My boyfriend want to take a break, but distance is our problem. I don't understand, any advice?

Long-distance relationships take a toll on couples...My boyfriend want to take a break, but distance is our problem. I don't understand, any advice?
He's telling you that he's not sure if you're the one, and he wants the option to look around and possibly date others. He's calling it a ';break'; because he wants you to be open to you and him getting back together if he doesn't find something he likes better.





As harsh as that sounds, the two of you are just dating and tha's what dating is for. Let him go, if you try to hold on and force him to stay it will never work. However, don't wait around for him, get out and enjoy yourself (I'm not talking about having sex, that should wait until you're married anyway, or at least in a committed, monogamous relationship - otherwise it just complicates things and muddies the waters, prevents you from making good, sound decisions). You might meet someone you're more compatible with.My boyfriend want to take a break, but distance is our problem. I don't understand, any advice?
He wants to see other people but still have you as a back up if nothing comes his way. Don't do it because it will affect your self-esteem and sense of self worth. Either he wants to be with you or not. My opinion is to find someone else because he has thought about being with other people and you are worth and are owed more then that.
Yeah, he's probably eyeing opportunities where he is. At least he isn't trying to pretend everything is normal. A ';break'; is kind of like a temporary breakup...he still wants you avaialble if things don't work out where he is. It's up to you whether you want to ride that out.
It sounds like he's trying his best to move on without hurting yoru feelings. If you guys already have too much distance and he wants more, than that should be your answer right there. I'm sorry your going through this right now. Everything will get better. Just respect his requests and do your best to be a bigger person.
If he wants a ';break,'; then he either wants to get with another girl, or is using this as a step toward breaking it off for good. The distance may be a reason, but I'll bet he has other reasons for wanting this. Only he can answer that, though.
It means that he wants to end the relationship with you because he wants to be other women. If he doesn't find one better than you he wants you to possibly leave the door open if he wants to come back. He's already gone sweetie talking like this.
I want to take a break = I want to see if I have a chance with this other girl but just in case it doesn't work out, I want to be able to come back to you.
When someone says ';I want to take a break'; they are being a coward. All that means is I do not want to be with you anymore but I do not have the balls to say it.
as long as you are apart, you are on a break it looks to be!!!


So, go with it and you take a break too!!!!!


Absence make the hard grow fonder or harder!!! You may want to harden up a bit!!!
If you haven't had any serious problems recently, he probably has found someone else and if you take a break - he feels as though he won't be cheating on you. Long distance relationships are so hard to have.
You answered this yourself. It's distance. Few minute can deal with it.
He just met someone else.
Taking a ';break'; is an excuse to cheat.
He's found someone else, or wants to.
Watch Friends....he's pulling a Ross
taking a break means ';i'm sick of you...leave me alone.';
Sorry to say this, but LDRs seldom work out.





Perhaps this Yahoo article can help you. Look at number 4.


Good luck...Think things over. Sounds to me like he wants out of this relationship and is hoping you will ';get it';.


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Top 9 signs your spouse is cheating





You have a sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach, something is not right but you can’t quite figure out what that feeling is about. Your spouse has become distant, he/she is working late on a regular basis or, maybe your spouse has moved out of the house with no explanation.





You suspect there may be someone else but every time you bring it up with your spouse, he/she denies the possibility. All the signs are there but you don’t have any proof.





So, pay attention to the signs and your instinct but, be careful and don’t confuse signs with proof.





1. ';I'm not in love with you anymore.';





If you hear these words, a big warning bell should go off. This is one of the most consistent things a cheating spouse will say. Your spouse may have a deep, loving bond with you but, intense feelings of passion can override the bond with you and cause your spouse to loose sight of his/her true feelings. The cheating spouse will develop what I call hormone - induced amnesia. The surging hormones and passion they feel in their new relationship can cause some very skewed thinking.





2. “We are just friends.”





This is also another very predictable statement that will come from a cheating spouse. If your spouse is spending more and more time with this new “friend” then there is probably more to it than mere friendship. Your spouse may feel they have a lot in common with this person, that this person understands them and things they are going through. Whatever the reasons for the friendship, it’s a big warning sign and one you should take seriously.





3. A sudden need for privacy.





If things the two of you used to share openly suddenly become private pay attention cause something is probably up. He/she may start password protecting computer activity. Cell phone and credit card bills may be hidden. If you ask why or attempt to find out information that used to be common knowledge between the two of you, you will be accused of snooping or trying to control your spouse. Big warning sign!





4. “I need some space to figure my feelings for you.”





Men and women who are involved with someone else will request more space, time alone or away from the family. They may say it is due to confusion over their feelings or stress at work. This can be a sign that there is someone else and the spouse is trying to figure out ways to have more freedom.





5. Regular work habits change.





Working late, going to work at odd hours or, putting in more time than is normal on work related issues can be indications that a spouse is cheating.





6. Spending a large amount of time on the computer.





In today’s world, with modern technology, a person looking for an affair doesn’t even have to leave their home. The ease of internet chat rooms, online dating sites and secret email accounts has caused an alarming increase in emotional affairs.


If your spouse is online more than usual, hanging out in chat rooms and visiting pornographic websites then you have reason to be alarmed.








7. Secretive phone calls and more time spent on the phone.





Emotional affairs occur primarily via the phone, especially cell phones. If you find your spouse hanging up suddenly when you enter the room or erasing the history on the cell phone and becoming defensive when asked about it, then you might want to check your phone records.





8. Behavior that just doesn’t add up.





Not being where he/she was expected to be. Missing time they can’t explain. Money that isn’t accounted for. Receipts for things you don't have. Missing clothing. Clothing that does not belong to your family. Being caught in little lies about the details of the day.





9. Your Own fears and suspicions





If you find yourself looking for excuses for your spouse's behavior or trying to convince yourself that they would never cheat then that is a warning sign. Your intuition is frequently one of the best indicators that something is wrong. If you suspect your spouse might be cheating on you, do some investigating and then confront him or her with what you've found. Do it in a way that is calm and courteous. Ask for honesty. Be prepared for lies. It is a sad fact that people having affairs become excellent liars. People who never told a lie before in their lives.





Trust your gut instinct but get hard, cold proof also.





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