okay so I'm on probation for something that I was peer pressured into I got the blame and they didn't I'm not the type of person to get in trouble but I'm also not a goody two shoe. Anyway I'm having a problem with my job. My boss is very disrespectful he leaves me here all alone, i have to lift heavy stuff because he isn't here. he bounced my check (which i need to pay my PO) he just doesn't care about his workers at all he just cares about making money but there is no body in the store then he yells at us because we don't get any sales.
Anyway so I saw my PO and told her that I quit my job because I told her what was going on and she said once I find another job I could quit well I found another job making more money so I quit. She started yelling at me literally yelling at me calling me stupid, ignorant, and irresponsible. I have community service I have to do and I'm in the process of working my way up to something better at this new job and have a week till i start that well i figured until then i had a week that I could do my community service. I dint think it was right for her to yell at me the way she did and neither does my family. I'm on supervision till dec. what should I do?Problem with probation officer need advice?
You did the crime - unwittingly or not - . Follow your PO's advice. Your PO is your ONLY ticket out of jail time. One phone call from them and you don't have to worry about upward mobility for a few months. No excuses - just do as the PO tells you. It is a lot easier to live through a stern chew out from your PO than to sit out your time in a cage. Your PO is trying to help you - whether you know it or not - and is trying every trick in the book to help you get your act in order. You can let it pass - do your 3 or 4 months - and come out the other side relatively unscathed if you do. Six months from now, none of this will matter - IF you can follow her rules.
Remember, PO's have to deal with some real problem cases - are generally overworked - and hear lots of excuses. They can get pretty calloused sometimes. Try to make her life easier - she'll like that. There is less paperwork and less worrying for them to do. They are judged on how well their paroles stay out of jail and changes you make without their advice makes them anxious and cranky.Problem with probation officer need advice?
People vary in the manner in which they encourage probationers to lead the best possible life. Some yell. Some threaten. Some praise. Some do all. Get over it. You didn't mention why leaving one job for another was considered stupid, ignorant and irresponsible, but I am betting there were some downsides to that decision that you failed to mention.
If you truly believe that you are being treated wrongly, then you could always just go to your po's supervisor. Explain your story and if they agree that there is a problem you could potentially get a new PO.
you have the right to report her to her acting supervisor
If your on probation until December just suck it up. Your other option is do some time in the clink. I get off of parole in December, I'm with you!
You should just suck it up. You don't want to further anger your P.O. just hang tight until december and you will be free and clear.
She sounds like a real treat.
I'd like to hear the other side of the story.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Problem with Secretary at work... advice please!?
Hi,
I need some advice regarding a work matter. I started a job at a very high profile bank working as Executive Assistant to a senior manager 4 months ago.
There was a secretary who was looking after my boss until I started and she was brilliant to me. She helped me settle into the job, showed me round and gave me information I needed when I was in a fix.
Then a few weeks ago my trains were on strike and my boss said I could work from home on my laptop. I did this and she had a real go at me for not telling her I was doing this. She also made me feel bad as she had to miss a lunch she had planned with friends to pick up some visitors from reception for a meeting as I was not there.
When I returned to work I bought her a huge bunch of flowers and a card to apologise as she had helped me out and missed her lunch. Things were fine for a while until I was off sick for two days with a stomach bug last week. Although I was ill I still did work at home. I left her a message telling her what was happening and received no reply. When I got back to work she didn't ask me how I was and hasn't really spoken to me since. She avoids my calls and emails.
I sent her a long email yesterday night explaining how I felt and that I wasn't sure why she was treating me this way - I have had no reply.
Any advice is welcome please!!Problem with Secretary at work... advice please!?
It sounds to me as if this person is acting rather immature. You have done what you can by explaining to her that this situation was unavoidable. Likewise, I am sure that you have expressed to her your understanding of what she has had to do in your absence, as well as your gratitude and apology for any inconvenience.
At this point, considering all of the above, the proverbial ball is in her court. The next move is hers. Hopefully, she will come to see that treating you poorly is uncalled for at best and immature, at worst. You should obviously do all that you can to ensure that she isn't faced with repeat circumstances in the near future, but other than that, you can do no more than you already have. Of course, you could always just degrade yourself by kissing up to her, but not only is that course of action not necessary, it is also a bad precedent and will likely lead to you being taken advantage of.
Anyway, stop worrying about this lady. This situation is not your fault. All will be well, if it is meant to be. If not, rest well knowing that you have done all that can be expected of you.
I hope this is at least some help to you. Have a wonderful day!!Problem with Secretary at work... advice please!?
Ignore her.
.
I'm the author of the job search book ';Think Like an Interviewer: Your Job Hunting Guide to Success.'; And I had worked in banking for many years. So let me answer your question.
Since I don't know you or your boss, it's very hard to say exactly what's going on here. For example, maybe she didn't actually say you could work at home all the time. Maybe she was saying that you could do some stuff at home, but still needed to come into the branch.
In other words, she may have been allowing you to come in later or not as often because of the strike. For instance, coming in at 11 instead of 8. Or working at home on Mondays and Wednesdays, but coming in on the other days.
But she may not have been allowing you to stay home the entire time--every day. So it could have been a huge miscommunication! Banking is one of those fields where telecommuting all the time would be extremely tough and rare!
Meetings will happen where you need to be there taking notes, distributing stuff, etc. Customers can walk-in and need to be tended to. Problems can arise that need your in-person attention. So it's a job where in-person contact is necessary.
Now it appears as though this miscommuniction really angered your boss. Then you got sick and had to stay home, which angered her further. Now she's at the point where she's really not in a mood to deal with you at all.
Whether or not she'll calm down eventually and things will return to normal I cannot say. It's possible that she'll blow off her steam and then go back to the way things were before. On the other hand, she may not. And if that's the case, she'll continue to be angry and may even let you go.
My suggestion is to go and speak to somebody in human resources about your situation. Let them know what happened and what you felt the arrangement was. And how you feel you are now being unfairly punished for something you were told was ok in the first place.
Also let them know how you tried to smooth things over with your boss. This will show what a nice person you are and that you were trying to apologize.
It's quite possible that human resources will step in and do something about the situation. Especially if they feel that she's in the wrong here. Or if she has a history of treating people in this manner. For all you know, she's pulled nonsense like this before and you're here latest victim.
Or human resources may say it was a misunderstanding on both parts--yours and hers. And suggest you both let it slide for now and just be more specific next time.
A good suggestion for the future is to get any telecommuting arrangement in writing. That way, there's no confusion whatsoever. And there's a paper trail in case something happens along the way.
Dear friend pinkappl,
Do your work with devotion till you are with the company.
Continue to be good friends without hurting each other in your lifetime on the earth.
I need some advice regarding a work matter. I started a job at a very high profile bank working as Executive Assistant to a senior manager 4 months ago.
There was a secretary who was looking after my boss until I started and she was brilliant to me. She helped me settle into the job, showed me round and gave me information I needed when I was in a fix.
Then a few weeks ago my trains were on strike and my boss said I could work from home on my laptop. I did this and she had a real go at me for not telling her I was doing this. She also made me feel bad as she had to miss a lunch she had planned with friends to pick up some visitors from reception for a meeting as I was not there.
When I returned to work I bought her a huge bunch of flowers and a card to apologise as she had helped me out and missed her lunch. Things were fine for a while until I was off sick for two days with a stomach bug last week. Although I was ill I still did work at home. I left her a message telling her what was happening and received no reply. When I got back to work she didn't ask me how I was and hasn't really spoken to me since. She avoids my calls and emails.
I sent her a long email yesterday night explaining how I felt and that I wasn't sure why she was treating me this way - I have had no reply.
Any advice is welcome please!!Problem with Secretary at work... advice please!?
It sounds to me as if this person is acting rather immature. You have done what you can by explaining to her that this situation was unavoidable. Likewise, I am sure that you have expressed to her your understanding of what she has had to do in your absence, as well as your gratitude and apology for any inconvenience.
At this point, considering all of the above, the proverbial ball is in her court. The next move is hers. Hopefully, she will come to see that treating you poorly is uncalled for at best and immature, at worst. You should obviously do all that you can to ensure that she isn't faced with repeat circumstances in the near future, but other than that, you can do no more than you already have. Of course, you could always just degrade yourself by kissing up to her, but not only is that course of action not necessary, it is also a bad precedent and will likely lead to you being taken advantage of.
Anyway, stop worrying about this lady. This situation is not your fault. All will be well, if it is meant to be. If not, rest well knowing that you have done all that can be expected of you.
I hope this is at least some help to you. Have a wonderful day!!Problem with Secretary at work... advice please!?
Ignore her.
.
I'm the author of the job search book ';Think Like an Interviewer: Your Job Hunting Guide to Success.'; And I had worked in banking for many years. So let me answer your question.
Since I don't know you or your boss, it's very hard to say exactly what's going on here. For example, maybe she didn't actually say you could work at home all the time. Maybe she was saying that you could do some stuff at home, but still needed to come into the branch.
In other words, she may have been allowing you to come in later or not as often because of the strike. For instance, coming in at 11 instead of 8. Or working at home on Mondays and Wednesdays, but coming in on the other days.
But she may not have been allowing you to stay home the entire time--every day. So it could have been a huge miscommunication! Banking is one of those fields where telecommuting all the time would be extremely tough and rare!
Meetings will happen where you need to be there taking notes, distributing stuff, etc. Customers can walk-in and need to be tended to. Problems can arise that need your in-person attention. So it's a job where in-person contact is necessary.
Now it appears as though this miscommuniction really angered your boss. Then you got sick and had to stay home, which angered her further. Now she's at the point where she's really not in a mood to deal with you at all.
Whether or not she'll calm down eventually and things will return to normal I cannot say. It's possible that she'll blow off her steam and then go back to the way things were before. On the other hand, she may not. And if that's the case, she'll continue to be angry and may even let you go.
My suggestion is to go and speak to somebody in human resources about your situation. Let them know what happened and what you felt the arrangement was. And how you feel you are now being unfairly punished for something you were told was ok in the first place.
Also let them know how you tried to smooth things over with your boss. This will show what a nice person you are and that you were trying to apologize.
It's quite possible that human resources will step in and do something about the situation. Especially if they feel that she's in the wrong here. Or if she has a history of treating people in this manner. For all you know, she's pulled nonsense like this before and you're here latest victim.
Or human resources may say it was a misunderstanding on both parts--yours and hers. And suggest you both let it slide for now and just be more specific next time.
A good suggestion for the future is to get any telecommuting arrangement in writing. That way, there's no confusion whatsoever. And there's a paper trail in case something happens along the way.
Dear friend pinkappl,
Do your work with devotion till you are with the company.
Continue to be good friends without hurting each other in your lifetime on the earth.
Problem with girlfriend/relationship need advice?
I am having some trouble with my girlfriend. We are in college and I really do love her. But, lately she's been not wanting to hang out with me anywhere but the library. She doesn't want to come to my house and I can't go to her apartment because of her roomates. Tonight we went out and had a good time and then instead of going to my room to hang out with me and my roommates she went to her other guy friend and his friend to hang out. She is not cheating, I am sure of that but she says that she needs her own space and does not want to argue. Tonight really just made me feel like I don't want to be in that situation where she won't hang out with me but she will another friend.
I really do care for her and I am a really good boyfriend. I want to spend all the time I can with her and she is really important to me. But tonight really just got me to the point to think to myself is it worth it.
I really don't know what to do and need advice.
ThanksProblem with girlfriend/relationship need advice?
hate to you you but in her mind she feels she isnt cheating. but she probably is.
she will hang out with you at the library because if any one sees you two, she can just say that she is helping you out with your studies.
she needs her ';space'; to see if she is ready to move on with someone new and leave you behind.
I really do care for her and I am a really good boyfriend. I want to spend all the time I can with her and she is really important to me. But tonight really just got me to the point to think to myself is it worth it.
I really don't know what to do and need advice.
ThanksProblem with girlfriend/relationship need advice?
hate to you you but in her mind she feels she isnt cheating. but she probably is.
she will hang out with you at the library because if any one sees you two, she can just say that she is helping you out with your studies.
she needs her ';space'; to see if she is ready to move on with someone new and leave you behind.
My friend has a Roach problem,what can i give for advice?
ok so this guy's house is like LOADED with roaches everywhere.I cant walk into the door without a roach falling on me.Its not that bad in the day but at night its brutal.He says he's called exterminators before but didn't really help.I know that roaches must love to have sex and have a million babies but is there any hope for this poor guy's house?My friend has a Roach problem,what can i give for advice?
Combat Gel for roaches. Put it everywhere top to bottom.My friend has a Roach problem,what can i give for advice?
Get anotha exterminater.
Or
Move house.
Cuaz if they keep doin it there gonna b more n more n i don think ull b able handle it.
Get a cat
sorry no idea......coupons
Combat Gel for roaches. Put it everywhere top to bottom.My friend has a Roach problem,what can i give for advice?
Get anotha exterminater.
Or
Move house.
Cuaz if they keep doin it there gonna b more n more n i don think ull b able handle it.
Get a cat
sorry no idea......
Guy problem! i hope someone can help..... need advice badly:?
there is this guy in another section but as the same grade as me in the same school. i sort of asked me out at first but i didn't really seem to care but now i have this thing for him and how do i ask him out??? even if i were to ask him out, he'd know. but the problem is that i don't want him to know. so, how do i ask him out without asking him out??? plz don't tell me to throw a party becuz i already tried that once and it didn't work. Thanks in advance!Guy problem! i hope someone can help..... need advice badly:?
If you think he still likes you, wait for him to ask you out again. If not, you could arrange a group meeting and wait for everybody to go and then you could get him in private to make it look accidental.Guy problem! i hope someone can help..... need advice badly:?
What you need to do is not give him the tremendous ego boost by just asking him directly....
2 ways to do it....
1. go up to him and ask him if he is gay. he will be taken aback by this and quick as a flash you say 'well why haven't you asked me out on a proper date yet?' humour always good to break the ice!!
2. go to a party that you know he'll be at - walk straight up to him and say 'kiss me' - direct, to the point, no messing - if he doesn't, he's not worth it, move on..... when he does problem solved!
you can't ask him out without him knowing, unless he's retarded
but sounds like you want a group date, so if you have any mutual friends organize a trip to the mall or local downtown area, and just walk around with him for a while and talk
Sorry to break this to you, but there's no way around directly doing this... If you can't just come out and ask someone something, how do you think a relationship with them will be? Terribly one sided and poor communication abound.
Man(woman?) up!
First of all, stop being silly! If you like this guy, let him know. Ask him out! Don't be affraid. The worst that can happen is he'll say no.
And if he does, then move on.
Good luck :3
ask him out again if you think he still likes you.
work it out.
ask him to see a movie some time.
DUH. if you ask someone out, it means you may like them. why hide it?
ok No. 1 girls shouldn't ask boys out!!!
just be brave
or may be talk to him online
say something like ';so fancy going out sometime like you suggested';
good luck xx
If you think he still likes you, wait for him to ask you out again. If not, you could arrange a group meeting and wait for everybody to go and then you could get him in private to make it look accidental.Guy problem! i hope someone can help..... need advice badly:?
What you need to do is not give him the tremendous ego boost by just asking him directly....
2 ways to do it....
1. go up to him and ask him if he is gay. he will be taken aback by this and quick as a flash you say 'well why haven't you asked me out on a proper date yet?' humour always good to break the ice!!
2. go to a party that you know he'll be at - walk straight up to him and say 'kiss me' - direct, to the point, no messing - if he doesn't, he's not worth it, move on..... when he does problem solved!
you can't ask him out without him knowing, unless he's retarded
but sounds like you want a group date, so if you have any mutual friends organize a trip to the mall or local downtown area, and just walk around with him for a while and talk
Sorry to break this to you, but there's no way around directly doing this... If you can't just come out and ask someone something, how do you think a relationship with them will be? Terribly one sided and poor communication abound.
Man(woman?) up!
First of all, stop being silly! If you like this guy, let him know. Ask him out! Don't be affraid. The worst that can happen is he'll say no.
And if he does, then move on.
Good luck :3
ask him out again if you think he still likes you.
work it out.
ask him to see a movie some time.
DUH. if you ask someone out, it means you may like them. why hide it?
ok No. 1 girls shouldn't ask boys out!!!
just be brave
or may be talk to him online
say something like ';so fancy going out sometime like you suggested';
good luck xx
My hair is falling & i have dandruff problem.also my hair becomes slowly in white colour.pls advice.?
can i use henna,shikkakai, mehndi powderMy hair is falling %26amp; i have dandruff problem.also my hair becomes slowly in white colour.pls advice.?
This happened to me.It was due to product build up.Pantene pro-v ,paul Mitchell and some other shampoos and conditioners can do this.I had to go to a salon and they washed my hair with a shampoo that removed the residue.After that, I switched my shampoo to loreal.You can get this shampoo at walmart for about $4.They are the same company that makes the expensive salon stuff(matrix)My hair is falling %26amp; i have dandruff problem.also my hair becomes slowly in white colour.pls advice.?
Have you tried the shampoo Nioxin (3). Primarially it's for thinning hair but it is fantastic for dry scalp and the only thing that I've found that works for me as others are really harsh on my skin. It also contains an ingrediant that helps coloured hair retain the colour.
Depending where you are it can be expensive. In the UK it's about 拢8 for a normal sized bottle or 拢12 for a big size. In the US it's about half that I think. Ebay always has some or Hair salons sell it.
Hope you find something that works for you x
Get a dandruff shampoo. Stop dyeing your hair and take vitamins. Vitamins really help the hair if you are not eating right. You also may have a hormone imbalance being a woman.
If your dandruff is really, really bad. I would go see a Gp your doctor. Have a nice day.
l just bought mane %26amp; tail, too expensive but it doesn't work. I think you better figure out how to avoid dandruff. Dirty scalp really causes hairloss
First off address the root of the problem and don't jst try and cover it up, it could be something serious like a thyroid disorder, if not it is definitly a deficincy of some sort. Any toxic substance in your body that dosen't get filtered out via your kidneys can surface with skin conditions like dandruff, acne, eczema etc.. I recommend starting a good multi vitamin, and alpha lipoic acid (a strong antioxidant which could help your hair color come back and also helps with acne and any other skin condition.) As for a quick fix........(in the home)Garlic rubbed on your scalp works as it has anti bacterial and antifungal properties and dandruff is known to be fungal. Or I would suggest buying some tea tree oil (available at walmart). And apply it to your scalp. It is antibacterial, antiseptic, antinnflamatory and anti- fungal. DO NOT USE STORE BOUGHT PRODUCTS- THEY WILL MAKE THE CONDITION WORSE CAUSING CONTACT DERMATITIS! (On your scalp Dandruff) As for henna go for it a very good natural alternative hair dye, won't aggravate your condition. Available at health food stores. If you are there pick up the tea tree oil and vitamins. This will work better than any of the other suggestions.
This happened to me.It was due to product build up.Pantene pro-v ,paul Mitchell and some other shampoos and conditioners can do this.I had to go to a salon and they washed my hair with a shampoo that removed the residue.After that, I switched my shampoo to loreal.You can get this shampoo at walmart for about $4.They are the same company that makes the expensive salon stuff(matrix)My hair is falling %26amp; i have dandruff problem.also my hair becomes slowly in white colour.pls advice.?
Have you tried the shampoo Nioxin (3). Primarially it's for thinning hair but it is fantastic for dry scalp and the only thing that I've found that works for me as others are really harsh on my skin. It also contains an ingrediant that helps coloured hair retain the colour.
Depending where you are it can be expensive. In the UK it's about 拢8 for a normal sized bottle or 拢12 for a big size. In the US it's about half that I think. Ebay always has some or Hair salons sell it.
Hope you find something that works for you x
Get a dandruff shampoo. Stop dyeing your hair and take vitamins. Vitamins really help the hair if you are not eating right. You also may have a hormone imbalance being a woman.
If your dandruff is really, really bad. I would go see a Gp your doctor. Have a nice day.
l just bought mane %26amp; tail, too expensive but it doesn't work. I think you better figure out how to avoid dandruff. Dirty scalp really causes hairloss
First off address the root of the problem and don't jst try and cover it up, it could be something serious like a thyroid disorder, if not it is definitly a deficincy of some sort. Any toxic substance in your body that dosen't get filtered out via your kidneys can surface with skin conditions like dandruff, acne, eczema etc.. I recommend starting a good multi vitamin, and alpha lipoic acid (a strong antioxidant which could help your hair color come back and also helps with acne and any other skin condition.) As for a quick fix........(in the home)Garlic rubbed on your scalp works as it has anti bacterial and antifungal properties and dandruff is known to be fungal. Or I would suggest buying some tea tree oil (available at walmart). And apply it to your scalp. It is antibacterial, antiseptic, antinnflamatory and anti- fungal. DO NOT USE STORE BOUGHT PRODUCTS- THEY WILL MAKE THE CONDITION WORSE CAUSING CONTACT DERMATITIS! (On your scalp Dandruff) As for henna go for it a very good natural alternative hair dye, won't aggravate your condition. Available at health food stores. If you are there pick up the tea tree oil and vitamins. This will work better than any of the other suggestions.
Please I need your advice can u help me with a love problem?
WELL YESTERDAY AT SCHOOL MY BF CAME N SAT BEHIND ME ON THA DESK N HISMOM N OUR TEACHER HADCAME N THE ROOMN WE DIDNT EVEN KNOW IT SO HE JUMPED UP N WENT TO HIS MOM. THEN THA TEACHER WAS LIKE ELASHA DONT U THIK U SHOULD SAY SOMETHING TO HIS MM N I WAS LIKE NO BECAUSE I WAS SCARED N NERVOUS . BUT THEN I WENT OVER THER N SAID HELLO MRS.TURNER HOW R U DOING. SO THE THE TECHER WAS LIKE IF SHE CANT COME N SPEAK TO YOR MOM THEN I DONT THINK THIS IS THE KIND OF GURL U WNT TO B WITH. SO THEN THEY LEFT OUT N HE DIDNT SAY NOTHNG ELSE TOME THAT WHOLE DAY. THEN TODAY I FOUND OUT THAT HE WAS MAD AT ME BUT THEN HE WAST CUZ THE TEACHER HAD UT ME N SPOTLIGHT SO I DECIDED TO APOLIGIZE TO HISMOM N HIM BUT HE ACT LIKE HE DOESNT WANT TO TALK TO ME N IN MY HEART I FEEL WE DONT GO WITH EACHOTHER N I ALSO THINK HISMOM DOES NOT LIKE ME SO WHAT SHOULD I DO? SHOULD I JUST LEAVE IT ALONE OR DO WHAT I SAID I WAS GOING TO DO? PLEASE I NEED SOMEONES ADVICEPlease I need your advice can u help me with a love problem?
Well if you've already apologized to him and his mother than their is nothing more you can do. If your BF still doesnt talk to you or God Forbid you break up over it .. use it as a learning experience. As I was growing up I always befriended my BF's mothers. Nobody knows their son as well as their mother. As a matter of fact my ex's mother told me to leave him and find someone who would love me and my baby (we were 20 and I had found out I was pregnant) the way we deserve to be. I think its important to atleast try and befriend the mothers. I hope when my son's old enough his gf's will.
Well if you've already apologized to him and his mother than their is nothing more you can do. If your BF still doesnt talk to you or God Forbid you break up over it .. use it as a learning experience. As I was growing up I always befriended my BF's mothers. Nobody knows their son as well as their mother. As a matter of fact my ex's mother told me to leave him and find someone who would love me and my baby (we were 20 and I had found out I was pregnant) the way we deserve to be. I think its important to atleast try and befriend the mothers. I hope when my son's old enough his gf's will.
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