have to charge me 2 hours labour. so obviously i agreed.
I had a call a few days later saying its not the timing chain and they want æ‹¢250 cost for looking at it! its not in a better state than it was 5 weeks ago. they are saying it is a spark plug fault, which i find unbelievable and impossible.
Are they trying to get out of fixing a fault that is under guarantee? any advice would be gratefully received!
Is æ‹¢250 labour charge for looking acceptable? should I pay it? where do i stand? help!!Advice about VW Polo 52' (Problem with VW Dealership) Am I being ripped off?
Your mistake here was in taking your car to a VW dealer.
A VW dealer is there to sell you a new VW, but you should NEVER take your car to a main dealer for servicing, it's just a complete rip off.
Firstly, I wouldn't expect to be changing a timing chain on a 'quality' five year old car - at that point, I would have negotiated a discount via VW customer services, or had the chain replaced elsewhere (at around æ‹¢120 - æ‹¢150).
The next bit confuses me: If the AA chap (unprompted, I assume) told you it was a timing chain issue, the garage also said it was a timing chain issue, but it turned out to be a spark plug, then they are most certainly taking the piss.
I'm not surprised at a æ‹¢250 bill from the dealer, I suspect this is just parts %26amp; labour for the current alleged fault, so ask them to physically point out what they've replaced. Does the part look new?
I don't know how much you know about cars, but the diagnosis of a failed timing chain would be pretty straightforward: The timing chain connects the crankshaft of the engine (the main rotating part that turns, sending power to the gearbox) to the camshaft (which operates the valves). A quick visual inspection through the oil filler cap would show whether the camshaft turns as the crankshaft is turned, I assume both the AA man %26amp; the VW garage would have done this first, seemingly confirming a failed timing chain. Any fault with a spark plug or coil wouldn't exhibit this behaviour.
SO, I am assuming that they have actually diagnosed a failed timing chain AGAIN %26amp; replaced it. The æ‹¢250 is to try %26amp; recoup their losses.
The best way to double check is to take the car to a good independent garage %26amp; ask them, in their opinion, what work has been carried out. They can tell by signs of disturbed fixings, new gaskets, etc.
And finally, if you find a nice friendly INDEPENDENT garage, use them rather than the 'Dick Turpin' dealerships.
Good luck!Advice about VW Polo 52' (Problem with VW Dealership) Am I being ripped off?
Ask them by writing to them to put it all in writing, what is wrong and to provide a cost breakdown for the fix. When they ask why, advise them that the written word is the most acceptable evidence in a court of law. I suspect they will be only too glad to talk to you about sorting your probs quickly and at a fair price.
Sounds like a quick solicitor letter and also make sure you keep all evidence, times of calls , conversations etc.Why did you wait 18mths if you knew it wasnt right. Ask also what is their hourly labour rate, seems dear æ‹¢125 / hour to me.
For 2 hours Labour, you are being ripped off. Contact the trading standards about thisand ask them to speak to the garage about this extortion. better still, contact Watchdog on the telly. There is too much of this going on with dalerships.
contact vw customer services and lodge a complaint
Reading between the lines.
I assume you and not the Garage have the car now.
You verbally agreed to 2 hrs Labour charges to determine a suspected fault which subsequently proved negative.
Have you got any paperwork ?? 1.Have you or can you obtain a copy of the AA attendance report (explain to them your reasons for wanting it- they may advise you free of charge)
2 Have you got an itemised Bill from the Garage.
Does this æ‹¢250 include a verbal agreement to supply and fit parts found to be faulty?
My inclination would be : Write and inform them you are happy to pay the agreed 2hrs Labour (out of touch but 35/40æ‹¢ per hour wouldnt surprise me) but are unhappy with their subsequent repair.Tell them you have taken advice from an independent engineer and should they wish to take the matter further etc...
Such is the nature of the initial breakage that severe damage can be caused to the engine thats not readily apparent at the time - as you say its not ben right since.
Sorry cant be of more help. Good Luck.
Can anyone advice me on a baby wieght problem?
ive had a baby 8 weeks ago (second) and shes soo beautiful. ok enough bragging. My problem is although am a size8 (ya nothing wrong with it you may think) but i have this flab that no matter what i do it wont go away and i also have mass strech marks which hasnt gone away and i developed them from my first preg and shes now 4 years old (also beautiful). Do you know off anything i could do to shift that extra streched flab? can i get tummy tuck on NHS? trust me my belly is well freaky and disgusting, bare in mind i exercise everyday with a belly dancing DVD and 100 sit ups every night...
Help!! its dragging me down big time, althou having to beautiful girls is all worth it but i just need this little flab shifting to make mummy happy too! am sure there are mums out there who have gone throu the same experience but then any advice will be brill..
thanks in advance to all.. xxCan anyone advice me on a baby wieght problem?
Just have patience, you are doing plenty to get it done, but it will take time. Just keep up the good work :)Can anyone advice me on a baby wieght problem?
I haven;t found any exersices that have gotten rid of the baby pouch. After this on is delivered I'm going to see about a tummy tuck. As for the strech marks try mederma or laser removal
tummy tuck
but since it only been 8 weeks you should give yoursefl some time before tucking
Goodluck%26amp; Congrats on your Girls
Tummy tucks are the only thing that will remedy this situation. Some women get the blessing of having their skin stretched through pregnancy and it popping right back in after. Some of us don't have that luxury and no matter how much excercise you do it is stretched out and will never be fixed through excercise. We women have to either love our new body or get a tummy tuck. I like the 2nd option which I am going to do next spring.
There's far more important stuff that people need to have done on the NHS than removing a bit of jelly belly!
Its something you have, if your muscles underneath are tight and you are the right weight etc, then you have to learn to live with it, its simply stretched skin, get a pair of Bridgit Jones knickers or save up for a private tuck, please don't waste NHS time and resources asking for it for free
The only way to shift it is a tummy tuck go see your doctor and talk to them about how it makes you feel where i live you have to have so many points before they contact a surgeon for you on the NHS but your a size 8 up ere you have to be at least a size 16 to get on the NHS waiting list im currantly waiting for appointment through a private clinic
Good luck hope ya get what ya want i know how ya feel and im only a size bigger than you
First off, I wouldn't recommended getting any kind of cosmetic surgery or plastic surgery, and it sounds like you were thinking about that with the tummy tuck idea.
Well, I think you keep up those exercises but focus also on your diet. Try to switch to a more healthy diet, for example cut down on fast food, soft drinks, high-cholesterol foods, etc. Maybe you can try picking up a sport you enjoy - perhaps you'd like to play basketball, tennis, softball, horseback riding, or whatever floats your boat.
Or you can buy the Nintendo Wii.
Help!! its dragging me down big time, althou having to beautiful girls is all worth it but i just need this little flab shifting to make mummy happy too! am sure there are mums out there who have gone throu the same experience but then any advice will be brill..
thanks in advance to all.. xxCan anyone advice me on a baby wieght problem?
Just have patience, you are doing plenty to get it done, but it will take time. Just keep up the good work :)Can anyone advice me on a baby wieght problem?
I haven;t found any exersices that have gotten rid of the baby pouch. After this on is delivered I'm going to see about a tummy tuck. As for the strech marks try mederma or laser removal
tummy tuck
but since it only been 8 weeks you should give yoursefl some time before tucking
Goodluck%26amp; Congrats on your Girls
Tummy tucks are the only thing that will remedy this situation. Some women get the blessing of having their skin stretched through pregnancy and it popping right back in after. Some of us don't have that luxury and no matter how much excercise you do it is stretched out and will never be fixed through excercise. We women have to either love our new body or get a tummy tuck. I like the 2nd option which I am going to do next spring.
There's far more important stuff that people need to have done on the NHS than removing a bit of jelly belly!
Its something you have, if your muscles underneath are tight and you are the right weight etc, then you have to learn to live with it, its simply stretched skin, get a pair of Bridgit Jones knickers or save up for a private tuck, please don't waste NHS time and resources asking for it for free
The only way to shift it is a tummy tuck go see your doctor and talk to them about how it makes you feel where i live you have to have so many points before they contact a surgeon for you on the NHS but your a size 8 up ere you have to be at least a size 16 to get on the NHS waiting list im currantly waiting for appointment through a private clinic
Good luck hope ya get what ya want i know how ya feel and im only a size bigger than you
First off, I wouldn't recommended getting any kind of cosmetic surgery or plastic surgery, and it sounds like you were thinking about that with the tummy tuck idea.
Well, I think you keep up those exercises but focus also on your diet. Try to switch to a more healthy diet, for example cut down on fast food, soft drinks, high-cholesterol foods, etc. Maybe you can try picking up a sport you enjoy - perhaps you'd like to play basketball, tennis, softball, horseback riding, or whatever floats your boat.
Or you can buy the Nintendo Wii.
Advice on Sex and another problem.?
Sorry, my thoughts are all jumble together right now. Sorry, if I jump off topic %26amp; all around.
Alright, I have this friend she's very nice we are just friend. She's about 40 years old %26amp; I'm 21 years old also she have a kid. I've been having fantasies of my best friend both of us having sex. Recently, she sort of seeing someone %26amp; that got me mad because he's my friend, I have no reason why I'm mad because me %26amp; her could never happen b/c of her age %26amp; her kid. Is this perverted of me having fantasies of me %26amp; her having sex?I'm a Virgin. I've been contemplating on having sex but I made a promise to myself not to have sex unless,I've found someone that I share the same values, I'm engage to her, %26amp; we are living together. I want to have sex with someone I love, I want it to be special. I don't want to look back %26amp; remember I lost my virginity to some girl I never really love. What do you think I should do? Can someone give me some guidance. Thank You.Advice on Sex and another problem.?
What's age have to do with anything for starters. You can't help who you're attracted to. If you have feelings for her tell her. If you're friends, then it's assumed you have trust in each other. If she's seeing one of your friends and it bothers you, tell her. She's not going to know why you're acting so weird around her unless you let her know what's going on in your head. The whole point of having a friend is to share things. Share what you feel. Accept her response. And kudos for saving yourself for someone you love.wedding make up
Alright, I have this friend she's very nice we are just friend. She's about 40 years old %26amp; I'm 21 years old also she have a kid. I've been having fantasies of my best friend both of us having sex. Recently, she sort of seeing someone %26amp; that got me mad because he's my friend, I have no reason why I'm mad because me %26amp; her could never happen b/c of her age %26amp; her kid. Is this perverted of me having fantasies of me %26amp; her having sex?I'm a Virgin. I've been contemplating on having sex but I made a promise to myself not to have sex unless,I've found someone that I share the same values, I'm engage to her, %26amp; we are living together. I want to have sex with someone I love, I want it to be special. I don't want to look back %26amp; remember I lost my virginity to some girl I never really love. What do you think I should do? Can someone give me some guidance. Thank You.Advice on Sex and another problem.?
What's age have to do with anything for starters. You can't help who you're attracted to. If you have feelings for her tell her. If you're friends, then it's assumed you have trust in each other. If she's seeing one of your friends and it bothers you, tell her. She's not going to know why you're acting so weird around her unless you let her know what's going on in your head. The whole point of having a friend is to share things. Share what you feel. Accept her response. And kudos for saving yourself for someone you love.
I need advice on this very twisted relationship problem?
Ok I told a friend that I liked this guy (Joe) she kept this a secret forever and still does she鈥檚 100% reliable. Then I decided to tell another friend because she was going to hook me up with someone else that I didn't like and telling her seemed to be the only way out. Well she told my crushes best friend that I liked Joe. Well the next day Joes best friend told his sister that I liked him not Joe and she told me. I told the friend that told that I liked Joe that his best friend is telling people that I liked him, so today she wrote him telling him that I liked Joe and not him.
Before school was out she asked if he read the note and he said he didn't, and I watched him and Joe drive away with a chick that likes Joe too, and now I'm scared of what鈥檚 going to happen. I want to change everything around cuz the girl that drove away with Joe and his friend is one of my friends and if she knows it will totally kill her. I was thinking when school starts on Monday I will tell Joe鈥檚 best friends sister to tell her brother that I don鈥檛 like him or Joe and every thing is a misunderstanding. Gosh, I don鈥檛 know what to do can anyone help me please!I need advice on this very twisted relationship problem?
You could get a job writing the scripts for Japanese manga.
Okay, I was going to leave the answer like that, but found it's not in me to be that cruel.
Your only hope is to come totally clean and tell Joe that you like him. Tell Joe's best friend that it was cruel of him to pretend that you liked him instead. Tell your friend (the one that rode off in the car) that you like Joe too. But it is obvious he likes her more since SHE was the one that got to leave with him in his car. You can even tell the best friend's sister that it was kind of her to try to help you.
And then tell them that you are leaving now, and you just hope you can live down the humiliation before you graduate. Then do it.
There is no sense lying. Lying only compounds the problem--makes it a whole lot worse. The truth may be embarrassing, but at least everyone will know the truth, and that's a good enough reason in it's own right.
Before school was out she asked if he read the note and he said he didn't, and I watched him and Joe drive away with a chick that likes Joe too, and now I'm scared of what鈥檚 going to happen. I want to change everything around cuz the girl that drove away with Joe and his friend is one of my friends and if she knows it will totally kill her. I was thinking when school starts on Monday I will tell Joe鈥檚 best friends sister to tell her brother that I don鈥檛 like him or Joe and every thing is a misunderstanding. Gosh, I don鈥檛 know what to do can anyone help me please!I need advice on this very twisted relationship problem?
You could get a job writing the scripts for Japanese manga.
Okay, I was going to leave the answer like that, but found it's not in me to be that cruel.
Your only hope is to come totally clean and tell Joe that you like him. Tell Joe's best friend that it was cruel of him to pretend that you liked him instead. Tell your friend (the one that rode off in the car) that you like Joe too. But it is obvious he likes her more since SHE was the one that got to leave with him in his car. You can even tell the best friend's sister that it was kind of her to try to help you.
And then tell them that you are leaving now, and you just hope you can live down the humiliation before you graduate. Then do it.
There is no sense lying. Lying only compounds the problem--makes it a whole lot worse. The truth may be embarrassing, but at least everyone will know the truth, and that's a good enough reason in it's own right.
I have a problem with a girlfriend and a best friend!! urgent if you're out there please give me some advice!!
I fancied this girl a few weeks ago. Then a really good friend of mine stepped in and made her open her heart to him - they were almost going to go out but there was a rumour going round that my old friend wanted to do impure things to her.....i feel out with him over it and thats how i got to know her. She reckons im really nice and stuff and i really want to go out with her but the only thing is she still has feelings for him - and despite knowing what he said they have decided to start over fresh. She likes me though - and my friend has no idea i fancy her.....its a sticky situation.
I don't want him to do anything bad to her and i might not be able to make her see sense!!! what can i do to detatch them and make sure shes safe [and to also open the door for me and her to go out?]????
Please help if you're out there i really need it :(I have a problem with a girlfriend and a best friend!! urgent if you're out there please give me some advice!!
Be a man! You need to toughen up my friend, softly soft approach might not serve you as well as you thinkI have a problem with a girlfriend and a best friend!! urgent if you're out there please give me some advice!!
it sounds like she chose him.. she wants to give him another chance so there isn't much you can do except be her friend.
Try being there for her whilst shes with your friend, don't lose the friendship you've already got!
Then, when it all goes wrong with him *and if hes like that, then it will* step in and be her prince charming! Always be there to show her that there IS someone better for her!
So you want to make her safe from him?
Is this so she can be unsafe with you?
All is fair in love and war and you lost out. TOUGH.
I'm sure whatever 'impure' things he is doing with her is exactly what you'de like to be doing!
Go out with someone else!! Girls usually get more interested if they cant get what they really want! That way ul kno if she does have genuine feelings for u! But its best going out with a gud female friend rather than someone who has the hots for you in a serious way....u dont want to be leading an innocent astray and getting a bad name for yourself!
Let nature take its course with ur friend %26amp; ur fancy bit, im sorry but she doesnt sound all that trustworthy if shes going out with ur m8 %26amp; spilling her feelings to u! If u were with her now, how secure would u b in that relationship?!
well, have you told her how you feel? And i wouldnt break it up if you do i have a feeling that your not going to get her. she is going to be wondering what if... about him. so let her go thru the heartache i know its hard to watch but be there for her thru it. that is the only way she is going to know that he isnt no good for her. they say you learn from your mistakes and she will soon but dont get into their relationship she is going to have to learn on her own.but dont distance yourself be there for her but make sure you tell her how you feel about her and let her know you want to be with her and your going to be there for her and wait for her.
did you friend know you fancied her before they stated dating. if yes go for it, if not back and dont hate the player, hate the game.
Remember: Bros before Hos!
If they have had problems in the past they will again. Don't get in the way just be there for her and perhaps she will see that you are the one for her. But if he is a really good friend of yours you better not even go there..Because it takes a lifetime to bulid up trust and only seconds to destroy it.
I don't want him to do anything bad to her and i might not be able to make her see sense!!! what can i do to detatch them and make sure shes safe [and to also open the door for me and her to go out?]????
Please help if you're out there i really need it :(I have a problem with a girlfriend and a best friend!! urgent if you're out there please give me some advice!!
Be a man! You need to toughen up my friend, softly soft approach might not serve you as well as you thinkI have a problem with a girlfriend and a best friend!! urgent if you're out there please give me some advice!!
it sounds like she chose him.. she wants to give him another chance so there isn't much you can do except be her friend.
Try being there for her whilst shes with your friend, don't lose the friendship you've already got!
Then, when it all goes wrong with him *and if hes like that, then it will* step in and be her prince charming! Always be there to show her that there IS someone better for her!
So you want to make her safe from him?
Is this so she can be unsafe with you?
All is fair in love and war and you lost out. TOUGH.
I'm sure whatever 'impure' things he is doing with her is exactly what you'de like to be doing!
Go out with someone else!! Girls usually get more interested if they cant get what they really want! That way ul kno if she does have genuine feelings for u! But its best going out with a gud female friend rather than someone who has the hots for you in a serious way....u dont want to be leading an innocent astray and getting a bad name for yourself!
Let nature take its course with ur friend %26amp; ur fancy bit, im sorry but she doesnt sound all that trustworthy if shes going out with ur m8 %26amp; spilling her feelings to u! If u were with her now, how secure would u b in that relationship?!
well, have you told her how you feel? And i wouldnt break it up if you do i have a feeling that your not going to get her. she is going to be wondering what if... about him. so let her go thru the heartache i know its hard to watch but be there for her thru it. that is the only way she is going to know that he isnt no good for her. they say you learn from your mistakes and she will soon but dont get into their relationship she is going to have to learn on her own.but dont distance yourself be there for her but make sure you tell her how you feel about her and let her know you want to be with her and your going to be there for her and wait for her.
did you friend know you fancied her before they stated dating. if yes go for it, if not back and dont hate the player, hate the game.
Remember: Bros before Hos!
If they have had problems in the past they will again. Don't get in the way just be there for her and perhaps she will see that you are the one for her. But if he is a really good friend of yours you better not even go there..Because it takes a lifetime to bulid up trust and only seconds to destroy it.
I having problem that their is no heat in my penis as well as i also lose control with my coupls pls advice?
hi ,
my age in 35 and 11 year for my marriage i am losing control on sex, their is no heat in my penis and my partner not enjoyed as well me so pls guideI having problem that their is no heat in my penis as well as i also lose control with my coupls pls advice?
I sugggest that you start out with a checkup with your physician to make sure that no physical conditions such as prostate cancer are causing difficulties. If your physician says all is well then talk to him about some of the new drugs available for Erectile Disfunction such as Viagra.
Good luck, I hope all is well.I having problem that their is no heat in my penis as well as i also lose control with my coupls pls advice?
I'm not selling anything like the person who answered above me, but it seems like you may have some sort of erectile dysfunction.
See a doctor, and he can prescribe something to sort you out.
Good luck!
a/ Stop sugar based food
B/ stop smoking
C/ walk 20min non stop a day if you sedentary type person
d/ take your wife out for a couple day in a resort.
e/ sleep and relax a max 9h/night
F/check if it happen with another lady,if yes considere seeing a doctor.not intended to offense your wife.plse
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my age in 35 and 11 year for my marriage i am losing control on sex, their is no heat in my penis and my partner not enjoyed as well me so pls guideI having problem that their is no heat in my penis as well as i also lose control with my coupls pls advice?
I sugggest that you start out with a checkup with your physician to make sure that no physical conditions such as prostate cancer are causing difficulties. If your physician says all is well then talk to him about some of the new drugs available for Erectile Disfunction such as Viagra.
Good luck, I hope all is well.I having problem that their is no heat in my penis as well as i also lose control with my coupls pls advice?
I'm not selling anything like the person who answered above me, but it seems like you may have some sort of erectile dysfunction.
See a doctor, and he can prescribe something to sort you out.
Good luck!
a/ Stop sugar based food
B/ stop smoking
C/ walk 20min non stop a day if you sedentary type person
d/ take your wife out for a couple day in a resort.
e/ sleep and relax a max 9h/night
F/check if it happen with another lady,if yes considere seeing a doctor.not intended to offense your wife.plse
Your problem is small matter. I advice you take 1 pack Extremen products everyday drinking. A few day you can get the result...your penis can more powerful back to normal. Products guaranteed and satisfaction. Please, order and fill your information in the form......register free and get products.
www.ExtremeMan2u.com/tabungduit
email: sanusimuda@hotmail.com
thank you
sanusi
MALAYSIA
Question for non drug users only - relationship advice. I'm having a problem with my boyfriend!?
We met about 2 years ago %26amp; everything was great.The only thing is he smoked pot when we met.He said I was all the high he needed %26amp; that he would quit if we were together.We have a 5 month old now.I want him 2 grow up.He's 25 years old %26amp; because of his habit I have no respect for him %26amp; basically think he's an idiot.I hate feelin like this becuz I do love him.I just want him 2 stop.He's been tellin me for 2 years,I'll quit by myself when I'm ready.No change.He told me he's only been doin it about once a month.So I got ahold of his drug dealer who I found out was one of our mutual friends %26amp; squeezed out of him that he's been spendin about $40/week on it and buyin it once or twice a week.I told him it was the drugs or me %26amp; he said u know where the door is!I'm tryin 2 figure out what Im doing.He keeps cryin %26amp; gettin upset %26amp; askin me 2 stay.He says he wants me here becuz he loves me so much but he wants 2 do whatever he wants.I don't want my baby thinkin my dad is a loser.she deserves betterQuestion for non drug users only - relationship advice. I'm having a problem with my boyfriend!?
You won't like my answer. You have to split. He will not change until he is ready and that may be never. I heard the exact same things from my ex. I stuck around because I believed in him and I loved him too, although now I can't remember why. I lost respect for him as well and thought he was a moron. Eventually I couldn't stand the sight of him because he was wasting a promising life and trying to take me with him.
Baby comes first now; she can't grow up in an environment where drugs are ok, esp since they are not okay with you. If he uses around the baby, it will hurt her development. She will grow up watching the both of you and learn that it is okay for her to be in a relationship where she and what she wants is not respected. There is also the chance that if he gets busted you'll go down with him. An over-eager social worker could take the baby. I'm not trying to scare you, you just have to think of the consequences.
This is going to sound quite harsh, but he loves the drugs more than he loves you or the baby. No matter how many tears he sheds, that's the truth. He's got to go. He will know you are serious when you split. If he doesn't decide to change by then, you and the baby are not enough incentive to make him want to change.
No matter how much you love him he won't change until he is ready, which may be never. I heard that from every professional I talked to. I didn't want to believe them because I thought my ex could be one of those people who succeeded in getting clean, but he didn't want to. After I left, I was amazed at how many people told me how great and how happy I looked. They asked what I did and I told them I left my husband.
You can do this. You and the baby deserve to be in a safe and loving and happy home. It's not that he doesn't love you or the baby enough. He just doesn't love himself.Question for non drug users only - relationship advice. I'm having a problem with my boyfriend!?
First of all when it comes to an addict they will only quit if they want to there is nothing you can do or anyone can do tomake them quit. They have to want to quit for themselves. Your child doesnt need to be around that if he cant quit then leave him. I know its hard but when he told you to leave he told his chil to leave. Your child is more important. Put your love aside and think about your child. What if the cops find him and he has that on him.
Bail out, unless u use too. otherwise keep being a sponge.
It looks like you got together with someone that is just like dear old DAD, sheeesh!! That always happens. One thing you might consider is look at the GEEEKESS person you can find and he will make you happy because he will be the opposite of dear old DAD.
the foolish one in the relationship is you. If you married him thinking he would change, well, shame on you. When you marry someone you accept them as they are. You obviously didn't do that. It's obvious he isn't going to change or grow up until he is good and ready to do so, nothing you say or do is going to change that. You have a daughter to be concerned about now, another foolish mistake in my opinion as obviously neither you or he were ready for the responsibility, but be that as it may, she has to be your first concern. Growing up with a drug addict is NOT a good life. Get out now, take her with you.
Couple of things. I don't do drugs, biggest drug I do is alcohol, and I was a late bloomer, so I'm not big on drugs as a personal choice, if it's against the law, there's a good reason. Breaking the law is crossing a line that's questionable. Now if they change the law and alcohol is illegal once again, I might have problems. LOL. That aside, pot is not a heavy drug, as in most people can continue to go about their daily life, responsibilities etc and it doesn't consume them and make them do horrible things like some other drug addictions. So bascially, what you are dealing with is the principal of the thing....and you should know that to expect someone to change just because they are married, well it hardly ever happens. He's only going to change when or if he feels like it's important. So he likes pot, it helps him relax or whatever. All tha said, do you think you can compromise? Is he a great husband and Dad otherwise? Ask him if he's willing to do the pot only at certain times, so that YOU know when, and you can make sure baby is safe etc....if it's scheduled and the kid is properly safe, then that's a compromise that hopefully the two of you can work around. If you really are completely against it, then now is the time to separate, because the older the child gets, the harder a split to his family will be. Good Luck, hope something I said helped.
You won't like my answer. You have to split. He will not change until he is ready and that may be never. I heard the exact same things from my ex. I stuck around because I believed in him and I loved him too, although now I can't remember why. I lost respect for him as well and thought he was a moron. Eventually I couldn't stand the sight of him because he was wasting a promising life and trying to take me with him.
Baby comes first now; she can't grow up in an environment where drugs are ok, esp since they are not okay with you. If he uses around the baby, it will hurt her development. She will grow up watching the both of you and learn that it is okay for her to be in a relationship where she and what she wants is not respected. There is also the chance that if he gets busted you'll go down with him. An over-eager social worker could take the baby. I'm not trying to scare you, you just have to think of the consequences.
This is going to sound quite harsh, but he loves the drugs more than he loves you or the baby. No matter how many tears he sheds, that's the truth. He's got to go. He will know you are serious when you split. If he doesn't decide to change by then, you and the baby are not enough incentive to make him want to change.
No matter how much you love him he won't change until he is ready, which may be never. I heard that from every professional I talked to. I didn't want to believe them because I thought my ex could be one of those people who succeeded in getting clean, but he didn't want to. After I left, I was amazed at how many people told me how great and how happy I looked. They asked what I did and I told them I left my husband.
You can do this. You and the baby deserve to be in a safe and loving and happy home. It's not that he doesn't love you or the baby enough. He just doesn't love himself.Question for non drug users only - relationship advice. I'm having a problem with my boyfriend!?
First of all when it comes to an addict they will only quit if they want to there is nothing you can do or anyone can do tomake them quit. They have to want to quit for themselves. Your child doesnt need to be around that if he cant quit then leave him. I know its hard but when he told you to leave he told his chil to leave. Your child is more important. Put your love aside and think about your child. What if the cops find him and he has that on him.
Bail out, unless u use too. otherwise keep being a sponge.
It looks like you got together with someone that is just like dear old DAD, sheeesh!! That always happens. One thing you might consider is look at the GEEEKESS person you can find and he will make you happy because he will be the opposite of dear old DAD.
the foolish one in the relationship is you. If you married him thinking he would change, well, shame on you. When you marry someone you accept them as they are. You obviously didn't do that. It's obvious he isn't going to change or grow up until he is good and ready to do so, nothing you say or do is going to change that. You have a daughter to be concerned about now, another foolish mistake in my opinion as obviously neither you or he were ready for the responsibility, but be that as it may, she has to be your first concern. Growing up with a drug addict is NOT a good life. Get out now, take her with you.
Couple of things. I don't do drugs, biggest drug I do is alcohol, and I was a late bloomer, so I'm not big on drugs as a personal choice, if it's against the law, there's a good reason. Breaking the law is crossing a line that's questionable. Now if they change the law and alcohol is illegal once again, I might have problems. LOL. That aside, pot is not a heavy drug, as in most people can continue to go about their daily life, responsibilities etc and it doesn't consume them and make them do horrible things like some other drug addictions. So bascially, what you are dealing with is the principal of the thing....and you should know that to expect someone to change just because they are married, well it hardly ever happens. He's only going to change when or if he feels like it's important. So he likes pot, it helps him relax or whatever. All tha said, do you think you can compromise? Is he a great husband and Dad otherwise? Ask him if he's willing to do the pot only at certain times, so that YOU know when, and you can make sure baby is safe etc....if it's scheduled and the kid is properly safe, then that's a compromise that hopefully the two of you can work around. If you really are completely against it, then now is the time to separate, because the older the child gets, the harder a split to his family will be. Good Luck, hope something I said helped.
Advice/Help for a cat problem?
I have one 13 old female cat and recently about 2 months ago took in two 6 year old male cats that I will be taking care of for one year.
For the first month, month and 1/2 there was no problems between them but recently my older cat has started using the couch as her litter box.
Of the two male cats, 1, Flannel, has had no problems with my older cat. The other, Pogo, has sometimes been chasing her, I don't believe aggressively but perhaps playfully. Recently he has been hanging around the room where I keep her litter box and since he's in there she won't go in. I moved the boys litter box to a different room but the problem with my older cat has gotten so bad that I have to take her to the litter box myself and make sure Pogo doesn't bother her.
I'm not sure if he's hanging around that room to prevent her or she just doesn't want to go near him and thus using my couch as a her crapping ground.
Anyone have any advice to help solve this problem?Advice/Help for a cat problem?
tip #1. to get rid of any of the cat pee scent - especially on clothes %26amp; bedding - use arm %26amp; hammer detergent. It's baking soda based so it gets rid of all kitty's urine smell.
I had a cat like this named Meu (me-you), and at first it was a bit of a challenge to figure out why she was going everywhere, and then with the help of our vet we quickly solved the problem :-). In Meu's case - it was fear of being attacked by other playful cats when she wanted to do her business. Cat's like us, like their privacy - that's why they cover their litter in the first place.
http://cats.about.com/cs/litterboxproble鈥?/a>
http://marvistavet.com/html/body_feline_鈥?/a>
Try and work this out - she's really well worth your time. A healthy happy kitty is an amazing thing. The pound is never the answer.Advice/Help for a cat problem?
the general rule of thumb is one litter box per cat.. ideally in at least 2 different parts of the home.
the way i see it. she's got a big attitude bout u bringin them up in her wirld, n sharin her mama/daddy. plus u godda remember, thats her place. I truely believe it'a all attitude.
Now if u put all the litter boxes side by side, n give em a week. wut happens. put plastic on the couch n cayanne pepper too, if u can. she wont' wanna go ther no more. u can always stand by the door and watch em. n if he tries any funny stuff wen she cums in then u can be ready with a spray bottle at him. if he iz u no. jus casually lean up again the door jam waitin n watchin. n u don't even godda chance him. it's very effective.
justa thot tho, iv'e dun this n it wirks well, n then in more time they jus learn they godda git along.
For the first month, month and 1/2 there was no problems between them but recently my older cat has started using the couch as her litter box.
Of the two male cats, 1, Flannel, has had no problems with my older cat. The other, Pogo, has sometimes been chasing her, I don't believe aggressively but perhaps playfully. Recently he has been hanging around the room where I keep her litter box and since he's in there she won't go in. I moved the boys litter box to a different room but the problem with my older cat has gotten so bad that I have to take her to the litter box myself and make sure Pogo doesn't bother her.
I'm not sure if he's hanging around that room to prevent her or she just doesn't want to go near him and thus using my couch as a her crapping ground.
Anyone have any advice to help solve this problem?Advice/Help for a cat problem?
tip #1. to get rid of any of the cat pee scent - especially on clothes %26amp; bedding - use arm %26amp; hammer detergent. It's baking soda based so it gets rid of all kitty's urine smell.
I had a cat like this named Meu (me-you), and at first it was a bit of a challenge to figure out why she was going everywhere, and then with the help of our vet we quickly solved the problem :-). In Meu's case - it was fear of being attacked by other playful cats when she wanted to do her business. Cat's like us, like their privacy - that's why they cover their litter in the first place.
http://cats.about.com/cs/litterboxproble鈥?/a>
http://marvistavet.com/html/body_feline_鈥?/a>
Try and work this out - she's really well worth your time. A healthy happy kitty is an amazing thing. The pound is never the answer.Advice/Help for a cat problem?
the general rule of thumb is one litter box per cat.. ideally in at least 2 different parts of the home.
the way i see it. she's got a big attitude bout u bringin them up in her wirld, n sharin her mama/daddy. plus u godda remember, thats her place. I truely believe it'a all attitude.
Now if u put all the litter boxes side by side, n give em a week. wut happens. put plastic on the couch n cayanne pepper too, if u can. she wont' wanna go ther no more. u can always stand by the door and watch em. n if he tries any funny stuff wen she cums in then u can be ready with a spray bottle at him. if he iz u no. jus casually lean up again the door jam waitin n watchin. n u don't even godda chance him. it's very effective.
justa thot tho, iv'e dun this n it wirks well, n then in more time they jus learn they godda git along.
Guy Problem! Help Please I need Advice!?
I like this boy but I dont know if he likes me. Every time i stand next to him he backs away like he doesn't want anyone to know i likehim. He has a cute smile, smart, and humor. But he keeps getting alone with my friend but not me. I try to be nice and try to get along but he just looks uncomfortable. What should I do?
Guy Problem! Help Please I need Advice!?
I know that you don't want to hear this and I'm sorry but he's not worth your time or energy. Keep your eyes open though. There are plenty of fish in the sea.Guy Problem! Help Please I need Advice!?
srry i meant to type forget!
IGNORE him...then he'll bug you!wedding make up
Guy Problem! Help Please I need Advice!?
I know that you don't want to hear this and I'm sorry but he's not worth your time or energy. Keep your eyes open though. There are plenty of fish in the sea.Guy Problem! Help Please I need Advice!?
srry i meant to type forget!
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IGNORE him...then he'll bug you!
Advice with a girl friend problem - seriously confusing !?
I've got a man thank you . . .
And i'm okay with going ahead and doing SOMETHING so that we can get it over with, but how do I do this without scaring her or something lol .Advice with a girl friend problem - seriously confusing !?
If she plays sports she is probably quite comfortable showering with other girls and walking around nude.
Just because there is sexual tension between you doesn't mean you have to do anything about it. The attitude ';I just wwanna get it over with'; is a horrible reason to engage in sex.
Sex changes the nature of any relationship. Your innocent loving friendship will never be quite the same. I don't know why this is true, but I know that it is true in most if not all 'friends that become lovers.'
Please think this through. In addition to having sex with your friend you have the consequences of cheating on your bf. Things always get complicated. Go Slow.Advice with a girl friend problem - seriously confusing !?
I guess yall might as well give each other a taste not to be rude but why not
im a firm believer in enjoy your life while you can, just go do it , enjot it and get it over with. enjoy tour life dudette, try different things- =]
oh and by the way- did you know that int that whole question youve put ';im a private person';, and later on ';im an open person'; lmao =]
whatever floats your boat
just do it you might just like it
sounds to me like your both curious. id say just go ahead and get it over with instead of dragging it out. she has told you what she wants and you havent told her that your not interested. so go for it get it out the way and figure it out from there
Hiya,
Well, it seems a lot has obviously surfaced on the horizon due to the development and progression of everyday private habits being allowed to become shared intimately between seemingly 2 innocent 'girl friends'.
To both for example, shower together, visit the lavatory together, dress and undress together, for all the comfortable innocence that's clearly been claimed as approval from both parties, surely to a degree, this spells sexual chemistry
I think based on this, it's perfectly natural to be having these thoughts and feelings. Clearly, you have raised this question to the audience because there is now uncertainty. Why? Well, it's got to a stage, where seemingly, you now have feelings possibly on a romantic level, or just on the basis of sexual curiousity with this girl.
It seems from what you have represented, the relationship/friendship as it stands between both of you is bordering you both have a full on sexual encounter.
Now, of course there is an open to go ahead and it seems that part of you wants to, but I think at this stage, it's better to try and be sensible about this and therefore take a sensible and logical approach.
Your friend seems a more enthusiastic than you on this and it seems to be more apparent that she has not taken into consideration that you have or are already, in a relationship with a male.
Maybe she's more than contempt to share you, maybe it's just one big xperimentation to here.
A lot of can be just that sexual hot air.
For instance, just say if you go ahead with this, then the following day, you both realised it was the wrong move, then you don't need me to point out the impact it could cause both on your own friendship and your relationship with your boyfriend - is this seriously worth risking??
I think at this stage you need time apart from your 'girl' friend and focus on re-affirming sexual relations with your current boyfriend.
If it's just lust and impulse, then I personally wouldn't regard you in being a potential lesbian or even long term bi-sexual.
I think a lot of time will need to bed in before you will be certain of your feelings, principles and most importantly, your attitude and what you value in life.
If would urge your friend, if she is into girls, to approach somebody professional about this in order to be able to express her thoughts openly to somebody experience and who can give them a bit of perspective and guidance.
I hope this all helps and apologise for it being a long winded.
Cheers,
Liverred
tell her i'm not lesbian
and if she is ur friend
she will underrstand
You both need a man, and quick.
If you like men stay with that don't get caught in the moment and its just thoughts and if you have a boyfriend that still would be cheating so both of you need to stop touching each other and being naked around each other before somethingyou really rregrethappens
go and get laid :D lol go get urselfs some boyfriends and there
shes indenile and ur bi
just be honest as mush as u can girl , what u guys did was wrong, but tell her exactly how u feel,, blv me that will help,
Keep doing what your doing I guess. If you don't want to be with a girl in a relationship then you are looking for a female **** buddie. Nothing wrong with that. No chance of pregnancy!
Happy humping! :D
Alexa
Well, as i see it you can rather, just go along with her, what ever she wants, or you can run the show and take control, and do what pleases you.
or just stop the whole thing right now if you don't want it. to be honest i don't feel like im helping the situation, because i dont think i understand it fully.
And i'm okay with going ahead and doing SOMETHING so that we can get it over with, but how do I do this without scaring her or something lol .Advice with a girl friend problem - seriously confusing !?
If she plays sports she is probably quite comfortable showering with other girls and walking around nude.
Just because there is sexual tension between you doesn't mean you have to do anything about it. The attitude ';I just wwanna get it over with'; is a horrible reason to engage in sex.
Sex changes the nature of any relationship. Your innocent loving friendship will never be quite the same. I don't know why this is true, but I know that it is true in most if not all 'friends that become lovers.'
Please think this through. In addition to having sex with your friend you have the consequences of cheating on your bf. Things always get complicated. Go Slow.Advice with a girl friend problem - seriously confusing !?
I guess yall might as well give each other a taste not to be rude but why not
im a firm believer in enjoy your life while you can, just go do it , enjot it and get it over with. enjoy tour life dudette, try different things- =]
oh and by the way- did you know that int that whole question youve put ';im a private person';, and later on ';im an open person'; lmao =]
whatever floats your boat
just do it you might just like it
sounds to me like your both curious. id say just go ahead and get it over with instead of dragging it out. she has told you what she wants and you havent told her that your not interested. so go for it get it out the way and figure it out from there
Hiya,
Well, it seems a lot has obviously surfaced on the horizon due to the development and progression of everyday private habits being allowed to become shared intimately between seemingly 2 innocent 'girl friends'.
To both for example, shower together, visit the lavatory together, dress and undress together, for all the comfortable innocence that's clearly been claimed as approval from both parties, surely to a degree, this spells sexual chemistry
I think based on this, it's perfectly natural to be having these thoughts and feelings. Clearly, you have raised this question to the audience because there is now uncertainty. Why? Well, it's got to a stage, where seemingly, you now have feelings possibly on a romantic level, or just on the basis of sexual curiousity with this girl.
It seems from what you have represented, the relationship/friendship as it stands between both of you is bordering you both have a full on sexual encounter.
Now, of course there is an open to go ahead and it seems that part of you wants to, but I think at this stage, it's better to try and be sensible about this and therefore take a sensible and logical approach.
Your friend seems a more enthusiastic than you on this and it seems to be more apparent that she has not taken into consideration that you have or are already, in a relationship with a male.
Maybe she's more than contempt to share you, maybe it's just one big xperimentation to here.
A lot of can be just that sexual hot air.
For instance, just say if you go ahead with this, then the following day, you both realised it was the wrong move, then you don't need me to point out the impact it could cause both on your own friendship and your relationship with your boyfriend - is this seriously worth risking??
I think at this stage you need time apart from your 'girl' friend and focus on re-affirming sexual relations with your current boyfriend.
If it's just lust and impulse, then I personally wouldn't regard you in being a potential lesbian or even long term bi-sexual.
I think a lot of time will need to bed in before you will be certain of your feelings, principles and most importantly, your attitude and what you value in life.
If would urge your friend, if she is into girls, to approach somebody professional about this in order to be able to express her thoughts openly to somebody experience and who can give them a bit of perspective and guidance.
I hope this all helps and apologise for it being a long winded.
Cheers,
Liverred
tell her i'm not lesbian
and if she is ur friend
she will underrstand
You both need a man, and quick.
If you like men stay with that don't get caught in the moment and its just thoughts and if you have a boyfriend that still would be cheating so both of you need to stop touching each other and being naked around each other before somethingyou really rregrethappens
go and get laid :D lol go get urselfs some boyfriends and there
shes indenile and ur bi
just be honest as mush as u can girl , what u guys did was wrong, but tell her exactly how u feel,, blv me that will help,
Keep doing what your doing I guess. If you don't want to be with a girl in a relationship then you are looking for a female **** buddie. Nothing wrong with that. No chance of pregnancy!
Happy humping! :D
Alexa
Well, as i see it you can rather, just go along with her, what ever she wants, or you can run the show and take control, and do what pleases you.
or just stop the whole thing right now if you don't want it. to be honest i don't feel like im helping the situation, because i dont think i understand it fully.
Advice needed on annoying back problem?
My boyfriend and I were in a car crash two years ago, where we had a head on collision. I suffered shock and a bit of whiplash, and have had intermittant back problems ever since.
I find that my lower back starts to ache painfully if I hold a position for a while (ie: standing up but leaning forward slightly when washing the dishes). It generally calms down after a day or two, but can occasionally be bad enough to have me out of action for the day.
Is this directly linked to the whiplash? Any advice?
I didn't go to hospital after the crash as I didn't think it was bad enough to warrant it and didn't want to waste their time...Advice needed on annoying back problem?
People with herniated disks have that problem...go see your PC for a referal to an orthopedic doctor.Advice needed on annoying back problem?
My advice would be to see a physician. You should find out what is causing the pain. There could be alot of things causing the pain and the only way to find out is to be examined/x-rayed.
You may want to consider your posture even while doing the dishes, spread your legs a little to place your back straighter as some people stoop over the sink. Watch out when reading you dont kink your neck down raise what your reading to make it at more ease. Yes i say visit a doctor whom may assist in your recovery take care you only get one back, change your life to addapt smartly not harsh on you.
go to an orthopedics doc. the problem is not going to go away on its own.
I'm 46 now and my back is in great shape, thanks mainly to a great chiropractor, stretching and massage therapy. When I was in my late twenties I tore a disc in my lower back. It was horrible. Just tying my shoes was a nightmare. When I was bent over tying them one day my back seized up and I couldn't straighten. I had to fall sideways onto the carpet and in a lot of pain straightened myself out. That was the last straw.(excuse that) I wasn't going to be crippled at my age. I was taking Tae Kwon Do so I had the exercise covered. I looked long and hard for the best chiropractor I could find and when I showed him my x-rays and he examined me I asked him if I could be fixed? He said yes but it would take two years and total commitment.
You only have one back. One body for that matter. I saw him for treatments 3-4 times a week. I went to a highly skilled massage therapist twice a week. It was almost exactly two years when I stopped all treatments. I was completey healed and a new man. It was a little exspensive but I'd spend it again if I had to. I've continued to stay in shape and stretch to keep my back in good condition. This is the cure. It's up to you to take your medicine.
I find that my lower back starts to ache painfully if I hold a position for a while (ie: standing up but leaning forward slightly when washing the dishes). It generally calms down after a day or two, but can occasionally be bad enough to have me out of action for the day.
Is this directly linked to the whiplash? Any advice?
I didn't go to hospital after the crash as I didn't think it was bad enough to warrant it and didn't want to waste their time...Advice needed on annoying back problem?
People with herniated disks have that problem...go see your PC for a referal to an orthopedic doctor.Advice needed on annoying back problem?
My advice would be to see a physician. You should find out what is causing the pain. There could be alot of things causing the pain and the only way to find out is to be examined/x-rayed.
You may want to consider your posture even while doing the dishes, spread your legs a little to place your back straighter as some people stoop over the sink. Watch out when reading you dont kink your neck down raise what your reading to make it at more ease. Yes i say visit a doctor whom may assist in your recovery take care you only get one back, change your life to addapt smartly not harsh on you.
go to an orthopedics doc. the problem is not going to go away on its own.
I'm 46 now and my back is in great shape, thanks mainly to a great chiropractor, stretching and massage therapy. When I was in my late twenties I tore a disc in my lower back. It was horrible. Just tying my shoes was a nightmare. When I was bent over tying them one day my back seized up and I couldn't straighten. I had to fall sideways onto the carpet and in a lot of pain straightened myself out. That was the last straw.(excuse that) I wasn't going to be crippled at my age. I was taking Tae Kwon Do so I had the exercise covered. I looked long and hard for the best chiropractor I could find and when I showed him my x-rays and he examined me I asked him if I could be fixed? He said yes but it would take two years and total commitment.
You only have one back. One body for that matter. I saw him for treatments 3-4 times a week. I went to a highly skilled massage therapist twice a week. It was almost exactly two years when I stopped all treatments. I was completey healed and a new man. It was a little exspensive but I'd spend it again if I had to. I've continued to stay in shape and stretch to keep my back in good condition. This is the cure. It's up to you to take your medicine.
Advice for cake decorating? Piping problem?
Hi, I'm just starting out in cake decorating and need some advice.
After a pipe a design in icing, there's always a raised point in the middle where the tip was picked up. This happens with every tip I use and I'm not sure why. I read that I'm supposed to completely stop squeezing the bag, then pull the tip away from the icing. That's what I've been doing, but I still have that raised icing tail at the end. How do I fix this?
I know you can use a moist toothpick to pat it down for some piping designs, but that doesn't work for star tip, etc. What can I do??
Thanks!Advice for cake decorating? Piping problem?
Don't be afraid to force the icing a little, short sharp moves are the best, and yes, no pressure when you raise the bag and pull the tip away. Even the best of decorators will have a tail, but make sure the icing is not too soft. Cornstarch is a cake decorators best friend at times like this so dip your finger into it to flatten that darn tail! Go to www.wilton.com for all these techniques, their Yearbooks are a fab investment.Advice for cake decorating? Piping problem?
I push down with the star tip before I raise it up. It will still have a small ';tail'; but not as bad.
wet your finger lightly and touch it, don't pull up but in the direction of the piping.......
After a pipe a design in icing, there's always a raised point in the middle where the tip was picked up. This happens with every tip I use and I'm not sure why. I read that I'm supposed to completely stop squeezing the bag, then pull the tip away from the icing. That's what I've been doing, but I still have that raised icing tail at the end. How do I fix this?
I know you can use a moist toothpick to pat it down for some piping designs, but that doesn't work for star tip, etc. What can I do??
Thanks!Advice for cake decorating? Piping problem?
Don't be afraid to force the icing a little, short sharp moves are the best, and yes, no pressure when you raise the bag and pull the tip away. Even the best of decorators will have a tail, but make sure the icing is not too soft. Cornstarch is a cake decorators best friend at times like this so dip your finger into it to flatten that darn tail! Go to www.wilton.com for all these techniques, their Yearbooks are a fab investment.Advice for cake decorating? Piping problem?
I push down with the star tip before I raise it up. It will still have a small ';tail'; but not as bad.
wet your finger lightly and touch it, don't pull up but in the direction of the piping.......
I need advice on this very twisted relationship problem?
Ok I told a friend that I liked this guy (Joe) she kept this a secret forever and still does she鈥檚 100% reliable. Then I decided to tell another friend because she was going to hook me up with someone else that I didn't like and telling her seemed to be the only way out. Well she told my crushes best friend that I liked Joe. Well the next day Joes best friend told his sister that I liked him not Joe and she told me. I told the friend that told that I liked Joe that his best friend is telling people that I liked him, so today she wrote him telling him that I liked Joe and not him.
Before school was out she asked if he read the note and he said he didn't, and I watched him and Joe drive away with a chick that likes Joe too, and now I'm scared of what鈥檚 going to happen. I want to change everything around cuz the girl that drove away with Joe and his friend is one of my friends and if she knows it will totally kill her. I was thinking when school starts on Monday I will tell Joe鈥檚 best friends sister to tell her brother that I don鈥檛 like him or Joe and every thing is a misunderstanding. Gosh, I don鈥檛 know what to do can anyone help me please!I need advice on this very twisted relationship problem?
You could get a job writing the scripts for Japanese manga.
Okay, I was going to leave the answer like that, but found it's not in me to be that cruel.
Your only hope is to come totally clean and tell Joe that you like him. Tell Joe's best friend that it was cruel of him to pretend that you liked him instead. Tell your friend (the one that rode off in the car) that you like Joe too. But it is obvious he likes her more since SHE was the one that got to leave with him in his car. You can even tell the best friend's sister that it was kind of her to try to help you.
And then tell them that you are leaving now, and you just hope you can live down the humiliation before you graduate. Then do it.
There is no sense lying. Lying only compounds the problem--makes it a whole lot worse. The truth may be embarrassing, but at least everyone will know the truth, and that's a good enough reason in it's own right.
Before school was out she asked if he read the note and he said he didn't, and I watched him and Joe drive away with a chick that likes Joe too, and now I'm scared of what鈥檚 going to happen. I want to change everything around cuz the girl that drove away with Joe and his friend is one of my friends and if she knows it will totally kill her. I was thinking when school starts on Monday I will tell Joe鈥檚 best friends sister to tell her brother that I don鈥檛 like him or Joe and every thing is a misunderstanding. Gosh, I don鈥檛 know what to do can anyone help me please!I need advice on this very twisted relationship problem?
You could get a job writing the scripts for Japanese manga.
Okay, I was going to leave the answer like that, but found it's not in me to be that cruel.
Your only hope is to come totally clean and tell Joe that you like him. Tell Joe's best friend that it was cruel of him to pretend that you liked him instead. Tell your friend (the one that rode off in the car) that you like Joe too. But it is obvious he likes her more since SHE was the one that got to leave with him in his car. You can even tell the best friend's sister that it was kind of her to try to help you.
And then tell them that you are leaving now, and you just hope you can live down the humiliation before you graduate. Then do it.
There is no sense lying. Lying only compounds the problem--makes it a whole lot worse. The truth may be embarrassing, but at least everyone will know the truth, and that's a good enough reason in it's own right.
I have a problem with a girlfriend and a best friend!! urgent if you're out there please give me some advice!!
I fancied this girl a few weeks ago. Then a really good friend of mine stepped in and made her open her heart to him - they were almost going to go out but there was a rumour going round that my old friend wanted to do impure things to her.....i feel out with him over it and thats how i got to know her. She reckons im really nice and stuff and i really want to go out with her but the only thing is she still has feelings for him - and despite knowing what he said they have decided to start over fresh. She likes me though - and my friend has no idea i fancy her.....its a sticky situation.
I don't want him to do anything bad to her and i might not be able to make her see sense!!! what can i do to detatch them and make sure shes safe [and to also open the door for me and her to go out?]????
Please help if you're out there i really need it :(I have a problem with a girlfriend and a best friend!! urgent if you're out there please give me some advice!!
Be a man! You need to toughen up my friend, softly soft approach might not serve you as well as you thinkI have a problem with a girlfriend and a best friend!! urgent if you're out there please give me some advice!!
it sounds like she chose him.. she wants to give him another chance so there isn't much you can do except be her friend.
Try being there for her whilst shes with your friend, don't lose the friendship you've already got!
Then, when it all goes wrong with him *and if hes like that, then it will* step in and be her prince charming! Always be there to show her that there IS someone better for her!
So you want to make her safe from him?
Is this so she can be unsafe with you?
All is fair in love and war and you lost out. TOUGH.
I'm sure whatever 'impure' things he is doing with her is exactly what you'de like to be doing!
Go out with someone else!! Girls usually get more interested if they cant get what they really want! That way ul kno if she does have genuine feelings for u! But its best going out with a gud female friend rather than someone who has the hots for you in a serious way....u dont want to be leading an innocent astray and getting a bad name for yourself!
Let nature take its course with ur friend %26amp; ur fancy bit, im sorry but she doesnt sound all that trustworthy if shes going out with ur m8 %26amp; spilling her feelings to u! If u were with her now, how secure would u b in that relationship?!
well, have you told her how you feel? And i wouldnt break it up if you do i have a feeling that your not going to get her. she is going to be wondering what if... about him. so let her go thru the heartache i know its hard to watch but be there for her thru it. that is the only way she is going to know that he isnt no good for her. they say you learn from your mistakes and she will soon but dont get into their relationship she is going to have to learn on her own.but dont distance yourself be there for her but make sure you tell her how you feel about her and let her know you want to be with her and your going to be there for her and wait for her.
did you friend know you fancied her before they stated dating. if yes go for it, if not back and dont hate the player, hate the game.
Remember: Bros before Hos!
If they have had problems in the past they will again. Don't get in the way just be there for her and perhaps she will see that you are the one for her. But if he is a really good friend of yours you better not even go there..Because it takes a lifetime to bulid up trust and only seconds to destroy it.
I don't want him to do anything bad to her and i might not be able to make her see sense!!! what can i do to detatch them and make sure shes safe [and to also open the door for me and her to go out?]????
Please help if you're out there i really need it :(I have a problem with a girlfriend and a best friend!! urgent if you're out there please give me some advice!!
Be a man! You need to toughen up my friend, softly soft approach might not serve you as well as you thinkI have a problem with a girlfriend and a best friend!! urgent if you're out there please give me some advice!!
it sounds like she chose him.. she wants to give him another chance so there isn't much you can do except be her friend.
Try being there for her whilst shes with your friend, don't lose the friendship you've already got!
Then, when it all goes wrong with him *and if hes like that, then it will* step in and be her prince charming! Always be there to show her that there IS someone better for her!
So you want to make her safe from him?
Is this so she can be unsafe with you?
All is fair in love and war and you lost out. TOUGH.
I'm sure whatever 'impure' things he is doing with her is exactly what you'de like to be doing!
Go out with someone else!! Girls usually get more interested if they cant get what they really want! That way ul kno if she does have genuine feelings for u! But its best going out with a gud female friend rather than someone who has the hots for you in a serious way....u dont want to be leading an innocent astray and getting a bad name for yourself!
Let nature take its course with ur friend %26amp; ur fancy bit, im sorry but she doesnt sound all that trustworthy if shes going out with ur m8 %26amp; spilling her feelings to u! If u were with her now, how secure would u b in that relationship?!
well, have you told her how you feel? And i wouldnt break it up if you do i have a feeling that your not going to get her. she is going to be wondering what if... about him. so let her go thru the heartache i know its hard to watch but be there for her thru it. that is the only way she is going to know that he isnt no good for her. they say you learn from your mistakes and she will soon but dont get into their relationship she is going to have to learn on her own.but dont distance yourself be there for her but make sure you tell her how you feel about her and let her know you want to be with her and your going to be there for her and wait for her.
did you friend know you fancied her before they stated dating. if yes go for it, if not back and dont hate the player, hate the game.
Remember: Bros before Hos!
If they have had problems in the past they will again. Don't get in the way just be there for her and perhaps she will see that you are the one for her. But if he is a really good friend of yours you better not even go there..Because it takes a lifetime to bulid up trust and only seconds to destroy it.
I having problem that their is no heat in my penis as well as i also lose control with my coupls pls advice?
hi ,
my age in 35 and 11 year for my marriage i am losing control on sex, their is no heat in my penis and my partner not enjoyed as well me so pls guideI having problem that their is no heat in my penis as well as i also lose control with my coupls pls advice?
I sugggest that you start out with a checkup with your physician to make sure that no physical conditions such as prostate cancer are causing difficulties. If your physician says all is well then talk to him about some of the new drugs available for Erectile Disfunction such as Viagra.
Good luck, I hope all is well.I having problem that their is no heat in my penis as well as i also lose control with my coupls pls advice?
I'm not selling anything like the person who answered above me, but it seems like you may have some sort of erectile dysfunction.
See a doctor, and he can prescribe something to sort you out.
Good luck!
a/ Stop sugar based food
B/ stop smoking
C/ walk 20min non stop a day if you sedentary type person
d/ take your wife out for a couple day in a resort.
e/ sleep and relax a max 9h/night
F/check if it happen with another lady,if yes considere seeing a doctor.not intended to offense your wife.plse
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my age in 35 and 11 year for my marriage i am losing control on sex, their is no heat in my penis and my partner not enjoyed as well me so pls guideI having problem that their is no heat in my penis as well as i also lose control with my coupls pls advice?
I sugggest that you start out with a checkup with your physician to make sure that no physical conditions such as prostate cancer are causing difficulties. If your physician says all is well then talk to him about some of the new drugs available for Erectile Disfunction such as Viagra.
Good luck, I hope all is well.I having problem that their is no heat in my penis as well as i also lose control with my coupls pls advice?
I'm not selling anything like the person who answered above me, but it seems like you may have some sort of erectile dysfunction.
See a doctor, and he can prescribe something to sort you out.
Good luck!
a/ Stop sugar based food
B/ stop smoking
C/ walk 20min non stop a day if you sedentary type person
d/ take your wife out for a couple day in a resort.
e/ sleep and relax a max 9h/night
F/check if it happen with another lady,if yes considere seeing a doctor.not intended to offense your wife.plse
Your problem is small matter. I advice you take 1 pack Extremen products everyday drinking. A few day you can get the result...your penis can more powerful back to normal. Products guaranteed and satisfaction. Please, order and fill your information in the form......register free and get products.
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Question for non drug users only - relationship advice. I'm having a problem with my boyfriend!?
We met about 2 years ago %26amp; everything was great.The only thing is he smoked pot when we met.He said I was all the high he needed %26amp; that he would quit if we were together.We have a 5 month old now.I want him 2 grow up.He's 25 years old %26amp; because of his habit I have no respect for him %26amp; basically think he's an idiot.I hate feelin like this becuz I do love him.I just want him 2 stop.He's been tellin me for 2 years,I'll quit by myself when I'm ready.No change.He told me he's only been doin it about once a month.So I got ahold of his drug dealer who I found out was one of our mutual friends %26amp; squeezed out of him that he's been spendin about $40/week on it and buyin it once or twice a week.I told him it was the drugs or me %26amp; he said u know where the door is!I'm tryin 2 figure out what Im doing.He keeps cryin %26amp; gettin upset %26amp; askin me 2 stay.He says he wants me here becuz he loves me so much but he wants 2 do whatever he wants.I don't want my baby thinkin my dad is a loser.she deserves betterQuestion for non drug users only - relationship advice. I'm having a problem with my boyfriend!?
You won't like my answer. You have to split. He will not change until he is ready and that may be never. I heard the exact same things from my ex. I stuck around because I believed in him and I loved him too, although now I can't remember why. I lost respect for him as well and thought he was a moron. Eventually I couldn't stand the sight of him because he was wasting a promising life and trying to take me with him.
Baby comes first now; she can't grow up in an environment where drugs are ok, esp since they are not okay with you. If he uses around the baby, it will hurt her development. She will grow up watching the both of you and learn that it is okay for her to be in a relationship where she and what she wants is not respected. There is also the chance that if he gets busted you'll go down with him. An over-eager social worker could take the baby. I'm not trying to scare you, you just have to think of the consequences.
This is going to sound quite harsh, but he loves the drugs more than he loves you or the baby. No matter how many tears he sheds, that's the truth. He's got to go. He will know you are serious when you split. If he doesn't decide to change by then, you and the baby are not enough incentive to make him want to change.
No matter how much you love him he won't change until he is ready, which may be never. I heard that from every professional I talked to. I didn't want to believe them because I thought my ex could be one of those people who succeeded in getting clean, but he didn't want to. After I left, I was amazed at how many people told me how great and how happy I looked. They asked what I did and I told them I left my husband.
You can do this. You and the baby deserve to be in a safe and loving and happy home. It's not that he doesn't love you or the baby enough. He just doesn't love himself.Question for non drug users only - relationship advice. I'm having a problem with my boyfriend!?
First of all when it comes to an addict they will only quit if they want to there is nothing you can do or anyone can do tomake them quit. They have to want to quit for themselves. Your child doesnt need to be around that if he cant quit then leave him. I know its hard but when he told you to leave he told his chil to leave. Your child is more important. Put your love aside and think about your child. What if the cops find him and he has that on him.
Bail out, unless u use too. otherwise keep being a sponge.
It looks like you got together with someone that is just like dear old DAD, sheeesh!! That always happens. One thing you might consider is look at the GEEEKESS person you can find and he will make you happy because he will be the opposite of dear old DAD.
the foolish one in the relationship is you. If you married him thinking he would change, well, shame on you. When you marry someone you accept them as they are. You obviously didn't do that. It's obvious he isn't going to change or grow up until he is good and ready to do so, nothing you say or do is going to change that. You have a daughter to be concerned about now, another foolish mistake in my opinion as obviously neither you or he were ready for the responsibility, but be that as it may, she has to be your first concern. Growing up with a drug addict is NOT a good life. Get out now, take her with you.
Couple of things. I don't do drugs, biggest drug I do is alcohol, and I was a late bloomer, so I'm not big on drugs as a personal choice, if it's against the law, there's a good reason. Breaking the law is crossing a line that's questionable. Now if they change the law and alcohol is illegal once again, I might have problems. LOL. That aside, pot is not a heavy drug, as in most people can continue to go about their daily life, responsibilities etc and it doesn't consume them and make them do horrible things like some other drug addictions. So bascially, what you are dealing with is the principal of the thing....and you should know that to expect someone to change just because they are married, well it hardly ever happens. He's only going to change when or if he feels like it's important. So he likes pot, it helps him relax or whatever. All tha said, do you think you can compromise? Is he a great husband and Dad otherwise? Ask him if he's willing to do the pot only at certain times, so that YOU know when, and you can make sure baby is safe etc....if it's scheduled and the kid is properly safe, then that's a compromise that hopefully the two of you can work around. If you really are completely against it, then now is the time to separate, because the older the child gets, the harder a split to his family will be. Good Luck, hope something I said helped.
You won't like my answer. You have to split. He will not change until he is ready and that may be never. I heard the exact same things from my ex. I stuck around because I believed in him and I loved him too, although now I can't remember why. I lost respect for him as well and thought he was a moron. Eventually I couldn't stand the sight of him because he was wasting a promising life and trying to take me with him.
Baby comes first now; she can't grow up in an environment where drugs are ok, esp since they are not okay with you. If he uses around the baby, it will hurt her development. She will grow up watching the both of you and learn that it is okay for her to be in a relationship where she and what she wants is not respected. There is also the chance that if he gets busted you'll go down with him. An over-eager social worker could take the baby. I'm not trying to scare you, you just have to think of the consequences.
This is going to sound quite harsh, but he loves the drugs more than he loves you or the baby. No matter how many tears he sheds, that's the truth. He's got to go. He will know you are serious when you split. If he doesn't decide to change by then, you and the baby are not enough incentive to make him want to change.
No matter how much you love him he won't change until he is ready, which may be never. I heard that from every professional I talked to. I didn't want to believe them because I thought my ex could be one of those people who succeeded in getting clean, but he didn't want to. After I left, I was amazed at how many people told me how great and how happy I looked. They asked what I did and I told them I left my husband.
You can do this. You and the baby deserve to be in a safe and loving and happy home. It's not that he doesn't love you or the baby enough. He just doesn't love himself.Question for non drug users only - relationship advice. I'm having a problem with my boyfriend!?
First of all when it comes to an addict they will only quit if they want to there is nothing you can do or anyone can do tomake them quit. They have to want to quit for themselves. Your child doesnt need to be around that if he cant quit then leave him. I know its hard but when he told you to leave he told his chil to leave. Your child is more important. Put your love aside and think about your child. What if the cops find him and he has that on him.
Bail out, unless u use too. otherwise keep being a sponge.
It looks like you got together with someone that is just like dear old DAD, sheeesh!! That always happens. One thing you might consider is look at the GEEEKESS person you can find and he will make you happy because he will be the opposite of dear old DAD.
the foolish one in the relationship is you. If you married him thinking he would change, well, shame on you. When you marry someone you accept them as they are. You obviously didn't do that. It's obvious he isn't going to change or grow up until he is good and ready to do so, nothing you say or do is going to change that. You have a daughter to be concerned about now, another foolish mistake in my opinion as obviously neither you or he were ready for the responsibility, but be that as it may, she has to be your first concern. Growing up with a drug addict is NOT a good life. Get out now, take her with you.
Couple of things. I don't do drugs, biggest drug I do is alcohol, and I was a late bloomer, so I'm not big on drugs as a personal choice, if it's against the law, there's a good reason. Breaking the law is crossing a line that's questionable. Now if they change the law and alcohol is illegal once again, I might have problems. LOL. That aside, pot is not a heavy drug, as in most people can continue to go about their daily life, responsibilities etc and it doesn't consume them and make them do horrible things like some other drug addictions. So bascially, what you are dealing with is the principal of the thing....and you should know that to expect someone to change just because they are married, well it hardly ever happens. He's only going to change when or if he feels like it's important. So he likes pot, it helps him relax or whatever. All tha said, do you think you can compromise? Is he a great husband and Dad otherwise? Ask him if he's willing to do the pot only at certain times, so that YOU know when, and you can make sure baby is safe etc....if it's scheduled and the kid is properly safe, then that's a compromise that hopefully the two of you can work around. If you really are completely against it, then now is the time to separate, because the older the child gets, the harder a split to his family will be. Good Luck, hope something I said helped.
Advice/Help for a cat problem?
I have one 13 old female cat and recently about 2 months ago took in two 6 year old male cats that I will be taking care of for one year.
For the first month, month and 1/2 there was no problems between them but recently my older cat has started using the couch as her litter box.
Of the two male cats, 1, Flannel, has had no problems with my older cat. The other, Pogo, has sometimes been chasing her, I don't believe aggressively but perhaps playfully. Recently he has been hanging around the room where I keep her litter box and since he's in there she won't go in. I moved the boys litter box to a different room but the problem with my older cat has gotten so bad that I have to take her to the litter box myself and make sure Pogo doesn't bother her.
I'm not sure if he's hanging around that room to prevent her or she just doesn't want to go near him and thus using my couch as a her crapping ground.
Anyone have any advice to help solve this problem?Advice/Help for a cat problem?
tip #1. to get rid of any of the cat pee scent - especially on clothes %26amp; bedding - use arm %26amp; hammer detergent. It's baking soda based so it gets rid of all kitty's urine smell.
I had a cat like this named Meu (me-you), and at first it was a bit of a challenge to figure out why she was going everywhere, and then with the help of our vet we quickly solved the problem :-). In Meu's case - it was fear of being attacked by other playful cats when she wanted to do her business. Cat's like us, like their privacy - that's why they cover their litter in the first place.
http://cats.about.com/cs/litterboxproble鈥?/a>
http://marvistavet.com/html/body_feline_鈥?/a>
Try and work this out - she's really well worth your time. A healthy happy kitty is an amazing thing. The pound is never the answer.Advice/Help for a cat problem?
the general rule of thumb is one litter box per cat.. ideally in at least 2 different parts of the home.
the way i see it. she's got a big attitude bout u bringin them up in her wirld, n sharin her mama/daddy. plus u godda remember, thats her place. I truely believe it'a all attitude.
Now if u put all the litter boxes side by side, n give em a week. wut happens. put plastic on the couch n cayanne pepper too, if u can. she wont' wanna go ther no more. u can always stand by the door and watch em. n if he tries any funny stuff wen she cums in then u can be ready with a spray bottle at him. if he iz u no. jus casually lean up again the door jam waitin n watchin. n u don't even godda chance him. it's very effective.
justa thot tho, iv'e dun this n it wirks well, n then in more time they jus learn they godda git along.
For the first month, month and 1/2 there was no problems between them but recently my older cat has started using the couch as her litter box.
Of the two male cats, 1, Flannel, has had no problems with my older cat. The other, Pogo, has sometimes been chasing her, I don't believe aggressively but perhaps playfully. Recently he has been hanging around the room where I keep her litter box and since he's in there she won't go in. I moved the boys litter box to a different room but the problem with my older cat has gotten so bad that I have to take her to the litter box myself and make sure Pogo doesn't bother her.
I'm not sure if he's hanging around that room to prevent her or she just doesn't want to go near him and thus using my couch as a her crapping ground.
Anyone have any advice to help solve this problem?Advice/Help for a cat problem?
tip #1. to get rid of any of the cat pee scent - especially on clothes %26amp; bedding - use arm %26amp; hammer detergent. It's baking soda based so it gets rid of all kitty's urine smell.
I had a cat like this named Meu (me-you), and at first it was a bit of a challenge to figure out why she was going everywhere, and then with the help of our vet we quickly solved the problem :-). In Meu's case - it was fear of being attacked by other playful cats when she wanted to do her business. Cat's like us, like their privacy - that's why they cover their litter in the first place.
http://cats.about.com/cs/litterboxproble鈥?/a>
http://marvistavet.com/html/body_feline_鈥?/a>
Try and work this out - she's really well worth your time. A healthy happy kitty is an amazing thing. The pound is never the answer.Advice/Help for a cat problem?
the general rule of thumb is one litter box per cat.. ideally in at least 2 different parts of the home.
the way i see it. she's got a big attitude bout u bringin them up in her wirld, n sharin her mama/daddy. plus u godda remember, thats her place. I truely believe it'a all attitude.
Now if u put all the litter boxes side by side, n give em a week. wut happens. put plastic on the couch n cayanne pepper too, if u can. she wont' wanna go ther no more. u can always stand by the door and watch em. n if he tries any funny stuff wen she cums in then u can be ready with a spray bottle at him. if he iz u no. jus casually lean up again the door jam waitin n watchin. n u don't even godda chance him. it's very effective.
justa thot tho, iv'e dun this n it wirks well, n then in more time they jus learn they godda git along.
Guy Problem! Help Please I need Advice!?
I like this boy but I dont know if he likes me. Every time i stand next to him he backs away like he doesn't want anyone to know i likehim. He has a cute smile, smart, and humor. But he keeps getting alone with my friend but not me. I try to be nice and try to get along but he just looks uncomfortable. What should I do?
Guy Problem! Help Please I need Advice!?
I know that you don't want to hear this and I'm sorry but he's not worth your time or energy. Keep your eyes open though. There are plenty of fish in the sea.Guy Problem! Help Please I need Advice!?
srry i meant to type forget!
IGNORE him...then he'll bug you!
Guy Problem! Help Please I need Advice!?
I know that you don't want to hear this and I'm sorry but he's not worth your time or energy. Keep your eyes open though. There are plenty of fish in the sea.Guy Problem! Help Please I need Advice!?
srry i meant to type forget!
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IGNORE him...then he'll bug you!
Advice with a girl friend problem - seriously confusing !?
I've got a man thank you . . .
And i'm okay with going ahead and doing SOMETHING so that we can get it over with, but how do I do this without scaring her or something lol .Advice with a girl friend problem - seriously confusing !?
just be honest as mush as u can girl , what u guys did was wrong, but tell her exactly how u feel,, blv me that will help,Advice with a girl friend problem - seriously confusing !?
im a firm believer in enjoy your life while you can, just go do it , enjot it and get it over with. enjoy tour life dudette, try different things- =]
oh and by the way- did you know that int that whole question youve put ';im a private person';, and later on ';im an open person'; lmao =]
whatever floats your boat
Keep doing what your doing I guess. If you don't want to be with a girl in a relationship then you are looking for a female **** buddie. Nothing wrong with that. No chance of pregnancy!
Happy humping! :D
Alexa
If you like men stay with that don't get caught in the moment and its just thoughts and if you have a boyfriend that still would be cheating so both of you need to stop touching each other and being naked around each other before somethingyou really rregrethappens
tell her i'm not lesbian
and if she is ur friend
she will underrstand
Hiya,
Well, it seems a lot has obviously surfaced on the horizon due to the development and progression of everyday private habits being allowed to become shared intimately between seemingly 2 innocent 'girl friends'.
To both for example, shower together, visit the lavatory together, dress and undress together, for all the comfortable innocence that's clearly been claimed as approval from both parties, surely to a degree, this spells sexual chemistry
I think based on this, it's perfectly natural to be having these thoughts and feelings. Clearly, you have raised this question to the audience because there is now uncertainty. Why? Well, it's got to a stage, where seemingly, you now have feelings possibly on a romantic level, or just on the basis of sexual curiousity with this girl.
It seems from what you have represented, the relationship/friendship as it stands between both of you is bordering you both have a full on sexual encounter.
Now, of course there is an open to go ahead and it seems that part of you wants to, but I think at this stage, it's better to try and be sensible about this and therefore take a sensible and logical approach.
Your friend seems a more enthusiastic than you on this and it seems to be more apparent that she has not taken into consideration that you have or are already, in a relationship with a male.
Maybe she's more than contempt to share you, maybe it's just one big xperimentation to here.
A lot of can be just that sexual hot air.
For instance, just say if you go ahead with this, then the following day, you both realised it was the wrong move, then you don't need me to point out the impact it could cause both on your own friendship and your relationship with your boyfriend - is this seriously worth risking??
I think at this stage you need time apart from your 'girl' friend and focus on re-affirming sexual relations with your current boyfriend.
If it's just lust and impulse, then I personally wouldn't regard you in being a potential lesbian or even long term bi-sexual.
I think a lot of time will need to bed in before you will be certain of your feelings, principles and most importantly, your attitude and what you value in life.
If would urge your friend, if she is into girls, to approach somebody professional about this in order to be able to express her thoughts openly to somebody experience and who can give them a bit of perspective and guidance.
I hope this all helps and apologise for it being a long winded.
Cheers,
Liverred
You both need a man, and quick.
just do it you might just like it
I guess yall might as well give each other a taste not to be rude but why not
go and get laid :D lol go get urselfs some boyfriends and there
Well, as i see it you can rather, just go along with her, what ever she wants, or you can run the show and take control, and do what pleases you.
or just stop the whole thing right now if you don't want it. to be honest i don't feel like im helping the situation, because i dont think i understand it fully.
If she plays sports she is probably quite comfortable showering with other girls and walking around nude.
Just because there is sexual tension between you doesn't mean you have to do anything about it. The attitude ';I just wwanna get it over with'; is a horrible reason to engage in sex.
Sex changes the nature of any relationship. Your innocent loving friendship will never be quite the same. I don't know why this is true, but I know that it is true in most if not all 'friends that become lovers.'
Please think this through. In addition to having sex with your friend you have the consequences of cheating on your bf. Things always get complicated. Go Slow.
shes indenile and ur bi
sounds to me like your both curious. id say just go ahead and get it over with instead of dragging it out. she has told you what she wants and you havent told her that your not interested. so go for it get it out the way and figure it out from there
And i'm okay with going ahead and doing SOMETHING so that we can get it over with, but how do I do this without scaring her or something lol .Advice with a girl friend problem - seriously confusing !?
just be honest as mush as u can girl , what u guys did was wrong, but tell her exactly how u feel,, blv me that will help,Advice with a girl friend problem - seriously confusing !?
im a firm believer in enjoy your life while you can, just go do it , enjot it and get it over with. enjoy tour life dudette, try different things- =]
oh and by the way- did you know that int that whole question youve put ';im a private person';, and later on ';im an open person'; lmao =]
whatever floats your boat
Keep doing what your doing I guess. If you don't want to be with a girl in a relationship then you are looking for a female **** buddie. Nothing wrong with that. No chance of pregnancy!
Happy humping! :D
Alexa
If you like men stay with that don't get caught in the moment and its just thoughts and if you have a boyfriend that still would be cheating so both of you need to stop touching each other and being naked around each other before somethingyou really rregrethappens
tell her i'm not lesbian
and if she is ur friend
she will underrstand
Hiya,
Well, it seems a lot has obviously surfaced on the horizon due to the development and progression of everyday private habits being allowed to become shared intimately between seemingly 2 innocent 'girl friends'.
To both for example, shower together, visit the lavatory together, dress and undress together, for all the comfortable innocence that's clearly been claimed as approval from both parties, surely to a degree, this spells sexual chemistry
I think based on this, it's perfectly natural to be having these thoughts and feelings. Clearly, you have raised this question to the audience because there is now uncertainty. Why? Well, it's got to a stage, where seemingly, you now have feelings possibly on a romantic level, or just on the basis of sexual curiousity with this girl.
It seems from what you have represented, the relationship/friendship as it stands between both of you is bordering you both have a full on sexual encounter.
Now, of course there is an open to go ahead and it seems that part of you wants to, but I think at this stage, it's better to try and be sensible about this and therefore take a sensible and logical approach.
Your friend seems a more enthusiastic than you on this and it seems to be more apparent that she has not taken into consideration that you have or are already, in a relationship with a male.
Maybe she's more than contempt to share you, maybe it's just one big xperimentation to here.
A lot of can be just that sexual hot air.
For instance, just say if you go ahead with this, then the following day, you both realised it was the wrong move, then you don't need me to point out the impact it could cause both on your own friendship and your relationship with your boyfriend - is this seriously worth risking??
I think at this stage you need time apart from your 'girl' friend and focus on re-affirming sexual relations with your current boyfriend.
If it's just lust and impulse, then I personally wouldn't regard you in being a potential lesbian or even long term bi-sexual.
I think a lot of time will need to bed in before you will be certain of your feelings, principles and most importantly, your attitude and what you value in life.
If would urge your friend, if she is into girls, to approach somebody professional about this in order to be able to express her thoughts openly to somebody experience and who can give them a bit of perspective and guidance.
I hope this all helps and apologise for it being a long winded.
Cheers,
Liverred
You both need a man, and quick.
just do it you might just like it
I guess yall might as well give each other a taste not to be rude but why not
go and get laid :D lol go get urselfs some boyfriends and there
Well, as i see it you can rather, just go along with her, what ever she wants, or you can run the show and take control, and do what pleases you.
or just stop the whole thing right now if you don't want it. to be honest i don't feel like im helping the situation, because i dont think i understand it fully.
If she plays sports she is probably quite comfortable showering with other girls and walking around nude.
Just because there is sexual tension between you doesn't mean you have to do anything about it. The attitude ';I just wwanna get it over with'; is a horrible reason to engage in sex.
Sex changes the nature of any relationship. Your innocent loving friendship will never be quite the same. I don't know why this is true, but I know that it is true in most if not all 'friends that become lovers.'
Please think this through. In addition to having sex with your friend you have the consequences of cheating on your bf. Things always get complicated. Go Slow.
shes indenile and ur bi
sounds to me like your both curious. id say just go ahead and get it over with instead of dragging it out. she has told you what she wants and you havent told her that your not interested. so go for it get it out the way and figure it out from there
House A/C problem, blowing only warm air! NEED ADVICE!?
For some reason, my house A/C is blowing warm air. The thermostat is at 75 degrees but it feels more like 90 degrees. What do you guys think is the problem?House A/C problem, blowing only warm air! NEED ADVICE!?
Is it frozen? How hot is it outside? I live in Texas and even though i keep my a/c down at 69, during the day the temp is at 80. Of course, at the least, my coils and condenser need to cleaned, if not replaced. It also my just need to be charged. House A/C problem, blowing only warm air! NEED ADVICE!?
maybe the air filters are dirty
Is it frozen? How hot is it outside? I live in Texas and even though i keep my a/c down at 69, during the day the temp is at 80. Of course, at the least, my coils and condenser need to cleaned, if not replaced. It also my just need to be charged. House A/C problem, blowing only warm air! NEED ADVICE!?
maybe the air filters are dirty
Advice on this school fighting problem i have?
At school I have this classmate who acts weird to get attention. At lunch he told me that I would never have a chance at a girlfriend blah blah blah, so I want to kill him. One of my other classmates had a boxing match thing planned at his house and my problem classmate was going to be there as well. I said I would be there, but when I got home my dad has told me that I can't come. I don't like pain and I don't like fighting, but I think I should come to this boxing thing.
Heres what I think are my options.
1) Ignore my dad and fight him
2) Say I can't go
3) Plan something else.
4) Ask if we can do it another time and not tell my parents.
I'm not happy with options 2 3 because it looks like I am backing down.
Answerers, I want to know if you can come up with another option.
And, give me advice on what I should do or a brilliant idea.
I would never start a fight with anyone for no reason, and we do not have a personal history. Thanks to those who answer.Advice on this school fighting problem i have?
just beat them up in school. but be sure you have enough evidence to tell the principal so you dont just get yourself in trouble and not the other guy.
if u can provoke the other guy into punching youwedding make up
Heres what I think are my options.
1) Ignore my dad and fight him
2) Say I can't go
3) Plan something else.
4) Ask if we can do it another time and not tell my parents.
I'm not happy with options 2 3 because it looks like I am backing down.
Answerers, I want to know if you can come up with another option.
And, give me advice on what I should do or a brilliant idea.
I would never start a fight with anyone for no reason, and we do not have a personal history. Thanks to those who answer.Advice on this school fighting problem i have?
just beat them up in school. but be sure you have enough evidence to tell the principal so you dont just get yourself in trouble and not the other guy.
if u can provoke the other guy into punching you
Advice Please Concerning Log Book Problem- very complicated!!?
I purchased a Lambretta about 4 years ago and have a very complicated problem:
The bike was sold to the person I bought the bike from in 1999 and the original seller signed the forms on sale but gave the buyer the forms to sign and send off to the DVLA. The buyer did not sign and send off so when I purchased the bike from him the form given to me still had the original owner signature on dated 1999. As I did not buy from the original seller I just filed the paperwork as I planned to do the bike up.
Anyway 4 years down the line I have not been on the bike as did not have the time to take my test and in the mean time have lost the form mentioned above. Therefore I think the bike will still be registered in the persons name that sold in 1999. I obviously wish to sort out this mess but not sure how as the form is now missing and registered in an old owner name with DVLA.
Someone said that if i explain to DVLA I could get in trouble as i have had the bike 4 yrs and not registered the bike as off road???
Even if i find the form I cannot complete as new owner as still has seller signature on from 1999 and will obviously look odd if i sign the document 9 yrs later!!!
Any ideas how I should go about clearing the problem up so I can register the bike to either sell on or ride myself once ive taken bike test??
Thank youAdvice Please Concerning Log Book Problem- very complicated!!?
You should never buy a motor vehicle without getting a merchantable title from the seller. What happened was the person you bought the bike from ';jumped'; the title, which is illegal. You need to go back to your seller and insist on a merchantable title. It's up to him and is his problem to provide one to you. If that all fails, you need to explain to your DMV. Good luck, I think you will need it.
The bike was sold to the person I bought the bike from in 1999 and the original seller signed the forms on sale but gave the buyer the forms to sign and send off to the DVLA. The buyer did not sign and send off so when I purchased the bike from him the form given to me still had the original owner signature on dated 1999. As I did not buy from the original seller I just filed the paperwork as I planned to do the bike up.
Anyway 4 years down the line I have not been on the bike as did not have the time to take my test and in the mean time have lost the form mentioned above. Therefore I think the bike will still be registered in the persons name that sold in 1999. I obviously wish to sort out this mess but not sure how as the form is now missing and registered in an old owner name with DVLA.
Someone said that if i explain to DVLA I could get in trouble as i have had the bike 4 yrs and not registered the bike as off road???
Even if i find the form I cannot complete as new owner as still has seller signature on from 1999 and will obviously look odd if i sign the document 9 yrs later!!!
Any ideas how I should go about clearing the problem up so I can register the bike to either sell on or ride myself once ive taken bike test??
Thank youAdvice Please Concerning Log Book Problem- very complicated!!?
You should never buy a motor vehicle without getting a merchantable title from the seller. What happened was the person you bought the bike from ';jumped'; the title, which is illegal. You need to go back to your seller and insist on a merchantable title. It's up to him and is his problem to provide one to you. If that all fails, you need to explain to your DMV. Good luck, I think you will need it.
Advice for my plumbing/renting problem?
I rented a house for a year from a terrible property management company. They were horrible with maintenance, sent collection notices before they sent the bills they were meant to collect on... you get the idea. A nightmare to work with.
A couple months ago I peeled two or three carrots into the sink and ran the skins through the garbage disposal, which clogged the sink. I called maintenance and they sent out a plumber the next day, I think. The plumber took apart the pipes under the sink and showed me that the t-shaped connector pipe was contoured in such a way on the inside that it actually restricted the space on the inside by half or more. He replaced those connector pipes with different ones that were fully open on the inside, and even ran the carrot waste back through it to verify that it was working properly (which it was).
Today I got a bill from the property management company for $195 because apparently the plumber stated on his invoice to them that it was ';caused by the tenant.';
Of course it happened because I was using the disposal, but I don't believe I was using it improperly. And if it was my fault, then why would he have had to replace the existing pipes?
If it would have been my fault, it seems to me that he would have only had to unclog the drain and not replace any pipes. So why should I have to pay for more than just unclogging the drain?
I DO NOT want to pay this bill. I don't believe it should be my responsibility. I'm interested in hearing any and all opinions on this (even if you disagree with me), but I'm especially interested in hearing a plumber's take on the situation.
And just FYI, the house was probably built in the 1950s.
Do you think this bill should be my responsibility? Advice for my plumbing/renting problem?
I will answer this in a plumbing way and legal way. You might not like this though.
1st I have been in the field for 20years and this has happened ALOT over the years to customer's of mine and apartment's I deal with.
In a plumbers point of view. This would be correct that the pipe was split in half as you say. It was a very bad design that was used in the days. In newer homes you will not find this due to the fact of problems just like yours.
Now in a legal way. 95% of the time the bill is yours to pay. (SORRY)
If you read the contract you singed when you rented im sure its in there somewhere. But for the most part. The company will pay for a cloged sink/tub etc as long as it is due to normal build up of sludge over time. Meaning if the unit is 30yrs old and you have lived there for 5 yrs there is 25yrs of use in the pipes already. They cant make you pay for other peoples build up. Now if you cause a clog thats a different story. When the pipes were put in under your sink they were up to code. It was inspected and so on. Most people think if new things come out or a new set of rules that everything must be done the new way. THIS IS NOT TRUE. It only needs to be updated if you work on that section and so on.
Now even though it is really not your fault cuz im sure the pipes were split inside and the disposer is probley not the best. You still should give it your best shot to avoid the bill.
I would call the plumber who did the job and ask him to write why he used a different kind of pipe verse the old one. Point out to him. Am I correct to say with this pipe there is a much better chance of the unit clogging due to the pipe it self rather then me. Then i would let the company know. That you dont have a problem useing the disposer as directed and you would not use it in any other way. (Get online and go to the web site of the disposer and print the spec sheet along with other info regarding what and what not you should put into the disposer.) Even if you put 1 or 100 carrots into the unit it can only grind so much at a time. Therfor it is not going to put 100% more of the carrot down the drain at one time.
With all this tell the company and give it your best shot.
This is the only thing that might help you. But like I said they will pay for things that go wrong over time and use but they wont pay for something that happened in 5 minutes wheter you knew about the pipe or not unless you were told..
goodluckAdvice for my plumbing/renting problem?
I don't think you should have to pay it. Do you happen to still have the old pipes? If so I'd take pics of them and of the new ones, for evidence. You shouldn't have to pay for
improvement on their property.
Don't pay it. Let them sue you and go to court. Just because they sue you dosen't mean they win, but you have to show up in court and have you're ducks in a row when you do.
that good advice from moon j, but it is true you are pretty much stuck with the bill.
Your lease is a legal contract and will spell out the remedies for this. Maybe somewhere there is a clause to appeal any disputed charges. If so, call the management office and request an appeal form. State your reasons for appealing this charge in clear, concise and factual form. If there is no appeal process, you are pretty much out of luck save going to small claims court if they sue you for the amount owed.
This is really a legal question.
This is my opinion as a plumber. The peel caused the clog.
The pipes was installed a long time-ago and the plumber had to replace the pipes because when you open any old pipes...most of the times they had to put new ones in.
A good landlord will assume the whole billed. But if the management stipulate on the contract (lease) that any drain problem caused by the leasor will assume the whole bill. I think you are stuck with the bill.
A good nogotiator will speak to the management company and offer to
pay 1/2 of the bill because due to the large bill and the age of the pipes. You will compromise by paying halve. Perhaps they will go with that and please do tell them of the age of the pipes.
Be firm to tell them the Garbage Disposer grind up 3- carrot peels and
it supposed to handle more than that.
It's the wear and tear factor is considered normal. You didnot deliberately jammed up the pipes. There fore you should not even have to pay the bill. But willing to go 1/2. Peace.
If it had a standard deflector T which directs the material coming out of the disposal down as it travels through then that was a proper installation (unless it was turned sideways in which case it was the wrong T to begin with) and you should be liable for clogging it. Peelings from vegetables are notorious for getting caught at the deflector point. This would be your responsibility. I recommend never putting peelings down a disposal. Since the are thin they can slip thought the slots in the disposal without getting chopped up. If I do put some down it is a few strands at a time.
However, a concerning issue is that the plumber decided to replace parts. This then falls under the responsibility of the owner/management company. You should never be financially responsible for repair or modifications that were not broken by your fault.
This may be a situation where you may be liable for the portion of the bill in which the plumber cleaned out your clog but not for the modifications.
Also in question is the condition of the disposal itself. If the disposal is very old and worn it will not perform as it should and will not process food particles well. This can cause clogging as well.
Request a copy of the plumbers bill so you can review the charges. If it is not itemized, then request that the plumber reissue an itemized bill showing fees for clearing the clog and a separate fee for modifying the drain pipes.
Call the plumber and request the old part be returned to you for physical evidence of prior pipe damage.
If the plumber can not produce the old part and declines to testify prior pipe damage, you can refuse to pay the plumber. The plumber worked for you and desires to get paid by you. Notify the plumber he will not get paid unless he complies with the demands of his employer which is you.
Check around about subscribing to Prepaid Legal (PPL). For PPL you pay a monthly fee of approx $15 for unlimited legal assistance in handling personal professional matters and disputes like this. It sounds as if you will be needing PPL for the duration of your contract with property management.
Now there is an even better approach. If you anticipate further disputes to settle with Property Management, choose not to invest in PPL, and desire to resolve the unlimited number of disputes certain to arise with Property Management, there is one last but lasting resort for the common person with little resources other than internet.
Simply select any one of those many e-mails you get daily from your deceased relative in Africa. Choose to reply with urgency to comply to the fullest extent of the law to regain your lost fortune. It is of utmost importance to substitute for your own ID, the best known ID of the person you deal with in Property Management. Several substantial checks will be forwarded to said person in Property Management. The FIB and CAI will do the dirty work of your greatest desire and property management will become the hunted rather than the hunter.
It worked for me. Knox Place Apartments in Knoxville Tennessee doesn't exist anymore. Please have respect for the dead relatives in foreign countries. The dead shall rise again. There is no remorse like the remorse of dealing with a long lost rich dead relative that only lives in the imagination of some twenty persons sending me e-mail each week.
Of course you DON'T PAY THE BILL!
The whole thing is contradicting. Have you seen the actual bill sent by the plumber to Rent Management? My suggestion would be to call the plumbing company and ask for a copy of the bill to be sent to you personally. This would be after you talk to the plumber who did the job and ask him what he actually wrote on the bill. Explain to the plumber what Rent Management is telling you.
Obviously you can trust Rent Management like you can trust a rabid dog. Rend Management is responsible for paying the bill, simple as that. You didn't do anything wrong. Don't pay the bill just to get them off your back. That's what they count on. That $195.00 can be put to better use than paying a bill you're not responsible for.
If they keep hassling you about the bill then take it to small claims court. They also count on people not making a complaint, therefore they always wind up ahead of the game while the tenant takes the loss. Don't let them get away with something they don't have a right to.
A couple months ago I peeled two or three carrots into the sink and ran the skins through the garbage disposal, which clogged the sink. I called maintenance and they sent out a plumber the next day, I think. The plumber took apart the pipes under the sink and showed me that the t-shaped connector pipe was contoured in such a way on the inside that it actually restricted the space on the inside by half or more. He replaced those connector pipes with different ones that were fully open on the inside, and even ran the carrot waste back through it to verify that it was working properly (which it was).
Today I got a bill from the property management company for $195 because apparently the plumber stated on his invoice to them that it was ';caused by the tenant.';
Of course it happened because I was using the disposal, but I don't believe I was using it improperly. And if it was my fault, then why would he have had to replace the existing pipes?
If it would have been my fault, it seems to me that he would have only had to unclog the drain and not replace any pipes. So why should I have to pay for more than just unclogging the drain?
I DO NOT want to pay this bill. I don't believe it should be my responsibility. I'm interested in hearing any and all opinions on this (even if you disagree with me), but I'm especially interested in hearing a plumber's take on the situation.
And just FYI, the house was probably built in the 1950s.
Do you think this bill should be my responsibility? Advice for my plumbing/renting problem?
I will answer this in a plumbing way and legal way. You might not like this though.
1st I have been in the field for 20years and this has happened ALOT over the years to customer's of mine and apartment's I deal with.
In a plumbers point of view. This would be correct that the pipe was split in half as you say. It was a very bad design that was used in the days. In newer homes you will not find this due to the fact of problems just like yours.
Now in a legal way. 95% of the time the bill is yours to pay. (SORRY)
If you read the contract you singed when you rented im sure its in there somewhere. But for the most part. The company will pay for a cloged sink/tub etc as long as it is due to normal build up of sludge over time. Meaning if the unit is 30yrs old and you have lived there for 5 yrs there is 25yrs of use in the pipes already. They cant make you pay for other peoples build up. Now if you cause a clog thats a different story. When the pipes were put in under your sink they were up to code. It was inspected and so on. Most people think if new things come out or a new set of rules that everything must be done the new way. THIS IS NOT TRUE. It only needs to be updated if you work on that section and so on.
Now even though it is really not your fault cuz im sure the pipes were split inside and the disposer is probley not the best. You still should give it your best shot to avoid the bill.
I would call the plumber who did the job and ask him to write why he used a different kind of pipe verse the old one. Point out to him. Am I correct to say with this pipe there is a much better chance of the unit clogging due to the pipe it self rather then me. Then i would let the company know. That you dont have a problem useing the disposer as directed and you would not use it in any other way. (Get online and go to the web site of the disposer and print the spec sheet along with other info regarding what and what not you should put into the disposer.) Even if you put 1 or 100 carrots into the unit it can only grind so much at a time. Therfor it is not going to put 100% more of the carrot down the drain at one time.
With all this tell the company and give it your best shot.
This is the only thing that might help you. But like I said they will pay for things that go wrong over time and use but they wont pay for something that happened in 5 minutes wheter you knew about the pipe or not unless you were told..
goodluckAdvice for my plumbing/renting problem?
I don't think you should have to pay it. Do you happen to still have the old pipes? If so I'd take pics of them and of the new ones, for evidence. You shouldn't have to pay for
improvement on their property.
Don't pay it. Let them sue you and go to court. Just because they sue you dosen't mean they win, but you have to show up in court and have you're ducks in a row when you do.
that good advice from moon j, but it is true you are pretty much stuck with the bill.
Your lease is a legal contract and will spell out the remedies for this. Maybe somewhere there is a clause to appeal any disputed charges. If so, call the management office and request an appeal form. State your reasons for appealing this charge in clear, concise and factual form. If there is no appeal process, you are pretty much out of luck save going to small claims court if they sue you for the amount owed.
This is really a legal question.
This is my opinion as a plumber. The peel caused the clog.
The pipes was installed a long time-ago and the plumber had to replace the pipes because when you open any old pipes...most of the times they had to put new ones in.
A good landlord will assume the whole billed. But if the management stipulate on the contract (lease) that any drain problem caused by the leasor will assume the whole bill. I think you are stuck with the bill.
A good nogotiator will speak to the management company and offer to
pay 1/2 of the bill because due to the large bill and the age of the pipes. You will compromise by paying halve. Perhaps they will go with that and please do tell them of the age of the pipes.
Be firm to tell them the Garbage Disposer grind up 3- carrot peels and
it supposed to handle more than that.
It's the wear and tear factor is considered normal. You didnot deliberately jammed up the pipes. There fore you should not even have to pay the bill. But willing to go 1/2. Peace.
If it had a standard deflector T which directs the material coming out of the disposal down as it travels through then that was a proper installation (unless it was turned sideways in which case it was the wrong T to begin with) and you should be liable for clogging it. Peelings from vegetables are notorious for getting caught at the deflector point. This would be your responsibility. I recommend never putting peelings down a disposal. Since the are thin they can slip thought the slots in the disposal without getting chopped up. If I do put some down it is a few strands at a time.
However, a concerning issue is that the plumber decided to replace parts. This then falls under the responsibility of the owner/management company. You should never be financially responsible for repair or modifications that were not broken by your fault.
This may be a situation where you may be liable for the portion of the bill in which the plumber cleaned out your clog but not for the modifications.
Also in question is the condition of the disposal itself. If the disposal is very old and worn it will not perform as it should and will not process food particles well. This can cause clogging as well.
Request a copy of the plumbers bill so you can review the charges. If it is not itemized, then request that the plumber reissue an itemized bill showing fees for clearing the clog and a separate fee for modifying the drain pipes.
Call the plumber and request the old part be returned to you for physical evidence of prior pipe damage.
If the plumber can not produce the old part and declines to testify prior pipe damage, you can refuse to pay the plumber. The plumber worked for you and desires to get paid by you. Notify the plumber he will not get paid unless he complies with the demands of his employer which is you.
Check around about subscribing to Prepaid Legal (PPL). For PPL you pay a monthly fee of approx $15 for unlimited legal assistance in handling personal professional matters and disputes like this. It sounds as if you will be needing PPL for the duration of your contract with property management.
Now there is an even better approach. If you anticipate further disputes to settle with Property Management, choose not to invest in PPL, and desire to resolve the unlimited number of disputes certain to arise with Property Management, there is one last but lasting resort for the common person with little resources other than internet.
Simply select any one of those many e-mails you get daily from your deceased relative in Africa. Choose to reply with urgency to comply to the fullest extent of the law to regain your lost fortune. It is of utmost importance to substitute for your own ID, the best known ID of the person you deal with in Property Management. Several substantial checks will be forwarded to said person in Property Management. The FIB and CAI will do the dirty work of your greatest desire and property management will become the hunted rather than the hunter.
It worked for me. Knox Place Apartments in Knoxville Tennessee doesn't exist anymore. Please have respect for the dead relatives in foreign countries. The dead shall rise again. There is no remorse like the remorse of dealing with a long lost rich dead relative that only lives in the imagination of some twenty persons sending me e-mail each week.
Of course you DON'T PAY THE BILL!
The whole thing is contradicting. Have you seen the actual bill sent by the plumber to Rent Management? My suggestion would be to call the plumbing company and ask for a copy of the bill to be sent to you personally. This would be after you talk to the plumber who did the job and ask him what he actually wrote on the bill. Explain to the plumber what Rent Management is telling you.
Obviously you can trust Rent Management like you can trust a rabid dog. Rend Management is responsible for paying the bill, simple as that. You didn't do anything wrong. Don't pay the bill just to get them off your back. That's what they count on. That $195.00 can be put to better use than paying a bill you're not responsible for.
If they keep hassling you about the bill then take it to small claims court. They also count on people not making a complaint, therefore they always wind up ahead of the game while the tenant takes the loss. Don't let them get away with something they don't have a right to.
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