I have a personal problem and need your advice?

relocated with partner last year, has been a tough year which has affected us both as individuals %26amp; our relationship. neither of us feel like ourselves and haven't made any social connections.


we are planning extended holiday in summer %26amp; need some money %26amp; partner wants to return to hometown for 6 months to get ourselves sorted out and find some temporary work as is currently unemployed and no jobs here. he doesn't want to go without me but i love my job and don't want to give it up. also living in a very small town and the chances of finding something like this when we move back are slim. but given our current state - both very unhappy and broke - do I give up my dream job to go with him? or stay here and stick it out til the holiday - chancing our relationship? i worry that if we go %26amp; come back we will be in a worse position but is a job worth staying here alone - and miserable for?


i keep thinking i've made my mind up then having doubts and would appreciate an outside perspectiveI have a personal problem and need your advice?
That is a real tough one. Considering your chances of getting happy where you are now, and the future not looking too bright where he comes from, I would suggest him taking the temporary job at home and you staying where you are for the duration of a couple of months. That should give both of you time to calm down and think about your relationship. After you are done with thinking, you might have the answer you need. You could also agree to relocating to a place where both of you find employment and like it equally.I have a personal problem and need your advice?
how long have you and your partner been together? It seems that you are both in the process of sorting yourselves out, which is always harder in an relationship. It makes sense to sort yourself out first as individuals, this will help the stress within the relationship, and down the line will give both a clear picture whether you both want to be with each other. If you both love each other, and its meant to be, then your love will always be there no matter if your together in a country or not. Good Luck
Honestly . . . u work to live . . not live to work !!





U seem to have a strong relationship . . . don't let it go over a Job !! After all you will be left with what ?? Just the job ???





Sorry if that's harsh . . . or not the answer u wanted ??





Hope it work's out . . . whatever u decide !!
sounds like this guy loves you , as you said he wants you with him. one never knows unless they are in that persons shoes, but just maybe he wants employment to take care of you. not you having to take care of him since you are the one working. I say a job is a job, but true love doesn't come around very often. Look into your heart can you give him up for a job. company's don't last forever love does.
Thats a tough one, personally i wouldnt move without getting another job first.


And you never know you might love the new job just as much, you could say to your partner that if you can both find new jobs in your hometown that inspire you, then its worth giving it a go especially if you are both so unhappy





Life might appear brighter once you have taken a holiday anyway, but it is important to think things through properly before making life changing decisions. and make sure your opinions are taken into serious consideration. dont feel pressured and dragged along by what your partner wants.


Your entitled to be happy too
This is an ongoing situation which affects all of us at some point , unburden the load onto a sympathetic ear, someone close to you,and very reliable.
can you do an internet search to see if you can get a job similar to your current one in your hometown?





You said that both of you are broke even though you are working. Is your income from your job enough to pay your expenses if you stay in your current place alone or will you still be struggling? If you'll still be struggling and you aren't able to move in with someone then maybe you should go home.





why haven't you made social connections? Haven't you been socializing with people in your new location or has it been such a struggle to support the two of you that there has been no opportunity to socialize? If you won't be struggling if you have only you to support then you need to make sure that you make the time to meet new people.





the next phase is something that only you can answer for yourself. You may have reached a crossroads in your life and it's time to decide what is more important to you. Him or your dream job. If him returning to your hometown is the end of your relationship (talk to him about this, that may not be true) and you don't want to lose him, then you need to go with him when he leaves. If you will have resentment toward him because you had to give up your dream job, then you want the job more than him--stay and keep the job.
If your unhappy then definately go with him forget your job life is too short make the most of it go with him be happy! x
Many years ago I was in a situation with 2 young babies and no job. The opportunity came for me to learn a new trade, but it entailed me having to work away from home. My wife and I discussed it and she was strong enough to agree that I should take this opportunity. I was away for 3 years coming home for weekends sometimes every 3 weeks and sometime every 8 weeks. Through doing this we were able to get more or less what we wanted in life including 2 more children over the years.


What I am saying here is that true love is strong enough to get through these situations. Jobs are more harder to come by these days, and you may not find a job like this again. If you both really love each other and I don't doubt that for a minute that you don't, then sometimes we have to make sacrifices to progress. The choice you both have to make is can you bear the pain of being away from each other and to stay faithful. If you really love each other then your relationship will not be at risk. It is something only you two can decide.


I hope that my input helps rather than confuse.





best wishes to you both.
i would stay with my job....he should go and find some work seriously else where and in your fre-time you could meet up or BOTH move together to a new bigger city WITH job-opportunities and entertainment