I'm answering this from both viewpoints if that's okay.
mostly, its just nice to have somebody to talk ';at'; as I'm organizing my thoughts; simple nods or nays are good though.
I losed a girlfriend once cause I was more interested in solving her problems for her than just listening to her.
besides, people need to solve their own problems; listening though provides both the moral support and allows them to voice their thoughts -- they sound differernt out loud. Occasional input is good cause it may have insight; but your input/oppinion shouldn't be the solution?When you tell a friend about a problem, do you prefer that they just listen or do you actually want advice?
if they talk more than you talk,they just want you to listen.
BUT
if they ask things like ';what do you think?'; then they want your opinionWhen you tell a friend about a problem, do you prefer that they just listen or do you actually want advice?
I want them to listen then give me feedback. its always good to hear someone else spin on something.
Both...I don't usually talk about my personal problems, but if I simply want feedback or a second opinion I will ask for just that. I only have a couple of really good friends I will share things with, and they seem to know exactly when to offer their opinion and when to just listen.
it depends. usually if you have a prob. and need to talk to a friend they will give advise to try and help. I would want help or some kind of advice that maybe i haven't thought of yet.
my wife hates when I gove her advice on a problem she has - after listening to it.
But thats just my wife, because she is sleeping in the same bed as I do. So everytime I give advice, it sounds like I am telling her she it stupid, and I am a smart guy telling her how the world runs.
So yes, it depends on the relationship between the persons.
If the grandfather gives and advice, its different, right ?
YOu think, how wise that old guy is, or you think, omg, that was like 100 ago, now the world change totally, we have mobil phones today.
listen and then tell me their thinking without
pressuring me on what i should do.
Well sometimes one and sometimes the other and then sometimes both. There are times when I just need someone to talk and vent to. There are times when I need advice. And then there are times when I want to talk about the situation and then hear feedback/advice. May God Bless U.
usually if i'm bothering to tell somebody my business i want advice. if not i usually just keep it to myself.
I don;t tell anyone my problems, because I liek to keep them to myself, and I am a private person. Those who ';know'; about my problems never say anything and I am comfortable with. As far as advice goes, I think that I would rather learn it the hard way than have someone tell me anything, no matter how painful the experience because it builds courage and stamina in a person.
Monday, August 23, 2010
I am a 22 yr male. I face problem in pronouncing the letter 'l' and 'r'. please advice me.?
I really want to correct my prounciation. i've consulted a speech therapist but it didnt work our. Also can there be a problem with my tongue or it is just a matter of practice. thank u.I am a 22 yr male. I face problem in pronouncing the letter 'l' and 'r'. please advice me.?
it does sound like a speech impediment. did you have any kind of head injury as a child or lately? That could also affect your speech. If it didn't work out with one speech therapist, you should really try another. They are not all the same. I would call my local hospital and ask them what they suggest also you could go to your family doctor and explain to them your issue. Alot of people don't use their family doctor until they are physically sick, but they are a goldmine of knowledge - and they know other specialty doctors. Doctors and therapists are there for your whole health - mind and body. I have asked my doctor for all kinds of medical advice, and she has come through each time with a sensible solution or suggestion. good luck.I am a 22 yr male. I face problem in pronouncing the letter 'l' and 'r'. please advice me.?
I would suggest a speech pathologyst but if thats not working just everyday try to work on your letter sounds. Repeat roll or other words with the letters over and over to keep geeting the sounds out. I work with a speech therapist with kids and shes always trying to get the kids to use the words as often as possible. Good luck
tounsels
Hmm, I don't agree with the speech impediment stuff yet ... what's your first language?
Do you have any friends that you can practice with?
it does sound like a speech impediment. did you have any kind of head injury as a child or lately? That could also affect your speech. If it didn't work out with one speech therapist, you should really try another. They are not all the same. I would call my local hospital and ask them what they suggest also you could go to your family doctor and explain to them your issue. Alot of people don't use their family doctor until they are physically sick, but they are a goldmine of knowledge - and they know other specialty doctors. Doctors and therapists are there for your whole health - mind and body. I have asked my doctor for all kinds of medical advice, and she has come through each time with a sensible solution or suggestion. good luck.I am a 22 yr male. I face problem in pronouncing the letter 'l' and 'r'. please advice me.?
I would suggest a speech pathologyst but if thats not working just everyday try to work on your letter sounds. Repeat roll or other words with the letters over and over to keep geeting the sounds out. I work with a speech therapist with kids and shes always trying to get the kids to use the words as often as possible. Good luck
tounsels
Hmm, I don't agree with the speech impediment stuff yet ... what's your first language?
Do you have any friends that you can practice with?
I dont Know if me ';going off'; quickly is a problem. Help any one with advice!!!?
With my last girlfriend i kind of ';Blew my loud'; rather quckily. i feel that im not good at the sex thing because i dont last too long. the worst thing is, i have good days and bad days. ill last and then other days i wont (Wont seems to happen more), i just need to know if their is a way to last longer or just be better during the act.
Any advise is worth listening toI dont Know if me ';going off'; quickly is a problem. Help any one with advice!!!?
Well, first off..You might not need to last as long as you're thinking you need to. 15-20 minutes is really plenty! As long as the girl is getting hers, it doesn't matter how long you last.
Now with that said, if your going WAY too quick, have you tried wearing a condom? Condoms can slightly reduce sensitivity.
Another idea is, try to control what your thinking about. Detach your mind, but still focus on pleasing your partner. Or maybe, start off with orally getting her off (or getting her REALLY worked up) before you even penetrate.
Try to have sex or masturbate more often.
If this becomes a persistent problem, see your doctor. It might be something you can work through with some therapy. They're professionals, don't be embarrassed.
Just relax! Thinking about it too much can't be making things any better. The fact that you're concerned means right off that you're obviously not a selfish lover. That's a good trait to carry. Good Luck :-)I dont Know if me ';going off'; quickly is a problem. Help any one with advice!!!?
Controlling yourself comes with maturity.
First dont try any of those drugs on tv or the net or anything they dont work and can be harmful to your health. Also just make sure you please her before you even think about pleasing yourself. Try oral or using your hands.
Two things to try, first spank the monkey about 2 hours b4 you know u r going to see her. Also just take your time with her and make it all about her. After that she won't care how long u lasted.
im a female i really dont know wat to say rather than pratice an they say a guy can hold it in so i guess try that best thing i can come up with bein a femalelash liner
Any advise is worth listening toI dont Know if me ';going off'; quickly is a problem. Help any one with advice!!!?
Well, first off..You might not need to last as long as you're thinking you need to. 15-20 minutes is really plenty! As long as the girl is getting hers, it doesn't matter how long you last.
Now with that said, if your going WAY too quick, have you tried wearing a condom? Condoms can slightly reduce sensitivity.
Another idea is, try to control what your thinking about. Detach your mind, but still focus on pleasing your partner. Or maybe, start off with orally getting her off (or getting her REALLY worked up) before you even penetrate.
Try to have sex or masturbate more often.
If this becomes a persistent problem, see your doctor. It might be something you can work through with some therapy. They're professionals, don't be embarrassed.
Just relax! Thinking about it too much can't be making things any better. The fact that you're concerned means right off that you're obviously not a selfish lover. That's a good trait to carry. Good Luck :-)I dont Know if me ';going off'; quickly is a problem. Help any one with advice!!!?
Controlling yourself comes with maturity.
First dont try any of those drugs on tv or the net or anything they dont work and can be harmful to your health. Also just make sure you please her before you even think about pleasing yourself. Try oral or using your hands.
Two things to try, first spank the monkey about 2 hours b4 you know u r going to see her. Also just take your time with her and make it all about her. After that she won't care how long u lasted.
im a female i really dont know wat to say rather than pratice an they say a guy can hold it in so i guess try that best thing i can come up with bein a female
Doesn't anybody ever speak about halitosis? I'm sure it's a common problem. Please help by personal advice.
Brush...floss and reguarly rinse your mouth with something like Listerine. Chewing sugar free gum (like spearmint) or eating a few breath mints go a long way.
Remember, if you even THINK you have bad breath, do something about it...better to take a breath mint and not need one, than to NOT take one, and need it!Doesn't anybody ever speak about halitosis? I'm sure it's a common problem. Please help by personal advice.
See your dentist. it is often caused from a bad tooth, gum disease, or maybe infection. not always, but it is worth checking out. Sometimes, even your diet can cause some bad breath, but routine brushing, flossing, and dental cleanings twice a year should be sufficient to keep down bad breath.
Remember, if you even THINK you have bad breath, do something about it...better to take a breath mint and not need one, than to NOT take one, and need it!Doesn't anybody ever speak about halitosis? I'm sure it's a common problem. Please help by personal advice.
See your dentist. it is often caused from a bad tooth, gum disease, or maybe infection. not always, but it is worth checking out. Sometimes, even your diet can cause some bad breath, but routine brushing, flossing, and dental cleanings twice a year should be sufficient to keep down bad breath.
I need a help of psychiatric doctor, plz advice me properly about my problem.?
i need ur treatment of my problem, if i get it really, i will be very happy and i m lucky person.
my age 28, now i m doing research work in a india's topmost institute. staying in hostel. the problem is created by my juniors(BTech students).
one of the neighbor junior is a chain smoker. he used the cigarette and threw outside of the room. everyday his room and my room(near to his room) outside consists of lot of cigarette pieces and dusty. i didnt like cigarette smell. and i like to clean the atmosphere. whenever he put the pieces, immdtly i got tense and starting days i didnt tell anything to those students. after a long time i advised to a neighbor student that dont take cigarette and if u did, plz make a dust bin inside ur room and keep it their the dust and pieces with friendly manner. that time he told ';ok sir';. only one day he didnt put any pieces outside. that day i was happy. but after the next day again he was starting. now it is very bad condition. he intentionally threw the pieces very near to my room than the previous one. sometimes, it is in my correct centre of varanda outside the room. that time i got more tensed and didnt express the tense and didnt tell anything to that students. bcoz i dot want ineterfere there rights. i wont tell to warden also. bcoz if i tell the warden will take some steps or punishments. but there after sometimes it will amke major problms from those students. it has occured continously more than one month. every day i got tension and i couldnt concentrate my study and resaerch. i have lot of works. if i get tense immdtly i got head ache also.
one day, i got more tense and without any hesitation, i complained to warden. i think he came and shouted the student when i was not there. therefater i got little bit solution and there is no disturbance. i cared more about my research. that days i was very happy. after one weak again he and his friends started. this time they didnt threw the cigarette pieces. insteead, they used ice cream cup, spoon, other news papers and some unwanted things. this time i dont want to complaint to warden. again i m getting tension and i couldnt concentaret my work.
some times i m feeling that why i m considering those things very much? i m telling myself, leave it, they are juniors, they are enjoying, y u r restricting they.? but most of the times i got tensed. plz advice me. what i have to do for this one, hw can i concentrate my research work? bcoz my works are very important. if i didnt do the work properly, that also gave pressure to me. what i do? hw can i reduce my tension? i dont know, i m a psycho or that students are psycho? sometimes i got tensed and thinking that i should beat they. if i do again it is a major problem. plz advice me properly.
thank u doctor.
I need a help of psychiatric doctor, plz advice me properly about my problem.?
You retaliate too strongly! Try to be friendly with them instead of questioning . Once you make them feel that you are not their enemy, they may not try to disturb you. Preconceived notion about anything need not be correct. You seem to have adjustment problem. Each individual is different from the other and the predilictions may also be different. Therefore be tolerant. Help them if you can and be in their good books. Perhaps they will llike youI need a help of psychiatric doctor, plz advice me properly about my problem.?
They lack in courtesy and are completely careless and hence i think it`s their problem. First tell them politely and then complain to the warden again
my age 28, now i m doing research work in a india's topmost institute. staying in hostel. the problem is created by my juniors(BTech students).
one of the neighbor junior is a chain smoker. he used the cigarette and threw outside of the room. everyday his room and my room(near to his room) outside consists of lot of cigarette pieces and dusty. i didnt like cigarette smell. and i like to clean the atmosphere. whenever he put the pieces, immdtly i got tense and starting days i didnt tell anything to those students. after a long time i advised to a neighbor student that dont take cigarette and if u did, plz make a dust bin inside ur room and keep it their the dust and pieces with friendly manner. that time he told ';ok sir';. only one day he didnt put any pieces outside. that day i was happy. but after the next day again he was starting. now it is very bad condition. he intentionally threw the pieces very near to my room than the previous one. sometimes, it is in my correct centre of varanda outside the room. that time i got more tensed and didnt express the tense and didnt tell anything to that students. bcoz i dot want ineterfere there rights. i wont tell to warden also. bcoz if i tell the warden will take some steps or punishments. but there after sometimes it will amke major problms from those students. it has occured continously more than one month. every day i got tension and i couldnt concentrate my study and resaerch. i have lot of works. if i get tense immdtly i got head ache also.
one day, i got more tense and without any hesitation, i complained to warden. i think he came and shouted the student when i was not there. therefater i got little bit solution and there is no disturbance. i cared more about my research. that days i was very happy. after one weak again he and his friends started. this time they didnt threw the cigarette pieces. insteead, they used ice cream cup, spoon, other news papers and some unwanted things. this time i dont want to complaint to warden. again i m getting tension and i couldnt concentaret my work.
some times i m feeling that why i m considering those things very much? i m telling myself, leave it, they are juniors, they are enjoying, y u r restricting they.? but most of the times i got tensed. plz advice me. what i have to do for this one, hw can i concentrate my research work? bcoz my works are very important. if i didnt do the work properly, that also gave pressure to me. what i do? hw can i reduce my tension? i dont know, i m a psycho or that students are psycho? sometimes i got tensed and thinking that i should beat they. if i do again it is a major problem. plz advice me properly.
thank u doctor.
I need a help of psychiatric doctor, plz advice me properly about my problem.?
You retaliate too strongly! Try to be friendly with them instead of questioning . Once you make them feel that you are not their enemy, they may not try to disturb you. Preconceived notion about anything need not be correct. You seem to have adjustment problem. Each individual is different from the other and the predilictions may also be different. Therefore be tolerant. Help them if you can and be in their good books. Perhaps they will llike youI need a help of psychiatric doctor, plz advice me properly about my problem.?
They lack in courtesy and are completely careless and hence i think it`s their problem. First tell them politely and then complain to the warden again
I have a boyfriend problem. Can you give me some advice?
I know that he isnt cheating on me because we are constantly together. We had a son not too long ago and we both love him so much. My bf throws these tantrums like and just goes off which sometimes makes me cry. When i try to ask him whats wrong he just starts yelling and turning the volume up over me. His ex-wife cheated on him and done him so wrong and he thinks all woman are the same including ME. He calls me a barbie and just makes me feel so low. He has friends that i think are always in the way who he dont degrade. Help.I have a boyfriend problem. Can you give me some advice?
Hmmn.. perhaps it will be like this a wee bit longer...
See,,, for some people who've gone through what he has... saying that you're not like others and showing him that you're unlike the kind of person who hurt him once before are two different things..
You can try and talk to him when he's in a good mood, but it could go either way. He might get angry and start up..or he might listen and see that for the longest time, you've been a good partner to him. Another thing may be that he still has feelings for his ex, and that's a big issue, and entirely possible.
See.. the issue now is whether or not you're willing to go the extra miles to see if things can get better. If you're fed up.. then talk to him about it. Put your foot down and tell him you can't go on like this, no matter how much you feel for him. if he can't agree.. then you'll have to end this relationship.
Some of us are wired to have a bigger stomach for pain.. and some of us aren't. You have to figure out how much more of this you can take.. Once you've sorted that one out.. you should be able to discern what the next course of action should be. :) Take care of yourself. Ball's in your court.I have a boyfriend problem. Can you give me some advice?
Wow you two are practically something now with the kid. Kinda hard to just drop it eh? I think communication is your problem I think a conversation over dinner would help a bit. Don't use the ';We need to talk.'; In the man's world we invision an exclamation point there and with that being said we won't want to hear it so keep it casual. Tell him how you feel. Point out instances where he's made you upset but keep a suttle tone like your face to face with a caveman because you change your tone the man ain't gonna be happy. But I mean if your constantly together then you shouldn't have any problem of ironing the wrinkles here.
If he can't respect his loved ones, then he's not worth the trouble. I know that a hard thing to face, but relationships is about love, respect, and commitment.
If he can't provide those things, he's not the greatest boyfriend.
It sounds like he only thinks of himself and thinks of you when it's convenient.
There's definitely an issue with him with the way he treats you.
You're never going to cure him of this issue unless you sit down and have a heart to heart.
Don't be scared to talk to him. Sure, he'll probably get mad and be defensive. But you got to do it to save your relationship.
The best thing to do is to take him to a public place, but talk to him in a quiet corner. If he blows up at you and makes a huge scene, that shows that he doesn't care enough about you or the relationship. But it shows that all he cares about at that moment is to how ';he'; feels and how ';he'; is getting attacked.
Start the conversation in a very soft, low voice. Hopefully, he'll follow suit and continue the conversation as two adults and not act like a child.
Hold your composure. If you lose your cool, he surely will.
He sounds like he has some problems. Threaten to leave him. If he doesn't try to stop you then he's a loser and you should just leave him. If he tries to stop you, tell him about what's been bothering you and ask if you can help him work through his troubles.
Well it seems that you trap-ed your bf in to being with you (having a child does that)... if he calls you a Barbie and berates you, then he has issues that you can't easyly resolve on-line.
My advice is simple - Don't expect anything from him, Don't ask him for anything and take care of your child.
It could be he is planing on leaving... He just needs a reason to go. Don't give him one
(but don't be a pushover either).
What ever happened to waiting for marrage before you two had a child???
Take care of your self and take care of your child. Your bf will do what he wants to do anyway so if he really wanted to do the right thing he would have done it already. Don't push him to do the right thing.
Good luck
You are not responsible for this man's ex's. so what if they all cheated on him. Could of been because of his behavior toward them. He seems to treat the Mother of his child like crap. You let this man know that you love him but you will not put up with an abusive man, weather it be the father of your child or what! Stand up for your self. And if he gets all nice and tries to talk his way back into your good side. Then make it very clear that you are very mad this time and you want to wait and see how he is going to act say like the next ten years! You have got to do this for you and your child. He will never get better or change. It will only get worse and he will only get more aggressive the more you become less in love with him and this will happen also since no one can love an abusive *** man! So good luck to you and stand up to him some and let him know that you love him but you will not take his abusive ways. God Bless you!
Did you know about his problem before you decided to have a son with him??I think you should find someone that loves you and TRUST YOU..relationship that do not have trust it's difficult to maintain..How can you let him degrade you too??Don't you have any self esteem?? You should move on with your life and hopefully eventually find some one that will respect,love and trust you!
Throwing tantrums and upsets you to the point of tears?
Ask yourself this: Is this the example you want to set for your child?
He has issues. I know he had to blow up like this before you'll had a child. I had a boyfriend like that too. He was always mad because he had 3 kids (none were ours together) and their momma's were hitting his check like WHOA! with child support. That's why he was always unhappy and made and taking it out on me. You need to Man up and tell him you ain't gonna take it no more. It's not good and healthy for you or your child. I don't think he's amping off like that because he doesn't trust you. What??? Does he think the baby belongs to someone else. Don't worry about his no-count friends -- they probably have issues to which is why they are his friends. None of them are Man enough to tell him he got a problem. You know what the real truth is so don't be scared and handle your business Girl. Stop crying, be strong and get happy. Step to his ***. The problem will only get worse until you step to him and let him know what it's gonna B-B. Don't have no more babies with him and if push comes to shove a real man will snatch you and your baby up. Keep your act together and put you and your baby first. He can shape up or ship out. Go to Old Navy and stay up on the fresh gear for you and the Baby and do your thing. Life is to short to live and be unhappy.
All females ARE the same but i think you should leave him. It's apparent the two of you need either some counceling as a couple, or you both need to call it quits.
And it is CERTAINLY not good for your baby to be around all of this nonsense.
By the way im not taking your side OR his. Just lookin out for your KID.
Hie M. Well to me it is bad for you to have a boyfriend like that, because although he does not cheat on you and this something good for you to have him as your boyfriend. When he was yelling it is better for him to yell as much as he wants and after he yells it is better for you to let him be himself and let him to cool down first and when he is done then it is good for you to go and have a slow talk to him and from there you can get to know what is the problem. Well in his thought it could be the same like his ex-wife and maybe to him you are the same but it is good that if you have a table talk and from there he can get to know you better and more deeper and when you have that for sure he will start to think differently and he will realize that all the girls are not the same as his ex-wife and for sure too he will change his lifestyle and other things in his life too. Because when a person is so angry he will for sure he will start to loose a lot of things and when he stop the anger temper then hew will start to gain a lot and will earn a lot of stuff. Try this and hope it might help you..........................
ALL THE BEST.................................
Hmmn.. perhaps it will be like this a wee bit longer...
See,,, for some people who've gone through what he has... saying that you're not like others and showing him that you're unlike the kind of person who hurt him once before are two different things..
You can try and talk to him when he's in a good mood, but it could go either way. He might get angry and start up..or he might listen and see that for the longest time, you've been a good partner to him. Another thing may be that he still has feelings for his ex, and that's a big issue, and entirely possible.
See.. the issue now is whether or not you're willing to go the extra miles to see if things can get better. If you're fed up.. then talk to him about it. Put your foot down and tell him you can't go on like this, no matter how much you feel for him. if he can't agree.. then you'll have to end this relationship.
Some of us are wired to have a bigger stomach for pain.. and some of us aren't. You have to figure out how much more of this you can take.. Once you've sorted that one out.. you should be able to discern what the next course of action should be. :) Take care of yourself. Ball's in your court.I have a boyfriend problem. Can you give me some advice?
Wow you two are practically something now with the kid. Kinda hard to just drop it eh? I think communication is your problem I think a conversation over dinner would help a bit. Don't use the ';We need to talk.'; In the man's world we invision an exclamation point there and with that being said we won't want to hear it so keep it casual. Tell him how you feel. Point out instances where he's made you upset but keep a suttle tone like your face to face with a caveman because you change your tone the man ain't gonna be happy. But I mean if your constantly together then you shouldn't have any problem of ironing the wrinkles here.
If he can't respect his loved ones, then he's not worth the trouble. I know that a hard thing to face, but relationships is about love, respect, and commitment.
If he can't provide those things, he's not the greatest boyfriend.
It sounds like he only thinks of himself and thinks of you when it's convenient.
There's definitely an issue with him with the way he treats you.
You're never going to cure him of this issue unless you sit down and have a heart to heart.
Don't be scared to talk to him. Sure, he'll probably get mad and be defensive. But you got to do it to save your relationship.
The best thing to do is to take him to a public place, but talk to him in a quiet corner. If he blows up at you and makes a huge scene, that shows that he doesn't care enough about you or the relationship. But it shows that all he cares about at that moment is to how ';he'; feels and how ';he'; is getting attacked.
Start the conversation in a very soft, low voice. Hopefully, he'll follow suit and continue the conversation as two adults and not act like a child.
Hold your composure. If you lose your cool, he surely will.
He sounds like he has some problems. Threaten to leave him. If he doesn't try to stop you then he's a loser and you should just leave him. If he tries to stop you, tell him about what's been bothering you and ask if you can help him work through his troubles.
Well it seems that you trap-ed your bf in to being with you (having a child does that)... if he calls you a Barbie and berates you, then he has issues that you can't easyly resolve on-line.
My advice is simple - Don't expect anything from him, Don't ask him for anything and take care of your child.
It could be he is planing on leaving... He just needs a reason to go. Don't give him one
(but don't be a pushover either).
What ever happened to waiting for marrage before you two had a child???
Take care of your self and take care of your child. Your bf will do what he wants to do anyway so if he really wanted to do the right thing he would have done it already. Don't push him to do the right thing.
Good luck
You are not responsible for this man's ex's. so what if they all cheated on him. Could of been because of his behavior toward them. He seems to treat the Mother of his child like crap. You let this man know that you love him but you will not put up with an abusive man, weather it be the father of your child or what! Stand up for your self. And if he gets all nice and tries to talk his way back into your good side. Then make it very clear that you are very mad this time and you want to wait and see how he is going to act say like the next ten years! You have got to do this for you and your child. He will never get better or change. It will only get worse and he will only get more aggressive the more you become less in love with him and this will happen also since no one can love an abusive *** man! So good luck to you and stand up to him some and let him know that you love him but you will not take his abusive ways. God Bless you!
Did you know about his problem before you decided to have a son with him??I think you should find someone that loves you and TRUST YOU..relationship that do not have trust it's difficult to maintain..How can you let him degrade you too??Don't you have any self esteem?? You should move on with your life and hopefully eventually find some one that will respect,love and trust you!
Throwing tantrums and upsets you to the point of tears?
Ask yourself this: Is this the example you want to set for your child?
He has issues. I know he had to blow up like this before you'll had a child. I had a boyfriend like that too. He was always mad because he had 3 kids (none were ours together) and their momma's were hitting his check like WHOA! with child support. That's why he was always unhappy and made and taking it out on me. You need to Man up and tell him you ain't gonna take it no more. It's not good and healthy for you or your child. I don't think he's amping off like that because he doesn't trust you. What??? Does he think the baby belongs to someone else. Don't worry about his no-count friends -- they probably have issues to which is why they are his friends. None of them are Man enough to tell him he got a problem. You know what the real truth is so don't be scared and handle your business Girl. Stop crying, be strong and get happy. Step to his ***. The problem will only get worse until you step to him and let him know what it's gonna B-B. Don't have no more babies with him and if push comes to shove a real man will snatch you and your baby up. Keep your act together and put you and your baby first. He can shape up or ship out. Go to Old Navy and stay up on the fresh gear for you and the Baby and do your thing. Life is to short to live and be unhappy.
All females ARE the same but i think you should leave him. It's apparent the two of you need either some counceling as a couple, or you both need to call it quits.
And it is CERTAINLY not good for your baby to be around all of this nonsense.
By the way im not taking your side OR his. Just lookin out for your KID.
Hie M. Well to me it is bad for you to have a boyfriend like that, because although he does not cheat on you and this something good for you to have him as your boyfriend. When he was yelling it is better for him to yell as much as he wants and after he yells it is better for you to let him be himself and let him to cool down first and when he is done then it is good for you to go and have a slow talk to him and from there you can get to know what is the problem. Well in his thought it could be the same like his ex-wife and maybe to him you are the same but it is good that if you have a table talk and from there he can get to know you better and more deeper and when you have that for sure he will start to think differently and he will realize that all the girls are not the same as his ex-wife and for sure too he will change his lifestyle and other things in his life too. Because when a person is so angry he will for sure he will start to loose a lot of things and when he stop the anger temper then hew will start to gain a lot and will earn a lot of stuff. Try this and hope it might help you..........................
ALL THE BEST.................................
Ex boyfriend problem please help i need advice?
me and my ex was together for almost 2 years and been seperated for 5 months we been talking as friends and well he tell me he love and i tell him i love him to but he wants to achive his dream as a reggaeton rapper and he is good he is 17 and he said he don't want a gurl a this point and i agree with him i love him so much and he knows well tomorrow he leaving to D.R for 3 weeks and i wanting to see him b4 he leaves and he said no . he tol dme b4 that he don't know how he would react if he see me i think he is scared he told me that he miss me and that now his life been sort of weird , i love him and i don't know what to do i want to see him as his friend and thatz it to tell him goodbye i haven't seen him since feb-15 and i want to see him he tells me he miss me and tells me i love u out of the blue and i know that he does love me i feel it we talk on the phone everyday but i want to see him b4 he leave tomorrow what should i do i understand that he don't want a gurl and i accept itEx boyfriend problem please help i need advice?
it is too long to even read it ...I just need the point sorryEx boyfriend problem please help i need advice?
f him. it's ova. he don't want you like that no more. he thinks he's gonna get lotsa p@ssy being a rappa.
i would just show up with gift and say good bye
I stopped reading... too long... maybe he doesn't want anyone getting in the way of his dream... and once he gets to his goal he will start thinking about a girl... maybe he is just trying to get his priorities straight.
He isnt being quite honest with you. Start being honest with yourself and face all that you plan is pure fantasy. He keeping you on hold in case of an emergency ie he all alone one day but not right now. Move on
i dont understand, your not speaking clearly.
Respect his wishes.
Sorry, but a 17 yr old might not know what he wants, but trust me in this girl friend, if he says he don't want you, he doesn't. It took me years of listening to men to know when they say something, they mean it. What he might be saying is that he misses you physically, or just to talk to, but do you want that sort of treatment?
Most girls thing they can twist answers men give them so they can still see the end they want to see. But while you wait and worry over him, many other potential boyfriends slip by you. They might actually respect you and give to you what you need.
So why are you stuck on this wierd dude?
Let me ask a few questions to drive this home. You mentioned you speak to him every day. Do you call him? If he calls, do you waste you time waiting for the phone to ring?
I would say it is hard for a person who loves you to not see you since Feb. 15, don't you think? For four months?!
Honey, he's got a girl and it ain't you.
He's just keeping you handy for an extra or in case the new one doesn't work out.
Get yourself a life and find someone who can care about you and not just keep you ';hangin on'; Don't you deserve better?
Grow up.
And good luck.
YOU NEED TO GO AHEAD AND MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEBODY ELSE BECAUSE HE MIGHT CHEAT ON YOU AND YOU ARE GONNA BE HURT.
why do u confuse ur life this much?both u and ur bf have maturity i think.pls b cool if he loves u he will come to u from anywhere inthe world.
I suggest you put your head in school because you have absolutely no skills, by evidence of your post, that you could ever earn a living on your own. You don't need to be worrying about a boyfriend. You need to get some English classes as a second language or pay attention in school now!
That boy needs to do what whatever it is he does; you need to do whatever it is you need to do to be an independent, self-reliant, educated, confident young woman when you get out of school.
CONCENTRATE ON SCHOOL.
it doesnt sound like you have even broken up just playin around I say cut him loose, cry alot and get over it and move on, dont look back or you will just repeat mistakes. move forward it only hurts for a while.
it is too long to even read it ...I just need the point sorryEx boyfriend problem please help i need advice?
f him. it's ova. he don't want you like that no more. he thinks he's gonna get lotsa p@ssy being a rappa.
i would just show up with gift and say good bye
I stopped reading... too long... maybe he doesn't want anyone getting in the way of his dream... and once he gets to his goal he will start thinking about a girl... maybe he is just trying to get his priorities straight.
He isnt being quite honest with you. Start being honest with yourself and face all that you plan is pure fantasy. He keeping you on hold in case of an emergency ie he all alone one day but not right now. Move on
i dont understand, your not speaking clearly.
Respect his wishes.
Sorry, but a 17 yr old might not know what he wants, but trust me in this girl friend, if he says he don't want you, he doesn't. It took me years of listening to men to know when they say something, they mean it. What he might be saying is that he misses you physically, or just to talk to, but do you want that sort of treatment?
Most girls thing they can twist answers men give them so they can still see the end they want to see. But while you wait and worry over him, many other potential boyfriends slip by you. They might actually respect you and give to you what you need.
So why are you stuck on this wierd dude?
Let me ask a few questions to drive this home. You mentioned you speak to him every day. Do you call him? If he calls, do you waste you time waiting for the phone to ring?
I would say it is hard for a person who loves you to not see you since Feb. 15, don't you think? For four months?!
Honey, he's got a girl and it ain't you.
He's just keeping you handy for an extra or in case the new one doesn't work out.
Get yourself a life and find someone who can care about you and not just keep you ';hangin on'; Don't you deserve better?
Grow up.
And good luck.
YOU NEED TO GO AHEAD AND MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEBODY ELSE BECAUSE HE MIGHT CHEAT ON YOU AND YOU ARE GONNA BE HURT.
why do u confuse ur life this much?both u and ur bf have maturity i think.pls b cool if he loves u he will come to u from anywhere inthe world.
I suggest you put your head in school because you have absolutely no skills, by evidence of your post, that you could ever earn a living on your own. You don't need to be worrying about a boyfriend. You need to get some English classes as a second language or pay attention in school now!
That boy needs to do what whatever it is he does; you need to do whatever it is you need to do to be an independent, self-reliant, educated, confident young woman when you get out of school.
CONCENTRATE ON SCHOOL.
it doesnt sound like you have even broken up just playin around I say cut him loose, cry alot and get over it and move on, dont look back or you will just repeat mistakes. move forward it only hurts for a while.
If you are my friend what would you advice me regarding my love problem?
i would like to call it art鈥ut all it ever represents is loneliness
would like to call it a challenge, a test for which i must be capable of succeeding from but all it has show me is my weakness.
it tortures me, has been able to make me an imbecile
i have been fighting so hard to get the tide away from here
but it follows through
i want to fight it with all of my strength.
want to show the world i will not be beaten by the same agony that has crept in the hearts of millions
i wanted to stand out strong, did not want to show them how weak i am. this longing grabs me,
even my emptiness has been filled with a cup brimming with the need for answers鈥?
why couldnt i stop, why couldnt i breathe, why couldnt i make it right
i wanted to call it a process that which i must conquer
wanted to call it a lesson
but then i falter,
my weakness grabs me鈥?br>
my stomach aches,
my whole being is shaken
why cant i make it right.
why cant i make you smile
why cant you be the one
why cant those simple moments remain embedded
why do i have to need a heart
why do i need your attention
why cant i understand who you are and what i feel for you
why cant it be that easy to say i love you鈥?br>
why is it that everytime i try to do what is right..it all turns into blisters
it is done, you have torn the confidence that is inside of me.
you have been able to creep in, like a stranger鈥?without permission you took hold of my mind
insane as i dived into the lake鈥?
i wish i could be stronger. stronger to fight the tide that is pulling me down.
stronger than you so i could pull and make sense of all this鈥?
i wish to smile, though i am here dying, not knowing who i am,
i no longer have the sense of wrong and right.
duty compels me鈥?
is this the ripple effect that which does not stop?
can nobody save me?
why cant it stop, why wont it stop.If you are my friend what would you advice me regarding my love problem?
Dear friend haringmarumo,
Read the Holy Bible 2 Corinthians 4:4 - In whom the god of this world hath blinded the minds of them which believe not, lest the light of the glorious gospel of Christ, who is the image of God, should shine unto them.
Grow up to the age of maturity and accept a life partner in a marriage relationship to create a family bearing children into the generations of mankind on the earth with the gift of life and breath from God the Heavenly Father.
Holy Bible Hebrews 13:4 - Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
Holy Bible 1 Corinthians 7:2 - Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
God bless you in Christ Jesus mighty name.If you are my friend what would you advice me regarding my love problem?
I would just say ..You sit and Read all your questions ...And Laugh it away.Your problem solved
would like to call it a challenge, a test for which i must be capable of succeeding from but all it has show me is my weakness.
it tortures me, has been able to make me an imbecile
i have been fighting so hard to get the tide away from here
but it follows through
i want to fight it with all of my strength.
want to show the world i will not be beaten by the same agony that has crept in the hearts of millions
i wanted to stand out strong, did not want to show them how weak i am. this longing grabs me,
even my emptiness has been filled with a cup brimming with the need for answers鈥?
why couldnt i stop, why couldnt i breathe, why couldnt i make it right
i wanted to call it a process that which i must conquer
wanted to call it a lesson
but then i falter,
my weakness grabs me鈥?br>
my stomach aches,
my whole being is shaken
why cant i make it right.
why cant i make you smile
why cant you be the one
why cant those simple moments remain embedded
why do i have to need a heart
why do i need your attention
why cant i understand who you are and what i feel for you
why cant it be that easy to say i love you鈥?br>
why is it that everytime i try to do what is right..it all turns into blisters
it is done, you have torn the confidence that is inside of me.
you have been able to creep in, like a stranger鈥?without permission you took hold of my mind
insane as i dived into the lake鈥?
i wish i could be stronger. stronger to fight the tide that is pulling me down.
stronger than you so i could pull and make sense of all this鈥?
i wish to smile, though i am here dying, not knowing who i am,
i no longer have the sense of wrong and right.
duty compels me鈥?
is this the ripple effect that which does not stop?
can nobody save me?
why cant it stop, why wont it stop.If you are my friend what would you advice me regarding my love problem?
Dear friend haringmarumo,
Read the Holy Bible 2 Corinthians 4:4 - In whom the god of this world hath blinded the minds of them which believe not, lest the light of the glorious gospel of Christ, who is the image of God, should shine unto them.
Grow up to the age of maturity and accept a life partner in a marriage relationship to create a family bearing children into the generations of mankind on the earth with the gift of life and breath from God the Heavenly Father.
Holy Bible Hebrews 13:4 - Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
Holy Bible 1 Corinthians 7:2 - Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
God bless you in Christ Jesus mighty name.If you are my friend what would you advice me regarding my love problem?
I would just say ..You sit and Read all your questions ...And Laugh it away.Your problem solved
Kind of embarrassing but I really need some advice on this minor acne problem.?
Ok so I haven't been to a dermotologist for this because the problem is on my butt. For about 3 years I have had minor acne on my butt, or ingrown hairs I can't tell. I'd show you a picture but you know...
anyways I shower daily, I wear cotton underwear 97% of the time, I don't use any chemical products on it, I occasionally will put lotion on and I drink water a lot. What could I do to prevent and get rid of this acne? I've never had a silky smooth behind like a lot of people do which is strange because all of my skin is smooth and I don't break out anywhere else. I just want to have a pretty butt. So if someone could give me serious advice it would be appreciated.Kind of embarrassing but I really need some advice on this minor acne problem.?
I've had the same problem try 10% glycolic acid (Paula's Choice has one) and retinol together. I put it on at night before I go to bed because they are both photo sensitive - don't use it before going to the beach and protect your skin with at least a 30 sunscreen in that area if you are planning on being in the sun. You should see results with in a few days maybe a week. The other product you could try is benzoyle peroxide nightly. I don't like as well because it discolors anything that's not white like clothing, sheets, etcKind of embarrassing but I really need some advice on this minor acne problem.?
Have you tried tanning? If not, that is an option because it may dry it up. If you're against tanning buy an apricot scrub and scrub it really good. I had it on my back and i thought I would never be able to get rid of it until i realized i really had to get back there and scrub it. I also used clearasil ultra deep cleaning pads and that helped.
For me, complexion problems were caused by non-organic milk, which would include all products with milk derivatives, found in most processed foods. Below are some of the foods where milk is found. It's easier to just eat whole foods and skip the processed foods. Organic milk doesn't have that affect on me. Probably caused by the bovine hormones in non-organic milk. But what helped me even more was a whole food organic diet. It seems non-organic wheat caused me some trouble too. Chemicals such as insecticides and weed killers in non-organic food are actually too strong for weak neurons that regulate body functions and cause health problems. It wouldn't hurt to try a whole food organic diet like the one below for most of the time and then eat the usual stuff on special occasions. How chemicals in food affect each person varies depending on the frail neurons affected. Good luck.
Milk-free diet
No milk. No cheeses. No yogurt. No foods containing lactic acid, lactose, whey. Lactic acid is found in cured meats of all kids, like ham, bacon, lunch meats, hot dogs. It's never listed on the label with cured meats -considered a ';starter'; ingredient for curing. Lactose is found in a wide variety of foods and is whey. Examples are canned soups, chips, snacks like Cheetos, candy, breads, frozen meals, drugs, and more. Read all labels.
Whole food organic diet
Fresh fruit andvegtabless. Whole milk only. Eggs. Butter (salted only). Orange juice (no calcium citrate or lactate). Spring water for drinking / cooking / diluting whole milk - if desired. Popcorn (unflavored). Unbleached wheat flour (occasionally). Olive oil (for salad dressing with salt). Pickling salt (or salt with no additives). Agave nectar sweetener (like pancake syrup).
There is this new popular cream that people have been talking about.
It was even televised on TV.
It prevents future and existing acne, diminishes scars, and lightens skin and blemishes. Fast results too! (It has been claimed that major results can be seen within a week and no later than two weeks)
Before and After photos are available at the given ebay site.
This person is providing 1-3 week trial samples (Only for ONE DOLLAR.. definitely a deal) on ebay at:
Search up ';best acne solution ever'; on ebay.
First 100 customers can get the item for $1 for one week trial and up to 3 weeks. Or you can buy the whole container for $160
It's expensive, but the product DOES work.
My sister and cousin who both have major acne have tried the product and they both give it thumbs up. I have also heard many great feedbacks about this cream.
I don't have a problem with acne, but it seems to have great results on my sister who has moderate to severe acne. Her acne swelling went away overnight.
I hope this helps. =)lash liner
anyways I shower daily, I wear cotton underwear 97% of the time, I don't use any chemical products on it, I occasionally will put lotion on and I drink water a lot. What could I do to prevent and get rid of this acne? I've never had a silky smooth behind like a lot of people do which is strange because all of my skin is smooth and I don't break out anywhere else. I just want to have a pretty butt. So if someone could give me serious advice it would be appreciated.Kind of embarrassing but I really need some advice on this minor acne problem.?
I've had the same problem try 10% glycolic acid (Paula's Choice has one) and retinol together. I put it on at night before I go to bed because they are both photo sensitive - don't use it before going to the beach and protect your skin with at least a 30 sunscreen in that area if you are planning on being in the sun. You should see results with in a few days maybe a week. The other product you could try is benzoyle peroxide nightly. I don't like as well because it discolors anything that's not white like clothing, sheets, etcKind of embarrassing but I really need some advice on this minor acne problem.?
Have you tried tanning? If not, that is an option because it may dry it up. If you're against tanning buy an apricot scrub and scrub it really good. I had it on my back and i thought I would never be able to get rid of it until i realized i really had to get back there and scrub it. I also used clearasil ultra deep cleaning pads and that helped.
For me, complexion problems were caused by non-organic milk, which would include all products with milk derivatives, found in most processed foods. Below are some of the foods where milk is found. It's easier to just eat whole foods and skip the processed foods. Organic milk doesn't have that affect on me. Probably caused by the bovine hormones in non-organic milk. But what helped me even more was a whole food organic diet. It seems non-organic wheat caused me some trouble too. Chemicals such as insecticides and weed killers in non-organic food are actually too strong for weak neurons that regulate body functions and cause health problems. It wouldn't hurt to try a whole food organic diet like the one below for most of the time and then eat the usual stuff on special occasions. How chemicals in food affect each person varies depending on the frail neurons affected. Good luck.
Milk-free diet
No milk. No cheeses. No yogurt. No foods containing lactic acid, lactose, whey. Lactic acid is found in cured meats of all kids, like ham, bacon, lunch meats, hot dogs. It's never listed on the label with cured meats -considered a ';starter'; ingredient for curing. Lactose is found in a wide variety of foods and is whey. Examples are canned soups, chips, snacks like Cheetos, candy, breads, frozen meals, drugs, and more. Read all labels.
Whole food organic diet
Fresh fruit andvegtabless. Whole milk only. Eggs. Butter (salted only). Orange juice (no calcium citrate or lactate). Spring water for drinking / cooking / diluting whole milk - if desired. Popcorn (unflavored). Unbleached wheat flour (occasionally). Olive oil (for salad dressing with salt). Pickling salt (or salt with no additives). Agave nectar sweetener (like pancake syrup).
There is this new popular cream that people have been talking about.
It was even televised on TV.
It prevents future and existing acne, diminishes scars, and lightens skin and blemishes. Fast results too! (It has been claimed that major results can be seen within a week and no later than two weeks)
Before and After photos are available at the given ebay site.
This person is providing 1-3 week trial samples (Only for ONE DOLLAR.. definitely a deal) on ebay at:
Search up ';best acne solution ever'; on ebay.
First 100 customers can get the item for $1 for one week trial and up to 3 weeks. Or you can buy the whole container for $160
It's expensive, but the product DOES work.
My sister and cousin who both have major acne have tried the product and they both give it thumbs up. I have also heard many great feedbacks about this cream.
I don't have a problem with acne, but it seems to have great results on my sister who has moderate to severe acne. Her acne swelling went away overnight.
I hope this helps. =)
Break up problem---10 points for your advice. Thank you for your kindness?
This guy and I are in love for 4 years. We separated last year because I moved to other states. We kept in touch as friends and hoping that we will be together one days.
He was in a military for 6 years. He always has hard time express his feelings to me. He loves to write poems about us though. He wrote over 30 poems during our separation.
Recently, he wrote two poems:
1.) He is finding a future and want to move on. (I am not sure)
2.) His heart is locked up because of our love.
I have been begging him for the truth whether he still oves me or not---But he does not want to tell me. ( I sent him 7 messages, but I have never heard from him---he used to do that before though!!)
I was so upset and heart broken. I sent him a ';Good Bye'; and ';Good Luck'; Messages beause I could not deal this anymore.
Any ideas why he does not want to tell me the truth? Does he still love me? He does not seem to have a nice girl though.
Am I wrong to want to broke up with him?Break up problem---10 points for your advice. Thank you for your kindness?
well..honestly i think he's afraid of admiting the truth that you guys are finally over. He probably still does love you, but I'm sure he just doesn't want either one of you to be hurt anymore because it can't work.
He was in a military for 6 years. He always has hard time express his feelings to me. He loves to write poems about us though. He wrote over 30 poems during our separation.
Recently, he wrote two poems:
1.) He is finding a future and want to move on. (I am not sure)
2.) His heart is locked up because of our love.
I have been begging him for the truth whether he still oves me or not---But he does not want to tell me. ( I sent him 7 messages, but I have never heard from him---he used to do that before though!!)
I was so upset and heart broken. I sent him a ';Good Bye'; and ';Good Luck'; Messages beause I could not deal this anymore.
Any ideas why he does not want to tell me the truth? Does he still love me? He does not seem to have a nice girl though.
Am I wrong to want to broke up with him?Break up problem---10 points for your advice. Thank you for your kindness?
well..honestly i think he's afraid of admiting the truth that you guys are finally over. He probably still does love you, but I'm sure he just doesn't want either one of you to be hurt anymore because it can't work.
Help with Chemistry just give me any advice you can for this problem or resources?
Did a lab in class with Phosphoric Acid (H3PO4) well this has 3 dissociations as it goes from H3PO4 to H2PO4 to HPO4. I need to get the pH of this reaction and I've recieved each of the Ka's ranging from 6.92x10^-3 6.17x10^-8 and 2.09x10^-12. Does that mean I would have to find the pH at each of these levels? Then it asks me to find the moles broken/formed with Phosphoric Acid and Sodium Hydroxide... How would I go about doing that? Is it just the last reaction combining with NaOH? The first of H3PO4? Any help would be greatly appreciated list any resources or any information that may help me thanks a million.Help with Chemistry just give me any advice you can for this problem or resources?
Rater than reinvent the wheel, I've included some links to examples of the calculations that you need.
http://www40.homepage.villanova.edu/mich鈥?/a>
http://www.chem.usu.edu/~sbialkow/Classe鈥?/a>
http://www.chem.usu.edu/~sbialkow/Classe鈥?/a>
http://www.dartmouth.edu/~chemlab/chem3-鈥?/a>
and scroll down to near the bottom of the page
Rater than reinvent the wheel, I've included some links to examples of the calculations that you need.
http://www40.homepage.villanova.edu/mich鈥?/a>
http://www.chem.usu.edu/~sbialkow/Classe鈥?/a>
http://www.chem.usu.edu/~sbialkow/Classe鈥?/a>
http://www.dartmouth.edu/~chemlab/chem3-鈥?/a>
and scroll down to near the bottom of the page
Hey i have a big problem in my studies .do u hve any advice 4 mi?
Well, my first bit of advice would be to explicitly state something when you're supposed to. If you have to write an essay, for example, make sure that you state the topic clearly in the introduction paragraph.
Second, make sure that you're spelling and grammar is correct. Just this little change in the way you write things in all of your classes can make teachers like you more.
Third, make sure you do your homework and study. It does seem like a waste of time, but most of your points and better understanding of materials come from doing your homework and studying.
Fourth, if you have a question- ask! Don't be afraid to ask the teacher after class if you didn't understand something. You'll be worse off the next day when you don't know what to do than you were the day before.
Fifth, develop good study skills. Turn off the TV and music, and find a well-lighted, comfortable place to work. Keep a organizer to write down homework assignments in so you remember to do things on time and when to study. Space out the reading of an entire book over the time you have to read it: Read 10 pages a night instead of 300 the night before the book is due. It works much better.
Good luck! ^_^Hey i have a big problem in my studies .do u hve any advice 4 mi?
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Second, make sure that you're spelling and grammar is correct. Just this little change in the way you write things in all of your classes can make teachers like you more.
Third, make sure you do your homework and study. It does seem like a waste of time, but most of your points and better understanding of materials come from doing your homework and studying.
Fourth, if you have a question- ask! Don't be afraid to ask the teacher after class if you didn't understand something. You'll be worse off the next day when you don't know what to do than you were the day before.
Fifth, develop good study skills. Turn off the TV and music, and find a well-lighted, comfortable place to work. Keep a organizer to write down homework assignments in so you remember to do things on time and when to study. Space out the reading of an entire book over the time you have to read it: Read 10 pages a night instead of 300 the night before the book is due. It works much better.
Good luck! ^_^Hey i have a big problem in my studies .do u hve any advice 4 mi?
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Can you give advice on what to do when you have a drug problem?!!!?
CRACK COCAINECan you give advice on what to do when you have a drug problem?!!!?
yes. First, the person must realize they have a problem, and want to stop. If It's an adult, there are support groups that really do work,(look for a 12 step meeting/ or you can go to a detox/rehab. Don't worry bout not having the money.health benefits, or charitable care can help. If its a minor, dont be afraid to tell or ask someone for help, If the person is afraid to let down there parents,or is too embaressed, tell a teacher,better yet a guidence councelor. They will break the news to the parent for the student. There are lots of hands willing to reach out to addicts, the best ones are proffesionals and former addicts who are clean and sober. Its a tough road to recovery, but a tougher one being high. Theres always a light at the end of the tunnel.Can you give advice on what to do when you have a drug problem?!!!?
Ask your doctor! They will work with you and your insurance company, to get the help you need.
Most insurance companies cover the cost of treatment. Go through the insurance company, not your employer!
Think of all the money you will be saving when you kick the habit! Put it in the bank and save it for a well deserved vacation!
Take care, best wishes and good luck!
stay away from those people who you do drugs with, do not assosiate with any one in the ';drug world';
you need to get help with your addiction, think about being a better person realize that there is a better life out there when you are drug free. it's hard to let the drug go, i know, you will battle it for the rest of your life. prove to your self and the ones who love you that you are strong and that you can concore this problem, let them help you. good luck.
yes. First, the person must realize they have a problem, and want to stop. If It's an adult, there are support groups that really do work,(look for a 12 step meeting/ or you can go to a detox/rehab. Don't worry bout not having the money.health benefits, or charitable care can help. If its a minor, dont be afraid to tell or ask someone for help, If the person is afraid to let down there parents,or is too embaressed, tell a teacher,better yet a guidence councelor. They will break the news to the parent for the student. There are lots of hands willing to reach out to addicts, the best ones are proffesionals and former addicts who are clean and sober. Its a tough road to recovery, but a tougher one being high. Theres always a light at the end of the tunnel.Can you give advice on what to do when you have a drug problem?!!!?
Ask your doctor! They will work with you and your insurance company, to get the help you need.
Most insurance companies cover the cost of treatment. Go through the insurance company, not your employer!
Think of all the money you will be saving when you kick the habit! Put it in the bank and save it for a well deserved vacation!
Take care, best wishes and good luck!
stay away from those people who you do drugs with, do not assosiate with any one in the ';drug world';
you need to get help with your addiction, think about being a better person realize that there is a better life out there when you are drug free. it's hard to let the drug go, i know, you will battle it for the rest of your life. prove to your self and the ones who love you that you are strong and that you can concore this problem, let them help you. good luck.
I have a girl problem girl or dude's advice?
okay i like this chick in my class but shes mean and hot but does not like me what do i do to get her attension or somethingI have a girl problem girl or dude's advice?
Ok... If you like chicks that dehumanize you and treat you like sh*t, just be an a*shole yourself and treat her like she's nothing. Usually mean chicks like that because they have crappy self-esteem inside. Just make sure to dump her after she's satisfied you, because if you don't, you'll turn into one of the ball-less guys who lets himself get demeaned just so he can get some every once in a while.
My advice is: don't be dumb. Find a chick that's nice, who you actually enjoy being around and hanging out with. Something tells me that you won't do that though, so good luck with the b*tch.I have a girl problem girl or dude's advice?
Ok, first of all calling her a ';chick'; is not a good start. Maybe, start talking to her more and be funny because girls love a guy that has a sense of humor. If she still is mean then looking for a ';hot'; ';chick'; is not the best type. Maybe try looking for a nice, funny, and ';hot'; girl.
just be yourself. don't try too hard, it will make you seem needy, and she doesn't want that. Try this: just when the bell rings to get out of class and you stand up, look at her, give her a wink, and walk away. That will get her interested, but play it cool, again you don't want to seem needy....
if shes mean shes not worth it ... but i would give her the silent treatment say something interesting to her and then quikly walk away shes bound to follow to see what you meant and then let her get to know u. but u have to say something worth while or shell just think your a weirdo say something like '; your eyeshadow looks nice today, bye.'; then shell b following u like a lost dog
do u rlly want a girls whos an mean? as long as she treats u rite den ok but yea, i wouldn't know what gets those kind of girl's attention cuz honestly i hate those stuck up girls who think their better dan everyone.
most girls tho. like being complemented, oh oh and if you can get her to laugh ur a shoe-in to get her to like you!
just make her laugh with you not at you~!
also just try toknow what she likes, find some common ground
Just be your self. And if you only like her for her 'hot' looks then your into her for the wrong reason.
Good Luck
hah I know those types, they like to play rough, you basically have to make her think that your cooler than her, be little mean to her, act stupid and funny, and dont be jealous of what ever she does
Jacob Cullen...huh
A girl like that needs to really be impressed and probably really cares about what her friends think of the guy. Maybe you can try to get to her through her friends first.
find some of her friends that she hangs out with then hang out with them but be nice and tell them that you like her but be nice
be yourself
Ok... If you like chicks that dehumanize you and treat you like sh*t, just be an a*shole yourself and treat her like she's nothing. Usually mean chicks like that because they have crappy self-esteem inside. Just make sure to dump her after she's satisfied you, because if you don't, you'll turn into one of the ball-less guys who lets himself get demeaned just so he can get some every once in a while.
My advice is: don't be dumb. Find a chick that's nice, who you actually enjoy being around and hanging out with. Something tells me that you won't do that though, so good luck with the b*tch.I have a girl problem girl or dude's advice?
Ok, first of all calling her a ';chick'; is not a good start. Maybe, start talking to her more and be funny because girls love a guy that has a sense of humor. If she still is mean then looking for a ';hot'; ';chick'; is not the best type. Maybe try looking for a nice, funny, and ';hot'; girl.
just be yourself. don't try too hard, it will make you seem needy, and she doesn't want that. Try this: just when the bell rings to get out of class and you stand up, look at her, give her a wink, and walk away. That will get her interested, but play it cool, again you don't want to seem needy....
if shes mean shes not worth it ... but i would give her the silent treatment say something interesting to her and then quikly walk away shes bound to follow to see what you meant and then let her get to know u. but u have to say something worth while or shell just think your a weirdo say something like '; your eyeshadow looks nice today, bye.'; then shell b following u like a lost dog
do u rlly want a girls whos an mean? as long as she treats u rite den ok but yea, i wouldn't know what gets those kind of girl's attention cuz honestly i hate those stuck up girls who think their better dan everyone.
most girls tho. like being complemented, oh oh and if you can get her to laugh ur a shoe-in to get her to like you!
just make her laugh with you not at you~!
also just try toknow what she likes, find some common ground
Just be your self. And if you only like her for her 'hot' looks then your into her for the wrong reason.
Good Luck
hah I know those types, they like to play rough, you basically have to make her think that your cooler than her, be little mean to her, act stupid and funny, and dont be jealous of what ever she does
Jacob Cullen...huh
A girl like that needs to really be impressed and probably really cares about what her friends think of the guy. Maybe you can try to get to her through her friends first.
find some of her friends that she hangs out with then hang out with them but be nice and tell them that you like her but be nice
be yourself
I have problem getting the finest chicks any advice?
i can get girls though but not the ones i wantI have problem getting the finest chicks any advice?
Probably because you're ugly. Fine chicks like fine guys. So step your game up.I have problem getting the finest chicks any advice?
Well then..whats the problem? You must be shallow...beggars cant be choosers!
cause all the fine chicks r sluts and they only wanna date a stupid preppy guylash liner
Probably because you're ugly. Fine chicks like fine guys. So step your game up.I have problem getting the finest chicks any advice?
Well then..whats the problem? You must be shallow...beggars cant be choosers!
cause all the fine chicks r sluts and they only wanna date a stupid preppy guy
Problem with child support!! need advice!!?
ok this is a little strange. my husband's ex wife pays child support every 2 weeks 100.00. well now she has gotten a second job and for some reason they are takin support payments out of both checks. I know that is not allowed by law but we have called the department and they say that it has been deducted from her overdue child support and that we should cash it a keep it because it was taken from the total. now she says that she is not behind and that we need to cash it and write her a check for the additional payment. if it is taken off her over due amount wouldnt that be cheating the kids out of money they are rightfully owed?I have have talked to this department twice now and both times we were assured that she is behind and we should keep the money. I just don't know what to do, she is being very hatefull about it all.Problem with child support!! need advice!!?
We are in a similar situation so I can give you some good advice on this one (it's what our attorney adviced us to do). Get it in writing from the department that it's okay to cash it and then cash it. I am sorry you have to go through this sitch, it's no fun and if you need to b*tch I am here for you! Feel free to contact me. STLSapphireGirl@gmail.comProblem with child support!! need advice!!?
Keep accepting the checks
Your husband should know what the agreement calls for and whether or not his ex is current. Why don't his records agree with the agency withholding the money from his ex'es check? If she is in fact current and paid all back support then you should refund the money to her and provide the necessary support to the agency so they don't continue to withhold excess funds
I would have my husband contact someone and just check and see if she was behind, then from there I would take a look at the kids and see if they are in need of anything, but if you and him are worried about having to repay this money in case there is an error on the departments behalf then I would bank it and wait and see, The ex has to take up her problems with the department that governs child support. Good luck.
One option could be putting the extra money in a savings account for the children with your name also on it. If you have to pay it back you will have it, plus you can keep the interest. If you dont owe it back it would then become a good start in savings for the children later, like for college or car.
She should enlist a lawyer that specializes in Marital law or Child Support. If the woman is not behind in child support the state has no right to remove any additional money. You should sign in front of a notary that this woman is not behind in any child support. She should then take this letter to her employer. The employer needs a order from the state to without child support payments directly from the wages. See Wage and Garnishment law. This requires the process of the court system. She should have on this document the name and court address of the judge that issued the order. She can go to court and file what is called An Appearance. In this appearance she can have you testify that she is no longer behind in the payments of child support and this can be leaglly documented and stopped. If you do not have an attorney some states offer help with these types of family problems.
If you are not sure how to proceed with a legal action against the state or a review of your situation then you whould hire an attorney this is a very complex piece of law, and may require many steps I did not include here.
you should not give it back, they will not give you credit for such an act. If you are wrong you will just lose the money. Cash it and put it in a savings account for the kids, then if you find out definitive down the road then you can act.
If the department of child support has told you she's behind and to keep it, then yes. She needs to take it up with them if she feels it was wrong.
She should contact her lawyer. They will have better luck at looking into and dealing with the situation.
Good Luck
If I was you I'd keep it.
If I was her, I'd quit my second job.
But isn't that what having kids and splitting up all about? Who can screw who the best?
keep the money!!...explain to her that the department insists she is behind and it is owed to you(the children)..and if she has a problem with it she should take it up with them ..offer her their phone number and the name of the person you spoke with...
Well have her come in with you or do a three way phone call with her. If it's not your money then by all means give it back! But if is truly back support then it belongs to the kids!
If she is being a pooh butt then have her get a letter from the Gov't stating that you are to give it back. But hold on to the cash is a special account if you don't really need the money.
If the department says that she is behind in payments, then she needs to take it up with the child support department. You are following the department's order and until the order is changed, you should keep the money. If you want, put the extra money in a bank account and save it until things are straightened out. If it is what the department says is right, then you have a rainy day fund started. Good Luck!
Take the extra money and put it away in a savings account for now. Tell her if she wants that money then she need to go through the proper channels legally. That way if it turns out she is right and you have to give it back you have the money on hand, but if it turns out she did owe that money then eventually you can use that money for the kids.
If that's what they tell you then they aren't lien. She maybe the one WHO is not telling the truth so don't believe her.
First, I would politely tell your husband's ex-wife that if she has a problem she needs to contact the Child Support Office or Department. Never, never, never write checks back and forth for anything with out it going through the department. If it goes through the department they have record of it. If not and something happens, you'll be in another problem. It is her responsibility to contact the child support office if she thinks they're taking too much money out. You do need to keep tabs on how far behind she is and how much is being taken out of the check every week. But if the department says she's behind they will continue to take that money out until everything is paid up.
Good luck!
all you have to do is contact your health and human services department and explain the situation to them and ask them what you should do. It's not your job to do these things, it's theirs
Keep the money and tell her if she has a problem with it then she needs to call the child support office that is taking the money from her!
find out what the amount of her arrearages are and if she's behind then keep it. let her prove to THEM she is not behind, its not your problem, thats why the department exists so THEY keep track and deal with the problems not you. don't allow her to be hateful, if she brings it up just say you have to talk to your case worker there is nothing i can do about it END OF DISCUSSION if she's right she can deal with them about it and then they'll just give her credit for it but make it clear to her that dealing with you is going to do her NO GOOD at all. then refuse to participate in any discussions or arguments about it any further. she can only be hateful is someone is listening.
My suggestion would be to keep the money. If she really thinks that she is behind in support then she will take it to court and fight it. Then if it is proved that she isn't behind and she doesn't owe you the money then give it back to her at that time. Just put it in a savings account and save it just in case.
Oh definitely keep it, don't give it back to her. If you don't necessarily need it right now, save it for the kids later on with college, weddings, graduation, what ever comes up {as so many things always do!} Let her be hateful about it, if she wasn't behind, they would NOT be taking it from her.
if you thinks shes paying too much why not give her the extra money
she has to pay back support,everyone does.also child support is based on a a person income,she makes more she pays more.if the state says she owes it you keep it.the kids deserve the back pay.let her b ugly about it,tell her to take it up with the judge.
I would stick w/ what the department says. I'm sure their records are more accurate than what she says she may or may not owe. Especially if you have spoken w/ the department twice. However you may also be able to contact your states capital and see what they have on their records. And even if she were ahead of payment why wouldn't she want her own kids to have a little extra money? Is she a little on the greedy side or can she just not afford to have a little more go to the support?
Why her make him pay it
she should be able to afford that, and NO it shouldn't go back to her! sorry, ur husband has custody of the kids, and yeah they deserve to be supported by the absent parent! it takes a lot to support children, so go out and buy them something they need with the extra money for them! child support enforcement keeps up with this, and you've already done more than most people in the same situation would do...u called them 2 times, so don't feel bad about this anymore!!!!!
I would NOT cut your husband's ex a check for ANYTHING. Child support is for the children not for you and your ex getting rich. His ex needs to realize that. Contact your state's child support office or Attorney General. If she says she is caught up, she needs to talk to them too.
Don't worry about it. She is behind. She wouldn't be hateful if she wasn't.
How is your son doing, the one with the heart problem?
Did you take him to see his doctor?
it is up to the department to deal with this. if she is that behind, she knows it. they may also take her tax return. you just take the money owed, and let the courts do the rest.
We are in a similar situation so I can give you some good advice on this one (it's what our attorney adviced us to do). Get it in writing from the department that it's okay to cash it and then cash it. I am sorry you have to go through this sitch, it's no fun and if you need to b*tch I am here for you! Feel free to contact me. STLSapphireGirl@gmail.comProblem with child support!! need advice!!?
Keep accepting the checks
Your husband should know what the agreement calls for and whether or not his ex is current. Why don't his records agree with the agency withholding the money from his ex'es check? If she is in fact current and paid all back support then you should refund the money to her and provide the necessary support to the agency so they don't continue to withhold excess funds
I would have my husband contact someone and just check and see if she was behind, then from there I would take a look at the kids and see if they are in need of anything, but if you and him are worried about having to repay this money in case there is an error on the departments behalf then I would bank it and wait and see, The ex has to take up her problems with the department that governs child support. Good luck.
One option could be putting the extra money in a savings account for the children with your name also on it. If you have to pay it back you will have it, plus you can keep the interest. If you dont owe it back it would then become a good start in savings for the children later, like for college or car.
She should enlist a lawyer that specializes in Marital law or Child Support. If the woman is not behind in child support the state has no right to remove any additional money. You should sign in front of a notary that this woman is not behind in any child support. She should then take this letter to her employer. The employer needs a order from the state to without child support payments directly from the wages. See Wage and Garnishment law. This requires the process of the court system. She should have on this document the name and court address of the judge that issued the order. She can go to court and file what is called An Appearance. In this appearance she can have you testify that she is no longer behind in the payments of child support and this can be leaglly documented and stopped. If you do not have an attorney some states offer help with these types of family problems.
If you are not sure how to proceed with a legal action against the state or a review of your situation then you whould hire an attorney this is a very complex piece of law, and may require many steps I did not include here.
you should not give it back, they will not give you credit for such an act. If you are wrong you will just lose the money. Cash it and put it in a savings account for the kids, then if you find out definitive down the road then you can act.
If the department of child support has told you she's behind and to keep it, then yes. She needs to take it up with them if she feels it was wrong.
She should contact her lawyer. They will have better luck at looking into and dealing with the situation.
Good Luck
If I was you I'd keep it.
If I was her, I'd quit my second job.
But isn't that what having kids and splitting up all about? Who can screw who the best?
keep the money!!...explain to her that the department insists she is behind and it is owed to you(the children)..and if she has a problem with it she should take it up with them ..offer her their phone number and the name of the person you spoke with...
Well have her come in with you or do a three way phone call with her. If it's not your money then by all means give it back! But if is truly back support then it belongs to the kids!
If she is being a pooh butt then have her get a letter from the Gov't stating that you are to give it back. But hold on to the cash is a special account if you don't really need the money.
If the department says that she is behind in payments, then she needs to take it up with the child support department. You are following the department's order and until the order is changed, you should keep the money. If you want, put the extra money in a bank account and save it until things are straightened out. If it is what the department says is right, then you have a rainy day fund started. Good Luck!
Take the extra money and put it away in a savings account for now. Tell her if she wants that money then she need to go through the proper channels legally. That way if it turns out she is right and you have to give it back you have the money on hand, but if it turns out she did owe that money then eventually you can use that money for the kids.
If that's what they tell you then they aren't lien. She maybe the one WHO is not telling the truth so don't believe her.
First, I would politely tell your husband's ex-wife that if she has a problem she needs to contact the Child Support Office or Department. Never, never, never write checks back and forth for anything with out it going through the department. If it goes through the department they have record of it. If not and something happens, you'll be in another problem. It is her responsibility to contact the child support office if she thinks they're taking too much money out. You do need to keep tabs on how far behind she is and how much is being taken out of the check every week. But if the department says she's behind they will continue to take that money out until everything is paid up.
Good luck!
all you have to do is contact your health and human services department and explain the situation to them and ask them what you should do. It's not your job to do these things, it's theirs
Keep the money and tell her if she has a problem with it then she needs to call the child support office that is taking the money from her!
find out what the amount of her arrearages are and if she's behind then keep it. let her prove to THEM she is not behind, its not your problem, thats why the department exists so THEY keep track and deal with the problems not you. don't allow her to be hateful, if she brings it up just say you have to talk to your case worker there is nothing i can do about it END OF DISCUSSION if she's right she can deal with them about it and then they'll just give her credit for it but make it clear to her that dealing with you is going to do her NO GOOD at all. then refuse to participate in any discussions or arguments about it any further. she can only be hateful is someone is listening.
My suggestion would be to keep the money. If she really thinks that she is behind in support then she will take it to court and fight it. Then if it is proved that she isn't behind and she doesn't owe you the money then give it back to her at that time. Just put it in a savings account and save it just in case.
Oh definitely keep it, don't give it back to her. If you don't necessarily need it right now, save it for the kids later on with college, weddings, graduation, what ever comes up {as so many things always do!} Let her be hateful about it, if she wasn't behind, they would NOT be taking it from her.
if you thinks shes paying too much why not give her the extra money
she has to pay back support,everyone does.also child support is based on a a person income,she makes more she pays more.if the state says she owes it you keep it.the kids deserve the back pay.let her b ugly about it,tell her to take it up with the judge.
I would stick w/ what the department says. I'm sure their records are more accurate than what she says she may or may not owe. Especially if you have spoken w/ the department twice. However you may also be able to contact your states capital and see what they have on their records. And even if she were ahead of payment why wouldn't she want her own kids to have a little extra money? Is she a little on the greedy side or can she just not afford to have a little more go to the support?
Why her make him pay it
she should be able to afford that, and NO it shouldn't go back to her! sorry, ur husband has custody of the kids, and yeah they deserve to be supported by the absent parent! it takes a lot to support children, so go out and buy them something they need with the extra money for them! child support enforcement keeps up with this, and you've already done more than most people in the same situation would do...u called them 2 times, so don't feel bad about this anymore!!!!!
I would NOT cut your husband's ex a check for ANYTHING. Child support is for the children not for you and your ex getting rich. His ex needs to realize that. Contact your state's child support office or Attorney General. If she says she is caught up, she needs to talk to them too.
Don't worry about it. She is behind. She wouldn't be hateful if she wasn't.
How is your son doing, the one with the heart problem?
Did you take him to see his doctor?
it is up to the department to deal with this. if she is that behind, she knows it. they may also take her tax return. you just take the money owed, and let the courts do the rest.
Im really irritated right now, any advice on such a juvenile problem like mine?
Ok, my best friend and i were suppoese to be hanging out today but are not because low and behold his gf is taking hm to see her cousin perform something that Im sure is sooo magical. I mean, Im tired of this gf having all this time to him, and Im like, ok, so wtf? I mean, she has a key to our apt, she wont go away, and all I can do is bite my tongue. Is there anything I can do, or should I just continue to build up my frustrations? I mean, I dont feel like I really have the right to say anything.Im really irritated right now, any advice on such a juvenile problem like mine?
lol get a hotter gf
or just accept ur mate has moved onto the adult phase of life
soz!
lol get a hotter gf
or just accept ur mate has moved onto the adult phase of life
soz!
Can someone please give me relationship advice??? This isnt some teenage problem.?
OK this may turn out kinda long but I hope someone takes the time to read it. My gf and I have been dating for almost a year (11 months). I am 21 yrs old and in college. We met over a year ago and began dating pretty much right away. We are very different people when it comes to our personalities but have lots of similarities in the way we were raised and the way we live.
I will admit that this is by far the longest relationship I have ever had (she's actually my only real gf ever). For many yrs I simply jumped from girl to girl and never stayed very long. I like women and for some reason women like me too. But she was very different from what I am used to so I stayed with her this long. I do feel like I love her and I've told her. We have even discussed the possibility of getting married one day. She tells me that for her I am ';it';. Our relationship is pretty great. We have problems and some of them are big but we have always decided that we want to be with each other.
We both recently moved out of our parent's house and got our own places to finish our degrees. And thats where I noticed the problems.
I'm gonna be completely honest here. I just ';don't feel it';. Thats the best way I can put it. I dont feel the want of being in the relationship anymore or the passion during sex. I do not miss her when she's gone and sometimes feel better when I'm alone. Don't get me wrong I do care about her very much and would do anything to make her happy. But sometimes I think thats the only reason that I have stuck around this long. I do not know if these feelings have arisen because of our relationship or if it is a result of the big move and total change in lifestyle and new city and everything. The truth is that I have no one here except for her.
I need to know if I should tell her most of this stuff and ask her if we can take a break and see if were better off by ourselves. I know that doing that is a total gamble and I could be destroying the best relationship I have ever had.
The problem comes from the fact that she is very dependent emotionally on me. She openly admits that. I know that she loves me more than I love her. To be honest although she is beautiful, I am the better looking of the 2. She is also not as social as me so she has trouble making friends. In the past year her only new friends have been the ones that I already had or made. And I feel like she will need me if we were to break up.
I need to know what you think is the best thing to do. Do I talk to her about this and call for a break? just break up? suck it up and see how it goes?
If we separate I will miss her dearly but for some reason I think I would be happier alone. She thinks everything is going great right now so this whole thing would be a shock to her. I know she is much more commited to this relationship than I am.
Please help me out with your opinions. BUT PLEASE NO HIGH SCHOOL PEOPLE THAT THINK THEY KNOW STUFF ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS. Adults only thanks.Can someone please give me relationship advice??? This isnt some teenage problem.?
I think you answered your own question in the statment ';I think I would be happier alone.'; This is your life too, and as important as it is to let her down gently, know that you only get one chance so make the most of it. Don't get stuck in a r/s you aren't happy in... live! Things are going to be hard for awhile and really crappy/sad, but time will heal the hurt. Good luck.
I will admit that this is by far the longest relationship I have ever had (she's actually my only real gf ever). For many yrs I simply jumped from girl to girl and never stayed very long. I like women and for some reason women like me too. But she was very different from what I am used to so I stayed with her this long. I do feel like I love her and I've told her. We have even discussed the possibility of getting married one day. She tells me that for her I am ';it';. Our relationship is pretty great. We have problems and some of them are big but we have always decided that we want to be with each other.
We both recently moved out of our parent's house and got our own places to finish our degrees. And thats where I noticed the problems.
I'm gonna be completely honest here. I just ';don't feel it';. Thats the best way I can put it. I dont feel the want of being in the relationship anymore or the passion during sex. I do not miss her when she's gone and sometimes feel better when I'm alone. Don't get me wrong I do care about her very much and would do anything to make her happy. But sometimes I think thats the only reason that I have stuck around this long. I do not know if these feelings have arisen because of our relationship or if it is a result of the big move and total change in lifestyle and new city and everything. The truth is that I have no one here except for her.
I need to know if I should tell her most of this stuff and ask her if we can take a break and see if were better off by ourselves. I know that doing that is a total gamble and I could be destroying the best relationship I have ever had.
The problem comes from the fact that she is very dependent emotionally on me. She openly admits that. I know that she loves me more than I love her. To be honest although she is beautiful, I am the better looking of the 2. She is also not as social as me so she has trouble making friends. In the past year her only new friends have been the ones that I already had or made. And I feel like she will need me if we were to break up.
I need to know what you think is the best thing to do. Do I talk to her about this and call for a break? just break up? suck it up and see how it goes?
If we separate I will miss her dearly but for some reason I think I would be happier alone. She thinks everything is going great right now so this whole thing would be a shock to her. I know she is much more commited to this relationship than I am.
Please help me out with your opinions. BUT PLEASE NO HIGH SCHOOL PEOPLE THAT THINK THEY KNOW STUFF ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS. Adults only thanks.Can someone please give me relationship advice??? This isnt some teenage problem.?
I think you answered your own question in the statment ';I think I would be happier alone.'; This is your life too, and as important as it is to let her down gently, know that you only get one chance so make the most of it. Don't get stuck in a r/s you aren't happy in... live! Things are going to be hard for awhile and really crappy/sad, but time will heal the hurt. Good luck.
What do i do....i need advice on a friend/family problem?
I have a best friend that is a guy. my parents think we like eachother or something and ive already tried to proove i dont. I absolutely have to hang out with him hes my best friend he works alot and i dont get to see him at school. I'm not allowed to see him even WITH my parents there and other GIRLS there the entire time, not even at my house or anywhere else and for no other reason but that hes a guy and im not supposed to ';date';{which it wouldnt be a date} till im 16. I already tried to negotiate calmly, civily and respectfully and the outcome was no no no you cant negotiate anything im the parent. so what do i doWhat do i do....i need advice on a friend/family problem?
do your have an older sister or brother or aunt who can talk to your parents to tell them that they must start trusting your judgment that they have raised you right so they should trust you more. And that he is just a friend who you enjoy being around. Have you invited him over to your house it might help if he can come meet the family.What do i do....i need advice on a friend/family problem?
You didn't say how old you were. But if he is that great.. ';Anything that good is worth waiting for';
do your have an older sister or brother or aunt who can talk to your parents to tell them that they must start trusting your judgment that they have raised you right so they should trust you more. And that he is just a friend who you enjoy being around. Have you invited him over to your house it might help if he can come meet the family.What do i do....i need advice on a friend/family problem?
You didn't say how old you were. But if he is that great.. ';Anything that good is worth waiting for';
Anybody who can give a legal advice regarding landlord ant tenant problem?
My grandmother gave her house on rent to a family without any written agreement. She was living in her own house in which our tenants were also residing at ground floor. my grandmother had a severe heart problem , diabetes, and also an obesity patient. she asked the tenants to vacant the house as she cant step up to the first floor but the tenants despite of our pleading request filled a suit against my grand mother,my father and my uncle for permanent injunction . on the basis that we are troubling them . but we asked them to vacant our house numerous times but they entirely ignored our requests
please help my grandmother. if possible give me advice how can we get our house back.Anybody who can give a legal advice regarding landlord ant tenant problem?
The mistake your grandmother did is to let out her house on rent without written agreement. Any way, you can take advantage of this fact. Since you are the owner of property legally %26amp; must be having valid documents, you may force them to vacate the premises. You can initially persuade them verbally to vacate and if they do not heed, then you can lodge a complaint with the police on stating that they are encroachers or tresspassers. But you must remember that you can do so, only if your grandmother has not issued any official receipts for the rents paid. If she has issued receipts, then your case weakens.
In any case, it is more advisable to get back the premises by a fake threatening (without meaning it) or politely persuading them to vacate. Otherwise, if it becomes police case, it may involve lot of hassles and tension and time consuming. You can this use it as a last resort.Anybody who can give a legal advice regarding landlord ant tenant problem?
Lands/house buying and selling a big question mark legally due to cheating by the people in India.
Tenents, owner problems cannot be solved due to cheating by tenents and owners; SOLUTION: steamlining of legal system required.
In your case, you can contact your area police department for action. If police department cannot solve it then you have to sell the house and vacate the tenents. SOLUTION: steamlining the indian legal system is required.
Legally speaking Indian law is a cumbersome process wherein lots of money goes off everywhere for all the rich people/middle class people and for the poor people. It will take several months/years for settlement of properties in India.
SOLUTION: If you do not know how to solve it legally sell the property
I think your up the creek on this one. Because no written agreement was made. Also because the house does belong to you (grandmother) it is possible for them to claim squatters rights in which case you will need to go to a court to get them removed. However Since there is no written legal agreement, I really don't see how they can file a suit for permanent injunction.
I can think of 2 solutions, One is that since the house does belong to you, you strong arm them out. Since you should have copies of all the keys, wait until they are all out, then move their crap out onto the street, and change all the locks. If they try to force themselves in, call the police and say they are breaking and entering. Theoretically the law would be on your side since they have no written protection.
The other is of course to get a court order, forcing them to move.
Personally I prefer the first method, as it will really piss them off. I have a feeling that either of these will be complicated if your tenants have children though.
Also bare in mind that a court order to remove them could take months.
I would also advise you to seek professional legal advice, as I am not a solicitor.
please help my grandmother. if possible give me advice how can we get our house back.Anybody who can give a legal advice regarding landlord ant tenant problem?
The mistake your grandmother did is to let out her house on rent without written agreement. Any way, you can take advantage of this fact. Since you are the owner of property legally %26amp; must be having valid documents, you may force them to vacate the premises. You can initially persuade them verbally to vacate and if they do not heed, then you can lodge a complaint with the police on stating that they are encroachers or tresspassers. But you must remember that you can do so, only if your grandmother has not issued any official receipts for the rents paid. If she has issued receipts, then your case weakens.
In any case, it is more advisable to get back the premises by a fake threatening (without meaning it) or politely persuading them to vacate. Otherwise, if it becomes police case, it may involve lot of hassles and tension and time consuming. You can this use it as a last resort.Anybody who can give a legal advice regarding landlord ant tenant problem?
Lands/house buying and selling a big question mark legally due to cheating by the people in India.
Tenents, owner problems cannot be solved due to cheating by tenents and owners; SOLUTION: steamlining of legal system required.
In your case, you can contact your area police department for action. If police department cannot solve it then you have to sell the house and vacate the tenents. SOLUTION: steamlining the indian legal system is required.
Legally speaking Indian law is a cumbersome process wherein lots of money goes off everywhere for all the rich people/middle class people and for the poor people. It will take several months/years for settlement of properties in India.
SOLUTION: If you do not know how to solve it legally sell the property
I think your up the creek on this one. Because no written agreement was made. Also because the house does belong to you (grandmother) it is possible for them to claim squatters rights in which case you will need to go to a court to get them removed. However Since there is no written legal agreement, I really don't see how they can file a suit for permanent injunction.
I can think of 2 solutions, One is that since the house does belong to you, you strong arm them out. Since you should have copies of all the keys, wait until they are all out, then move their crap out onto the street, and change all the locks. If they try to force themselves in, call the police and say they are breaking and entering. Theoretically the law would be on your side since they have no written protection.
The other is of course to get a court order, forcing them to move.
Personally I prefer the first method, as it will really piss them off. I have a feeling that either of these will be complicated if your tenants have children though.
Also bare in mind that a court order to remove them could take months.
I would also advise you to seek professional legal advice, as I am not a solicitor.
I have problem getting the finest chicks any advice?
i can get girls though but not the ones i wantI have problem getting the finest chicks any advice?
Probably because you're ugly. Fine chicks like fine guys. So step your game up.I have problem getting the finest chicks any advice?
Well then..whats the problem? You must be shallow...beggars cant be choosers!
cause all the fine chicks r sluts and they only wanna date a stupid preppy guylash liner
Probably because you're ugly. Fine chicks like fine guys. So step your game up.I have problem getting the finest chicks any advice?
Well then..whats the problem? You must be shallow...beggars cant be choosers!
cause all the fine chicks r sluts and they only wanna date a stupid preppy guy
Problem with child support!! need advice!!?
ok this is a little strange. my husband's ex wife pays child support every 2 weeks 100.00. well now she has gotten a second job and for some reason they are takin support payments out of both checks. I know that is not allowed by law but we have called the department and they say that it has been deducted from her overdue child support and that we should cash it a keep it because it was taken from the total. now she says that she is not behind and that we need to cash it and write her a check for the additional payment. if it is taken off her over due amount wouldnt that be cheating the kids out of money they are rightfully owed?I have have talked to this department twice now and both times we were assured that she is behind and we should keep the money. I just don't know what to do, she is being very hatefull about it all.Problem with child support!! need advice!!?
We are in a similar situation so I can give you some good advice on this one (it's what our attorney adviced us to do). Get it in writing from the department that it's okay to cash it and then cash it. I am sorry you have to go through this sitch, it's no fun and if you need to b*tch I am here for you! Feel free to contact me. STLSapphireGirl@gmail.comProblem with child support!! need advice!!?
Keep accepting the checks
Your husband should know what the agreement calls for and whether or not his ex is current. Why don't his records agree with the agency withholding the money from his ex'es check? If she is in fact current and paid all back support then you should refund the money to her and provide the necessary support to the agency so they don't continue to withhold excess funds
I would have my husband contact someone and just check and see if she was behind, then from there I would take a look at the kids and see if they are in need of anything, but if you and him are worried about having to repay this money in case there is an error on the departments behalf then I would bank it and wait and see, The ex has to take up her problems with the department that governs child support. Good luck.
One option could be putting the extra money in a savings account for the children with your name also on it. If you have to pay it back you will have it, plus you can keep the interest. If you dont owe it back it would then become a good start in savings for the children later, like for college or car.
She should enlist a lawyer that specializes in Marital law or Child Support. If the woman is not behind in child support the state has no right to remove any additional money. You should sign in front of a notary that this woman is not behind in any child support. She should then take this letter to her employer. The employer needs a order from the state to without child support payments directly from the wages. See Wage and Garnishment law. This requires the process of the court system. She should have on this document the name and court address of the judge that issued the order. She can go to court and file what is called An Appearance. In this appearance she can have you testify that she is no longer behind in the payments of child support and this can be leaglly documented and stopped. If you do not have an attorney some states offer help with these types of family problems.
If you are not sure how to proceed with a legal action against the state or a review of your situation then you whould hire an attorney this is a very complex piece of law, and may require many steps I did not include here.
you should not give it back, they will not give you credit for such an act. If you are wrong you will just lose the money. Cash it and put it in a savings account for the kids, then if you find out definitive down the road then you can act.
If the department of child support has told you she's behind and to keep it, then yes. She needs to take it up with them if she feels it was wrong.
She should contact her lawyer. They will have better luck at looking into and dealing with the situation.
Good Luck
If I was you I'd keep it.
If I was her, I'd quit my second job.
But isn't that what having kids and splitting up all about? Who can screw who the best?
keep the money!!...explain to her that the department insists she is behind and it is owed to you(the children)..and if she has a problem with it she should take it up with them ..offer her their phone number and the name of the person you spoke with...
Well have her come in with you or do a three way phone call with her. If it's not your money then by all means give it back! But if is truly back support then it belongs to the kids!
If she is being a pooh butt then have her get a letter from the Gov't stating that you are to give it back. But hold on to the cash is a special account if you don't really need the money.
If the department says that she is behind in payments, then she needs to take it up with the child support department. You are following the department's order and until the order is changed, you should keep the money. If you want, put the extra money in a bank account and save it until things are straightened out. If it is what the department says is right, then you have a rainy day fund started. Good Luck!
Take the extra money and put it away in a savings account for now. Tell her if she wants that money then she need to go through the proper channels legally. That way if it turns out she is right and you have to give it back you have the money on hand, but if it turns out she did owe that money then eventually you can use that money for the kids.
If that's what they tell you then they aren't lien. She maybe the one WHO is not telling the truth so don't believe her.
First, I would politely tell your husband's ex-wife that if she has a problem she needs to contact the Child Support Office or Department. Never, never, never write checks back and forth for anything with out it going through the department. If it goes through the department they have record of it. If not and something happens, you'll be in another problem. It is her responsibility to contact the child support office if she thinks they're taking too much money out. You do need to keep tabs on how far behind she is and how much is being taken out of the check every week. But if the department says she's behind they will continue to take that money out until everything is paid up.
Good luck!
all you have to do is contact your health and human services department and explain the situation to them and ask them what you should do. It's not your job to do these things, it's theirs
Keep the money and tell her if she has a problem with it then she needs to call the child support office that is taking the money from her!
find out what the amount of her arrearages are and if she's behind then keep it. let her prove to THEM she is not behind, its not your problem, thats why the department exists so THEY keep track and deal with the problems not you. don't allow her to be hateful, if she brings it up just say you have to talk to your case worker there is nothing i can do about it END OF DISCUSSION if she's right she can deal with them about it and then they'll just give her credit for it but make it clear to her that dealing with you is going to do her NO GOOD at all. then refuse to participate in any discussions or arguments about it any further. she can only be hateful is someone is listening.
My suggestion would be to keep the money. If she really thinks that she is behind in support then she will take it to court and fight it. Then if it is proved that she isn't behind and she doesn't owe you the money then give it back to her at that time. Just put it in a savings account and save it just in case.
Oh definitely keep it, don't give it back to her. If you don't necessarily need it right now, save it for the kids later on with college, weddings, graduation, what ever comes up {as so many things always do!} Let her be hateful about it, if she wasn't behind, they would NOT be taking it from her.
if you thinks shes paying too much why not give her the extra money
she has to pay back support,everyone does.also child support is based on a a person income,she makes more she pays more.if the state says she owes it you keep it.the kids deserve the back pay.let her b ugly about it,tell her to take it up with the judge.
I would stick w/ what the department says. I'm sure their records are more accurate than what she says she may or may not owe. Especially if you have spoken w/ the department twice. However you may also be able to contact your states capital and see what they have on their records. And even if she were ahead of payment why wouldn't she want her own kids to have a little extra money? Is she a little on the greedy side or can she just not afford to have a little more go to the support?
Why her make him pay it
she should be able to afford that, and NO it shouldn't go back to her! sorry, ur husband has custody of the kids, and yeah they deserve to be supported by the absent parent! it takes a lot to support children, so go out and buy them something they need with the extra money for them! child support enforcement keeps up with this, and you've already done more than most people in the same situation would do...u called them 2 times, so don't feel bad about this anymore!!!!!
I would NOT cut your husband's ex a check for ANYTHING. Child support is for the children not for you and your ex getting rich. His ex needs to realize that. Contact your state's child support office or Attorney General. If she says she is caught up, she needs to talk to them too.
Don't worry about it. She is behind. She wouldn't be hateful if she wasn't.
How is your son doing, the one with the heart problem?
Did you take him to see his doctor?
it is up to the department to deal with this. if she is that behind, she knows it. they may also take her tax return. you just take the money owed, and let the courts do the rest.
We are in a similar situation so I can give you some good advice on this one (it's what our attorney adviced us to do). Get it in writing from the department that it's okay to cash it and then cash it. I am sorry you have to go through this sitch, it's no fun and if you need to b*tch I am here for you! Feel free to contact me. STLSapphireGirl@gmail.comProblem with child support!! need advice!!?
Keep accepting the checks
Your husband should know what the agreement calls for and whether or not his ex is current. Why don't his records agree with the agency withholding the money from his ex'es check? If she is in fact current and paid all back support then you should refund the money to her and provide the necessary support to the agency so they don't continue to withhold excess funds
I would have my husband contact someone and just check and see if she was behind, then from there I would take a look at the kids and see if they are in need of anything, but if you and him are worried about having to repay this money in case there is an error on the departments behalf then I would bank it and wait and see, The ex has to take up her problems with the department that governs child support. Good luck.
One option could be putting the extra money in a savings account for the children with your name also on it. If you have to pay it back you will have it, plus you can keep the interest. If you dont owe it back it would then become a good start in savings for the children later, like for college or car.
She should enlist a lawyer that specializes in Marital law or Child Support. If the woman is not behind in child support the state has no right to remove any additional money. You should sign in front of a notary that this woman is not behind in any child support. She should then take this letter to her employer. The employer needs a order from the state to without child support payments directly from the wages. See Wage and Garnishment law. This requires the process of the court system. She should have on this document the name and court address of the judge that issued the order. She can go to court and file what is called An Appearance. In this appearance she can have you testify that she is no longer behind in the payments of child support and this can be leaglly documented and stopped. If you do not have an attorney some states offer help with these types of family problems.
If you are not sure how to proceed with a legal action against the state or a review of your situation then you whould hire an attorney this is a very complex piece of law, and may require many steps I did not include here.
you should not give it back, they will not give you credit for such an act. If you are wrong you will just lose the money. Cash it and put it in a savings account for the kids, then if you find out definitive down the road then you can act.
If the department of child support has told you she's behind and to keep it, then yes. She needs to take it up with them if she feels it was wrong.
She should contact her lawyer. They will have better luck at looking into and dealing with the situation.
Good Luck
If I was you I'd keep it.
If I was her, I'd quit my second job.
But isn't that what having kids and splitting up all about? Who can screw who the best?
keep the money!!...explain to her that the department insists she is behind and it is owed to you(the children)..and if she has a problem with it she should take it up with them ..offer her their phone number and the name of the person you spoke with...
Well have her come in with you or do a three way phone call with her. If it's not your money then by all means give it back! But if is truly back support then it belongs to the kids!
If she is being a pooh butt then have her get a letter from the Gov't stating that you are to give it back. But hold on to the cash is a special account if you don't really need the money.
If the department says that she is behind in payments, then she needs to take it up with the child support department. You are following the department's order and until the order is changed, you should keep the money. If you want, put the extra money in a bank account and save it until things are straightened out. If it is what the department says is right, then you have a rainy day fund started. Good Luck!
Take the extra money and put it away in a savings account for now. Tell her if she wants that money then she need to go through the proper channels legally. That way if it turns out she is right and you have to give it back you have the money on hand, but if it turns out she did owe that money then eventually you can use that money for the kids.
If that's what they tell you then they aren't lien. She maybe the one WHO is not telling the truth so don't believe her.
First, I would politely tell your husband's ex-wife that if she has a problem she needs to contact the Child Support Office or Department. Never, never, never write checks back and forth for anything with out it going through the department. If it goes through the department they have record of it. If not and something happens, you'll be in another problem. It is her responsibility to contact the child support office if she thinks they're taking too much money out. You do need to keep tabs on how far behind she is and how much is being taken out of the check every week. But if the department says she's behind they will continue to take that money out until everything is paid up.
Good luck!
all you have to do is contact your health and human services department and explain the situation to them and ask them what you should do. It's not your job to do these things, it's theirs
Keep the money and tell her if she has a problem with it then she needs to call the child support office that is taking the money from her!
find out what the amount of her arrearages are and if she's behind then keep it. let her prove to THEM she is not behind, its not your problem, thats why the department exists so THEY keep track and deal with the problems not you. don't allow her to be hateful, if she brings it up just say you have to talk to your case worker there is nothing i can do about it END OF DISCUSSION if she's right she can deal with them about it and then they'll just give her credit for it but make it clear to her that dealing with you is going to do her NO GOOD at all. then refuse to participate in any discussions or arguments about it any further. she can only be hateful is someone is listening.
My suggestion would be to keep the money. If she really thinks that she is behind in support then she will take it to court and fight it. Then if it is proved that she isn't behind and she doesn't owe you the money then give it back to her at that time. Just put it in a savings account and save it just in case.
Oh definitely keep it, don't give it back to her. If you don't necessarily need it right now, save it for the kids later on with college, weddings, graduation, what ever comes up {as so many things always do!} Let her be hateful about it, if she wasn't behind, they would NOT be taking it from her.
if you thinks shes paying too much why not give her the extra money
she has to pay back support,everyone does.also child support is based on a a person income,she makes more she pays more.if the state says she owes it you keep it.the kids deserve the back pay.let her b ugly about it,tell her to take it up with the judge.
I would stick w/ what the department says. I'm sure their records are more accurate than what she says she may or may not owe. Especially if you have spoken w/ the department twice. However you may also be able to contact your states capital and see what they have on their records. And even if she were ahead of payment why wouldn't she want her own kids to have a little extra money? Is she a little on the greedy side or can she just not afford to have a little more go to the support?
Why her make him pay it
she should be able to afford that, and NO it shouldn't go back to her! sorry, ur husband has custody of the kids, and yeah they deserve to be supported by the absent parent! it takes a lot to support children, so go out and buy them something they need with the extra money for them! child support enforcement keeps up with this, and you've already done more than most people in the same situation would do...u called them 2 times, so don't feel bad about this anymore!!!!!
I would NOT cut your husband's ex a check for ANYTHING. Child support is for the children not for you and your ex getting rich. His ex needs to realize that. Contact your state's child support office or Attorney General. If she says she is caught up, she needs to talk to them too.
Don't worry about it. She is behind. She wouldn't be hateful if she wasn't.
How is your son doing, the one with the heart problem?
Did you take him to see his doctor?
it is up to the department to deal with this. if she is that behind, she knows it. they may also take her tax return. you just take the money owed, and let the courts do the rest.
Im really irritated right now, any advice on such a juvenile problem like mine?
Ok, my best friend and i were suppoese to be hanging out today but are not because low and behold his gf is taking hm to see her cousin perform something that Im sure is sooo magical. I mean, Im tired of this gf having all this time to him, and Im like, ok, so wtf? I mean, she has a key to our apt, she wont go away, and all I can do is bite my tongue. Is there anything I can do, or should I just continue to build up my frustrations? I mean, I dont feel like I really have the right to say anything.Im really irritated right now, any advice on such a juvenile problem like mine?
lol get a hotter gf
or just accept ur mate has moved onto the adult phase of life
soz!
lol get a hotter gf
or just accept ur mate has moved onto the adult phase of life
soz!
Can someone please give me relationship advice??? This isnt some teenage problem.?
OK this may turn out kinda long but I hope someone takes the time to read it. My gf and I have been dating for almost a year (11 months). I am 21 yrs old and in college. We met over a year ago and began dating pretty much right away. We are very different people when it comes to our personalities but have lots of similarities in the way we were raised and the way we live.
I will admit that this is by far the longest relationship I have ever had (she's actually my only real gf ever). For many yrs I simply jumped from girl to girl and never stayed very long. I like women and for some reason women like me too. But she was very different from what I am used to so I stayed with her this long. I do feel like I love her and I've told her. We have even discussed the possibility of getting married one day. She tells me that for her I am ';it';. Our relationship is pretty great. We have problems and some of them are big but we have always decided that we want to be with each other.
We both recently moved out of our parent's house and got our own places to finish our degrees. And thats where I noticed the problems.
I'm gonna be completely honest here. I just ';don't feel it';. Thats the best way I can put it. I dont feel the want of being in the relationship anymore or the passion during sex. I do not miss her when she's gone and sometimes feel better when I'm alone. Don't get me wrong I do care about her very much and would do anything to make her happy. But sometimes I think thats the only reason that I have stuck around this long. I do not know if these feelings have arisen because of our relationship or if it is a result of the big move and total change in lifestyle and new city and everything. The truth is that I have no one here except for her.
I need to know if I should tell her most of this stuff and ask her if we can take a break and see if were better off by ourselves. I know that doing that is a total gamble and I could be destroying the best relationship I have ever had.
The problem comes from the fact that she is very dependent emotionally on me. She openly admits that. I know that she loves me more than I love her. To be honest although she is beautiful, I am the better looking of the 2. She is also not as social as me so she has trouble making friends. In the past year her only new friends have been the ones that I already had or made. And I feel like she will need me if we were to break up.
I need to know what you think is the best thing to do. Do I talk to her about this and call for a break? just break up? suck it up and see how it goes?
If we separate I will miss her dearly but for some reason I think I would be happier alone. She thinks everything is going great right now so this whole thing would be a shock to her. I know she is much more commited to this relationship than I am.
Please help me out with your opinions. BUT PLEASE NO HIGH SCHOOL PEOPLE THAT THINK THEY KNOW STUFF ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS. Adults only thanks.Can someone please give me relationship advice??? This isnt some teenage problem.?
I think you answered your own question in the statment ';I think I would be happier alone.'; This is your life too, and as important as it is to let her down gently, know that you only get one chance so make the most of it. Don't get stuck in a r/s you aren't happy in... live! Things are going to be hard for awhile and really crappy/sad, but time will heal the hurt. Good luck.
I will admit that this is by far the longest relationship I have ever had (she's actually my only real gf ever). For many yrs I simply jumped from girl to girl and never stayed very long. I like women and for some reason women like me too. But she was very different from what I am used to so I stayed with her this long. I do feel like I love her and I've told her. We have even discussed the possibility of getting married one day. She tells me that for her I am ';it';. Our relationship is pretty great. We have problems and some of them are big but we have always decided that we want to be with each other.
We both recently moved out of our parent's house and got our own places to finish our degrees. And thats where I noticed the problems.
I'm gonna be completely honest here. I just ';don't feel it';. Thats the best way I can put it. I dont feel the want of being in the relationship anymore or the passion during sex. I do not miss her when she's gone and sometimes feel better when I'm alone. Don't get me wrong I do care about her very much and would do anything to make her happy. But sometimes I think thats the only reason that I have stuck around this long. I do not know if these feelings have arisen because of our relationship or if it is a result of the big move and total change in lifestyle and new city and everything. The truth is that I have no one here except for her.
I need to know if I should tell her most of this stuff and ask her if we can take a break and see if were better off by ourselves. I know that doing that is a total gamble and I could be destroying the best relationship I have ever had.
The problem comes from the fact that she is very dependent emotionally on me. She openly admits that. I know that she loves me more than I love her. To be honest although she is beautiful, I am the better looking of the 2. She is also not as social as me so she has trouble making friends. In the past year her only new friends have been the ones that I already had or made. And I feel like she will need me if we were to break up.
I need to know what you think is the best thing to do. Do I talk to her about this and call for a break? just break up? suck it up and see how it goes?
If we separate I will miss her dearly but for some reason I think I would be happier alone. She thinks everything is going great right now so this whole thing would be a shock to her. I know she is much more commited to this relationship than I am.
Please help me out with your opinions. BUT PLEASE NO HIGH SCHOOL PEOPLE THAT THINK THEY KNOW STUFF ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS. Adults only thanks.Can someone please give me relationship advice??? This isnt some teenage problem.?
I think you answered your own question in the statment ';I think I would be happier alone.'; This is your life too, and as important as it is to let her down gently, know that you only get one chance so make the most of it. Don't get stuck in a r/s you aren't happy in... live! Things are going to be hard for awhile and really crappy/sad, but time will heal the hurt. Good luck.
What do i do....i need advice on a friend/family problem?
I have a best friend that is a guy. my parents think we like eachother or something and ive already tried to proove i dont. I absolutely have to hang out with him hes my best friend he works alot and i dont get to see him at school. I'm not allowed to see him even WITH my parents there and other GIRLS there the entire time, not even at my house or anywhere else and for no other reason but that hes a guy and im not supposed to ';date';{which it wouldnt be a date} till im 16. I already tried to negotiate calmly, civily and respectfully and the outcome was no no no you cant negotiate anything im the parent. so what do i doWhat do i do....i need advice on a friend/family problem?
You didn't say how old you were. But if he is that great.. ';Anything that good is worth waiting for';What do i do....i need advice on a friend/family problem?
do your have an older sister or brother or aunt who can talk to your parents to tell them that they must start trusting your judgment that they have raised you right so they should trust you more. And that he is just a friend who you enjoy being around. Have you invited him over to your house it might help if he can come meet the family.
You didn't say how old you were. But if he is that great.. ';Anything that good is worth waiting for';What do i do....i need advice on a friend/family problem?
do your have an older sister or brother or aunt who can talk to your parents to tell them that they must start trusting your judgment that they have raised you right so they should trust you more. And that he is just a friend who you enjoy being around. Have you invited him over to your house it might help if he can come meet the family.
Anybody who can give a legal advice regarding landlord ant tenant problem?
My grandmother gave her house on rent to a family without any written agreement. She was living in her own house in which our tenants were also residing at ground floor. my grandmother had a severe heart problem , diabetes, and also an obesity patient. she asked the tenants to vacant the house as she cant step up to the first floor but the tenants despite of our pleading request filled a suit against my grand mother,my father and my uncle for permanent injunction . on the basis that we are troubling them . but we asked them to vacant our house numerous times but they entirely ignored our requests
please help my grandmother. if possible give me advice how can we get our house back.Anybody who can give a legal advice regarding landlord ant tenant problem?
The mistake your grandmother did is to let out her house on rent without written agreement. Any way, you can take advantage of this fact. Since you are the owner of property legally %26amp; must be having valid documents, you may force them to vacate the premises. You can initially persuade them verbally to vacate and if they do not heed, then you can lodge a complaint with the police on stating that they are encroachers or tresspassers. But you must remember that you can do so, only if your grandmother has not issued any official receipts for the rents paid. If she has issued receipts, then your case weakens.
In any case, it is more advisable to get back the premises by a fake threatening (without meaning it) or politely persuading them to vacate. Otherwise, if it becomes police case, it may involve lot of hassles and tension and time consuming. You can this use it as a last resort.Anybody who can give a legal advice regarding landlord ant tenant problem?
Lands/house buying and selling a big question mark legally due to cheating by the people in India.
Tenents, owner problems cannot be solved due to cheating by tenents and owners; SOLUTION: steamlining of legal system required.
In your case, you can contact your area police department for action. If police department cannot solve it then you have to sell the house and vacate the tenents. SOLUTION: steamlining the indian legal system is required.
Legally speaking Indian law is a cumbersome process wherein lots of money goes off everywhere for all the rich people/middle class people and for the poor people. It will take several months/years for settlement of properties in India.
SOLUTION: If you do not know how to solve it legally sell the property
I think your up the creek on this one. Because no written agreement was made. Also because the house does belong to you (grandmother) it is possible for them to claim squatters rights in which case you will need to go to a court to get them removed. However Since there is no written legal agreement, I really don't see how they can file a suit for permanent injunction.
I can think of 2 solutions, One is that since the house does belong to you, you strong arm them out. Since you should have copies of all the keys, wait until they are all out, then move their crap out onto the street, and change all the locks. If they try to force themselves in, call the police and say they are breaking and entering. Theoretically the law would be on your side since they have no written protection.
The other is of course to get a court order, forcing them to move.
Personally I prefer the first method, as it will really piss them off. I have a feeling that either of these will be complicated if your tenants have children though.
Also bare in mind that a court order to remove them could take months.
I would also advise you to seek professional legal advice, as I am not a solicitor.
please help my grandmother. if possible give me advice how can we get our house back.Anybody who can give a legal advice regarding landlord ant tenant problem?
The mistake your grandmother did is to let out her house on rent without written agreement. Any way, you can take advantage of this fact. Since you are the owner of property legally %26amp; must be having valid documents, you may force them to vacate the premises. You can initially persuade them verbally to vacate and if they do not heed, then you can lodge a complaint with the police on stating that they are encroachers or tresspassers. But you must remember that you can do so, only if your grandmother has not issued any official receipts for the rents paid. If she has issued receipts, then your case weakens.
In any case, it is more advisable to get back the premises by a fake threatening (without meaning it) or politely persuading them to vacate. Otherwise, if it becomes police case, it may involve lot of hassles and tension and time consuming. You can this use it as a last resort.Anybody who can give a legal advice regarding landlord ant tenant problem?
Lands/house buying and selling a big question mark legally due to cheating by the people in India.
Tenents, owner problems cannot be solved due to cheating by tenents and owners; SOLUTION: steamlining of legal system required.
In your case, you can contact your area police department for action. If police department cannot solve it then you have to sell the house and vacate the tenents. SOLUTION: steamlining the indian legal system is required.
Legally speaking Indian law is a cumbersome process wherein lots of money goes off everywhere for all the rich people/middle class people and for the poor people. It will take several months/years for settlement of properties in India.
SOLUTION: If you do not know how to solve it legally sell the property
I think your up the creek on this one. Because no written agreement was made. Also because the house does belong to you (grandmother) it is possible for them to claim squatters rights in which case you will need to go to a court to get them removed. However Since there is no written legal agreement, I really don't see how they can file a suit for permanent injunction.
I can think of 2 solutions, One is that since the house does belong to you, you strong arm them out. Since you should have copies of all the keys, wait until they are all out, then move their crap out onto the street, and change all the locks. If they try to force themselves in, call the police and say they are breaking and entering. Theoretically the law would be on your side since they have no written protection.
The other is of course to get a court order, forcing them to move.
Personally I prefer the first method, as it will really piss them off. I have a feeling that either of these will be complicated if your tenants have children though.
Also bare in mind that a court order to remove them could take months.
I would also advise you to seek professional legal advice, as I am not a solicitor.
I have serious problem!!!! Can anyone give me advice?
What is the problem???? details???I have serious problem!!!! Can anyone give me advice?
most deffinitely. talk to an outsider. a phychiatrist or a helpline.I have serious problem!!!! Can anyone give me advice?
yes
What's the problem??
yes, why not, we can atleast try
what's d problem... am always there to help... feel free to consult....
What is the SERIOUS problem???
no
Um, yeah if you tell me what it is sooo.......
What is it?
My advice is: let someone know what you need help with. There is someone who can help.
yes once you tell me the problem... I will be more than glad to help in anyway I can... please feel free to contact me whenever you need.
If you stated exactly what the serious problem is, then maybe someone could give you some advice.
yeah...seems it serious...yet dont know what is....lol.speak up gal...we cant hear you and cant help you either...
yes......lash liner
most deffinitely. talk to an outsider. a phychiatrist or a helpline.I have serious problem!!!! Can anyone give me advice?
yes
What's the problem??
yes, why not, we can atleast try
what's d problem... am always there to help... feel free to consult....
What is the SERIOUS problem???
no
Um, yeah if you tell me what it is sooo.......
What is it?
My advice is: let someone know what you need help with. There is someone who can help.
yes once you tell me the problem... I will be more than glad to help in anyway I can... please feel free to contact me whenever you need.
If you stated exactly what the serious problem is, then maybe someone could give you some advice.
yeah...seems it serious...yet dont know what is....lol.speak up gal...we cant hear you and cant help you either...
yes......
I am having sort of a ';Girl'; Problem... Can anyone give me advice?
I have known and liked this girl since 6th Grade and I am currently in 10th Grade. I am like her best friend along with another girl and I am enjoying life. However, although we do everything together and she knows how I feel, she still has a boyfriend because every guy in the school likes her too. I know she likes me but she likes her boyfriend probably a lot more and even her best friend has a boyfriend now leaving me all to my lonesome. I just need to know what should be done in this situation...I am having sort of a ';Girl'; Problem... Can anyone give me advice?
tell her how you feel about her even though she has a bf, you never know what could happenI am having sort of a ';Girl'; Problem... Can anyone give me advice?
hmmm, I did the same mistake. If everyone else in the school wants her, better to back off. no offense but she sounds like a (cough cough you know what), look at it from a different view. If she has gone out with alot of people then don't bother. I went out with this girl for 6 years in school and sure it was fun but she was a (cough cough you know what) and when i finally convinsed myself that she was i broke up with her.
Or you could ask her to go to the movies or something infront of the boyfriend making the boyfriend mad making her dislike the boy friend more and making the boyfriend do somthing stupid when she says yes. I hope you get a good answer from someone anyways goodluck.
tell her that, go straif=ght up ( im a girl) and im into that
Are you gay?
. keep hanging with her . you will see a girl you will be interested in and since you know you don't have a chance with either of the other two you wont feel guilty when you see some one else you like. be patient . you have a good friendship . keep it that way.
If I were you, I would be thankful just to have two good friends, and leave it at that. Maybe down the road when you've all matured some more, there might be something that will develop, but for now, just let it ride and see if there's any girls out there for you. Good luck and God Bless!
Don't think about getting in a relationship with her, if ya do, you could really destroy your friendship. I would recommend finding someone else if you believe that she really likes the guy she's currently going out with. Continue being her friend but don't stress over not being able to date her. Just try not to do something stupid. Hope this works!!
If the girl you like has been your best friend..........and every Guy likes her............she just is enjoying being liked...... Maybe some day it will be your turn...........let it go .......till it is..........if it doesn't happen just go on enjoying life................Don't let her know you are sad about it ...act happy around her and she might come over to see why you are so happy............
If you really like, don't disappear from the picture, but let's be realistic here, if she liked you in that way, she would be with you. Find yourself a girlfriend too, but don't lose the friendship that you two have. I'm sure you've heard that friends make the best lovers, if it's meant to be, it's meant to be.
confess
I think you should continue to be cool with her...nice to her and show her you are interested but don't cross the line because you don't want any probs with her boyfriend. If she sees you as just a buddy, then change that and show her that you like her as more than just a friend.
If it is meant to be, she may break up with her bf and spend more time with you but i think you should give it time. Even if she breaks up with him it will take time for her to be ready for a new relationship.
Even better advice would be to tell you not to be in a relationship right now. Just date or hang out with girls you like but relationships can be too complicated and distract you from more important things in life. I mean, all in time...you will have soo much time for all of that. Right now make sure you are happy and having fun and spending time with your friends and family and not getting your heart broken ok?
Good luck. :-) But i do wish you luck with your friend!!!
tell her how you feel about her even though she has a bf, you never know what could happenI am having sort of a ';Girl'; Problem... Can anyone give me advice?
hmmm, I did the same mistake. If everyone else in the school wants her, better to back off. no offense but she sounds like a (cough cough you know what), look at it from a different view. If she has gone out with alot of people then don't bother. I went out with this girl for 6 years in school and sure it was fun but she was a (cough cough you know what) and when i finally convinsed myself that she was i broke up with her.
Or you could ask her to go to the movies or something infront of the boyfriend making the boyfriend mad making her dislike the boy friend more and making the boyfriend do somthing stupid when she says yes. I hope you get a good answer from someone anyways goodluck.
tell her that, go straif=ght up ( im a girl) and im into that
Are you gay?
. keep hanging with her . you will see a girl you will be interested in and since you know you don't have a chance with either of the other two you wont feel guilty when you see some one else you like. be patient . you have a good friendship . keep it that way.
If I were you, I would be thankful just to have two good friends, and leave it at that. Maybe down the road when you've all matured some more, there might be something that will develop, but for now, just let it ride and see if there's any girls out there for you. Good luck and God Bless!
Don't think about getting in a relationship with her, if ya do, you could really destroy your friendship. I would recommend finding someone else if you believe that she really likes the guy she's currently going out with. Continue being her friend but don't stress over not being able to date her. Just try not to do something stupid. Hope this works!!
If the girl you like has been your best friend..........and every Guy likes her............she just is enjoying being liked...... Maybe some day it will be your turn...........let it go .......till it is..........if it doesn't happen just go on enjoying life................Don't let her know you are sad about it ...act happy around her and she might come over to see why you are so happy............
If you really like, don't disappear from the picture, but let's be realistic here, if she liked you in that way, she would be with you. Find yourself a girlfriend too, but don't lose the friendship that you two have. I'm sure you've heard that friends make the best lovers, if it's meant to be, it's meant to be.
confess
I think you should continue to be cool with her...nice to her and show her you are interested but don't cross the line because you don't want any probs with her boyfriend. If she sees you as just a buddy, then change that and show her that you like her as more than just a friend.
If it is meant to be, she may break up with her bf and spend more time with you but i think you should give it time. Even if she breaks up with him it will take time for her to be ready for a new relationship.
Even better advice would be to tell you not to be in a relationship right now. Just date or hang out with girls you like but relationships can be too complicated and distract you from more important things in life. I mean, all in time...you will have soo much time for all of that. Right now make sure you are happy and having fun and spending time with your friends and family and not getting your heart broken ok?
Good luck. :-) But i do wish you luck with your friend!!!
I have a problem .... would be glad for advice anyone
I have a male friend who I really like but he is going out with a girl who I think he is quite happy with. Them two together really upset me but no one knows about me liking him as I would never want to wreck his relationship. The girl he is going out with though seems to upset me not because she isn't a nice person but because everything in her life is perfect. And I mean everything: boyfriend, looks, friends ..parents. I dont have low self esteem and am very confident and don't really feel ugly or anything but everytime I look at her I feel upset! But that is only because she is with that guy.The only thing I feel I really have to my name is my A grades which she doesnt. Although I am friends with that guy I am thinking of letting him go and stop being friends with him because I can't deal with them two together. What do you think I should do?I have a problem .... would be glad for advice anyone
I wouldnt recommend breaking your' friendship over it. It may hurt because you have a crush on him, but if you are a true friend just hang in there and be happy that he likes this girl and is happy. Dont do anything or say anything to try and hurt that relationship either. Just hang in there. Who knows, maybe one day he will realize that he truly loves you and you guys will end up together. If you break off your friendship then maybe you'll never know. But, if it does only stay a friendship just be happy that you have a great attractive friend to hang out with! If it's meant to be, then one day it will be!I have a problem .... would be glad for advice anyone
well i think what u should do is ask him if you could speak to him about something important and tell him you think you and him shouldn't hang around anymore because you have feelings for him and you have nothing against his girl but it upsets u when u see them together because you like him. it might be hard but it has 2 be done or you will remain a bit gutted he aint with you. but you will get success through your A levels. good luck
any attempt to pry them apart would jsut make your firend resent oyu
if you really lie khim its best to jsut ride out and either wait untill someone new catches your eye or unitll they break up.
dont let it ruin your friendship
jsut take soem time away form your friend
liek dont tal kt othem for a few weeks untill you get over it
but dont lose thme completely
your jealous,do nothing or you could lose a good friend,be happy for him and just wait to you meet a guy and then you see how silly this all is
I think you should just find your own boyfriend and leave her boyfriend alone. They are in a relationship and you need to stop comparing yourself to other girls. Good luck.
Sounds great
Why not find another guy to stare at THAT DOESN'T HAVE A GIRLFRIEND??? I don't know...it might help...
If it is too much for you then end the friendship, but it would be a shame to lose such a good friend. Why can't you be happy for him? It sounds like he has found a very good catch, but, I know, it is not you. Can you get to like the girl? How is their relationship, good, shaky, difficult or bliss? Do you think he likes you? What I would do is to act nonchalant around them, but do little things that endear him to you (smile and wink when you say a joke that is kind of an inside joke to both of you, wave to him from across the room, look your best when you guys hang out, touch his arm when you are making a point, etc.). Remember, what you want to do is be in his sub-conscience. Not realizing he wants you until one day he wants you, is your goal. Good luck.
Maybe just take some breathers first. Then maybe you want to just not ditch the friendship all together just dont hang around him as much. Its very big of you to not want to ruin there relationship, most girls dont care about anyone besides themselves so they dont mind ruining things. You sound like a good person. If ending the relationship is going to make you feel better then do it but be ready to have an explanation for him if he asks you whats wrong, cause if he asks and you say ';I really like you and cant stand seeing you with her'; that might ruin the relat. to so be careful. Good luck!
em hello its called jealously ,like go and find someone to keep your mind off him,you should feel ashamed of yourself i thought he was your friend
I wouldnt recommend breaking your' friendship over it. It may hurt because you have a crush on him, but if you are a true friend just hang in there and be happy that he likes this girl and is happy. Dont do anything or say anything to try and hurt that relationship either. Just hang in there. Who knows, maybe one day he will realize that he truly loves you and you guys will end up together. If you break off your friendship then maybe you'll never know. But, if it does only stay a friendship just be happy that you have a great attractive friend to hang out with! If it's meant to be, then one day it will be!I have a problem .... would be glad for advice anyone
well i think what u should do is ask him if you could speak to him about something important and tell him you think you and him shouldn't hang around anymore because you have feelings for him and you have nothing against his girl but it upsets u when u see them together because you like him. it might be hard but it has 2 be done or you will remain a bit gutted he aint with you. but you will get success through your A levels. good luck
any attempt to pry them apart would jsut make your firend resent oyu
if you really lie khim its best to jsut ride out and either wait untill someone new catches your eye or unitll they break up.
dont let it ruin your friendship
jsut take soem time away form your friend
liek dont tal kt othem for a few weeks untill you get over it
but dont lose thme completely
your jealous,do nothing or you could lose a good friend,be happy for him and just wait to you meet a guy and then you see how silly this all is
I think you should just find your own boyfriend and leave her boyfriend alone. They are in a relationship and you need to stop comparing yourself to other girls. Good luck.
Sounds great
Why not find another guy to stare at THAT DOESN'T HAVE A GIRLFRIEND??? I don't know...it might help...
If it is too much for you then end the friendship, but it would be a shame to lose such a good friend. Why can't you be happy for him? It sounds like he has found a very good catch, but, I know, it is not you. Can you get to like the girl? How is their relationship, good, shaky, difficult or bliss? Do you think he likes you? What I would do is to act nonchalant around them, but do little things that endear him to you (smile and wink when you say a joke that is kind of an inside joke to both of you, wave to him from across the room, look your best when you guys hang out, touch his arm when you are making a point, etc.). Remember, what you want to do is be in his sub-conscience. Not realizing he wants you until one day he wants you, is your goal. Good luck.
Maybe just take some breathers first. Then maybe you want to just not ditch the friendship all together just dont hang around him as much. Its very big of you to not want to ruin there relationship, most girls dont care about anyone besides themselves so they dont mind ruining things. You sound like a good person. If ending the relationship is going to make you feel better then do it but be ready to have an explanation for him if he asks you whats wrong, cause if he asks and you say ';I really like you and cant stand seeing you with her'; that might ruin the relat. to so be careful. Good luck!
em hello its called jealously ,like go and find someone to keep your mind off him,you should feel ashamed of yourself i thought he was your friend
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Thank you for your efforts. If everyone had an attitude like this, there would be no more war, hunger, greed, or sadness. Sincerity is rare nowadays.Anyone in desperate need for advice for ANY sort of problem....? (pic)?
I have several problems.
How do I stop my kitteh from looking at me like I was an alien from mars?
How can I find a way to just say no and stand up to the chocolate that whispers to me in the middle of the night ';come eat me';.?
Why is it that people can't stop being stupid sometimes? Its annoying.
How can I find a way to sleep at night? seriously. When I KNOW i have to get up at 6am the next morning, I wake up every hour to look at the clock. But friday and saturday night I sleep like the dead.
I desperately want a hamburger. But I can't have one.
I feel like people at my job dont want me here. How do you work with people when you feel they hate you?
Why is there no I in Team?
I need to pee.
How do you get the voices in your head to shut up for 5 seconds so you can concentrate? NO I WILL NOT STICK THAT PENCIL UP MY NOSE, GEEEESH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
How do you choose between two people that mean so much to you without hurting anyone, including yourself?
Why does it have to be so cold and lonely at night?
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Well its good theres people like you around. Not much people like that.
And if this gets reported thats dumb, like have a heart people.
how do i remove the smell of dead hookers from the trunk of my car?
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No!
i want some cheesecake.
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U can report me for posting this, or u can make fun and critisize but u r only wasting ur own time =PAnyone in desperate need for advice for ANY sort of problem....? (pic)?
Thank you for your efforts. If everyone had an attitude like this, there would be no more war, hunger, greed, or sadness. Sincerity is rare nowadays.Anyone in desperate need for advice for ANY sort of problem....? (pic)?
I have several problems.
How do I stop my kitteh from looking at me like I was an alien from mars?
How can I find a way to just say no and stand up to the chocolate that whispers to me in the middle of the night ';come eat me';.?
Why is it that people can't stop being stupid sometimes? Its annoying.
How can I find a way to sleep at night? seriously. When I KNOW i have to get up at 6am the next morning, I wake up every hour to look at the clock. But friday and saturday night I sleep like the dead.
I desperately want a hamburger. But I can't have one.
I feel like people at my job dont want me here. How do you work with people when you feel they hate you?
Why is there no I in Team?
I need to pee.
How do you get the voices in your head to shut up for 5 seconds so you can concentrate? NO I WILL NOT STICK THAT PENCIL UP MY NOSE, GEEEESH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
How do you choose between two people that mean so much to you without hurting anyone, including yourself?
Why does it have to be so cold and lonely at night?
ok, those are my pending problems. :)
Well its good theres people like you around. Not much people like that.
And if this gets reported thats dumb, like have a heart people.
how do i remove the smell of dead hookers from the trunk of my car?
No judgement rememeber.
No!
i want some cheesecake.
I need help and advice as I have a problem, can mature and responsible people out there help me please the ?
QUESTION IS QUITE LONG THOUGH SO EVERYONE PLEASE STAY WITH ME.Well I'm unemployed as I was a temp at Argos for Christmas but they didn't keep me on, an the credit crunch has made everything hard and I am now signing on, and was told by the person who works in the job centre that I might be able to claim housing benefit even though I live in a private place with a landlord that I pay to every month, he said that all I would have to do was to have a word with my landlord try to see if I can get the tenancy agreement back, but I have 760 pounds in the bank for myself from my last job do you think it's worth me asking my landlord as it might make things easier for me and I have been there for about 2 years now and have always paid my rent on time and was told by one of the other housemates that I am liked, should I sort some kind of housing benefit out or just use the money in the bank?Am I entitled to it as I pay 260 per month - what do I do I'm confused?I told the person in the job centre that I hope to have a job in a months time and that I wont be signing on for long but he said what if I don't have a job in a month's time, he might have been right I mean with the credit crunch things are a bit harder.I don't want to make the wrong move and end up on the street, what do I do - Ignorance Is Bliss!!!What if I talk to the landlord and get in trouble for mentioning it as the landlord thinks that I wont have enough money to pay the rent?Or what if the lanlord tells me that I'm not able to do such a thing from that address?I did'nt know that people were allowed to clam housing benefit in private adresses but the guy at the jobcentre said it was possible, what do I do do I take a chance and ask?I dont want to mess anything up!!!The guy at the jobcentre just gave me the number for housing benefit and told me to just go away and think about it, do I wait until I have ran out of money to pay the rent and then claim housing benefit or do I try to claim some now?I was finding things a bit hard as I did want a laptop as I want to be a scriptwriter!!!How do I practically and sensibly do things right?
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I WAS ALWAYS TOLD THAT ';IF YOU DONT ASK IN LIFE, YOU DONT GET';!!!Do I need the money?I need help and advice as I have a problem, can mature and responsible people out there help me please the ?
You will be able to claim housing benefit with that amount in the bank for sure.It does take a few weeks for them to start paying but they will back date it and send you or your landlord the payment.If the landlord is not willing to wait for his rent then pay him from your savings and ask the council to put the payment in your bank account then you will get back what you have already paid plus future payments,you just give the future payments to the landlord.I hope you manage to find another job soon,good luck.I need help and advice as I have a problem, can mature and responsible people out there help me please the ?
Speak to your landlord. It doesn't matter that you have a few hundred in the bank...you need (I believe) 拢16k before they refuse application. You date the application for Housing Beneft from the date you left your job. As long as you were ';let go'; and didn't resign or get fired, then you are ok. The main thing is to BE HONEST WITH THE LANDLORD...you don't have to mention how much you have saved. Secondly MAKE AN APPLICATION WITH HOUSING BENEFIT office NOW.
Of course you can claim and are entitled to housing benefit.If you didn't have savings how would you survive on 拢60 a week ,that would only cover your rent then you would starve.Make an appointment with your local housing benefit office and they will do the rest.
Firstly, a lot of private landlords take housing benefit as payment and if you aren't working you are entitled to claim for it. Just ask your landlord if he would accept housing benefit if it becomes necessary? At least this way he is guaranteed payment every month. As for the money you have in the bank, well its going to take a few weeks to sort out your housing benefit claim so you are going to need that money to live on, cos JSA aint much now is it? There shouldnt be any way your landlord can put you out if you have an occupancy agreement. You have rights. Visit your local CAB and ask them to explain it all for you and help sort it. Good luck.
1. If would be benefit fraud if you claimed and had that money
BUT I actually see your problem in a different way. Many many many Landlords will not accept housing benefit tenants anyhow - yours may well be one.
Hi there.
Talk to the landlord and if no problem, get your claim in as soon as you can - your claim will be paid from the day you put it in, so don't wait.
Don't worry about your 拢760, that is not enough to change your claim so just go for it.
You shouldn't need to lie, your situation is quite common.
Good luck, Steve.
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I WAS ALWAYS TOLD THAT ';IF YOU DONT ASK IN LIFE, YOU DONT GET';!!!Do I need the money?I need help and advice as I have a problem, can mature and responsible people out there help me please the ?
You will be able to claim housing benefit with that amount in the bank for sure.It does take a few weeks for them to start paying but they will back date it and send you or your landlord the payment.If the landlord is not willing to wait for his rent then pay him from your savings and ask the council to put the payment in your bank account then you will get back what you have already paid plus future payments,you just give the future payments to the landlord.I hope you manage to find another job soon,good luck.I need help and advice as I have a problem, can mature and responsible people out there help me please the ?
Speak to your landlord. It doesn't matter that you have a few hundred in the bank...you need (I believe) 拢16k before they refuse application. You date the application for Housing Beneft from the date you left your job. As long as you were ';let go'; and didn't resign or get fired, then you are ok. The main thing is to BE HONEST WITH THE LANDLORD...you don't have to mention how much you have saved. Secondly MAKE AN APPLICATION WITH HOUSING BENEFIT office NOW.
Of course you can claim and are entitled to housing benefit.If you didn't have savings how would you survive on 拢60 a week ,that would only cover your rent then you would starve.Make an appointment with your local housing benefit office and they will do the rest.
Firstly, a lot of private landlords take housing benefit as payment and if you aren't working you are entitled to claim for it. Just ask your landlord if he would accept housing benefit if it becomes necessary? At least this way he is guaranteed payment every month. As for the money you have in the bank, well its going to take a few weeks to sort out your housing benefit claim so you are going to need that money to live on, cos JSA aint much now is it? There shouldnt be any way your landlord can put you out if you have an occupancy agreement. You have rights. Visit your local CAB and ask them to explain it all for you and help sort it. Good luck.
1. If would be benefit fraud if you claimed and had that money
BUT I actually see your problem in a different way. Many many many Landlords will not accept housing benefit tenants anyhow - yours may well be one.
Hi there.
Talk to the landlord and if no problem, get your claim in as soon as you can - your claim will be paid from the day you put it in, so don't wait.
Don't worry about your 拢760, that is not enough to change your claim so just go for it.
You shouldn't need to lie, your situation is quite common.
Good luck, Steve.
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