I have this huge problem and i need advice. So please help.?

I used to go with somebody and he cheated all the time and we was together for 3 years and when he cheated on me with his best friend girl friend, I finally broke up with him because i was tired of it. So later on we so called became friends but every since a few months ago I have been having these dreams about him cheating or he is in my dreams some kind of way. I know for a FACT I am not still in love with him. He tell me about all the girl friends he got now and I don't have a problem with it I just sit back and listen or talk about my bf. But even when I am dreaming about my boyfriend he is in my dream either talking to me about something or just in the background. I prayed about it and told my mother about it but that still doesn't change anything. What should I do? I even told him about it. Why can't I just have dreams with out him in it. I am still mad at him a little about what happened between us but I decided to let it go because people r not the same. HELP ME PLEASE.I have this huge problem and i need advice. So please help.?
Yes, he is on your mind and you have unresolved anger issues. You need to start seeing and dating other people. Make him less a part of your life.I have this huge problem and i need advice. So please help.?
You're still having dreams about him because you're still a little angry over what he did to you even though you're friends with him. And you have a right to be hurt. Has he ever apologized to you and asked for forgiveness? Maybe that's why you can't forgive him. Harboring bad feelings can cause us to dream about those we don't want to dream about.
maybe your scared of being hurt again?


or you still have some sort of feelings for him but are still angry with him
I do not wish to disappoint you or something,but you're gonna have such kind of dreams like....forever.Just gat away from him for good.Yes he may be always so close but try to avoid him.Though you don't love him,your brain still recognizes him as an ex boyfriend and a potential future one.As long as you're refreshing the image your brains has about this guy,the dreams will continue.Just try getting away from him for a while,until the dreams stop.Then you'll know your brain has stopped recognizing them as boyfriends.
Obviously him cheating bothered you and you never really moved on or got over it. You don't have to still be in love with someone to be hurt that they weren't faithful. Maybe you need to have a long discussion with him about how much he hurt you. maybe he'll change his ways, or apologise and ask for forgivness. in any case, you should talk to someone, because subconsiously his betrayl is still bothering you. Perphaps a psychiatrist can help you move on? There is no shame in seeing someone, and in some cases it is extreamly beneficial. You may want to talk to your best friend as well, because you're probably still feeling betrayed by her that she was with your boyfriend WHILE you were with him. Talking to people about how you feel is cathartic, and may help you heal.