I have a big problem and need serious advice about a friend with benefits?

Please don't judge me. I came here because i dont have the guts to go to anyone else i really need advice





He has been my friend from work for a year now. We just started as friends because he tought I was real cool and easy to talk to. I really just saw him as a cool friend because I did have a boyfriend. He would ask me to go out to movies or clubbing but i just tought whatever and never went any where with him because i really respected my boyfriend. Just 3 months ago my boyfriend, now ex dumped me out of no where and said he didnt like me anymore. I was sad but determined to forget him. Thats when My friend came along and help me though my breakup. I started talking to him more and now outside of work. We got so cool and love being around each other. The problem is that he has a girlfriend for 7 yrs and a 3 yr old daughter with her. they live together too. I held my self back to taking it to another level because of that but we both couldnt do it. We became friends with benefits but we havent had sex though because im scared for him to see me as easy or if thats all he just wanted. This weekend he told me he loves me and said he really meant it and asked me if i really want to be with him. He said he loves his girlfriend but he is not inlove with her and her with him either. because if he was he would never even tried to get to know or talk to me. He would leave his house and move in an apartment with me, he really wants to, but he is scarred i might leave him later and him losing everything for my fault, but he said he would take that chance if i am 100% sure. It makes me angry because i have very strong feelings for him and really want to be with him but i dont want to be a home wrecker. Theres also an age difference, im 20 and he is 30 but i dont see it and neither does he. I want to be with him but i cant tell him and i hate that he is still with her but i stay cool about it and dont let him know. He is the best guy i ever met and want him but i dont know what to do. I told him that i wouldnt want him to do anything he might regret later. I would love to call him my boyfriend but we are not, it hurts alot. I see hom at work but i cant hug him or be around him or people will suspect. Many people know tough and stared gossipingwhich has made it worse. I only see him secretly sometimes on the weekend and never want to leave each other.I have a big problem and need serious advice about a friend with benefits?
I think that you should take some time to yourself! Enjoy YOU and be single for a little while!! True healing take time...not another man! I understand that you like this new guy, but you probably would have liked anyone that was there to help you during your healing!


Also remember that he does have a family. You moving in with him is going to be chaos!! His girlfriend is not going to be happy that he is leaving his family for you! And you also need to think about Karma!! Not to sound mean or anything...but there is NO guarantee that he is never going to leave you and maybe your family for another woman!





I not saying that you should not be with him...just PLEASE don't be blind to what could happen!!!