I have a mom with a serious alcoholic problem, and i want advice!?

I'm 17 years old and a high school student. My mom and dad are both divorced and me and my sister live with my dad. My mom lives about 30 minutes away from us and we go and visit her pretty often, since she's always alone and we just like seeing her. But she has a serious alcohol problem, and sometimes she'll get seriously drunk and stay like that for a week or so and then get normal again, and shed do her best to deny ever drinking. I NEVER want to see her while she's like that, but it happens all the time, shes been doing this for many years, which led to the eventual divorce in the first place. I'm just sick and tired of looking forward to doing something with her, and then the next day she gets all bad again. She wants us to see her as much as possible each week, but I'm starting to think its somehow affecting her problem. What should I do about this?I have a mom with a serious alcoholic problem, and i want advice!?
tough break, man. i feel for you.





i would tell your mom all the things you said here (except maybe that her drinking led to the divorce- that's for your old man to tell her).





get together with your sister and tell her how you feel.


maybe she'll be mad at first, but maybe she'll hear you out.





maybe tell her that you don't want to see her if she's drunk.





alcohol is one of the hardest drugs to quit. your mom probably has a very difficult road of recovery ahead of her should she chose to sober up.


tell her you want to support her sobriety. tell her that you love her.





ask her to see a therapist. her 17 year old son shouldn't have to be the one to tell her that she's over-the-top. yknow?I have a mom with a serious alcoholic problem, and i want advice!?
Hi there, I dont think there is an easy solution for your problem. One thing you can do is research alcoholism and find out as much about the condition, and the effect it has on a persons friends and family and this will help you to understand a lot. There are so many people affected by this problem all around the world, and the effect of alcoholism on a persons loved ones can be devastating. You need to find a balance between doing what is right by your mother , but also and MORE IMPORTANTLY you must do right by yourself.


Please find help by calling al anon hotlines and support groups, and there's a lot of information and interactive sites on the net where you can talk about stuff and make connections with otheres such as yourself.


Stay strong and remember to love her unconditionally if and when you can, and know that you are a strong young woman who can handle what life throws at you.
It is her problem and not yours. Until she hits rock bottom, she will not change. My father was told that he could drink but his liver was giving out. He stopped drink because he did not want to die. I am actually shocked that he is still alive.





I don't deal with him. If he was drinking, then I refused to be around. But I can't have that kind of drama in my life. I would not go to her house if possible. And if she starts drinking when you are around, I would leave.
you should confront her, and spend more time with her. My mom also drinks a lot after she was divorced with my dad. I think its because they feel lonely. When i talked to my mom i learned that. So i let her know i was there and now she still drinks but is not always drunk ( she drinks occasionally). The more you are around her and do stuff together the less time she have to consume alcohol.
you should talk to your dad about having an intervention for your mom. i had a cousin who was on drugs and his family did that and it worked. he went to rehab now hes been off drugs for like 2 years