I have a serious personal problem, I really need advice! PLEASE!?

OK, Through all my relationship problems, my work, my family... I have slowly but surely been developing this problem where I constantly snap my fingers. Weird, ';YES'; I know, but I can't help nor control it. When I get happy, I snap (mostly) my right hand consistently. It has became worse during my relationship decline. Pretty much annoying. Now, its getting to the extent of my finger hurting. People are starting to notice me doing my snapping. So before they start calling me ';Snappy'; what should I do? And If you say I should go to a doctor or a shrink, what erelevent pills are they going to prescribe? Anyway, just curious before I spend a fortune on medical bills about my soon and evolving delima. Thanks a billion. Please help me. Thanks - Brian 'aka' ';GravitySlave85';!I have a serious personal problem, I really need advice! PLEASE!?
What you are doing is called a ';compulsion';--half of the disorder OCD, but don't freak out because there are many who do compulsive behaviors but don't have OCD. I always used to hold my hands a certain way when I spoke to someone new (and it was a really strange and unnatural looking way of holding them). My first year teaching, my students noticed and some of them actually started to poke fun at me which is what brought the compulsion to my attention. I was able to break myself of it without medical attention--it's all about training yourself to replace this habit with a different more ';normal'; one. I started just by becoming aware of when I was going to do this and repeating ';hands by your side, hands by your side, hands by your side'; in my head. Most of the time, this way all I needed. For situations that I just couldn't control myself, I enlisted the help of two people I trusted--one of my students and another co-worker so that I had all my bases covered. If I hadn't caught myself doing it, one or the other of these people would quietly say, ';hands by your side'; to me. They say that you need to do something for 21 days in a row to make it a habit, and after about a month I was able to easily control the compulsion by putting my hands by my side instead. I hope this works for you. Feel free to e-mail me if you'd like.I have a serious personal problem, I really need advice! PLEASE!?
Sign of anxiety/nervousness and compulsive behavior.One need to know what causes/triggers that behavior; any obsessive thoughts associated with it?,what context,situation,feelings and so on. You may consult an experienced Clinical psychologist who will help reduce your anxiety by relaxation techniques and desensitize or dissociate yourself to those anxiety provoking situation.You need not necessarily take drugs for it or drugs alone will help.
Hun, I'm not sure what to tell you. Obvious answer would be, yes, go see a psychologist. I'm sure they will tell you ';It's all in your head and you can control it.'; And also say ';When you find the urge to do it, don't.'; or ';When you find yourself doing it, stop.';





As far as pills. I don't know. Possibly some nerve calmers, anti-depressants if they think you are depressed.





Perhaps, you will get lucky and they will hand you a lump some of cash and say YOU NEED A VACATION!! Lol, Don't we all wish!
Transfer this habit into something similar, but less obtrusive. Like rubbing your forefinger on your thumb. Or clenching your fist. Or just pretending to study your own palm. Whatever, you know. Just to get your fingers to do something else other than snapping.





It will be tough at first, but you need to have determination and keep on trying. It'll gradually get easier and easier, and after a couple of months, you should be able to replace your old habit with a less ';abnormal'; one.
Sounds like your snapping is a sensory soothing activity you do in response to your anxiety. My son does this weird flapping with his hands. I thought it was a tick, but its not. Its just something that soothes him when he gets excited. I wouldnt neccesarily reccomend professional help or medication for this. Just try to be conscious of it. My sons therapist is trying to get him to quit doing it in steps. 1. he does it behind his back or under a table. 2. Instead of flapping he lightly taps the ends of his fingers together. 3. instead of any of these he invisions in his head that he is doing it. She says its going to take some time, but it works apparently. You really have to ask yourself though. Are you really worried about snapping your fingers, or are you just projecting your worry onto something insignificant to avoid a bigger issue? You said your relationship is in decline. Are you trying to avoid facing and dealing with that?
I suggest you see a professional in this field before your case gets worse.
wear gloves.
Control your self...
yeah I used to have the same thing in my left thumb when i was nearing my exams.





usually this happens because of higher stress levels. the brain then sometimes send unnecessary signals through the nervous system.





I recommend visiting a doctor but first try to solve all the problems you got. stay calm and quiet for a few days, have a vacation, chill out, check out some new chicks, do any thing to forget your problems and see if that helps.
Well, if it helps any... I know a girl who had a bit of a worse problem. She'd be doing this little salamander thing with her tounge, meaning she'd just kind of stick it out and then back in in a matter of seconds xP It looked quite silly... So some other people kept telling her about it and eventually it stopped! You could tell a good friend/s who sees you often, and ask him/her to stop your snapping if you don't notice it yourself. I won't tell you to do something else than snap, because that might just end up doubling your problem. Just try to stay cool whenever something happens, and try to not snap!
This sounds to me more like a psychological issue which could be helped with some therapy rather than a medical condition to be treated drugs. I think you would find a doctor would send you to talk to a therapist or psychologist before putting you on drugs. If you're worried just tell your doctor you want to try sorting it out without drugs first, no doctor can force you to take drugs.


If you're worried about that, try seeing someone else first, a therapist or counsellor. Try the psychology department at your local university to see if they have sessions with people; that is a really non-threatening way to get some advice. If they can't help you they will certainly be able to point you in the right direction.


Also, although it sounds like it is getting to the point of needing to do something about it, don't be too worried by it. A lot of people have some mannerism or compulsion like that; I chew my lips when I'm stressed, many people chew their fingernails. I guess yours is just a bit more noticeable. Don't despair, but find someone who might be able to help you with it.


Goodluck!