And this is one of the most annoying problem with me. *Socializing*. Yea, I feel like I'm the top of the world and all that myself cuz I understand that I actually can. But once I get into any connection with about anybody at friendship, relationship or whatever. I just forget like near all I got.
Perhaps it's also cuz I have OCD. Which stops me from doing a lot of things. Or cuz I got a low self-esteem. I mean self belief maybe.
I don't know how to handle myself now. I really need some 'true' advice.
Like when I'm freestyling Rap. When I'm by myself, I can do anything. But when I'm on even the *start* of the battle with someone else. I already don't know how to *start*. It's so confusing and difficult.
Plus I'm also like one of the best at sports. But I don't even hang out with sporty cool people or whatever. Just not accepted. Maybe cuz I'm too G. And I'm getting made fun of out of that cuz I'm abt the only one who keeps it Gangsta on my skl.
I mean how can I help it. I know my Mama and Pop loves me, but then I get yelled at 24-7 by my Moms. And my Pops don't agree with what I like.
I don't have the resources to be what I wunna be. Pls help out my screwed up life.I always got a problem with *socializing*. Any advice pls?
You're 14, no offense but I think that's the problem...and the solution. I'm almost going to be 21 and I have to tell you, I didn't know who I was at 14. Yeah you can be good at sports, smart, good-looking or whatever, but to base who you are solely on that is kinda pff, you know?
I notice you throw in the phrase ';top of the world';, and several similar phrases in here. From what I read it seems like you want friends just to have them, just to be popular, that they're lower than you and for that reason it's crazy that they're not your friend. But that's wrong. You don't have friends, or true friends, just because you want to be socially accepted. You'll get true friends because you just like hanging out with each other, you have similar interests, and you'll stand by this friend no matter what it means to your social status in high school. Don't look at friends as people to be your followers or anything like that, that's not going to get you far, and maybe that's why you're in this situation in the first place.
So my suggestion? Get to know who you are first. Don't give a damn about what people think of you, no matter how much you want to be popular. I was a lone wolf for most of my life but it allowed me to figure out who I was, and as a result I have a rich inner life and I'm actually very happy. And now I'm making friends not because I need them or want to be popular but because my friends match my beliefs, values, interests, and my sense of humor.
You're 14, and this is high school. Set a trend at your school: be your own person, see others as individuals instead of friends to be had, and I promise, the right people will come to you. This will take a lot of maturity on your part. You won't realize it right away, but a million acquaintences who you know but can never really talk to mean nothing unless there's someone to help you through the tough times in life. And once you find one true friend, you wouldn't trade them for anything in the world.I always got a problem with *socializing*. Any advice pls?
Don't worry so much. I to am not very good a socializing. Find yourself some really close friends. They will accept your for what you are. If you cant find good friends at school. Join a club, and meet people with common interests. As for the OCD part, you cant use that as an excuse. My best friend had OCD and she is one of the most outgoing people i know. Sometimes i need to tell myself to just stop and breath. Think about what your going to do tomorrow. Not what your going to do in the future. Give it time and you will think of what you want to do. with me it just came to me. Do what you want to do, occupy your time by developing yourself as a person. Sooner or later life will just fall into place.
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