I have a huge problem. Please. I need advice.?

I am with this guy, and I love him more than anything in this world. We are young. he is 16, as am i. his mother doesnt want us together. she hates me. but I have no idea why. people say it is because she is Indian, and doesnt want her song dating someone who isnt. well he doesnt care, and we had a problem before. in feb his mom found out that we went to the movies, and she flipped. she forced him to breakup with me, and he did. but a week later he called me, and said that he loved me. we patched things up. ever since we have hid our relationship. we text, but i have to text him through aim. because she sometimes checks his phone! and he cant even call me from it. i have to call him on private number. its ridiculous. but i do it because i love him.well. last night she took his phone and read his texts. seeing the ones from last night which were very flirty, and kinda... dirty? but nothing like whooaa thats gross. she sent me a text sayin neva call or text him again. what do i do!!!I have a huge problem. Please. I need advice.?
Since neither of you are 18 and he still lives with his parents, you have to be respectful of their wishes. You can remain friendly with him, but the relationship is over. Sneaking around is only going to make things worse and you cannot do it for two years. I'm sorry.I have a huge problem. Please. I need advice.?
Tell her that she has no right to tell him who he can and can't date - she's being sort of racist in a way. Let her know that you love her son and whatever she tries will not make those feelings go away, and he loves you too so it'll only make the two of them grow apart in the long run. She should let him lead his own life - you are old enough, he's not mummy's little boy anymore.
This is a very difficult problem. And you know what. It probably is because you are not Indian. My best friend is Hindi and tells me that there is a issue of Indian dating non Indians. This is defiantly a old school way of thinking.





Why don't you do this:





There is no way to change her mind right now. You and your boyfriend need to have a long talk on how to deal with this. I'm not sure how much a 16 year old is going to have influence over a mother but you can try.





If you are going to meet with her you need to show respect to his heritage. That means, familiarize yourself with some Indian customs. For example, when you first greet elders, you touch their feet to show respect. No kissing the elders OR your boyfriend. Help out in the kitchen and LOVE the food. Perhaps even learn the language and become committed to this for the long haul.





This is going to be a challenge and you need to realize this will go on for a while. If you are dedicated, AS WELL as your boyfriend being decided to the cause. You may make some head way.





In two years time, he will move out and you two can be together. But you can not give her ANY reason to dislike you. Showing respect to his culture, showing intelligence and showing you make her son happy is a great sign of maturity. This is defiantly help win over the parental units.





In the mean time, enjoy what time you do have together. Perhaps you guys spent lunch, library time, or after school time together. And be sure he calls you when its a good time to talk. And be sure he deletes any messages from you.





Good Luck





PS: tell your bf to act super sad (b/c he misses you) in front of his mom from now on. Lol, it can't hurt.





PPS: No sex until marriage either lol.
Well you know you can't call him, text or go out with him. His mother wants him to marry someone of his faith/culture. If he wants to contact/see you, let him make the move, but she will not change her traditional ways.
IT'S the question or your lovestory?


forgot hug.............................or don't give hug.
IF you really love him, just do what your heart tells you to. Who cares about his mom, it's just between you and him. If she's bugging you that bad, just have a conversation with her one day. I think that she thinks that you guys will have sex (not saying that you will) and that sends her over the edge. Just have a one on one conversation with her one day after school or something.





Like I said before, if you REALLY love him, then all of this shouldn't matter.
Bugger the old B*tch and continue the blazing affair
id find alternative ways to talk to him where his mother can't find out about it, on msn for example or e-mail she won't know his password to get into it...or tell him to get a second sim card for his phone thats only for you and he can hide that....there are many ways round talking to each other without her finding out...i think e-mail and msn are the best as she won't have access to these because he will only have the password....also why not try meeting up in a different town on a saturday or something...just say you are going shopping or cinema and meet him there...that way it will be difficukt for hi mother to find out
say it wasnt you