When there is a problem in a relationship, why is most of the advice ';kick him to the curb';?

Just to heck with it!!! Why doesn't anyone want to try to work things out? Everyone seams to be so selfish these days. Too affraid of being hurt, so get out while you can. Why?When there is a problem in a relationship, why is most of the advice ';kick him to the curb';?
It's better to kick him to the curb before marriage than going through a divorce. If there's enough issue's or even one issue that you don't want to deal with throughout life, the best advice would be to move on... kick him to the curb... marriage will not make that issue go away. If the couple is all ready married, then yes, you need to work on the marriage. Abuse is an exception to that rule. Kick an abuser to the curb, married or not.When there is a problem in a relationship, why is most of the advice ';kick him to the curb';?
People who immediately take the ';kick them to the curb'; attitude are people who are themselves generally shallow and lacking in any real substance.





Relationships take effort from both partners, including working together sometimes when one side or the other is weaker.





';curb kickers'; can be viewed as people who are not willing to and obviously have no intentions of putting any effort into their relationships.





These people generally just ';expect'; things to go their way and the moment something needs a little ';attention'; they don't want to or perhaps don't know how to deal with it so the shallow self absorbed response is to ';kick it to the curb';...you know, ';not my problem';.





Take these reactions as a hint for future relationships...people like this should be avoided, relationships deserve caring and devoted partners willing to give their all to the cause !
Probably because most of the problems on here have to do with cheating, those who are abusive and those addicted to various things (porn, drugs, video games etc.). These aren't issue's that will go away with ';communication'; and half the time even when you seek out professional help the person returns to the old behavior (assuming the other spouse will agree to go to counseling).





While I agree that a lot of issues can be worked out and married couples should try, it does take two people to make it work. If one spouse refuses to see the other side and no compromising is happening, than again if we are talking about an issue that is very important to someone what other option are you left with?





Maybe if think it is acceptable to ';pray'; about a problem for 20 - 30 years %26amp; remain miserable because the Bible said so but I seriously doubt its accuracy as ';Gods Word';.
Because many people here have been dealing with months, if not years of abuse.





And as far as ';kicking them'; when they screw up within a few months, well that is just being smart. I am quite sure the people mentioned in my first sentence wish they had gotten out when their partner began to show signs of, well not being a good partner. Instead they ';stuck it out'; and popped out a couple kids and now they are stuck and miserable.





Being hurt is part of life. Being treated like a dog is for an animal.
we tried counseling and 12 step groups, but hubby could not get a handle on his sex addiction. for 13 years, I tried anyway.





when i got my divorce in texas, all my girlfriends said ';kick him to the curb';. my attorney, who does friendly divorces, stressed being amicable, dignified, respectful.





in a no fault state, there really is no kicking to the curb anymore. just pack up what's left of your dignity and leave.
No patience, self disapline,, self esteem,,,, self worth,,, or pride,,, They want things easy and don;t want to work for it,,,they are ,,as you said,, selfish,,,,,,,,, And for those that answer questions on YA in this manner,,, they are just answering a question with no regard to the actual people and feelings involved by the people that are posting the question,,,,, Nuff Said Good Luck
Im usually an advocate for working things out. If at all possible. There are a couple of things that cant be worked out. But people in general are lazy and dont want to put in the effort and hard work that it takes to rebuild a foundation of trust..
I find that advice most often comes from those with little or no experience about relationships, except maybe the 4 they had last semester.
you wont find that expression where the partners are married.


usually in poor communication relationships before true commitment or engagement.
Because society is lazy as a whole. No one wants to try anymore its called losing faith.
I wish I could feel the same, but after 24 yrs with the same woman...we have kind of bonded in a sense even though, we do not get along great.


I am doomed forever!